In a world of more demands and faster possibilities it is interesting to find that many smart and independent person are stepping up to the table and making a name for themselves. While for us it becomes an exciting platform to connect other intellectuals and be counted as one, it has become more difficult to replicate such excellent performance in our lives. Doing well to examine this subject carefully, here are 12 reasons why being smart and independent can pose a threat in getting the love we deserve.
You think love is predictable
Being smart makes you very thoughtful and extra cautious or incisive on every decision you make. You are asking yourself what the risk factors are and why you should tolerate this person or that person. With love you simply have to let yourself swim in it.
You don’t have any guidebook to be in love
You can teach Mathematics, English Language or philosophy. But love is not a subject that you simply teach. It has to be experienced. Many smart and independent are stuck with learning and passing through the books that they do not understand that there is no guidebook to being in love.
There is no consistency with love
You cannot be consistent with love. For smart and independent people they want something they can battle and win. But with love it is not about winning but about how to learn to compromise every now and then.
The standards become too high
The higher your standards the more difficult it is to have more options and open chances to be in love. Smart and independent people think that they deserve simply the best or excellence. But even excellence and quality is rare.
You don’t make love a top priority
Smart and independent people do not view love as a top priority. They are focused on other areas of life that makes them ignore the importance of love.
You have become so independent
We all have gotten stuck with the demands of this world that it is more of survival than tolerance. Being independent have made you live with yourself rather than seek out relationships with other people.
There is no appreciation of the adventure love provides
You are so perturbed with every day demands and how you can show the world how smart you are that you forget the simplicity that does exist in love. You have to be willing to go on an adventure when it comes to love, if not you can get stuck with being independent.
You don’t want to be seen as easy
You prefer to appear solid and formidable. Even if you are going to be a captive of love you want it to be one that makes a difference and that makes the process challenging for the other person.
It takes two
Well, being smart and independent is not a simple requirement to be in love. Looking at the big picture it is not about you, it is about two. Smart and independent are always seeing love from a singular perspective.
It takes patience
The major question is that how many smart and independent people out there will be willing to be patient and stay the long haul when they are so used to getting what they want faster than the average person because of their intellect or energy.
You can only connect with someone who has similarities with your personalities
Most times you find it difficult to be with someone who doesn’t show interests and similarities like you. Smart and independent want to be surrounded with people who are like them. And in our society this may be really selective.
You are analytic
It is harder to be in love and rely on analysis during the process. Smart and independent people are analytic and follow a stringent rule of accomplishing goals. Falling in love is not a goal anyways, but a way of life.
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