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Sometimes You Think Compromising Is The Only Way Out In Your Relationship. Actually It Isn’t.

Sometimes You Think Compromising Is The Only Way Out In Your Relationship. Actually It Isn’t.

In past relationships I have learned that no matter how hard you try to please someone in certain cases you will only fall short. Being in a relationship is not simply about giving but it is also about your partner understanding who you are. They should not force you to give more than you can. Rather they should accept you for your abilities.

You should not compromise any of these things in a relationship, rather you should find a point to reach an understanding with your partner.

1. You should love your partner but they should support your dreams

Sometimes we want to let go of our dreams simply because our partners want something else for us. If they love us or want to be part of our future they should support our dreams also.

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2. You have a new family but you cannot compromise on your family ties

Yes you want to build a new family with your partner. But you can’t simply throw away your family ties with your parents, relatives and siblings. Yes, all in-laws come with their baggage but you can always find a way to create a bridge between your families.

3. Your partner should be your best friend but you can’t throw away your former friendships

Your friends sometimes can be your best safety net. So you do not need to compromise your friendships for the sake of a relationship.

4. You should be committed to your partner but never abandon your career

It is never necessary for anyone to give up their career goals to make a relationship work. Rather it is important for you to work around your desires for what you want to achieve professionally in a mutually respectful manner.

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5. You do not want someone who opposes your values but you don’t need to change your values for a relationship

You shouldn’t be on the same page with your partner on everything. It is ideal for you to have a healthy and informed debate every now and then. You shouldn’t show ignorance and tolerate bigoted ideals simply because you want to make your relationship work.

6. You do not have to stop feeling good about yourself because of anyone

Anyone who makes you feel less confident about yourself is not the right person for you. You also do not have to change yourself implicitly because of anyone. Rather you should be with someone that makes you feel like you can be yourself.

7. When you are in love you should also be treated with respect

As much as love can involve making personal sacrifices, you also should also be shown respect when you are in a relationship with anyone. You should not let go of your self-worth because you are trying so hard to please another person.

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8. You should not compromise on humanity

There are many things that make you human, like compassion, an ability to forgive and to show empathy. You should not compromise on things that make you human.

9. You should not compromise on trust

We all want our partners to know that we can tolerate their mistakes and flaws. But even when we tolerate so much, we should be able to refuse to compromise on the importance of trust. This means we can continue to carry our relationships forward in a healthy manner.

10. You should think about the other person often but you should never compromise your intelligence

This is in regards to both your emotional and mental intelligence. While the other person should be a priority in your thoughts, never should that person make you feel stupid, weak or out of place in the relationship.

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11. You should never compromise your integrity

What matters most in your life and how much you adhere to certain standards or principles can define who you are. You should never compromise your identity in a relationship.

12. Learn that you are not perfect and either is your partner

Yes, you are imperfect and you will make mistakes. The other person should be able to forgive you when mistakes are made rather than demand perfection from you.

Featured photo credit: Kiselev Andrey Valerevich via shutterstock.com

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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