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The Smarter And More Independent You Are, The More Obstacles You Have When Finding Love

The Smarter And More Independent You Are, The More Obstacles You Have When Finding Love

In a world of more demands and faster possibilities it is interesting to find that many smart and independent person are stepping up to the table and making a name for themselves. While for us it becomes an exciting platform to connect other intellectuals and be counted as one, it has become more difficult to replicate such excellent performance in our lives. Doing well to examine this subject carefully, here are 12 reasons why being smart and independent can pose a threat in getting the love we deserve.

You think love is predictable

Being smart makes you very thoughtful and extra cautious or incisive on every decision you make. You are asking yourself what the risk factors are and why you should tolerate this person or that person. With love you simply have to let yourself swim in it.

You don’t have any guidebook to be in love

You can teach Mathematics, English Language or philosophy. But love is not a subject that you simply teach. It has to be experienced. Many smart and independent are stuck with learning and passing through the books that they do not understand that there is no guidebook to being in love.

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There is no consistency with love

You cannot be consistent with love. For smart and independent people they want something they can battle and win. But with love it is not about winning but about how to learn to compromise every now and then.

The standards become too high

The higher your standards the more difficult it is to have more options and open chances to be in love. Smart and independent people think that they deserve simply the best or excellence. But even excellence and quality is rare.

You don’t make love a top priority

Smart and independent people do not view love as a top priority. They are focused on other areas of life that makes them ignore the importance of love.

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You have become so independent

We all have gotten stuck with the demands of this world that it is more of survival than tolerance. Being independent have made you live with yourself rather than seek out relationships with other people.

There is no appreciation of the adventure love provides

You are so perturbed with every day demands and how you can show the world how smart you are that you forget the simplicity that does exist in love. You have to be willing to go on an adventure when it comes to love, if not you can get stuck with being independent.

You don’t want to be seen as easy

You prefer to appear solid and formidable. Even if you are going to be a captive of love you want it to be one that makes a difference and that makes the process challenging for the other person.

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It takes two

Well, being smart and independent is not a simple requirement to be in love. Looking at the big picture it is not about you, it is about two. Smart and independent are always seeing love from a singular perspective.

It takes patience

The major question is that how many smart and independent people out there will be willing to be patient and stay the long haul when they are so used to getting what they want faster than the average person because of their intellect or energy.

You can only connect with someone who has similarities with your personalities

Most times you find it difficult to be with someone who doesn’t show interests and similarities like you. Smart and independent want to be surrounded with people who are like them. And in our society this may be really selective.

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You are analytic

It is harder to be in love and rely on analysis during the process. Smart and independent people are analytic and follow a stringent rule of accomplishing goals. Falling in love is not a goal anyways, but a way of life.

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Last Updated on October 18, 2018

50+ Best Motivational Quotes To Prepare You For Any Challenges In Life

50+ Best Motivational Quotes To Prepare You For Any Challenges In Life

Life is filled with highs and lows —happiness and struggles that will test your resilience and integrity, push you to overcome challenges and leave you with lessons that will make you even stronger on your way up.

It’s the way you feel and think about yourself, including your expectations and beliefs about what is possible to you, greatly determines everything that happens to you.

It all starts with your thoughts. When you change your thoughts, you transform the quality of your life. (Right, Nancy’s story is a typical example!)

Below is a list of the best motivational quotes to inspire you to start your day with a blast:

Quotes for self-assurance

1. Don’t downgrade your dream just to fit your reality, upgrade your conviction to match your destiny.

    2. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem and smarter than you think.

      3. You are confined only by the walls you build yourself.

        4. The man who has confidence in himself gains the confidence of others

          5. You attract what you are, not what you want. If you want great, then be great.

            6. It’s not who you are that holds you behind, it’s who you think your are not.

              Quotes about positivity

              7. Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and think of what could go right.

                8. You should never regret anything in life. If it’s good, it’s wonderful. If it’s bad, it is experience.

                  9. Falling down is an accident, staying down is a choice.

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                    10. If you have the power to make someone happy, do it. The world needs more of that.

                      11. Always believe that something wonderful is about to happen.

                        12. Don’t be afraid to give up the good and go for great.

                          13. Remember that life’s greatest lessons are usually learned from worst times and from the worst mistakes.

                            Quotes for work and success

                            14. Don’t talk, just act. Don’t say, just show. Don’t promise, just prove.

                              15. Never stop doing great just because someone doesn’t give you credit.

                                16. Discipline is doing what needs to be done, even if you don’t want to.

                                  17. Work while they sleep. Learn while they party. Save while they spend. Live like they dream.

                                    18. The key to success is to focus our conscious mind on things we desire, not things we fear.

                                      19. Never apologize for having high standards, people who really want to be in your life will rise to meet them.

                                        20. If it doesn’t challenge you, it won’t change you.

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                                          21. Never give up on a dream just because of the time it will take to accomplish it, time will pass anyway.

                                            22. Don’t fear failure. Fear being in the exact same place next year as you are today.

                                              23. A hill is just another opportunity to leave your competition behind.

                                                24. Don’t quit. You’re already in pain. You’re already hurt. Get a reward from it.

                                                  25. Hustle until you no longer need to introduce yourself.

                                                    26. You didn’t come this far only to come this far.

                                                      27. Be selective in your battles for sometimes peace is better than being right.

                                                        28 If we keep doing what we are doing, we’re going to keep getting what we’re getting.

                                                          29. You will never know your limits until you push yourself to them.

                                                            30. Do what you have to do until you can do what you want to do.

                                                              31. The man on top of the mountain didn’t fall there.

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                                                                32. If your dreams don’t scare you, they are not big enough.

                                                                  33. If you can’t handle stress, you won’t manage success.

                                                                    34. Don’t be pushed by your problems, be led by your dreams.

                                                                      35. Don’t mistake silence for weakness. Smart people don’t plan big moves out loud.

                                                                        36. Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.

                                                                          37. Obsessed is the word the lazy use to describe dedicated.

                                                                            38. You become who you spend your time with.

                                                                              39. Be stubborn about your goals and flexible about your methods.

                                                                                40. Hard work beats talent when talent doesn’t work hard.

                                                                                  41. If you don’t build your dreams, someone else will hire you to build theirs.

                                                                                    42. Between stimulus and response is our greatest power –the freedom to choose.

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                                                                                      43. What comes easy won’t last, what lasts won’t come easy.

                                                                                        44. Don’t limit your challenges, challenge your limits.

                                                                                          45. Work until your idols become your rivals.

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                                                                                            46. Formal education will make you a living. Self-education will make you a fortune.

                                                                                              47. I create new enemies every day, it’s called business.

                                                                                                48. When you have a Million Dollar vision, don’t surround yourself with 1 cent minds.

                                                                                                  49. You can’t get rich thinking poor.

                                                                                                    50. Doing what is comfortable is rarely profitable.

                                                                                                      51. If you can count your money, work harder.

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