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5 Important Hacks That Will Teach Your Kids Responsibility and Make the World a Better Place

5 Important Hacks That Will Teach Your Kids Responsibility and Make the World a Better Place

Today’s world can offer a lot, but it is also full of terrible vices and temptations. Gone are many of the morals and acts of kindness experienced with generations of old. It’s certainly not taught in school anymore, which means the first and last lines of defense lies with mum and dad.

How do you teach your children the importance of responsibility? With a little patience, you can teach your children just about anything, from environmental awareness to working as part of the community and willingly offering help to others. How you do this, of course, will depend on the child’s age and eagerness to learn. With a few simple life hacks, you can readily teach your offspring that life isn’t just about personal profit or selfish gains.

1. Start early.

Childhood can in essence, be defined as a constant state of development. Then, why wait until school age to introduce new ideas? If you start introducing things slowly, there’s a greater chance of this having a stronger impact in later life. Studies have already suggested that children who read more at home cope better at school. So, why not use this natural ability of learning to your advantage?

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Here, at the most early stages, you want to keep it simple with a basic reward scheme. Stars, snacks or points, for example, are great rewards. You can use them to encourage the likes of:

  • Sharing: the ability to share resources will be vital growing up, but here you can simply encourage a sense of selflessness.
  • Not wasting resources: does your child waste food or ask for too much? Start rewarding them for using fewer resources where possible.
  • Respecting others: today’s world is full of horrible people but a little kindness goes a long way. Teaching children to be nice to strangers—including those who value additional company, such as the elderly—is a vital way to avoid one of the more modern of pitfalls.

Similarly, why not look for educational materials? While schools might not stock them, there are authors writing books with environmental messages for younger children.

2. Give them duties.

One of the best ways to teach or encourage new ideals is to give people a direct reason to care. As your children get older, you can do this with additional duties, building upon previous information. Did you teach your child to help with recycling? Now try making that their sole responsibility. Whereas previously, they simply did what they were told, now they have to think for themselves. Is this item recyclable? If so, what material is it? With any luck, they might start finding entire new areas where recycling could be implemented!

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As your children become teenagers, they’re not a far cry from being an adult. As such, let them take charge by giving them specific goals. Now that they’re motivated, goals give them a need to think about the world around them. It’s no longer about pocket money but ensuring the objective is reached.

3. Teach cause and effect.

Adults know that every action has consequences and this is certainly true when dealing with the environment and world around us. Children, on the other hand, often don’t understand what they can’t immediately see. This is why we can often get them to clean the house—as the immediate benefits are obvious—but take longer to recycle or understand the need for alternative resources.

Here are a few examples you can try:

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  • Organic waste: left over food should be recycled, such as compost, not thrown in the bin. Keep an eye on where the food goes and motivate your children to do the right thing.
  • Wasting resources: does one child play with more toys, waste more food, or otherwise cause trouble? Show them that wasting materials this way stretches your financial means. If they can’t share their toys, for instance, then you can’t afford to buy twice as much.
  • Saving money: by teaching to save on water bills or cutting down on power, you can save more on bills. This can easily be turned into a family benefit and, consequently, over-usage will have its drain, too.
  • Encourage green cleaning: involve children with cleaning, but more importantly, support environmentally responsible cleaning. Take them shopping for cleaning items and let them see what choices you make and why. This will breed environmental consciousness as a normal routine and habit.

The trick in all of these is to show the physical consequences. Children and teenagers will then understand the wider effects their decisions can make. In turn, you can help use this to learn about communities (both in your neighborhood and the wider environment) and how everyone is connected.

4. Encourage communal engagement.

While smart technology has its benefits, it often draws many into isolation. For children, teenagers and aspiring adults, this poses a problem. Recent surveys suggest as many as 73% of teenagers have access to a smartphone —50% more than just 4 years ago. Yet these smartphones come at a cost. As social media becomes more important, what happens to community? Environmental awareness and other global responsibilities involve a greater understanding of working and living together.

A simple solution? Limit how much time your children have online. Try cutting down their weekend computer use (or even take their smartphone away). Encourage them to go outside and see the world for themselves; maybe then they’ll notice the effects of littering, not cleaning up and other similar vices. Importantly, maybe they could take up volunteering, especially for a cause that helps the elderly, vulnerable, less privileged, or the environment.

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5. Offer adult roles.

If taking their phone away is too severe, how about letting them look after themselves? Pay as you go phones, for instance, will ensure they can’t spend too much and they’ll quickly realize how expensive these things are. Likewise, why not let them take over shopping duties, with a chance of sharing some of the savings?

During these tasks you can often review and assess how well they are doing. How cheap was the shopping? How effective did they clean the kitchen and how long did it take them? This way, they can statistically track their progress; a useful skill that will do them well in the adult and larger world.

Overall, the world we live in can become more beautiful should we remember to invest more ideals and values unto upcoming generations. The buck stops at the door of parenting and communal efforts. Through these hacks, we can teach our kids more values and responsibility and these will definitely rub off on our beautiful world and the environment for even generations yet unborn.

Featured photo credit: Parenting/Kevin Phillips via pixabay.com

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Published on January 30, 2019

How to Support a Working Mother as a Working Father

How to Support a Working Mother as a Working Father

In roughly 60 percent of two-parent households with children under the age of 18, both parents work full time. But who takes time off work when the kids are sick in your house? And if you are a manager, how do you react when a man says he needs time to take his baby to the pediatrician?

The sad truth is, the default in many companies and families is to value the man’s work over the woman’s—even when there is no significant difference in their professional obligations or compensation. This translates into stereotypes in the workplace that women are the primary caregivers, which can negatively impact women’s success on the job and their upward mobility.

According to a Pew Research Center analysis of long-term time-use data (1965–2011), fathers in dual-income couples devote significantly less time than mothers do to child care.[1] Dads are doing more than twice as much housework as they used to (from an average of about four hours per week to about 10 hours), but there is still a significant imbalance.

This is not just an issue between spouses; it’s a workplace culture issue. In many offices, it is still taboo for dads to openly express that they have family obligations that need their attention. In contrast, the assumption that moms will be on the front lines of any family crisis is one that runs deep.

Consider an example from my company. A few years back, one of our team members joined us for an off-site meeting soon after returning from maternity leave. Not even two hours into her trip, her husband called to say that the baby had been crying nonstop. While there was little our colleague could practically do to help with the situation, this call was clearly unsettling, and the result was that her attention was divided for the rest of an important business dinner.

This was her first night away since the baby’s birth, and I know that her spouse had already been on several business trips before this event. Yet, I doubt she called him during his conferences to ask child-care questions. Like so many moms everywhere, she was expected to figure things out on her own.

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The numbers show that this story is far from the exception. In another Pew survey, 47 percent of dual-income parents agreed that the moms take on more of the work when a child gets sick.[2] In addition, 39 percent of working mothers said they had taken a significant amount of time off from work to care for their child compared to just 24 percent of working fathers. Mothers are also more likely than fathers (27 percent to 10 percent) to say they had quit their job at some point for family reasons.

Before any amazing stay-at-home-dads post an angry rebuttal comment, I want to be very clear that I am not judging how families choose to divide and conquer their personal and professional responsibilities; that’s 100 percent their prerogative. Rather, I am taking aim at the culture of inequity that persists even when spouses have similar or identical professional responsibilities. This is an important issue for all of us because we are leaving untapped business and human potential on the table.

What’s more, I think my fellow men can do a lot about this. For those out there who still privately think that being a good dad just means helping out mom, it’s time to man up. Stop expecting working partners—who have similar professional responsibilities—to bear the majority of the child-care responsibilities as well.

Consider these ways to support your working spouse:

1. Have higher expectations for yourself as a father; you are a parent, not a babysitter.

Know who your pediatrician is and how to reach him or her. Have a back-up plan for transportation and emergency coverage.

Don’t simply expect your partner to manage all these invisible tasks on her own. Parenting takes effort and preparation for the unexpected.

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As in other areas of life, the way to build confidence is to learn by doing. Moms aren’t born knowing how to do this stuff any more than dads are.

2. Treat your partner the way you’d want to be treated.

I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve heard a man on a business trip say to his wife on a call something to the effect of, “I am in the middle of a meeting. What do you want me to do about it?”

However, when the tables are turned, men often make that same call at the first sign of trouble.

Distractions like this make it difficult to focus and engage with work, which perpetuates the stereotype that working moms aren’t sufficiently committed.

When you’re in charge of the kids, do what she would do: Figure it out.

3. When you need to take care of your kids, don’t make an excuse that revolves around your partner’s availability.

This implies that the children are her first priority and your second.

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I admit I have been guilty in the past of telling clients, “I have the kids today because my wife had something she could not move.” What I should have said was, “I’m taking care of my kids today.”

Why is it so hard for men to admit they have personal responsibilities? Remember that you are setting an example for your sons and daughters, and do the right thing.

4. As a manager, be supportive of both your male and female colleagues when unexpected situations arise at home.

No one likes or wants disruptions, but life happens, and everyone will face a day when the troubling phone call comes from his sitter, her school nurse, or even elderly parents.

Accommodating personal needs is not a sign of weakness as a leader. Employees will be more likely to do great work if they know that you care about their personal obligations and family—and show them that you care about your own.

5. Don’t keep score or track time.

At home, it’s juvenile to get into debates about who last changed a diaper or did the dishes; everyone needs to contribute, but the big picture is what matters. Is everyone healthy and getting enough sleep? Are you enjoying each other’s company?

In business, too, avoid the trap of punching a clock. The focus should be on outcomes and performance rather than effort and inputs. That’s the way to maintain momentum toward overall goals.

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The Bottom Line

To be clear, I recognize that a great many working dads are doing a terrific job both on the home front and in their professional lives. My concern is that these standouts often aren’t visible to their colleagues; they intentionally or inadvertently let their work as parents fly under the radar. Dads need to be open and honest about family responsibilities to change perceptions in the workplace.

The question “How do you balance it all?” should not be something that’s just asked of women. Frankly, no one can answer that question. Juggling a career and parental responsibilities is tough. At times, really tough.

But it’s something that more parents should be doing together, as a team. This can be a real bonus for the couple relationship as well, because nothing gets in the way of good partnership faster than feelings of inequity.

On the plus side, I can tell you that parenting skills really do get better with practice—and that’s great for people of both sexes. I think our cultural expectations that women are the “nurturers” and men are the “providers” needs to evolve. Expanding these definitions will open the doors to richer contributions from everyone, because women can and should be both—and so should men.

Featured photo credit: NeONBRAND via unsplash.com

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