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10 Thoughts Extroverts Have About Introverts You May Have Never Imagined

10 Thoughts Extroverts Have About Introverts You May Have Never Imagined

While we think that being an introvert can be cool and could mean depth emotionally and intellectually, we still have our grievances and misgivings about them. There really is no reason why introverts shouldn’t want to explore and connect with the world around them. Since it is difficult to decipher who they are, here are some conclusions or thoughts we have about introverts.

1. We think they are mysterious

We like to know what other people are thinking and how we can connect with that, whether it is through their success or challenges. We want to share and discuss. But introverts never share their problems or difficulties. Actually they rather observe than share. They simply want to keep to themselves and only speak when they are willing to.

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2. We think they lack self-esteem

Why should someone keep to themselves in such a strange way? Why can’t they be expressive and accommodate us? It must mean that they lack confidence and are not courageous enough to bring some energy to their interactions with us.

3. We think they look down upon us or feel inferior to us

If they are not feeling inferior to us, then we think that they might be feeling superior to us. They should have a lot of things to say, but they prefer not talking. The truth though is that introverts just like to keep to themselves. And this doesn’t really sink in well with us because we want something more out of our relationships.

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4. We think they need to get a life

Action matters a lot to us and we love to pump up every scenario we’re in with action. Why should we act otherwise? We do think introverts should care more about the world around them and participate more. We want them to open up their emotional gates and be more accommodating.

5. We think they are afraid

It is so difficult to comprehend why people would be so cold and distant some times. We think they are not willing to make that effort and be around people who will fire up their energy. We think they are afraid and not prepared to let go.

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6. We think they are boring

They really are uninteresting and unexciting. How can someone find comfort and happiness in being alone? With them not conversing and keeping to themselves a lot, it is hard to figure out how to add excitement to interactions.

7. We think they are rude

We think that they are in between being arrogant and rude. Can they be honest and real with the way they act since they seem to shunning everyone and spending time only with themselves? We really want them to fit in and tolerate others too.

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8. We feel they are not really good communicators

They are not expressive. But they may be good listeners. Yet it matters that we want to hear them and know what is going on inside them. Awkwardness when participating in one-sided conversations doesn’t make us extroverts feel really cool.

9. We think they are lonely

They must be alone and finding it hard to get out of their box. They really need our help to find some social presence. They really cannot be at their best if they are always locked into their own world. To be happy don’t they need to spend time with people?

10. We think they are unpredictable

If they are mysterious, how can you really know what they are up to? They certainly must have some aces up their sleeves. You can’t really know with them and it can be such a Herculean task trying to break through their walls. Perhaps it is best to leave them the way they are.

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Last Updated on October 22, 2019

How to Get “I Can’t Do It” Out of Your Vocabulary

How to Get “I Can’t Do It” Out of Your Vocabulary

When someone says, “I can’t do it” . . . I say to myself, “What do you mean you can’t do it?” Maybe you don’t want to do it, but saying you “can’t” do it is a completely different story.

With the right mindset, positive attitude, and a clear vision of what you want to accomplish, the only thing that is holding you back is yourself.

Can’t is a terrible word and it has to be taken out of your vocabulary.

By saying you can’t do something, you’re already doubting yourself, submitting to defeat, and you’re making that barrier around your life tighter.

So today, right now, we are going to remove this word for good.

From now on there is nothing we can’t do.

“Attitude is Tattoo”

Your attitude is everything; it’s your reason, your why and how, your facial expression, emotions, body language, and potentially the end result. How you approach an opportunity, and the result of it, is solely based on you — not your boss or your co-worker or friend.

If you enter a business meeting with a sour attitude, that negative energy can spread like wildfire. People can also feel it — maybe even taste it. This is not an impression you want to leave.

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Now imagine you enter a business meeting with a positive attitude, that whatever happens in here is going to be your result, in your control, not someone else’s. Of course, we can’t always win, but even if the outcome is negative, your attitude and perception can turn it into a positive. The question is: can you do it?

Of course you can, because there is nothing in this world you can’t do.

It’s much better to be known for your positive attitude — your poise, your energy, the reason why things go so well because you are able to maintain such character. A negative attitude is easy. It’s easy to complain, it’s easy to be mad, and it’s even easier to do nothing to change it.

When I say your “attitude is tattoo”, it sounds permanent. Tattoos can be removed, but that’s not the point. Your attitude is like a tattoo because you wear it. People can see it and sometimes, they will judge you on it. If you maintain a negative attitude, then it is permanent until you change it.

Change your attitude and I guarantee the results change as well.

Believe You Can Do It

Do you know why most people say “can’t” and doubt themselves before trying anything?

It’s our lack of self-confidence and fear on many different levels. The one thing we have to purge from ourselves is fear — fear of bad results, fear of change, fear of denial, fear of loss, the fear that makes us worry and lose sleep. Worrying is the same as going outside with an umbrella, waiting for rain to hit it. Stop worrying and move on.

Confidence is fragile: It builds up slowly, but can shatter like glass. Project your confidence and energy into believing in yourself. This is a very important and groundbreaking step — one that is usually the hardest to take. Start telling yourself you can do something, anything, and you will do it the best to your ability. Remove doubt, remove fear, and stick with positive energy.

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Embrace Failure

Do not fear failure. Do not run away from it. Face it, learn from it, grow, and take action. Just remember: You will never know success if you have never failed.

Your confidence will bolster after embracing these facts. You will be immune to demoralizing results, and instead you will find ways to fix it, improve upon it, and make it better than before. You will learn to never say “can’t,” and will realize how many more opportunities you can create by removing that one word.

Don’t let one simple and ugly word plague your confidence. You’re better and stronger than that.

Start Making the Change

But to actually start the process of change is very challenging.

Why is that?

Fear? Time? Don’t know how — or where — to start?

It’s hard because what we’re doing is unlearning what we know. We are used to doing things a certain way, and chances are we’ve been doing them for years.

So here are some ways that I avoid using the word “can’t”, and actually take the steps to put forth the change that I wish to see. I hope you can incorporate these methods into your life.

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Write down What You Want to Change

Write it on post-its, notecards, whatever makes you comfortable — something you will always see. I usually write mine on post-its and put them all over the wall behind my monitor so I always see them.

Tell a Friend and Talk About It

Discussing your goals, what you want to change, is very effective when you say it out loud and tell another person other than yourself. It’s almost like saying, hey, I bet I can do it — watch me.

When you fulfill that goal and tell your friend, it feels rewarding and will motivate you to do it again in a different aspect. Who knows? Maybe your friend adopts the same mindset as you.

Stop Yourself from Saying the Forbidden Word

Sometimes,I can’t control myself in public when I’m with friends, so I have to be careful with the words I use so I don’t embarrass or insult anyone.

Treat the word “can’t” as the worst word you can possibly use. Stop yourself from saying it, mid-sentence if you must, and turn your whole perspective around — you can do it, you will do it, and nothing is impossible!

Repetition, Repetition, Repetition

You think this change will be overnight? No way. This is a practice. Something you’re going to be doing for the rest of your life from now until forever.

As I said earlier, you are unlearning what you know. You know how easy it is to say you can’t do something, so by unlearning this easy practice, you’re self-disciplining yourself to live without boundaries.

Practice this everyday, a little at a time, and before you know it, the word can’t will not be part of your language.

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Do Anything That Can Relieve Your Uncertainty

When I catch myself saying I can’t do something or I don’t know something, looking up information on that action or subject, doing research, educating yourself, relieves that uncertainty.

Sometimes, we think we can’t do something because the whole idea of it seems too large. We skip the small steps in our head and only focus on the end.

Before you say you can’t do something, rewind and slow down a little bit. Focus on what the first step is, then the next. Take it a step at a time, and before you know it you will have done something you previously thought you couldn’t do.

Final Thoughts

You know what you must do. The first step is right now. Once you begin this habit, and really start noticing some change, you’ll realize the door to opportunity is everywhere.

The funny thing is: Those doors have always been there. The evil word that we no longer use put a veil over our eyes because that’s how powerful that word is.

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