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What I Learned From The Person Who I Thought I Would Grow Old With

What I Learned From The Person Who I Thought I Would Grow Old With

I didn’t just think of growing old with her, I thought I would visit a thousand places with her. She was perfect I guess, even in any sort of imperfection. It never happened fast or quick, it was something slow and insidious. Until I became encapsulated in the rain of love I never knew. Yet it never worked out. Here are some lessons I learned from the person I thought I would grow old with.

1. We are never afraid to be the victims or fools of love. We simply learn courage and resilience in the process.

2. It was never about where we were going to live or stay, it was just about being together.

3. I learned that compromise is never a weakness but strength. Because it does feel good to be with the one you care about and sometimes the sacrifices you have to make in the process could be what defines that.

4. With love there is so much depth and meaning.

5. You learn that there are no secrets, that somehow that person would always understand you better than anyone else ever will.

6. Every touch, every kiss, every hold meant something. And you wished it would last forever.

7. You never can fathom how another person can truly care about you. Something you will always wonder for a long time to come.

8. You are not afraid to be committed or to be in the other person’s arms, because in it is safety.

9. You are afraid of losing the other person.

10. One thing you will never stop learning is love, forgiveness, kindness, hope and joy.

11You want your kids, friends and relatives to discover this type of love.

12. You learn from the mistakes you made together.

13. Things may not work out the way you planned, but that is the reality of having something so perfect in an imperfect world.

14. Obsession is temporary; love is permanent.

15You cannot predict how things will turn out, because things often happen when you least expect them.

16. Time is the most important weapon when you need to heal.

17.You will learn that your emotions should be mastered by you alone.

18. The person you thought you will grow old with will teach you wisdom and experience. It is difficult to separate anything from the two.

19. Even in their departure they will create a channel for you to be able to move on without them.

20. You will forget the hurt, you will remember the gains.

21. They will teach you strength. And yes you may never have thought that you could ever become this strong.

22.What matters at the end of the day is that you are able to unleash that unapologetic and unadulterated version of you, because you gave them your very best.

23. Being with them may be the best thing you have done, but losing them will be the hardest.

24. Don’t be afraid of it – it is completely okay to be vulnerable.

25. Being in love and anticipating everything will work out with someone is an amazing feeling. But you can never ascertain how things will go.

26. What the person who you thought you will grow old with teaches you is patience. You have to learn to be patient to face the roller coaster of things that will happen to you in the process of being with that special one. Hope relies on patience too.

27. Whether you want to accept it or not the experience you had with that special person will play an extreme crucial role in your present and future beliefs.

28. Most importantly, learn to love unconditionally. It is never enough, but you can surely try.

My most cherished lesson from loving that person was to turn to writing my thoughts. When my mind was jumbled, writing served as a therapy to helping me go through whatever obstacles that came my way when it came to dealing with that special person.

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Why It’s Never Too Late To Redefine Yourself

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The ability to reinvent and redefine yourself is a bold, daring and purposeful choice. It doesn’t just happen. You have to make a conscious, intentional choice and then follow through.

If the thought of forging a new path, changing habits, thought patterns and your inner circle of friends scares you – you’re not alone. Change can be a very scary thing. It takes courage, fortitude and a bit of faith to decide to shed your old self and don a new persona. However, it is one of the most critical processes one must repeatedly endure in the pursuit of destiny. Change unlocks new levels of potential.

The Need for Change

Everyday when we wake up, we make a decision. We decide to follow our routine or we decide to go off script and shake things up a bit. For those who are creatures of habit, routine is comfortable, easy and produces very little stress. The problem with this is, after a while you stop growing.

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We all reinvent ourselves at some point in our lives. It is absolutely necessary to achieve certain levels of success.

Reflect back on who you were as a teenager and then who you were at 25. Those are two very different people. Most of us are completely different. Your thought patterns changed, your appearance, job, level of education and even your friends– changed. We like to refer to this as “growing up” or maturing and consider it to be one of life’s natural progressions. However the changes you made were purposeful and deliberate.

This process must be a lifelong and continuous cycle. You are never too old to refresh yourself.

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    Signs It’s Time to Redefine

    “Just as established products and brands need updating to stay alive and vibrant, you periodically need to refresh or reinvent yourself.”– Mireille Guiliano

    So how do you know when it’s time for a system upgrade? There are signs along the way that alert you that it is time for an overhaul. The first sign is the feeling of being stuck. If you feel like you are in a rut, you’re bored with life or you need some newness and excitement, a self reinvention may be in order. Re-evaluate your life vision and your goals. Is that vision still valid and are your goals consistent with your vision and–are they achievable? If you are off course, it’s time for a change. If you are not moving forward and making progress, it’s time for a change.

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    In life, there’s no such thing as neutrality–you’re either moving forward or you are moving backward. Time constantly moves forward and if you are standing still, you are actually losing ground. No matter your age or stage in life– there is always room for improvement.

    “You’re never too old to set another goal or dream a new dream.” ~C. S. Lewis

    The second sign that you are due for a change is the occurrence of major life events in which change is forced upon you. Getting married, starting a new job, being promoted, ending a relationship, becoming a parenting or relocating are all prime opportunities to completely overhaul your life.

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    When these major shifts occur in your life–you have to shift with them. You can’t have a single mentality and have a successful marriage. You can’t remain selfish and irresponsible, and raise a healthy, well-adjusted child. You can’t be promoted to a supervisory position and keep the same subordinate attitude. Each level of success requires something different from you.

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      Consider, for a moment, Arnold Schwarzenegger. People may have different opinions about his character and some of his life choices, but he is a master at reinventing himself. He achieved the ultimate success as a professional body builder by earning the title “Mr. Universe” three times. He then earned a tremendous amount of fame and fortune in the entertainment industry making action/adventure films. And in his latest role, he served two terms as the Governor of California. He succeeded as a professional body builder, a film star and a politician. Each role required massive amounts of change, commitment, strength and hard work.

      And if Arnold can do it…so can you!

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