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10 Thoughts Extroverts Have About Introverts You May Have Never Imagined

10 Thoughts Extroverts Have About Introverts You May Have Never Imagined

While we think that being an introvert can be cool and could mean depth emotionally and intellectually, we still have our grievances and misgivings about them. There really is no reason why introverts shouldn’t want to explore and connect with the world around them. Since it is difficult to decipher who they are, here are some conclusions or thoughts we have about introverts.

1. We think they are mysterious

We like to know what other people are thinking and how we can connect with that, whether it is through their success or challenges. We want to share and discuss. But introverts never share their problems or difficulties. Actually they rather observe than share. They simply want to keep to themselves and only speak when they are willing to.

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2. We think they lack self-esteem

Why should someone keep to themselves in such a strange way? Why can’t they be expressive and accommodate us? It must mean that they lack confidence and are not courageous enough to bring some energy to their interactions with us.

3. We think they look down upon us or feel inferior to us

If they are not feeling inferior to us, then we think that they might be feeling superior to us. They should have a lot of things to say, but they prefer not talking. The truth though is that introverts just like to keep to themselves. And this doesn’t really sink in well with us because we want something more out of our relationships.

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4. We think they need to get a life

Action matters a lot to us and we love to pump up every scenario we’re in with action. Why should we act otherwise? We do think introverts should care more about the world around them and participate more. We want them to open up their emotional gates and be more accommodating.

5. We think they are afraid

It is so difficult to comprehend why people would be so cold and distant some times. We think they are not willing to make that effort and be around people who will fire up their energy. We think they are afraid and not prepared to let go.

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6. We think they are boring

They really are uninteresting and unexciting. How can someone find comfort and happiness in being alone? With them not conversing and keeping to themselves a lot, it is hard to figure out how to add excitement to interactions.

7. We think they are rude

We think that they are in between being arrogant and rude. Can they be honest and real with the way they act since they seem to shunning everyone and spending time only with themselves? We really want them to fit in and tolerate others too.

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8. We feel they are not really good communicators

They are not expressive. But they may be good listeners. Yet it matters that we want to hear them and know what is going on inside them. Awkwardness when participating in one-sided conversations doesn’t make us extroverts feel really cool.

9. We think they are lonely

They must be alone and finding it hard to get out of their box. They really need our help to find some social presence. They really cannot be at their best if they are always locked into their own world. To be happy don’t they need to spend time with people?

10. We think they are unpredictable

If they are mysterious, how can you really know what they are up to? They certainly must have some aces up their sleeves. You can’t really know with them and it can be such a Herculean task trying to break through their walls. Perhaps it is best to leave them the way they are.

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Last Updated on December 3, 2019

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

There are so many lessons I wish I had learned while I was young enough to appreciate and apply them. The thing with wisdom, and often with life lessons in general, is that they’re learned in retrospect, long after we needed them. The good news is that other people can benefit from our experiences and the lessons we’ve learned.

Here’re 10 important life lessons you should learn early on:

1. Money Will Never Solve Your Real Problems

Money is a tool; a commodity that buys you necessities and some nice “wants,” but it is not the panacea to your problems.

There are a great many people who are living on very little, yet have wonderfully full and happy lives… and there are sadly a great many people are living on quite a lot, yet have terribly miserable lives.

Money can buy a nice home, a great car, fabulous shoes, even a bit of security and some creature comforts, but it cannot fix a broken relationship, or cure loneliness, and the “happiness” it brings is only fleeting and not the kind that really and truly matters. Happiness is not for sale. If you’re expecting the “stuff” you can buy to “make it better,” you will never be happy.

2. Pace Yourself

Often when we’re young, just beginning our adult journey we feel as though we have to do everything at once. We need to decide everything, plan out our lives, experience everything, get to the top, find true love, figure out our life’s purpose, and do it all at the same time.

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Slow down—don’t rush into things. Let your life unfold. Wait a bit to see where it takes you, and take time to weigh your options. Enjoy every bite of food, take time to look around you, let the other person finish their side of the conversation. Allow yourself time to think, to mull a bit.

Taking action is critical. Working towards your goals and making plans for the future is commendable and often very useful, but rushing full-speed ahead towards anything is a one-way ticket to burnout and a good way to miss your life as it passes you by.

3. You Can’t Please Everyone

“I don’t know the secret to success, but the secret to failure is trying to please everyone” – Bill Cosby.

You don’t need everyone to agree with you or even like you. It’s human nature to want to belong, to be liked, respected and valued, but not at the expense of your integrity and happiness. Other people cannot give you the validation you seek. That has to come from inside.

Speak up, stick to your guns, assert yourself when you need to, demand respect, stay true to your values.

4. Your Health Is Your Most Valuable Asset

Health is an invaluable treasure—always appreciate, nurture, and protect it. Good health is often wasted on the young before they have a chance to appreciate it for what it’s worth.

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We tend to take our good health for granted, because it’s just there. We don’t have to worry about it, so we don’t really pay attention to it… until we have to.

Heart disease, bone density, stroke, many cancers—the list of many largely preventable diseases is long, so take care of your health now, or you’ll regret it later on.

5. You Don’t Always Get What You Want

“Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans.” – John Lennon

No matter how carefully you plan and how hard you work, sometimes things just don’t work out the way you want them to… and that’s okay.

We have all of these expectations; predetermined visions of what our “ideal” life will look like, but all too often, that’s not the reality of the life we end up with. Sometimes our dreams fail and sometimes we just change our minds mid-course. Sometimes we have to flop to find the right course and sometimes we just have to try a few things before we find the right direction.

6. It’s Not All About You

You are not the epicenter of the universe. It’s very difficult to view the world from a perspective outside of your own, since we are always so focused on what’s happening in our own lives. What do I have to do today? What will this mean for me, for my career, for my life? What do I want?

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It’s normal to be intensely aware of everything that’s going on in your own life, but you need to pay as much attention to what’s happening around you, and how things affect other people in the world as you do to your own life. It helps to keep things in perspective.

7. There’s No Shame in Not Knowing

No one has it all figured out. Nobody has all the answers. There’s no shame in saying “I don’t know.” Pretending to be perfect doesn’t make you perfect. It just makes you neurotic to keep up the pretense of manufactured perfection.

We have this idea that there is some kind of stigma or shame in admitting our limitations or uncertainly, but we can’t possibly know everything. We all make mistakes and mess up occasionally. We learn as we go, that’s life.

Besides—nobody likes a know-it-all. A little vulnerability makes you human and oh so much more relatable.

8. Love Is More Than a Feeling; It’s a Choice

That burst of initial exhilaration, pulse quickening love and passion does not last long. But that doesn’t mean long-lasting love is not possible.

Love is not just a feeling; it’s a choice that you make every day. We have to choose to let annoyances pass, to forgive, to be kind, to respect, to support, to be faithful.

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Relationships take work. Sometimes it’s easy and sometimes it’s incredibly hard. It is up to us to choose how we want to act, think and speak in a relationship.

9. Perspective Is a Beautiful Thing

Typically, when we’re worried or upset, it’s because we’ve lost perspective. Everything that is happening in our lives seems so big, so important, so do or die, but in the grand picture, this single hiccup often means next to nothing.

The fight we’re having, the job we didn’t get, the real or imagined slight, the unexpected need to shift course, the thing we wanted, but didn’t get. Most of it won’t matter 20, 30, 40 years from now. It’s hard to see long term when all you know is short term, but unless it’s life-threatening, let it go, and move on.

10. Don’t Take Anything for Granted

We often don’t appreciate what we have until it’s gone: that includes your health, your family and friends, your job, the money you have or think you will have tomorrow.

When you’re young, it seems that your parents will always be there, but they won’t. You think you have plenty of time to get back in touch with your old friends or spend time with new ones, but you don’t. You have the money to spend, or you think you’ll have it next month, but you might not.

Nothing in your life is not guaranteed to be there tomorrow, including those you love.

This is a hard life lesson to learn, but it may be the most important of all: Life can change in an instant. Make sure you appreciate what you have, while you still have it.

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