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5 Great Signs You’ve Fallen In Love With Yourself Like Nobody Else

5 Great Signs You’ve Fallen In Love With Yourself Like Nobody Else

If you’ve ever watched an episode of Ru Paul’s Drag Race (or, binge-watched, much like myself), you’re familiar with the closing lines: “If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else? Can I get an Amen?” Amen, indeed.

More often than not, we take ourselves for granted. We forget that we have incredible characteristics that are unique just to ourselves. It’s important to take stock of what makes you, as a person, a prize. Over the course of your life, you may have opportunities to fall in love with a few people. Being the first person you always stay in love with can enhance the love you’ll be able to give to others. Not to mention, make life a whole lot sweeter.

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Here are 5 signs that you’re in love with yourself like nobody else.

1. You rely on your confidence, not cockiness

When I was a child, my mother looked me in the eye and said, “No one is better than you but you are no better than anyone else.” These words have served as one of my life mantras. Confidence is the quality of knowing that you have worth. Therefore, your actions and words are an extension of your worth; they are respected and respectful.

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Cockiness is the quality of acting as if you are better than others. Therefore, your actions and words reflect an ill-mannered attitude and insecurities. Relying on the former is a symbol of recognizing your own value; that you have something good to offer. Confidence allows us to be our best selves. When you operate with confidence, you also enable the people around you to offer the best of themselves. Clear proof that you don’t feel like you’re in competition with anyone but yourself — a loving and wonderful place to be.

2. You are your sturdiest rock

It’s important to value the opinions of your tribe. After all, they care about you and have your heart in mind. However, when you truly love yourself, you may take polls amongst friends and family, but ultimately you choose what’s best for your personal journey — regardless of popular opinion. You can’t have love without trust. Listening to yourself and trusting those interior words is modus operandi for you, because, at your core, you are solid and self-possessed.

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3. You have great inner dialogue

Everyone talks to themselves at one point or another. A fine sign that you love yourself is in the way you use inner dialoging. Many self-help gurus insist that you can change your life for the better simply by being careful with the words you use when speaking to yourself. By adopting encouraging language internally to celebrate even small victories, you’ll be treating yourself like a genuine loved one. As well, really serving the hard truth when things get tough can also uphold your self-loyalty.

4. You don’t pay much attention to what people think about you

We’ve all sought approval from someone before: a parent, a lover, a boss, a friend. However, when you love yourself, you know that the only person you have to impress is you. Life is too short to be held hostage by the judgements of others. As a person who loves yourself unconditionally, you recognize that living up to someone else’s expectations is a life lived for someone else… and you don’t have time for that. Your opinions filter is set on high; you can differentiate constructive criticism from destructive criticism. You take the good, leave the bad, and keep it moving.

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5. You treat yourself well

By this, I don’t mean going on a shopping spree at the closest designer boutique. Rather, you acknowledge that you’re human. You accept 100% of you and embrace all of it. You find perfection in all of your imperfections. You don’t get hung up on your mistakes, but you draw knowledge from them to build yourself up. You respect yourself in every aspect: mentally, physically, and spiritually, by making time to process your thoughts, maintaining your body’s health, and creating balance to harmonize as many layers of your life as you can. Mostly, you enjoy the world around you by allowing yourself to be fascinated, humbled, and invigorated by it as much as possible!

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7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

When giving a presentation or speech, you have to engage your audience effectively in order to truly get your point across. Unlike a written editorial or newsletter, your speech is fleeting; once you’ve said everything you set out to say, you don’t get a second chance to have your voice heard in that specific arena.

You need to make sure your audience hangs on to every word you say, from your introduction to your wrap-up. You can do so by:

1. Connecting them with each other

Picture your typical rock concert. What’s the first thing the singer says to the crowd after jumping out on stage? “Hello (insert city name here)!” Just acknowledging that he’s coherent enough to know where he is is enough for the audience to go wild and get into the show.

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It makes each individual feel as if they’re a part of something bigger. The same goes for any public speaking event. When an audience hears, “You’re all here because you care deeply about wildlife preservation,” it gives them a sense that they’re not just there to listen, but they’re there to connect with the like-minded people all around them.

2. Connect with their emotions

Speakers always try to get their audience emotionally involved in whatever topic they’re discussing. There are a variety of ways in which to do this, such as using statistics, stories, pictures or videos that really show the importance of the topic at hand.

For example, showing pictures of the aftermath of an accident related to drunk driving will certainly send a specific message to an audience of teenagers and young adults. While doing so might be emotionally nerve-racking to the crowd, it may be necessary to get your point across and engage them fully.

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3. Keep going back to the beginning

Revisit your theme throughout your presentation. Although you should give your audience the credit they deserve and know that they can follow along, linking back to your initial thesis can act as a subconscious reminder of why what you’re currently telling them is important.

On the other hand, if you simply mention your theme or the point of your speech at the beginning and never mention it again, it gives your audience the impression that it’s not really that important.

4. Link to your audience’s motivation

After you’ve acknowledged your audience’s common interests in being present, discuss their motivation for being there. Be specific. Using the previous example, if your audience clearly cares about wildlife preservation, discuss what can be done to help save endangered species’ from extinction.

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Don’t just give them cold, hard facts; use the facts to make a point that they can use to better themselves or the world in some way.

5. Entertain them

While not all speeches or presentations are meant to be entertaining in a comedic way, audiences will become thoroughly engaged in anecdotes that relate to the overall theme of the speech. We discussed appealing to emotions, and that’s exactly what a speaker sets out to do when he tells a story from his past or that of a well-known historical figure.

Speakers usually tell more than one story in order to show that the first one they told isn’t simply an anomaly, and that whatever outcome they’re attempting to prove will consistently reoccur, given certain circumstances.

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6. Appeal to loyalty

Just like the musician mentioning the town he’s playing in will get the audience ready to rock, speakers need to appeal to their audience’s loyalty to their country, company, product or cause. Show them how important it is that they’re present and listening to your speech by making your words hit home to each individual.

In doing so, the members of your audience will feel as if you’re speaking directly to them while you’re addressing the entire crowd.

7. Tell them the benefits of the presentation

Early on in your presentation, you should tell your audience exactly what they’ll learn, and exactly how they’ll learn it. Don’t expect them to listen if they don’t have clear-cut information to listen for. On the other hand, if they know what to listen for, they’ll be more apt to stay engaged throughout your entire presentation so they don’t miss anything.

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