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5 Important Hacks That Will Teach Your Kids Responsibility and Make the World a Better Place

5 Important Hacks That Will Teach Your Kids Responsibility and Make the World a Better Place

Today’s world can offer a lot, but it is also full of terrible vices and temptations. Gone are many of the morals and acts of kindness experienced with generations of old. It’s certainly not taught in school anymore, which means the first and last lines of defense lies with mum and dad.

How do you teach your children the importance of responsibility? With a little patience, you can teach your children just about anything, from environmental awareness to working as part of the community and willingly offering help to others. How you do this, of course, will depend on the child’s age and eagerness to learn. With a few simple life hacks, you can readily teach your offspring that life isn’t just about personal profit or selfish gains.

1. Start early.

Childhood can in essence, be defined as a constant state of development. Then, why wait until school age to introduce new ideas? If you start introducing things slowly, there’s a greater chance of this having a stronger impact in later life. Studies have already suggested that children who read more at home cope better at school. So, why not use this natural ability of learning to your advantage?

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Here, at the most early stages, you want to keep it simple with a basic reward scheme. Stars, snacks or points, for example, are great rewards. You can use them to encourage the likes of:

  • Sharing: the ability to share resources will be vital growing up, but here you can simply encourage a sense of selflessness.
  • Not wasting resources: does your child waste food or ask for too much? Start rewarding them for using fewer resources where possible.
  • Respecting others: today’s world is full of horrible people but a little kindness goes a long way. Teaching children to be nice to strangers—including those who value additional company, such as the elderly—is a vital way to avoid one of the more modern of pitfalls.

Similarly, why not look for educational materials? While schools might not stock them, there are authors writing books with environmental messages for younger children.

2. Give them duties.

One of the best ways to teach or encourage new ideals is to give people a direct reason to care. As your children get older, you can do this with additional duties, building upon previous information. Did you teach your child to help with recycling? Now try making that their sole responsibility. Whereas previously, they simply did what they were told, now they have to think for themselves. Is this item recyclable? If so, what material is it? With any luck, they might start finding entire new areas where recycling could be implemented!

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As your children become teenagers, they’re not a far cry from being an adult. As such, let them take charge by giving them specific goals. Now that they’re motivated, goals give them a need to think about the world around them. It’s no longer about pocket money but ensuring the objective is reached.

3. Teach cause and effect.

Adults know that every action has consequences and this is certainly true when dealing with the environment and world around us. Children, on the other hand, often don’t understand what they can’t immediately see. This is why we can often get them to clean the house—as the immediate benefits are obvious—but take longer to recycle or understand the need for alternative resources.

Here are a few examples you can try:

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  • Organic waste: left over food should be recycled, such as compost, not thrown in the bin. Keep an eye on where the food goes and motivate your children to do the right thing.
  • Wasting resources: does one child play with more toys, waste more food, or otherwise cause trouble? Show them that wasting materials this way stretches your financial means. If they can’t share their toys, for instance, then you can’t afford to buy twice as much.
  • Saving money: by teaching to save on water bills or cutting down on power, you can save more on bills. This can easily be turned into a family benefit and, consequently, over-usage will have its drain, too.
  • Encourage green cleaning: involve children with cleaning, but more importantly, support environmentally responsible cleaning. Take them shopping for cleaning items and let them see what choices you make and why. This will breed environmental consciousness as a normal routine and habit.

The trick in all of these is to show the physical consequences. Children and teenagers will then understand the wider effects their decisions can make. In turn, you can help use this to learn about communities (both in your neighborhood and the wider environment) and how everyone is connected.

4. Encourage communal engagement.

While smart technology has its benefits, it often draws many into isolation. For children, teenagers and aspiring adults, this poses a problem. Recent surveys suggest as many as 73% of teenagers have access to a smartphone —50% more than just 4 years ago. Yet these smartphones come at a cost. As social media becomes more important, what happens to community? Environmental awareness and other global responsibilities involve a greater understanding of working and living together.

A simple solution? Limit how much time your children have online. Try cutting down their weekend computer use (or even take their smartphone away). Encourage them to go outside and see the world for themselves; maybe then they’ll notice the effects of littering, not cleaning up and other similar vices. Importantly, maybe they could take up volunteering, especially for a cause that helps the elderly, vulnerable, less privileged, or the environment.

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5. Offer adult roles.

If taking their phone away is too severe, how about letting them look after themselves? Pay as you go phones, for instance, will ensure they can’t spend too much and they’ll quickly realize how expensive these things are. Likewise, why not let them take over shopping duties, with a chance of sharing some of the savings?

During these tasks you can often review and assess how well they are doing. How cheap was the shopping? How effective did they clean the kitchen and how long did it take them? This way, they can statistically track their progress; a useful skill that will do them well in the adult and larger world.

Overall, the world we live in can become more beautiful should we remember to invest more ideals and values unto upcoming generations. The buck stops at the door of parenting and communal efforts. Through these hacks, we can teach our kids more values and responsibility and these will definitely rub off on our beautiful world and the environment for even generations yet unborn.

Featured photo credit: Parenting/Kevin Phillips via pixabay.com

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Published on September 21, 2020

The Danger of Overscheduling Your Kids

The Danger of Overscheduling Your Kids

I am a parent of three children aged 8, 6, and 6. Like many parents, I struggle with knowing the right balance of activities for them. I don’t want my kids to miss out on opportunities to play sports and participate in activities that will enhance their lives and help them grow as individuals. However, I also don’t want them to become overscheduled kids, to the extent that they get worn out and stressed out.

There is a balance in providing activities for our children and overscheduling them. The tendency for the latter is prevalent these days. Our lives — and the lives of our kids — are increasingly overscheduled and overworked. Thus, we need to understand the dangers of having overscheduled kids and how to prevent this from happening in our own families.

What’s Wrong with Overscheduling Your Kids?

1. Overscheduling Can Burn Out Our Kids

When our kids are on the go and scheduled to the max from a young age, their potential to get burned out before reaching high school is quite high. The New York Times reported some research on burnout and found that burnout with kids relates to their workload, along with their parents’ propensity to experience it.[1] This means that overworked children are more likely to get burned out than others. Similarly, overscheduled parents tend to have overscheduled kids more often than not.

Burnout

When a person is burned out, they feel overwhelmed and exhausted by what others expect them to get done daily. Children who are involved in too many activities with little to no downtime have a high chance of experiencing burnout. When parents place too many expectations on their kids, they also have an increased potential to burn out.

If you get the sense that your child is feeling overworked or overwhelmed by their daily activities, you need to know which ones can be cut back. If they have too many activities outside of school work, for instance, then that is one area that likely needs to be downsized.

An overworked child will present various symptoms like moodiness, irritability, crankiness, despondency, anger, stomach aches, headaches, rebellion, etc. Cutting back their activities will help to relieve their stress and reduce the said burnout signs. If your kid has severe burnout symptoms, though, then professional help from a pediatrician or therapist for children should be sought.

Downtime

Downtime is key to helping relieve burnout. If children don’t have free time during the day to have any rest, they are more likely to become burned out than others. Downtime means unorganized free time to do what they enjoy or relax. Cut back your kids’ extra-curricular activities if they don’t have downtime in their schedule.

Here are more tips on creating downtime for the children: How to Create Downtime for Kids.

2. Overscheduling Kills Playtime and Creativity

Kids need time to be kids. When their schedules are filled every day with activities like organized ballet, soccer, and music lessons, and they only take a break for dinner and bedtime, then they are overscheduled. They need to have free time after school to relax and play. When they don’t have that and proceed from one scheduled activity to the next, they are missing out on playtime.

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Playtime is crucial to child development. If they cannot get enough time to play, then their ability to develop their creativity decreases. The Genius of Play explains that there are six major developmental benefits that children get from playtime:[2]

  • Creativity
  • Social skill development
  • Cognitive development
  • Physical development (i.e., balance, coordination)
  • Communication skills
  • Emotional development

If children don’t have time to play because they are always on-the-go, then they are missing out on the developmental benefits of play.

Children need downtime after school so that they can unwind, play, and decompress. Research from the Journal of Early Childhood Development and Care showed that kids need to play to deal with anxiety, stress, and worry.[3] Playtime provides an outlet for them to manage these emotions in a healthy manner and helps with the development of their creativity.

Children need free time to play every day. Fifteen minutes at recess is not enough. They need time for it after school, at home, outside of the constraints of scheduled activities.

Solution

Ensure that your child has time to play after school. This is especially important for young children who greatly benefit from playing. Limit organized activities so that your child is not scheduled every day and can play after school. If they have an activity every hour, then it doesn’t allow for playtime.

3. Overscheduling Causes Stress and Pressure

When kids are overscheduled because their parents are so intent on having high-performing children, then they will feel stressed. Parental pressure upon a child to do well in academics, music, multiple sports, and religious studies is a reality for many kids. The children scheduled in all of these activities can often feel stress and pressure, especially when they are expected to succeed in all of them.

It is hard enough for kids to be good or succeed at a single activity. For a parent to overschedule their child and expect superior performance in various activities, that is a recipe for a stressed-out child.

Solution

Parents should not schedule kids in multiple activities with the expectation of superior performance in all. They should also consider the child’s interests. If the child is not interested in one activity, then they are likely to feel stressed and pressured to do it.

For example, if Suzy has been taking piano lessons for four years, and she no longer enjoys learning the instrument, then perhaps it is time to take a break. If Suzy is forced to continue with the lessons and daily practices, then she may feel pressured to continue performing simply because her mom wants her to do so. This can lead Suzy to resent her mother for forcing her to keep on doing something that she doesn’t like anymore.

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Let your child help in selecting the activities that they get involved in. Also, put a cap on the number of activities they are doing. If they have a different activity every weekday, then they are likely overscheduled.

Kids need downtime and time to play, too. If they need to do a new activity every day, that downtime is diminished, considering the time at home or outside of the scheduled activities is limited. This limited time is then filled with homework, mealtime, and bedtime prep. Eliminating activities several days a week will allow the child to have some time to play freely. The younger the kid is, the more time they need playtime. As they get older, they can take on more activities; however, under the age of 13, playing daily is a must for children.

4. Healthy Eating Falls by the Wayside

Any parent who’s busy chauffeuring multiple kids to different activities after school knows how tempting fast food can become. Fast food, however, leads to less healthy food choices. French fries and hamburgers — the staple combo in most fast-food joints — cannot help your child thrive nutritionally.

When families are overscheduled, they tend to go for easy and quick meals. When rushed, many of us make poor food choices because we aren’t taking the time to think about a meal’s nutritional value and a balanced diet for our children.

5. Family Mealtimes Become a Thing of the Past

When we are taking our kids to sports and other extra-curricular activities that fall during dinnertime, the family often misses out on sharing a meal at home.

This is true in our own home. There are certain nights of the week that we have practices, and so we either eat together early (if possible) or eat separately, depending on what our schedules allow.

There is so much value in having family dinners. It provides an opportunity for family members to discuss their day, including their work and school activities. It is a time when technology is set aside so that everyone can truly focus on communicating with one another and catching up on what is happening in each other’s lives. When a kid’s activities are scheduled every evening, then that family time at the dining table gets lost. Dinnertime becomes a thing of the past as we overschedule kids and ourselves.

Try learning more about family time here: How to Maximize Family Time? 13 Simple Ways You Can Try Immediately.

Solution

Assess our schedule during the week to ensure that there’s always time for dinner with the family. Make it a point to establish a dinnertime schedule for the evenings that you do not have prior engagements scheduled. Remember: the time that you have with your kids under your roof is fleeting. Before long, they will be grownups and start living on their own. You need not dismiss or minimize the opportunity to bond with your children over meals.

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Having family mealtimes also allows you to make excellent food choices. This way, parents can create balanced and healthy meals and teach their children about the importance of eating good food for their bodies.

How to Turn Things Around?

1. Fix the Displaced Ambitions

Parents with overscheduled kids often mean well. They want their children to succeed, so they give them every chance to make it happen. They sign them up for various lessons, sports, and activities that may help the kids find success in life.

In other cases, the parent probably didn’t get such opportunities when they were young and felt that they missed out on many things. Hence, they provide those missed opportunities to their kids during their own childhood.

Carla is an example of such a parent. Carla always wanted to take dance and ballet classes as a child. She heard her friends talk about dance classes and performances, and they would even bring recital photos to school, showing their beautiful, detailed costumes. Carla wanted to be in those dance classes and learn ballet and have the opportunity to perform in a beautiful costume in front of an audience. Unfortunately, her family could not afford to give her that opportunity.

When Carla gave birth to a baby girl, she had visions of her little one growing big enough to take dance, ballet, and even tap classes someday. She was looking forward to dressing her daughter in dance costumes and watching her take lessons and eventually performing in recitals. When Carla’s daughter Anna was old enough to enroll at a dance class at four years old, she was thrilled. However, after a few months, it became clear that Anna was not enjoying these classes. She would cry before every lesson, begging Carla to let her stay home and not go to class. Her daughter had no interest in learning to dance.

In truth, it happens to many parents. They would enroll their kid in an activity that they wanted to do as a child but never got to try. Unfortunately, a parent’s interest is not always the same as that of their kids’. The child may humor mom or dad for some time and do the activity out of compliance. But if the child does not enjoy it anymore, they will eventually make things clear to their parents.

Parents should listen to their children. If the activity is something that they do not enjoy doing, ask the children what they think they would like to do, and then eliminate activities that they are not into. Similarly, teach them commitment by finishing a program, but don’t enroll them again in the same class if they absolutely do not want to do it.

Let the kids try different activities at a young age. Sometimes they don’t know if they like something until they try it out.

2. Try Clinics of Camps Before Committing

Don’t enroll your child in three sports at the same time to see which one they like or excel at. Doing so will make your kid overscheduled. Instead, you can use the summer break or preseason camps or clinics to try a variety of activities they are interested in.

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As an example, all three of my children said that they wanted to do lacrosse. We had already tried soccer, and it was not successful for two out of three of them. They would rather chase butterflies down the field or play tag than actually participate in their games. Therefore, before committing to lacrosse and spending a great deal of money on their gear, I signed them up for a sample clinic. It was a one-day program that intended to expose children to the sport and see if they would perhaps enjoy playing it. I was surprised to find that the three kids enjoyed lacrosse, so we signed up for the season. It was nice to be able to see them try out the sport in a clinic before committing to an entire season.

Most towns and cities have parks and recreation department. This is often a good place to check for clinics and camps for various activities. Our local department even offers art and dance classes. Most of them meet between two and four times total, so the children can get some exposure to the activity before signing them up at a private facility for a more long-term commitment.

3. Take an Inventory of Your Weekly Activities

Often, we do an activity without reflecting on how much we are already committed to doing each week. Before we commit to any more activities, we must be willing to look at everything that each family member does. Every child’s commitment is another responsibility for the parent as well. Parents must take children to and from each practice, so you need to consider the drive time for any activity.

For instance, if each of my three kids signed up for three different activities each week, I would be running myself ragged. Three activities for three kids means taking them to nine activities during the week. That doesn’t include the games that will likely be scheduled on the weekends. Three activities for every child, therefore, is too much for our family.

If some practices overlap on the schedule, then you need two parents or responsible adults to transport the children to different locations. Before you sign them up for multiple activities, you need to factor downtime, stress levels, and your ability to take them to each activity in the equation.

Consider the following before your kids can commit to various activities:

  • What is the time commitment for the child each week? Do they have enough energy and stamina for the activities? Do they get enough downtime daily to prevent burnout?
  • Is practice time required outside of their scheduled team practices and games?
  • How long is the travel time for you as a parent, along with wait time during practices? Do you have time allowances for these activities in your own schedule?
  • Does the activity time conflict with other activities on the schedule? Will it eliminate family dinners on a regular basis?
  • Does the child really want to do the activity?
  • What is the motivation for signing up for the activity?
  • Is this activity or commitment going to cause a great deal of stress on the child or other family members?

Check out these time-management tips for parents: 10 Time Management Tips Every Busy Parent Needs to Know.

Get The Kids Active and Involved!

Despite everything, it does not mean that you shouldn’t sign your child up for different activities like sports, music, dance, karate, etc. They are all great activities that can help children develop a variety of valuable life skills. The goal is to enroll them in things that they genuinely enjoy and avoid overscheduling kids by not letting them sign up for too many activities at a time.

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