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Small Signs That He’s The One You Can Grow Old With

Small Signs That He’s The One You Can Grow Old With

There are giveaway signs in every relationship that a couple are destined to be together -that without a doubt they will grow old together. These giveaways can be small gestures, subtle behaviors – nothing remarkable at first glance – but so meaningful when we take a closer look.

It’s not the hotel rooms and fancy presents that suggest the longevity of a relationship but the sweet moments shared at the breakfast table or in the bathroom first thing in the morning as you both rush out to work.

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Here are some examples of some everyday signals that tell you this man is for the long road.

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1. He’s the first person you look for when you get big news – you can’t wait for his reaction.

2. You guys still hold hands in public after one year together.

3. You’re happy to wash his smelly gym gear.

4. If he doesn’t text all day it’s not a big deal – you miss hearing from him but you know he’s busy.

5. He very gently clips your toe nails for you.

6. You massage his back after his stressful day even though you’re tired yourself.

7. He remembers the anniversary of your first date and always marks the occasion.

8. When you’re out together he only looks at you – he has no interest in anyone else.

9. You finish his sentences for him and he doesn’t mind.

10. Sometimes you answer the question that he’s just about to ask.

11. Other times you know when he’s going to call you or he knows when you’re going to call him.

12. You always prepare the veg and he does the meat. That’s just how you roll.

13. You laugh at the same things and at the same time.

14. He pretends not to notice when you haven’t shaved your legs.

15. You always find what he’s looking for. Glasses, bag, jacket he knows you’ve got him covered.

16. You leave out a towel for him when he’s in the shower.

17. He just smiles when your cooking goes horribly wrong yet again.

18. He cuddles up to you in your PJ’s – you’re always attractive to him.

19. When you’re out together you know from your body language what the other one is thinking.

20. He always satisfies you in bed – or at least tries his best.

21. He tries to stay awake after sex to keep you company.

22. You love to cook for him even though you know you’re rubbish at it.

23. You use the toilet when he’s in the shower – no biggy.

24. You don’t mind picking up his smelly socks.

25. He’s cool with buying your tampons.

26. He’s upset when you’re upset but he stays strong for you.

27. He always knows when you need a hug.

28. You always know when he needs a hug.

29. You still kiss a lot even after one year together.

30. You laugh when he hangs a picture crooked.

31. You brag about him to your Dad on the phone.

32. He brags about you to his Mom on the phone.

33. He cooks every Sunday and lets you have a long hot soak.

34. You play with your technology ever Sunday afternoon lying together on the couch.

35. He’s happy to spend time with your friends – he considers them his friends.

36. He won’t watch HOMELAND until you can watch it together.

37. He stands up for you when the neighbor gives you grief for scratching her car.

38. You understand each others bodies – you don’t need to talk about it now, it just works.

39. You reassure him when he lays the new floor all wrong.

40. He still insists on paying for dinner even after two years together.

41. You don’t tell him how bad his dodgy haircut really is.

42. He licks his lips after your terrible lasagne – he even has second helpings.

43. You laugh half way through an argument and he joins you – you can’t stay angry at each other for long.

44. You don’t like being apart for more than a night and you call and text constantly.

45. You haven’t fancied anyone else since you met him.

46. You still buy each other small gifts for no particular reason.

47. You love to holiday together.

As you can see there are lots of tell tale signs that you will grow old with this special man in your life. Maybe your partner is always looking out for you or you have fallen into comfortable habits that you would miss were they not there?

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Falling in love with the right person is one of the best feelings imaginable but growing into a deeper love that is based in understanding and trust is the most reassuring feeling there is.

When you’ve got the man you will grow old with you will know – why ? Because he’s a legend.

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Last Updated on January 15, 2021

7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

The popular idiomatic saying that “actions speak louder than words” has been around for centuries, but even to this day, most people struggle with at least one area of nonverbal communication. Consequently, many of us aspire to have more confident body language but don’t have the knowledge and tools necessary to change what are largely unconscious behaviors.

Given that others’ perceptions of our competence and confidence are predominantly influenced by what we do with our faces and bodies, it’s important to develop greater self-awareness and consciously practice better posture, stance, eye contact, facial expressions, hand movements, and other aspects of body language.

Posture

First things first: how is your posture? Let’s start with a quick self-assessment of your body.

  • Are your shoulders slumped over or rolled back in an upright posture?
  • When you stand up, do you evenly distribute your weight or lean excessively to one side?
  • Does your natural stance place your feet relatively shoulder-width apart or are your feet and legs close together in a closed-off position?
  • When you sit, does your lower back protrude out in a slumped position or maintain a straight, spine-friendly posture in your seat?

All of these are important considerations to make when evaluating and improving your posture and stance, which will lead to more confident body language over time. If you routinely struggle with maintaining good posture, consider buying a posture trainer/corrector, consulting a chiropractor or physical therapist, stretching daily, and strengthening both your core and back muscles.

Facial Expressions

Are you prone to any of the following in personal or professional settings?

  • Bruxism (tight, clenched jaw or grinding teeth)
  • Frowning and/or furrowing brows
  • Avoiding direct eye contact and/or staring at the ground

If you answered “yes” to any of these, then let’s start by examining various ways in which you can project confident body language through your facial expressions.

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1. Understand How Others Perceive Your Facial Expressions

A December 2020 study by UC Berkeley and Google researchers utilized a deep neural network to analyze facial expressions in six million YouTube clips representing people from over 140 countries. The study found that, despite socio-cultural differences, people around the world tended to use about 70% of the same facial expressions in response to different emotional stimuli and situations.[1]

The study’s researchers also published a fascinating interactive map to demonstrate how their machine learning technology assessed various facial expressions and determined subtle differences in emotional responses.

This study highlights the social importance of facial expressions because whether or not we’re consciously aware of them—by gazing into a mirror or your screen on a video conferencing platform—how we present our faces to others can have tremendous impacts on their perceptions of us, our confidence, and our emotional states. This awareness is the essential first step towards

2. Relax Your Face

New research on bruxism and facial tension found the stresses and anxieties of Covid-19 lockdowns led to considerable increases in orofacial pain, jaw-clenching, and teeth grinding, particularly among women.[2]

The National Institute of Dental and Craniofacial Research estimates that more than 10 million Americans alone have temporomandibular joint dysfunction (TMJ syndrome), and facial tension can lead to other complications such as insomnia, wrinkles, dry skin, and dark, puffy bags under your eyes.[3])

To avoid these unpleasant outcomes, start practicing progressive muscle relaxation techniques and taking breaks more frequently throughout the day to moderate facial tension.[4] You should also try out some biofeedback techniques to enhance your awareness of involuntary bodily processes like facial tension and achieve more confident body language as a result.[5]

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3. Improve Your Eye Contact

Did you know there’s an entire subfield of kinesic communication research dedicated to eye movements and behaviors called oculesics?[6] It refers to various communication behaviors including direct eye contact, averting one’s gaze, pupil dilation/constriction, and even frequency of blinking. All of these qualities can shape how other people perceive you, which means that eye contact is yet another area of nonverbal body language that we should be more mindful of in social interactions.

The ideal type (direct/indirect) and duration of eye contact depends on a variety of factors, such as cultural setting, differences in power/authority/age between the parties involved, and communication context. Research has shown that differences in the effects of eye contact are particularly prominent when comparing East Asian and Western European/North American cultures.[7]

To improve your eye contact with others, strive to maintain consistent contact for at least 3 to 4 seconds at a time, consciously consider where you’re looking while listening to someone else, and practice eye contact as much as possible (as strange as this may seem in the beginning, it’s the best way to improve).

3. Smile More

There are many benefits to smiling and laughing, and when it comes to working on more confident body language, this is an area that should be fun, low-stakes, and relatively stress-free.

Smiling is associated with the “happiness chemical” dopamine and the mood-stabilizing hormone, serotonin. Many empirical studies have shown that smiling generally leads to positive outcomes for the person smiling, and further research has shown that smiling can influence listeners’ perceptions of our confidence and trustworthiness as well.

4. Hand Gestures

Similar to facial expressions and posture, what you do with your hands while speaking or listening in a conversation can significantly influence others’ perceptions of you in positive or negative ways.

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It’s undoubtedly challenging to consciously account for all of your nonverbal signals while simultaneously trying to stay engaged with the verbal part of the discussion, but putting in the effort to develop more bodily awareness now will make it much easier to unconsciously project more confident body language later on.

5. Enhance Your Handshake

In the article, “An Anthropology of the Handshake,” University of Copenhagen social anthropology professor Bjarke Oxlund assessed the future of handshaking in wake of the Covid-19 pandemic:[8]

“Handshakes not only vary in function and meaning but do so according to social context, situation and scale. . . a public discussion should ensue on the advantages and disadvantages of holding on to the tradition of shaking hands as the conventional gesture of greeting and leave-taking in a variety of circumstances.”

It’s too early to determine some of the ways in which Covid-19 has permanently changed our social norms and professional etiquette standards, but it’s reasonable to assume that handshaking may retain its importance in American society even after this pandemic. To practice more confident body language in the meantime, the video on the science of the perfect handshake below explains what you need to know.

6. Complement Your Verbals With Hand Gestures

As you know by now, confident communication involves so much more than simply smiling more or sounding like you know what you’re talking about. What you do with your hands can be particularly influential in how others perceive you, whether you’re fidgeting with an object, clenching your fists, hiding your hands in your pockets, or calmly gesturing to emphasize important points you’re discussing.

Social psychology researchers have found that “iconic gestures”—hand movements that appear to be meaningfully related to the speaker’s verbal content—can have profound impacts on listeners’ information retention. In other words, people are more likely to engage with you and remember more of what you said when you speak with complementary hand gestures instead of just your voice.[9]

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Further research on hand gestures has shown that even your choice of the left or right hand for gesturing can influence your ability to clearly convey information to listeners, which supports the notion that more confident body language is readily achievable through greater self-awareness and deliberate nonverbal actions.[10]

Final Takeaways

Developing better posture, enhancing your facial expressiveness, and practicing hand gestures can vastly improve your communication with other people. At first, it will be challenging to consciously practice nonverbal behaviors that many of us are accustomed to performing daily without thinking about them.

If you ever feel discouraged, however, remember that there’s no downside to consistently putting in just a little more time and effort to increase your bodily awareness. With the tips and strategies above, you’ll be well on your way to embracing more confident body language and amplifying others’ perceptions of you in no time.

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Featured photo credit: Maria Lupan via unsplash.com

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