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6 Great Life Lessons From Cara Delevingne

6 Great Life Lessons From Cara Delevingne

The one thing you notice about Cara Delevingne is that she is not afraid to be herself and that is a lesson for all of us. She is beautiful, intelligent, talented, and some people have joked on Facebook that maybe she is not human after all: she is an angel on earth! Well, if she is, I wish there were a few more around who could inspire us. Here are 6 things that Cara Delevingne does and believes that can teach us to be our true selves.

1. She wants to wear comfortable clothes

How often do we become fashion victims? We are obsessed with how we look and what we must wear. Not Cara D. She may be a model, actress and have to be beautifully dressed for certain roles but when she relaxes, she loves to go around in trainers and comfortable shoes. That is most of the time so maybe we should lighten up a bit on the fashion front.

“I love comfort. Comfort is very key to me because I spend most of my time in very uncomfortable things, so it’s all about trainers and flats.”- Cara Delevingne

2. She wants to develop her talents

Cara has it made. She could just sit back and rest on her laurels. But no, she wants to become a famous actress as well. That is an inspiration for us all to explore our hidden talents.

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She has recently starred in Paper Towns. It is a teen romance but it is fascinating how the characters in the film change from the beginning to the end. Cara plays Margo, who is rather a mysterious character.

“But the real find here is Delevingne, an English actress who, with her subtly smoky voice and piercing gaze, makes the girl of Quentin’s fantasies a singularly charismatic presence, all the more so due to her limited screen time. What ultimately happens to Margo may seem somewhat ambiguous by film’s end, but on the evidence of her work here, this striking actress is here to stay.”- Variety

Watch the trailer to get a glimpse of Cara’s talents as an actress.

3. She is always grateful

When Cara was criticized for a recent awkward interview, the author of Paper Towns, John Green came to her defense. He said that she was neither haughty nor entitled and she has no time for stupid questions, such as whether she had actually read his novel, on which the film is based.

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Cara tweeted afterwards:-

“thank you so much john!! I just read the article and it made me want to cry! You are so special!! I am so happy I know you x.”

She later added:

“I am soooooo lucky and anyone who thinks I am unappreciative or ungrateful clearly doesn’t know me.”

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We tend to focus too much on the negative aspects of our existence and Cara teaches us to be grateful.

4. She is not afraid to come out about her sexuality

‘It took me a long time to accept the idea, until I first fell in love with a girl at 20 and recognised that I had to accept it.” – Cara Delevingne

When news broke that Cara is dating St. Vincent (Annie Clarke), this caused a stir. Vogue claimed that it was merely a phase and might have been a result of some childhood trauma. People reacted and a petition was signed in which they objected to this false stereotype about gay people.

“I think that being in love with my girlfriend is a big part of why I’m feeling so happy with who I am these days. And for those words to come out of my mouth is actually a miracle.” – Cara Delevingne

5. She objects to bullying

Cara thinks that kids nowadays have lots of problems. She is particularly concerned about online bullying. She has always made a strong case for kids to connect and really talk to each other instead of relying on messages and tweets. There is a lesson there for all of us as we lose the true value of true communication when we rely too much on our devices.

“Kids should speak to each other. They’re horrid to each other online, they bully each other- they should shut up and stop it. The problem with social media is there is too much freedom. It’s too much, too young.” – Cara Delevingne

6. She wants to cheer us all up

It is no secret that Cara resorted to self-harm when she was a teenager as a reaction to her very troubled adolescence. She has even described how she used to bang her head against a tree in the hope that she would be unconscious and not have to bear the pain and suffering, at least temporarily. She also thought about committing suicide.

Now that is all behind her and Cara is dedicated to getting the best out of life, entertaining her fans with funny photos on Instagram and goofing around generally.

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“The energy you give off is the energy you receive. I really think that, so I’m always myself–jumping, dancing, singing around, trying to cheer everybody up.” – Cara Delevingne

Featured photo credit: Face of an angel 02/ GabboT via flickr.com

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Last Updated on November 28, 2018

Why Do I Have Bad Luck? 2 Simple Things to Change Your Destiny

Why Do I Have Bad Luck? 2 Simple Things to Change Your Destiny

Are you one of those people who are always suffering setbacks? Does little ever seem to go right for you? Do you sometimes feel that the universe is out to get you? Do you wonder:

Why do I have bad luck? Is bad luck real?

A couple of months ago, I met up with an old friend of mine who I hadn’t seen since last year. Over lunch, we talked about all kinds of things, including our careers, relationships and hobbies.

My friend told me his job had become dull and uninteresting to him, and despite applying for promotion – he’d been turned down. His personal life wasn’t great either, as he told me that he’d recently separated from his long-term girlfriend.

When I asked him why things had seemingly gone wrong at home and work, he paused for a moment, and then replied:

“I’m having a run of bad luck.”

I was surprised by his response as I’d never thought of him as someone who thought that luck controlled his life. He always appeared to be someone who knew what he wanted – and went after it with gusto.

He told me he did believe in bad luck because of everything happened to me.

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It was at this point, that I shared my opinion on luck and destiny:

While chance events certainly occur, they are purely random in nature. In other words, good luck and bad luck don’t exist in the way that people believe. And more importantly, even if random negative events do come along, our perspective and reaction can turn them into positive things.

Your luck is no worse—and no better—than anyone else’s. It just feels that way. Better still, there are two simple things you can do which will reverse your feelings of being unlucky and change your luck.

1. Stop believing that what happens in life is out of your control.

Stop believing that what happens in your life is down to the vagaries of luck, destiny, supernatural forces, malevolent other people, or anything else outside yourself.

Psychologists call this “external locus of control.” It’s a kind of fatalism, where people believe that they can do little or nothing personally to change their lives.

Because of this, they either merely hope for the best, focus on trying to change their luck by various kinds of superstition, or submit passively to whatever comes—while complaining that it doesn’t match their hopes.

Most successful people take the opposite view. They have “internal locus of control.” They believe that what happens in their life is nearly all down to them; and that even when chance events occur, what is important is not the event itself, but how you respond to it.

This makes them pro-active, engaged, ready to try new things, and keen to find the means to change whatever in their lives they don’t like.

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They aren’t fatalistic and they don’t blame bad luck for what isn’t right in their world. They look for a way to make things better.

Are they luckier than the others? Of course not.

Luck is random—that’s what chance means—so they are just as likely to suffer setbacks as anyone else.

What’s different is their response. When things go wrong, they quickly look for ways to put them right. They don’t whine, pity themselves, or complain about “bad luck.” They try to learn from what happened to avoid or correct it next time and get on with living their life as best they can. They have this Motivation Engine, which most people lack, to keep them going.

No one is habitually luckier or unluckier than anyone else. It may seem so, over the short term (Random events often come in groups, just as random numbers often lie close together for several instances—which is why gamblers tend to see patterns where none exist).

When you take a longer perspective, random chance is just . . . random. Yet those who feel that they are less lucky, typically pay far more attention to short-term instances of bad luck, convincing themselves of the correctness of their belief.

Your locus of control isn’t genetic. You learned it somehow. If it isn’t working for you, change it.

2. Remember that whatever you pay attention to grows in your mind.

If you focus on what’s going wrong in your life—especially if you see it as “bad luck” you can do nothing about—it will seem blacker and more malevolent.

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In a short time, you’ll become so convinced that everything is against you that you’ll notice more and more instances where this appears to be true. As a result, you will drown yourself in negative energy and almost certainly stop trying, convinced that nothing you can do will improve your prospects.

Not long ago, a reader (I’ll call her Kelly) has shared with me about how frustrated she felt and how unlucky she was. Kelly’s an aspiring entrepreneur. She had been trying to find investors to invest in her project. It hadn’t been going well as she was always rejected by the potential investors. And at her most stressful time, her boyfriend broke up with her. And the day after her breakup, she missed an important opportunity to meet an interested investor. She was about to give up because she felt that she’d not be lucky enough to build her business successfully.

It definitely wasn’t an easy time for her. She was stressful and tired. But it wasn’t bad luck that was playing the role.

Fatalism feeds on itself until people become passive “victims” of life’s blows. The “losers” in life are those who are convinced they will fail before they start anything; sure that their “bad luck” will ruin any prospects of success.

They rarely notice that the true reasons for their failure are ignorance, laziness, lack of skill, lack of forethought, or just plain foolishness—all of which they could do something to correct, if only they would stop blaming other people or “bad luck” for their personal deficiencies.

Your attention is under your control. Send it where you want it to go. Starve the negative thoughts until they die.

I explained to Kelly that to improve her fortune and have “good luck”, first decide that what happens is nearly always down to her; then try to focus on what works and what turns out well, not the bad stuff.

Then Kelly tried to review her current situation objectively. She realized that she only needed a short break for herself — from work and her just broken-up relationship. She really needed some time to clear up her mind before moving on with her work and life. When she got her emotions settled down from her heartbreak, she started to work on improving her business’ selling points and looked for new investors that are more suitable.

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A few months later, she told me that she finally found two investors who were really interested in her project and would like to work with her to grow the business. I was really glad that she could take back control of her destiny and achieved what she wanted.

Your “fate” really does depend on the choices that you make. When random events happen, as they always will, do you choose to try to turn them to your advantage or just complain about them?

What’s Next?

Now that you’ve learned the 2 simple things you can do to take control of your fate and create your own luck. But this isn’t it! These simple techniques you’ve learned here are just part of the essential 7 Cornerstone Skills — a skillset that will give you the power to create permanent solutions to big problems in life — any problem in any area of your life!

If you think you’re “suffering from bad luck”, you can really change things up and start life over with these 7 Cornerstone Skills. It may even be a lot easier than you thought:

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Thomas Jefferson is said to have used these words:

“I’m a great believer in luck and I find the harder I work, the more I have of it.”

Your luck, in the end, is pretty much what you choose it to be.

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