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7 Ways to Measure Emotional Intelligence

7 Ways to Measure Emotional Intelligence

Emotional Intelligence, the measure of which is referred to as EQ, is often compared to our Intelligence Quotient or IQ. But what is the difference? IQ measures a person’s reasoning ability while EQ measures how one manages their emotions. Have you ever met someone who’s intellect was off the charts, but they lacked in the area of emotions? Below you will find 7 areas that are part of the measurement of EQ. These are based on research and chronicled in the books from EQ experts, Daniel Goleman and Travis Bradberry.

1. You Are Self-Aware

According to Bradberry, being self-aware is your ability to accurately perceive your emotions and stay aware of them as they happen.” This self-awareness is important for you to be able to quickly react and adjust in a given situation.

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2. You have self-control

Controlling your emotions is key in emotional intelligence. You need to be able to act to act and react based on the situation and not on how you are feeling in that moment. Reacting based on how you feel can come with some not so appealing consequences.

3. You are empathetic

We previously talked about being self-aware. Well, being empathetic takes awareness one step further. Being empathetic is being aware of the emotions of others. You do this by listening carefully and tuning into the non-verbal clues those around you are giving. This gives you the opportunity to build a closer relationship and allows them to related better to you.

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4. You effectively manage change

Change is a simple fact of life. How you react to the change is a measure of your EQ and can set you apart from your peers. The one that is able to see the change, adjust to it, help others adjust, and create a positive outcome, will be the one others will look to when future changes occur. If you are a leader or looking to be one, this skill is critical.

5. You don’t dwell on the past

If you are stretching yourself reaching for success, you will have some failures. That is part of the price for success. Your emotional intelligence and future success will be measured by how you react to that failure. Do you stay stuck in the label of being a failure or do you rise from the ashes of that failure; a smarter and more confident individual?

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6. You control your thoughts

Much research has been done to show that we do indeed talk to ourselves. How we talk to ourselves is a measure of our emotional intelligence. How is your self-talk? Do you berate yourself or put yourself down or do you keep a positive attitude and say the words that will keep you moving forward in a positive direction? Part of your success will come down to the things you say to yourself each day. Take the time to control how you think, and since you will being talking to yourself anyway, why not make the words you speak be inspiring.

7. You pay attention

In 1997, the phrase Weapons of Mass Distraction was coined by the movie comedy with the same name. Today, the weapons of mass distraction come in many forms including texts, emails, and social media. How are you managing these distractions? Are you able to focus for an extended period of time without being tempted to look at your phone or emails? How effective you are at paying attention is a factor that goes into determining your emotional intelligence and the amount you can accomplish throughout each day. Those with a higher EQ accomplish more by not allowing distractions to impair their focus.

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Conclusion

You have learned what emotional intelligence is, how it is measured, and why it is important to your success. Whether you are new to the study of emotional intelligence or a seasoned veteran, we all have the ability and choice to continue to increase our EQ. I hope you take these lessons and apply them to your own life.

Featured photo credit: Intellect/Perception/ Miguel Tejada-Flores via flickr.com

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Last Updated on October 16, 2019

20 Invaluable Things Money Can’t Buy

20 Invaluable Things Money Can’t Buy

George Lorimer contends,

“It’s good to have money and all the things that money can buy, but it’s good, too, to check up once in a while and make sure that you haven’t lost the things money can’t buy.”

In reality, everyone likes money. It has enough power to determine happy or sad moments for some people. This happens partially because money can trigger your emotions. However, there are many invaluable things money can’t buy.

Money will allow you to experience the luxury of things like a Tesla, an estate, or first-class tickets to anywhere in the world. But, money cannot buy you everything. There are aspects of your life, yourself, relationships, and encounters that forever will be priceless.

So, what are 20 invaluable things money can’t buy?

1. Love

You must have seen this one coming because of how much it is preached throughout life.

Love is a genuine action with beautiful emotions that develops between people who know each other to an extent.

People fall in “love” for different reasons. Love is unconditional and keeps people in connection with each other.

Money may earn you attraction and attention, but love? Not at all.

2. True Friends

Everyone likes to have money because there’s almost no way to survive if we didn’t have a cent or two. And it’s only normal for people to associate themselves with people who are making efforts to make the money.

But sometimes, people are only attracted to what you have and what you can give; not who you are.

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It works just like love. When your money runs low, true friends should remain.

3. Family

We all know that family consists of a father, mother, and children, so let’s consider the individual elements.

A father is only a father as a result of the relationship between him and his child. Can money buy a relationship?

The same concept applies to the mother and child and if a relationship with a father cannot be bought, then neither can one with a mother nor child be bought.

Even if it’s an extended family, you still have to have a relationship with someone who connects you to the other person. It’s not rocket science.

4. Wisdom

Someone defined wisdom as “the mother of knowledge,” and how does one acquire knowledge? He or she receives it from experience.

So, if you cannot buy experience, then you cannot buy knowledge. And if you cannot buy both, then wisdom is definitely out of your league. You have to study, meet people and just experience life to earn it.

5. Happiness

In the words of Eleanor Roosevelt,

“Happiness is not in the mere possession of money; it lies in the joy of achievement, in the thrill of creative effort.”

    Mrs. Roosevelt even acknowledges things money can’t buy. She emphasizes that money can’t buy happiness.

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    Despite all the money a person may have in the bank, he or she still may not have the happiness that we all crave and deserve. Money cannot afford happiness.

    6. Health

    Money can help us afford the best health care services, but health itself? Not exactly.

    We’ve seen millionaires and billionaires lose their lives to a range of diseases that all their money put together could not cure.

    The Dalai Lama said,

    “What surprises me most is ‘man’ because he sacrifices his health to make money then he sacrifices his money to recuperate his health.”

      So, besides the fact that it doesn’t buy us health, sometimes the pursuit of it takes good health away from us.

      7. Long life

      During birthdays, we wish people a long, prosperous and healthy life. Money would be the best gift to send to loved ones to buy these things.

      But since you can’t, you wish these individuals the best life has to offer. You may also give them fun and loving experiences without money.

      8. Time

      The universe has been impartial enough to give us all 24 hours to do whatever we want to. But nobody, with all his or her wealth, has been able to purchase an extra hour, not even a second.

      9. Respect

      They say it is reciprocal. In other words, you can only get respect when you give respect and the last time we checked, there was no money for respect.

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      So if you can’t give something in any currency, then you can’t receive it in any currency either.

      10. Character

      Character is the sum of a person’s attitude. Attitude has to do with the way you behave and although money can influence a person’s character, it cannot buy a good one.

      11. Confidence

      Any “confidence” built on money really isn’t confidence. It’s a shade of pride and usually ends in sheer show-off. That, dear friend, is not confidence. Confidence is a quality you build with time.

      12. Beauty

      There are countless beauty products in the market and all of them cost money. These beauty products can only enhance beauty by covering up blemishes and some go as far as altering some features of the body.

      But none has been able to change the natural beauty of anybody. If you consider surgery, then you are still altering the natural features, not changing it. You can’t buy good looks from your mother’s womb. It’s just not possible.

      13. Sense of Humor

      Some individuals are born with the gift to make others laugh. Most of the comedians around became wealthy as a result of their sense of humor.

      The humor did not come after the money. Nobody became funny overnight because of a swell in their bank account.

      14. Trust

      Why do you trust people? Because they’ve proved themselves to be trustworthy by character. Their character earned them that trust.

      15. Talent

      Talent is a natural skill that has to be discovered and honed. Just like beauty and every other thing that comes naturally, talent cannot be purchased.

      16. Purpose

      People attend conferences and seminars to help them discover their purpose in life. These conferences may be free or paid but the money did not buy them the purpose.

      They already had the purpose way before realizing that they needed to find it. Lots of poor people discovered their purpose and leveraged it to become rich. This goes on to illustrate that money can come as a result of finding purpose but it cannot get you the purpose.

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      17. Satisfaction

      If there’s one thing that money can never buy, it is satisfaction. Even if money finds a way to get any of the other items on this list, it can never afford satisfaction. Money increases our desire for more money. The more the money, the more the hunger.

      18. Empathy

      Never have we ever heard of a man who bought the ability to empathize and never would we ever because empathy is a feeling. Feelings cannot be bought.

      19. Peace

      Why do people employ sophisticated security systems? Because they want to have peace when they go to bed but even with all of that, peace has never been received in exchange for money. It comes as a result of a clear conscience and a good heart.

      Ironically, money may bring enemies which would end up disrupting your peace.

      20. A Good Name

      A proverb says “a good name is better than silver.” This is like comparing two different things: a name and silver (which could be referred to as money).

      What is a “name?” It is a form of identity and how is it received? Your way of life and character helps people to receive you.

      Conclusion

        Overall, these things are invaluable and confidently show that money can’t buy everything.

        While this is the case, money is necessary, so don’t quit your job just because it can’t buy you happiness. And do spend your money and time wisely.

        Also, go out of your way to make people happy. Their money can’t provide this needed emotion. Do not lose or mismanage your health trying to get money.

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