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5 Important Hacks That Will Teach Your Kids Responsibility and Make the World a Better Place

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5 Important Hacks That Will Teach Your Kids Responsibility and Make the World a Better Place

Today’s world can offer a lot, but it is also full of terrible vices and temptations. Gone are many of the morals and acts of kindness experienced with generations of old. It’s certainly not taught in school anymore, which means the first and last lines of defense lies with mum and dad.

How do you teach your children the importance of responsibility? With a little patience, you can teach your children just about anything, from environmental awareness to working as part of the community and willingly offering help to others. How you do this, of course, will depend on the child’s age and eagerness to learn. With a few simple life hacks, you can readily teach your offspring that life isn’t just about personal profit or selfish gains.

1. Start early.

Childhood can in essence, be defined as a constant state of development. Then, why wait until school age to introduce new ideas? If you start introducing things slowly, there’s a greater chance of this having a stronger impact in later life. Studies have already suggested that children who read more at home cope better at school. So, why not use this natural ability of learning to your advantage?

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Here, at the most early stages, you want to keep it simple with a basic reward scheme. Stars, snacks or points, for example, are great rewards. You can use them to encourage the likes of:

  • Sharing: the ability to share resources will be vital growing up, but here you can simply encourage a sense of selflessness.
  • Not wasting resources: does your child waste food or ask for too much? Start rewarding them for using fewer resources where possible.
  • Respecting others: today’s world is full of horrible people but a little kindness goes a long way. Teaching children to be nice to strangers—including those who value additional company, such as the elderly—is a vital way to avoid one of the more modern of pitfalls.

Similarly, why not look for educational materials? While schools might not stock them, there are authors writing books with environmental messages for younger children.

2. Give them duties.

One of the best ways to teach or encourage new ideals is to give people a direct reason to care. As your children get older, you can do this with additional duties, building upon previous information. Did you teach your child to help with recycling? Now try making that their sole responsibility. Whereas previously, they simply did what they were told, now they have to think for themselves. Is this item recyclable? If so, what material is it? With any luck, they might start finding entire new areas where recycling could be implemented!

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As your children become teenagers, they’re not a far cry from being an adult. As such, let them take charge by giving them specific goals. Now that they’re motivated, goals give them a need to think about the world around them. It’s no longer about pocket money but ensuring the objective is reached.

3. Teach cause and effect.

Adults know that every action has consequences and this is certainly true when dealing with the environment and world around us. Children, on the other hand, often don’t understand what they can’t immediately see. This is why we can often get them to clean the house—as the immediate benefits are obvious—but take longer to recycle or understand the need for alternative resources.

Here are a few examples you can try:

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  • Organic waste: left over food should be recycled, such as compost, not thrown in the bin. Keep an eye on where the food goes and motivate your children to do the right thing.
  • Wasting resources: does one child play with more toys, waste more food, or otherwise cause trouble? Show them that wasting materials this way stretches your financial means. If they can’t share their toys, for instance, then you can’t afford to buy twice as much.
  • Saving money: by teaching to save on water bills or cutting down on power, you can save more on bills. This can easily be turned into a family benefit and, consequently, over-usage will have its drain, too.
  • Encourage green cleaning: involve children with cleaning, but more importantly, support environmentally responsible cleaning. Take them shopping for cleaning items and let them see what choices you make and why. This will breed environmental consciousness as a normal routine and habit.

The trick in all of these is to show the physical consequences. Children and teenagers will then understand the wider effects their decisions can make. In turn, you can help use this to learn about communities (both in your neighborhood and the wider environment) and how everyone is connected.

4. Encourage communal engagement.

While smart technology has its benefits, it often draws many into isolation. For children, teenagers and aspiring adults, this poses a problem. Recent surveys suggest as many as 73% of teenagers have access to a smartphone —50% more than just 4 years ago. Yet these smartphones come at a cost. As social media becomes more important, what happens to community? Environmental awareness and other global responsibilities involve a greater understanding of working and living together.

A simple solution? Limit how much time your children have online. Try cutting down their weekend computer use (or even take their smartphone away). Encourage them to go outside and see the world for themselves; maybe then they’ll notice the effects of littering, not cleaning up and other similar vices. Importantly, maybe they could take up volunteering, especially for a cause that helps the elderly, vulnerable, less privileged, or the environment.

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5. Offer adult roles.

If taking their phone away is too severe, how about letting them look after themselves? Pay as you go phones, for instance, will ensure they can’t spend too much and they’ll quickly realize how expensive these things are. Likewise, why not let them take over shopping duties, with a chance of sharing some of the savings?

During these tasks you can often review and assess how well they are doing. How cheap was the shopping? How effective did they clean the kitchen and how long did it take them? This way, they can statistically track their progress; a useful skill that will do them well in the adult and larger world.

Overall, the world we live in can become more beautiful should we remember to invest more ideals and values unto upcoming generations. The buck stops at the door of parenting and communal efforts. Through these hacks, we can teach our kids more values and responsibility and these will definitely rub off on our beautiful world and the environment for even generations yet unborn.

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Featured photo credit: Parenting/Kevin Phillips via pixabay.com

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Last Updated on October 7, 2021

Why Spending Time With Your Family Is Important (And How To Do So)

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Why Spending Time With Your Family Is Important (And How To Do So)

In today’s chaotic world, having family time isn’t always easy. It can get pretty hard to coordinate schedules, especially if the family is large. Life demands that we work, attend school, nurture friendships, hobbies, etc. All of those things are extremely time-consuming and important—but so is spending time with your family.

Why is family time so important? Because we all need love and support, and a good, strong family can provide that regularly. For children, spending time with their family helps shape them into good, responsible adults, improve their mental health, and develop strong core values.

There are many positive effects of spending time with your family. My family and I, for instance (and this includes grandchildren as well), meet every Tuesday night for dinner and games. My older son and I take turns cooking. This gives all of us a chance to try some new recipes. After dinner, we play games. And without fail, they inspire competitiveness and laughter. As family night has evolved, the grandkids have invited their friends over as well, creating the need for more chairs but also expanding our circle of fun.

Aside from the obvious fun and games, there are other reasons why spending time with your family is paramount. In this article, I will provide you with multiple reasons why spending time with your family regularly is a win-win. And then, I will lay out some ways on how to do it.

Let’s get started, shall we?

Why Spending Time With Your Family Is Important

Here are six reasons why it’s important to spend time with your family.

1. Provides the Opportunity to Bond

When you spend time together as a family—talking about your day, your highs, your lows—it fosters communication. As parents, it gives you the chance to listen to your children, to hear them out, to learn about what’s going on in their world. It also provides you with the opportunity to use life situations as teaching moments.

Before our Tuesday night dinner/game nights, my family used to see each other pretty regularly but not consistently, especially the grandkids. Our family night changed all that. Now, it’s guaranteed that the grandchildren, along with some of their friends, will be there. Not only do I get to find out what’s been happening in their lives, but they also get to know us better. It’s creating memories they can treasure forever, as well as modeling the Get-Together tradition for when they eventually have families of their own.

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“Spending time partaking in everyday family leisure activities has been associated with greater emotional bonding within families.”[1]

2. Teaches the Value of Family

Taking the time to be with your family lets your children know they are valued—that spending time together is a priority. I know that in today’s world, both parents are busy as both usually working. What better way to let your children know they are loved than by carving out time each week to spend with them?

According to Marilyn Price-Mitchell, Ph.D., “words like honesty, trust, fairness, respect, responsibility, and courage are core to centuries of religious, philosophical, and family beliefs. Use them and others to express and reinforce your family values. Teach children the behaviors that flow from these principles. Use quotes to ignite meaningful dinner conversations and encourage kids to talk about these values.”[2]

3. Enhances Mental Well-Being

Spending that quality time together gives your children a safe platform in which to express themselves, ask questions about things that are bothering them, or talk about their day and things they’ve learned. I know that my 9-year old granddaughter can’t wait until it’s her turn to talk about her day. She usually goes on and on and has to be stopped to give everyone else a chance to talk about their goings-on.

“Research shows the quality of family relationships is more important than their size or composition. Whoever the family is made up of, they can build strong, positive relationships that promote wellbeing and support children and young people’s mental health.”[3]

For children, having the opportunity to seek advice from parents they trust—as well as being able to have a sounding board and help with problem-solving—is priceless. In addition, being able to voice their opinions and be heard—and to feel like what they have to say matters—is an esteem-builder. All of these can have a very impactful positive effect on their well-being.

4. Helps the Child Feel Loved

How do you think a child feels knowing their parents want to spend time with them—talking, sharing experiences, playing games, listening to them? It will make them feel as though they are important, and a child that feels important is happier and more apt to thrive. Setting aside chores or work to spend time with your children demonstrates that they’re essential—that they matter. What a gift to give your child!

“If a child has your undivided attention, it signals that they are loved and important to you. This can be further nurtured by experiencing joyful activities together, as it demonstrates that you want to spend time with your children over and above all of the daily demands.”[4]

5. Creates a Safe Environment

If you regularly spend time with your children, you are also creating an atmosphere of trust. The more trust they have, the more likely they are to share with you what’s going on in their world. As they get older, you’re going to want to know. Negative influences can show up at any time, but if you’ve always been there for your child, they are more apt to come to you and ask for your advice.

Spending time together generates familiarity and feelings of being supported. When a child feels safe and comfortable, they’re more likely to open up. This is one way to get to know your child and know what’s on their minds. Are they okay? Do they need your guidance? If so, how?

6. Reduces Stress

This is significant. We all suffer from stress at one point or another in our lives. Spending time with family helps alleviate that stress. It’s an opportunity to talk things out, get feedback, and maybe brainstorm for a solution to the problem that is causing the stress.

According to Brandy Drzymkowski, “During the holidays, your closest five people probably shifts to family and friends. You may even get to see loved ones who live far away. Good news! This can actually help lower your stress levels. Studies show ‘face-to-face interaction…counteracts the body’s defensive ‘fight-or-flight’ response.’ In other words, quality time spent with loved ones is nature’s stress reliever.”[5]

So, now that you know some of the benefits, what are some ideas for making family time happen?

How to Make Family Time Happen

Here are four things you can do to make family time happen and spend more time with them.

1. Family Dinners

This, as I said above, is a wonderful way to spend time together. While you’re having dinner, you have the chance to discuss things that are going on in your lives—the ups, the downs, and everywhere in between. It’s like having a buffer against life’s challenges.

Aside from that, eating dinner together has many additional benefits. Studies have shown that for kids who eat regularly with their families, there is less risk of substance abuse, teen pregnancy, and depression.[6]

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“Our belief in the ‘magic’ of family dinners is grounded in research on the physical, mental and emotional benefits of regular family meals.” It further states, “We recommend combining food, fun and conversation at mealtimes because those three ingredients are the recipe for a warm, positive family dinner—the type of environment that makes these scientifically proven benefits possible.”[7]

According to Parenting NI, “children and adolescents who spend more time with their parents are less likely to get involved in risky behavior. According to studies done by the National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse via Arizona State University, teens who have infrequent family dinners are twice as likely to use tobacco, nearly twice as likely to use alcohol and one and a half times more likely to use marijuana.”[8]

As you can see, there are multiple benefits to spending time with each other routinely. You can’t go wrong with this family activity.

2.  Regular Movie Nights

This is another fun event, although, from personal experience, I have to caution that choosing a movie that everyone wants to see is not easy. So, give yourselves plenty of time so you don’t spend two hours searching for a movie, and then end up watching no movie at all because the night is practically over. Try and choose a movie before the day, if possible.

Afterward, open it up for discussion. Ask questions pertinent to the movie. What do you think of ABC? Should they have done that? Would you have done something differently? There are so many questions you can ask to spark a conversation and keep the night going.

3. Game Night

This is another occasion for great fun. If you have a competitive spirit, it makes it even more fun. There are numerous games out there—Balderdash, Pictionary, Apples to Apples, Charades, to name a few—that can create fun havoc. All I can say is, on game nights, don’t take yourself too seriously. It’s okay if you lose the game. The fun is in being together, laughing, debating, and having a good time.

In addition, “Playing board games is great for children for many reasons besides the obvious; it’s fun to play games! Age appropriate games can help children to think strategically, solve problems creatively, work on pattern recognition and build simple math skills. They also help children develop social skills such as following rules, taking turns, and graceful winning or losing. Additionally, a family game night provides an opportunity for children to bond with siblings, parents and family members as well as peers. It can promote tradition building and establish a fun routine.”[9]

So, go find your family a game and start having fun!

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4. Sharing a Hobby

If you and one of your kids like to do the same things, do it more often. For example, my oldest son and his teenage son go on long bike rides together on the weekends. Not only do they get to exercise, but they also get to talk and look at beautiful sceneries. They’ve also incorporated cooking into their routine. They plan the meal, shop, and prepare—activities that bring them closer together.

Sharing a hobby is a great way to bring family members together. It bonds people in amazing ways. According to Alison Ratner Mayer, LICSW, “One of the easiest and most important ways to build a child’s self-esteem is to spend time with them doing something not only that they enjoy but something that you also enjoy. There is a special magic that happens between a parent and a child when they share a mutually beloved activity. It sends the message to the child that their parents are having fun, true, honest, real fun, with them.”[10]

Final Thoughts

Spending time with the family is an investment. It is an investment in the happiness, well-being, and security of that system. It can also serve as a way to break out of the daily rut and the constant worldly demands, while at the same time, building a strong family unit.

Even though it isn’t always easy to find the time, finding the time is key to staying close and to providing and receiving love and support. There is no greater gift than the gift of time. That’s what we all seem to be missing nowadays. So, in giving that gift consistently, everyone feels loved and appreciated.

The family that takes the time to interact regularly is typically happy. They know they are part of a tribe, and that’s essential in today’s chaotic world. To know that there are people whom you can count on—people who will have your back in times of need—is invaluable.

Now, go and plan something plan with your family, if you haven’t already.

Featured photo credit: Jimmy Dean via unsplash.com

Reference

[1] Pittsburgh Parent: Spending Time Together—Benefits of Family Time
[2] Roots of Action: Integrity: How Families Teach and Live Their Values
[3] Beyond Blue: Healthy Families
[4] Esperance Anglican Community School: The importance of family time
[5] Brandy Drzymkowski: Spending Time With Loved Ones Reduces Stress
[6] Harvard Graduate School of Education: Harvard EdCast: The Benefit of Family Mealtime
[7] The Family Dinner Project: BENEFITS OF FAMILY DINNERS
[8] Parenting NI: The Importance of Spending Time Together
[9] WNY Children: Family Game Night- The Benefits of Game Play
[10] Child Therapy Boston: The Benefits of Sharing a Hobby With Your Child

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