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12 Things Your Significant Other Will Do If They Actually Care About You

12 Things Your Significant Other Will Do If They Actually Care About You

Some people don’t like commitment. Some are poor at communicating while others are afraid to share how they feel. It’s easy to get discouraged when you’re unsure of how your partner really feels about you. Here are 12 questions to ask yourself to tell if your significant other actually cares about you and being with you.

1. Do they touch you?

Do they hug you, hang on to you, rest their hand on you, or make skin to skin contact frequently? It’s been said that touch can calm your nerves among other things, showing genuine interest in the other person’s well-being.

2. Do they talk about the future?

By talking about the future, your partner shows full interest in being with you for a long time. Women in particular are known to jump to conclusions and talk about their wedding and kids just shortly after getting into the relationship. This is partly to make sure that her high expectations don’t scare her partner off, but if she continues to talk about it, there’s a reason.

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3. Do they smile at you instinctively?

When you stare into their eyes, do they start smiling? Are they happy? Or do they brush it off when you give them your undivided attention?

4. Do they make you feel better when you’re down?

If you’re upset, insecure or hurt by anything that happens, how do they respond? Do they yell at you, telling you to grow up? When you feel insecure, do they try to make you feel safe and secure about the situation?

5. Do they make time for you when it’s inconvenient?

Where exactly do you rank in their friday night plans? Do you have to plan to hang out, or do you just assume that you two will be together this friday, next friday and the friday after that?

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6. Do they know where there phone is with you?

Personally I’ve always found it amusing when you’ve spent the day with someone and enjoyed it so much that neither of you know where your phones are, and don’t really care who’s trying to get ahold of you. This truly shows you’re at the top of their priorities.

7. Do they tell other people how happy they are?

This one is always a winner. Do you always come up in conversation? Does your significant other tell their best friends how happy they are with you? Do they show public displays of affection (PDAs) by posting you consistently on social media? Whether you agree or not, posting pictures on social media shows that you have a long term commitment to this person because if you didn’t and were planning on breaking up, it’d be pretty embarrassing to do so.

8. Do you have to make bold plans as a reason to hang out?

Is your significant other bored when you plan nothing, or are they perfectly content with netflix and chill? This will of course also change as your relationship ages.

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9. Are you their go-to person?

When something bad or funny happens, who do they text, call or can’t wait to call? If it’s their best friend, you may have some work to do.

10. Do they care about your success?

Do they love to brag about you, and tell others what you do? Or do they get jealous and brush everything under the carpet about how great your are?

11. Do they actually mean it when they ask how your day went?

It’s common courtesy to ask someone how their day or sleep was. However, if they actually mean it and aren’t trying to use it as a conversation starter, that’s nothing but a good sign.

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12. Do they trust you?

Do they snoop through your phone? Do they give their phone to you to use or do they protect it from you? Do you know the phone password? Do they delete messages, afraid of how you might react?

No, they don’t need to buy you a brand new Mercedes or Audi to show they care about you. By asking yourself this handful of questions about your and your significant other’s relationship, you can easily tell how the other person feels about you.

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Last Updated on June 24, 2019

Why Social Media Might Be Causing Depression

Why Social Media Might Be Causing Depression

A study [1] published in Depression and Anxiety found that social media users are more likely to be depressed. This was just one of the huge number of studies linking social media and depression[2] . But why exactly do platforms like Facebook and Instagram make people so unhappy? Well, we don’t know yet for sure, but there are some explanations.

Social Media Could Lead to Depression

Depression is a serious medical condition that affects how you think, feel, and behave. Social media may lead to depression in predisposed individuals or make existing symptoms of depression[3] worse explains[4] the study above’s senior author Dr. Brian Primack. So, the problem may not be in social media per se, but how we use it.

Signs You’re Suffering From “Social Media Depression”

If you feel like social media is having a negative impact on your mood, then you may be suffering from “social media depression.” Look for symptoms like:

• low self-esteem,

• negative self-talk,

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• a low mood,

• irritability,

• a lack of interest in activities once enjoyed,

• and social withdrawal.

If you’ve had these symptoms for more than two weeks and if this is how you feel most of the time, then you are likely depressed. Although “social media depression “is not a term recognized in the medical setting, social media depression seems to be a real phenomenon affecting around 50% of social media users. As explained in a review study[5] published in Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking, if a person has a certain predisposition to depression and other mental disorders, social media use may only worsen their mental health.

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Social Media Could Crush Self-Esteem

We know that social media and depression are in some way linked, but why is this so? Well, according to Igor Pantic, MD, Ph.D.[6], social media use skews your perception about other people’s lives and traits. To explain this further, most people like to portray an idealized image of their lives, personal traits, and appearance on sites like Facebook and Instagram. If you confuse this idealized image with reality, you may be under the false impression that everyone is better than you which can crush your self-esteem and lead to depression. This is especially true for teens and young adults who are more likely to compare themselves to others. If you already suffer from low self-esteem, the illusion that everyone has it better off than you will just make you feel worse.

Causing Social Isolation and Other Negative Emotions

Another commonly cited reason for the negative impact of social media on mental health is its link with social isolation. Depressed people are more likely to isolate themselves socially and chose only to interact indirectly through social media platforms. But communication online tends to be superficial and is lacking when compared to real-life interaction explains Panic. What this means is not that social media leads to isolation but the other way around, possibly explaining why we find so many depressed persons on these sites.

Lastly, social media use may generate negative emotions in you like envy, jealousy, dislike, loneliness, and many others and this may worsen your depressive symptoms.

Why We Need to Take This Seriously

Both depression and social media use are on the rise according to epidemiological studies. Since each one has an impact on the other, we have to start thinking of healthier ways to use social media. Teens and young adults are especially vulnerable to the negative impact of social media on mental health.

Advice on Social Media Use

Although these findings did not provide any cause-effect explanation regarding Facebook and depression[7], they still do prove that social media use may not be a good way to handle depression. For this reason, the leading authors of these studies gave some suggestions as to how clinicians and people can make use of such findings.

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One suggestion is that clinicians should ask patients about their social media habits. Then they can advise them on how to change their outlook on social media use or even suggest limiting their time spent on social media.

Some social media users may also exhibit addictive behavior; they may spend too much time due to compulsive urges. Any compulsive behavior is bound to lead to feelings of guilt which can worsen depressive symptoms.

Having Unhealthy Relationship with Social Media

If you feel like your relationship with social media is unhealthy, then consider the advice on healthy social media use provided by psychology experts from Links Psychology[8]:

Avoid negative social comparison – always keep in mind that how people portray themselves and their lives on social media is not a realistic picture, but rather an idealized one. Also, avoid comparing yourself to others because this behavior can lead to negative self-talk.

Remember that social media is not a replacement for real life – Social media is great for staying in touch and having fun, but it should never replace real-world interactions.

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Avoid releasing personal information – For your safety and privacy, make sure to be careful with what you post online.

Report users who bully and harass you – It’s easy to be a bully in the anonymous and distant world of social media. Don’t take such offense personally and report those who abuse social media to harass others.

The bits of advice listed above can help you establish a healthy relationship with social media. Always keep these things in mind to avoid losing an objective perspective of what social media is and how it is different from real life. If you are currently suffering from depression, talk to your doctor about what is bothering you so that you can get the treatment you need to get better. Tell your doctor about your social media use and see if they could give you some advice on this topic.

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