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What I Learned From The Person Who I Thought I Would Grow Old With

What I Learned From The Person Who I Thought I Would Grow Old With

I didn’t just think of growing old with her, I thought I would visit a thousand places with her. She was perfect I guess, even in any sort of imperfection. It never happened fast or quick, it was something slow and insidious. Until I became encapsulated in the rain of love I never knew. Yet it never worked out. Here are some lessons I learned from the person I thought I would grow old with.

1. We are never afraid to be the victims or fools of love. We simply learn courage and resilience in the process.

2. It was never about where we were going to live or stay, it was just about being together.

3. I learned that compromise is never a weakness but strength. Because it does feel good to be with the one you care about and sometimes the sacrifices you have to make in the process could be what defines that.

4. With love there is so much depth and meaning.

5. You learn that there are no secrets, that somehow that person would always understand you better than anyone else ever will.

6. Every touch, every kiss, every hold meant something. And you wished it would last forever.

7. You never can fathom how another person can truly care about you. Something you will always wonder for a long time to come.

8. You are not afraid to be committed or to be in the other person’s arms, because in it is safety.

9. You are afraid of losing the other person.

10. One thing you will never stop learning is love, forgiveness, kindness, hope and joy.

11You want your kids, friends and relatives to discover this type of love.

12. You learn from the mistakes you made together.

13. Things may not work out the way you planned, but that is the reality of having something so perfect in an imperfect world.

14. Obsession is temporary; love is permanent.

15You cannot predict how things will turn out, because things often happen when you least expect them.

16. Time is the most important weapon when you need to heal.

17.You will learn that your emotions should be mastered by you alone.

18. The person you thought you will grow old with will teach you wisdom and experience. It is difficult to separate anything from the two.

19. Even in their departure they will create a channel for you to be able to move on without them.

20. You will forget the hurt, you will remember the gains.

21. They will teach you strength. And yes you may never have thought that you could ever become this strong.

22.What matters at the end of the day is that you are able to unleash that unapologetic and unadulterated version of you, because you gave them your very best.

23. Being with them may be the best thing you have done, but losing them will be the hardest.

24. Don’t be afraid of it – it is completely okay to be vulnerable.

25. Being in love and anticipating everything will work out with someone is an amazing feeling. But you can never ascertain how things will go.

26. What the person who you thought you will grow old with teaches you is patience. You have to learn to be patient to face the roller coaster of things that will happen to you in the process of being with that special one. Hope relies on patience too.

27. Whether you want to accept it or not the experience you had with that special person will play an extreme crucial role in your present and future beliefs.

28. Most importantly, learn to love unconditionally. It is never enough, but you can surely try.

My most cherished lesson from loving that person was to turn to writing my thoughts. When my mind was jumbled, writing served as a therapy to helping me go through whatever obstacles that came my way when it came to dealing with that special person.

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Last Updated on October 22, 2019

How to Get “I Can’t Do It” Out of Your Vocabulary

How to Get “I Can’t Do It” Out of Your Vocabulary

When someone says, “I can’t do it” . . . I say to myself, “What do you mean you can’t do it?” Maybe you don’t want to do it, but saying you “can’t” do it is a completely different story.

With the right mindset, positive attitude, and a clear vision of what you want to accomplish, the only thing that is holding you back is yourself.

Can’t is a terrible word and it has to be taken out of your vocabulary.

By saying you can’t do something, you’re already doubting yourself, submitting to defeat, and you’re making that barrier around your life tighter.

So today, right now, we are going to remove this word for good.

From now on there is nothing we can’t do.

“Attitude is Tattoo”

Your attitude is everything; it’s your reason, your why and how, your facial expression, emotions, body language, and potentially the end result. How you approach an opportunity, and the result of it, is solely based on you — not your boss or your co-worker or friend.

If you enter a business meeting with a sour attitude, that negative energy can spread like wildfire. People can also feel it — maybe even taste it. This is not an impression you want to leave.

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Now imagine you enter a business meeting with a positive attitude, that whatever happens in here is going to be your result, in your control, not someone else’s. Of course, we can’t always win, but even if the outcome is negative, your attitude and perception can turn it into a positive. The question is: can you do it?

Of course you can, because there is nothing in this world you can’t do.

It’s much better to be known for your positive attitude — your poise, your energy, the reason why things go so well because you are able to maintain such character. A negative attitude is easy. It’s easy to complain, it’s easy to be mad, and it’s even easier to do nothing to change it.

When I say your “attitude is tattoo”, it sounds permanent. Tattoos can be removed, but that’s not the point. Your attitude is like a tattoo because you wear it. People can see it and sometimes, they will judge you on it. If you maintain a negative attitude, then it is permanent until you change it.

Change your attitude and I guarantee the results change as well.

Believe You Can Do It

Do you know why most people say “can’t” and doubt themselves before trying anything?

It’s our lack of self-confidence and fear on many different levels. The one thing we have to purge from ourselves is fear — fear of bad results, fear of change, fear of denial, fear of loss, the fear that makes us worry and lose sleep. Worrying is the same as going outside with an umbrella, waiting for rain to hit it. Stop worrying and move on.

Confidence is fragile: It builds up slowly, but can shatter like glass. Project your confidence and energy into believing in yourself. This is a very important and groundbreaking step — one that is usually the hardest to take. Start telling yourself you can do something, anything, and you will do it the best to your ability. Remove doubt, remove fear, and stick with positive energy.

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Embrace Failure

Do not fear failure. Do not run away from it. Face it, learn from it, grow, and take action. Just remember: You will never know success if you have never failed.

Your confidence will bolster after embracing these facts. You will be immune to demoralizing results, and instead you will find ways to fix it, improve upon it, and make it better than before. You will learn to never say “can’t,” and will realize how many more opportunities you can create by removing that one word.

Don’t let one simple and ugly word plague your confidence. You’re better and stronger than that.

Start Making the Change

But to actually start the process of change is very challenging.

Why is that?

Fear? Time? Don’t know how — or where — to start?

It’s hard because what we’re doing is unlearning what we know. We are used to doing things a certain way, and chances are we’ve been doing them for years.

So here are some ways that I avoid using the word “can’t”, and actually take the steps to put forth the change that I wish to see. I hope you can incorporate these methods into your life.

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Write down What You Want to Change

Write it on post-its, notecards, whatever makes you comfortable — something you will always see. I usually write mine on post-its and put them all over the wall behind my monitor so I always see them.

Tell a Friend and Talk About It

Discussing your goals, what you want to change, is very effective when you say it out loud and tell another person other than yourself. It’s almost like saying, hey, I bet I can do it — watch me.

When you fulfill that goal and tell your friend, it feels rewarding and will motivate you to do it again in a different aspect. Who knows? Maybe your friend adopts the same mindset as you.

Stop Yourself from Saying the Forbidden Word

Sometimes,I can’t control myself in public when I’m with friends, so I have to be careful with the words I use so I don’t embarrass or insult anyone.

Treat the word “can’t” as the worst word you can possibly use. Stop yourself from saying it, mid-sentence if you must, and turn your whole perspective around — you can do it, you will do it, and nothing is impossible!

Repetition, Repetition, Repetition

You think this change will be overnight? No way. This is a practice. Something you’re going to be doing for the rest of your life from now until forever.

As I said earlier, you are unlearning what you know. You know how easy it is to say you can’t do something, so by unlearning this easy practice, you’re self-disciplining yourself to live without boundaries.

Practice this everyday, a little at a time, and before you know it, the word can’t will not be part of your language.

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Do Anything That Can Relieve Your Uncertainty

When I catch myself saying I can’t do something or I don’t know something, looking up information on that action or subject, doing research, educating yourself, relieves that uncertainty.

Sometimes, we think we can’t do something because the whole idea of it seems too large. We skip the small steps in our head and only focus on the end.

Before you say you can’t do something, rewind and slow down a little bit. Focus on what the first step is, then the next. Take it a step at a time, and before you know it you will have done something you previously thought you couldn’t do.

Final Thoughts

You know what you must do. The first step is right now. Once you begin this habit, and really start noticing some change, you’ll realize the door to opportunity is everywhere.

The funny thing is: Those doors have always been there. The evil word that we no longer use put a veil over our eyes because that’s how powerful that word is.

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