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What I Learned From The Person Who I Thought I Would Grow Old With

What I Learned From The Person Who I Thought I Would Grow Old With

I didn’t just think of growing old with her, I thought I would visit a thousand places with her. She was perfect I guess, even in any sort of imperfection. It never happened fast or quick, it was something slow and insidious. Until I became encapsulated in the rain of love I never knew. Yet it never worked out. Here are some lessons I learned from the person I thought I would grow old with.

1. We are never afraid to be the victims or fools of love. We simply learn courage and resilience in the process.

2. It was never about where we were going to live or stay, it was just about being together.

3. I learned that compromise is never a weakness but strength. Because it does feel good to be with the one you care about and sometimes the sacrifices you have to make in the process could be what defines that.

4. With love there is so much depth and meaning.

5. You learn that there are no secrets, that somehow that person would always understand you better than anyone else ever will.

6. Every touch, every kiss, every hold meant something. And you wished it would last forever.

7. You never can fathom how another person can truly care about you. Something you will always wonder for a long time to come.

8. You are not afraid to be committed or to be in the other person’s arms, because in it is safety.

9. You are afraid of losing the other person.

10. One thing you will never stop learning is love, forgiveness, kindness, hope and joy.

11You want your kids, friends and relatives to discover this type of love.

12. You learn from the mistakes you made together.

13. Things may not work out the way you planned, but that is the reality of having something so perfect in an imperfect world.

14. Obsession is temporary; love is permanent.

15You cannot predict how things will turn out, because things often happen when you least expect them.

16. Time is the most important weapon when you need to heal.

17.You will learn that your emotions should be mastered by you alone.

18. The person you thought you will grow old with will teach you wisdom and experience. It is difficult to separate anything from the two.

19. Even in their departure they will create a channel for you to be able to move on without them.

20. You will forget the hurt, you will remember the gains.

21. They will teach you strength. And yes you may never have thought that you could ever become this strong.

22.What matters at the end of the day is that you are able to unleash that unapologetic and unadulterated version of you, because you gave them your very best.

23. Being with them may be the best thing you have done, but losing them will be the hardest.

24. Don’t be afraid of it – it is completely okay to be vulnerable.

25. Being in love and anticipating everything will work out with someone is an amazing feeling. But you can never ascertain how things will go.

26. What the person who you thought you will grow old with teaches you is patience. You have to learn to be patient to face the roller coaster of things that will happen to you in the process of being with that special one. Hope relies on patience too.

27. Whether you want to accept it or not the experience you had with that special person will play an extreme crucial role in your present and future beliefs.

28. Most importantly, learn to love unconditionally. It is never enough, but you can surely try.

My most cherished lesson from loving that person was to turn to writing my thoughts. When my mind was jumbled, writing served as a therapy to helping me go through whatever obstacles that came my way when it came to dealing with that special person.

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10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

The ability to take risks by stepping outside your comfort zone is the primary way by which we grow. But we are often afraid to take that first step.

In truth, comfort zones are not really about comfort, they are about fear. Break the chains of fear to get outside. Once you do, you will learn to enjoy the process of taking risks and growing in the process.

Here are 10 ways to help you step out of your comfort zone and get closer to success:

1. Become aware of what’s outside of your comfort zone

What are the things that you believe are worth doing but are afraid of doing yourself because of the potential for disappointment or failure?

Draw a circle and write those things down outside the circle. This process will not only allow you to clearly identify your discomforts, but your comforts. Write identified comforts inside the circle.

2. Become clear about what you are aiming to overcome

Take the list of discomforts and go deeper. Remember, the primary emotion you are trying to overcome is fear.

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How does this fear apply uniquely to each situation? Be very specific.

Are you afraid of walking up to people and introducing yourself in social situations? Why? Is it because you are insecure about the sound of your voice? Are you insecure about your looks?

Or, are you afraid of being ignored?

3. Get comfortable with discomfort

One way to get outside of your comfort zone is to literally expand it. Make it a goal to avoid running away from discomfort.

Let’s stay with the theme of meeting people in social settings. If you start feeling a little panicked when talking to someone you’ve just met, try to stay with it a little longer than you normally would before retreating to comfort. If you stay long enough and practice often enough, it will start to become less uncomfortable.

4. See failure as a teacher

Many of us are so afraid of failure that we would rather do nothing than take a shot at our dreams.

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Begin to treat failure as a teacher. What did you learn from the experience? How can you take that lesson to your next adventure to increase your chance of success?

Many highly successful people failed plenty of times before they succeeded. Here’re some examples:

10 Famous Failures to Success Stories That Will Inspire You to Carry On

5. Take baby steps

Don’t try to jump outside your comfort zone, you will likely become overwhelmed and jump right back in.

Take small steps toward the fear you are trying to overcome. If you want to do public speaking, start by taking every opportunity to speak to small groups of people. You can even practice with family and friends.

Take a look at this article on how you can start taking baby steps:

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The Number One Secret to Life Success: Baby Steps

6. Hang out with risk takers

There is no substitute for this step. If you want to become better at something, you must start hanging out with the people who are doing what you want to do and start emulating them. (Here’re 8 Reasons Why Risk Takers Are More Likely To Be Successful).

Almost inevitably, their influence will start have an effect on your behavior.

7. Be honest with yourself when you are trying to make excuses

Don’t say “Oh, I just don’t have the time for this right now.” Instead, be honest and say “I am afraid to do this.”

Don’t make excuses, just be honest. You will be in a better place to confront what is truly bothering you and increase your chance of moving forward.

8. Identify how stepping out will benefit you

What will the ability to engage in public speaking do for your personal and professional growth? Keep these potential benefits in mind as motivations to push through fear.

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9. Don’t take yourself too seriously

Learn to laugh at yourself when you make mistakes. Risk taking will inevitably involve failure and setbacks that will sometimes make you look foolish to others. Be happy to roll with the punches when others poke fun.

If you aren’t convinced yet, check out these 6 Reasons Not to Take Life So Seriously.

10. Focus on the fun

Enjoy the process of stepping outside your safe boundaries. Enjoy the fun of discovering things about yourself that you may not have been aware of previously.

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