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12 Things Your Significant Other Will Do If They Actually Care About You

12 Things Your Significant Other Will Do If They Actually Care About You

Some people don’t like commitment. Some are poor at communicating while others are afraid to share how they feel. It’s easy to get discouraged when you’re unsure of how your partner really feels about you. Here are 12 questions to ask yourself to tell if your significant other actually cares about you and being with you.

1. Do they touch you?

Do they hug you, hang on to you, rest their hand on you, or make skin to skin contact frequently? It’s been said that touch can calm your nerves among other things, showing genuine interest in the other person’s well-being.

2. Do they talk about the future?

By talking about the future, your partner shows full interest in being with you for a long time. Women in particular are known to jump to conclusions and talk about their wedding and kids just shortly after getting into the relationship. This is partly to make sure that her high expectations don’t scare her partner off, but if she continues to talk about it, there’s a reason.

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3. Do they smile at you instinctively?

When you stare into their eyes, do they start smiling? Are they happy? Or do they brush it off when you give them your undivided attention?

4. Do they make you feel better when you’re down?

If you’re upset, insecure or hurt by anything that happens, how do they respond? Do they yell at you, telling you to grow up? When you feel insecure, do they try to make you feel safe and secure about the situation?

5. Do they make time for you when it’s inconvenient?

Where exactly do you rank in their friday night plans? Do you have to plan to hang out, or do you just assume that you two will be together this friday, next friday and the friday after that?

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6. Do they know where there phone is with you?

Personally I’ve always found it amusing when you’ve spent the day with someone and enjoyed it so much that neither of you know where your phones are, and don’t really care who’s trying to get ahold of you. This truly shows you’re at the top of their priorities.

7. Do they tell other people how happy they are?

This one is always a winner. Do you always come up in conversation? Does your significant other tell their best friends how happy they are with you? Do they show public displays of affection (PDAs) by posting you consistently on social media? Whether you agree or not, posting pictures on social media shows that you have a long term commitment to this person because if you didn’t and were planning on breaking up, it’d be pretty embarrassing to do so.

8. Do you have to make bold plans as a reason to hang out?

Is your significant other bored when you plan nothing, or are they perfectly content with netflix and chill? This will of course also change as your relationship ages.

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9. Are you their go-to person?

When something bad or funny happens, who do they text, call or can’t wait to call? If it’s their best friend, you may have some work to do.

10. Do they care about your success?

Do they love to brag about you, and tell others what you do? Or do they get jealous and brush everything under the carpet about how great your are?

11. Do they actually mean it when they ask how your day went?

It’s common courtesy to ask someone how their day or sleep was. However, if they actually mean it and aren’t trying to use it as a conversation starter, that’s nothing but a good sign.

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12. Do they trust you?

Do they snoop through your phone? Do they give their phone to you to use or do they protect it from you? Do you know the phone password? Do they delete messages, afraid of how you might react?

No, they don’t need to buy you a brand new Mercedes or Audi to show they care about you. By asking yourself this handful of questions about your and your significant other’s relationship, you can easily tell how the other person feels about you.

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Last Updated on August 16, 2018

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

The ability to take risks by stepping outside your comfort zone is the primary way by which we grow. But we are often afraid to take that first step.

In truth, comfort zones are not really about comfort, they are about fear. Break the chains of fear to get outside. Once you do, you will learn to enjoy the process of taking risks and growing in the process.

Here are 10 ways to help you step out of your comfort zone and get closer to success:

1. Become aware of what’s outside of your comfort zone

What are the things that you believe are worth doing but are afraid of doing yourself because of the potential for disappointment or failure?

Draw a circle and write those things down outside the circle. This process will not only allow you to clearly identify your discomforts, but your comforts. Write identified comforts inside the circle.

2. Become clear about what you are aiming to overcome

Take the list of discomforts and go deeper. Remember, the primary emotion you are trying to overcome is fear.

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How does this fear apply uniquely to each situation? Be very specific.

Are you afraid of walking up to people and introducing yourself in social situations? Why? Is it because you are insecure about the sound of your voice? Are you insecure about your looks?

Or, are you afraid of being ignored?

3. Get comfortable with discomfort

One way to get outside of your comfort zone is to literally expand it. Make it a goal to avoid running away from discomfort.

Let’s stay with the theme of meeting people in social settings. If you start feeling a little panicked when talking to someone you’ve just met, try to stay with it a little longer than you normally would before retreating to comfort. If you stay long enough and practice often enough, it will start to become less uncomfortable.

4. See failure as a teacher

Many of us are so afraid of failure that we would rather do nothing than take a shot at our dreams.

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Begin to treat failure as a teacher. What did you learn from the experience? How can you take that lesson to your next adventure to increase your chance of success?

Many highly successful people failed plenty of times before they succeeded. Here’re some examples:

10 Famous Failures to Success Stories That Will Inspire You to Carry On

5. Take baby steps

Don’t try to jump outside your comfort zone, you will likely become overwhelmed and jump right back in.

Take small steps toward the fear you are trying to overcome. If you want to do public speaking, start by taking every opportunity to speak to small groups of people. You can even practice with family and friends.

Take a look at this article on how you can start taking baby steps:

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The Number One Secret to Life Success: Baby Steps

6. Hang out with risk takers

There is no substitute for this step. If you want to become better at something, you must start hanging out with the people who are doing what you want to do and start emulating them. (Here’re 8 Reasons Why Risk Takers Are More Likely To Be Successful).

Almost inevitably, their influence will start have an effect on your behavior.

7. Be honest with yourself when you are trying to make excuses

Don’t say “Oh, I just don’t have the time for this right now.” Instead, be honest and say “I am afraid to do this.”

Don’t make excuses, just be honest. You will be in a better place to confront what is truly bothering you and increase your chance of moving forward.

8. Identify how stepping out will benefit you

What will the ability to engage in public speaking do for your personal and professional growth? Keep these potential benefits in mind as motivations to push through fear.

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9. Don’t take yourself too seriously

Learn to laugh at yourself when you make mistakes. Risk taking will inevitably involve failure and setbacks that will sometimes make you look foolish to others. Be happy to roll with the punches when others poke fun.

If you aren’t convinced yet, check out these 6 Reasons Not to Take Life So Seriously.

10. Focus on the fun

Enjoy the process of stepping outside your safe boundaries. Enjoy the fun of discovering things about yourself that you may not have been aware of previously.

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