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10 Things Only True American Hipsters Can Understand

10 Things Only True American Hipsters Can Understand

Hipsters, a word that has been popularized since the mid-2000s is more than just looking nice and having more liberal views, its a way of life. Hipsters can be seen in every single television show, coffee shop, and college campus but what does it mean to truly be a hipster. Here are 10 Things that Only True American Hipsters Can Understand.

1. They Have a Voice and Will Make it Heard

Hipsters have many opinions on things, one of the main ones being policy and law. They are usually liberal and they believe that everyone should be treated equal because everyone was created equal. They have a stand on some of the hard-hitting like same sex marriage, war, famine, etc. and they are not afraid to stand by their views.

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    2. They drink Coffee

    They know that coffee allows them to reach certain expectations not just because of the caffeine. They are able to finish articles, projects, etc. because of this drink. They use the energy it gives them to truly make a difference on little or no sleep.

    3.  They are Independent and Strong

    They move to the beat of their own drum. They aren’t concerned with following trends, they want to create them. They are inspired to make others not only recognize their own gifts and talents but they are in-tune with their own.

    4. They Have Introduced the World to Indie Music

    Sure some of us listened to some indie rockers before but hipsters have truly made more artists mainstream. They have helped maintain and build a genre that makes people dance, rock-out and have many “feels”. They have shown the world that music is more than head-bopping and lyrics about partying and sexual proclivity.

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      5. They wear Wayfarer Glasses

      Okay, so there is no way to say for sure that they created them but c’mon they are the best thing ever! They have made wayfarer glasses and glasses period a fashion statement. No more are the days of children being called “four-eyes”! They have shown the world that even geek can be chic.

      6. They have Beards (the Fellas not the Ladies)

      Beards whether trimmed or untrimmed, long or short have become something sexy and mysterious because of hipsters. They have brought new life to something that many believed made a man look unkempt and gross.

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        7. They are Fashionable!

        Fashion is something that is extremely important in the Hipster world. They have a keen eye for fashion styles and trends, they aren’t afraid to push it and be an individual. They enjoy being recognized for their choice in wardrobe because it is just another way that they express themselves. They are creative and love to express that creativity in every outlet not just music and art.

        8. They are Passionate

        Regardless of what the media says hipsters, millennials, and the like are passionate about charities and causes. They are driven by the power of change and expect others to strive for change in the world and their lives.

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        9. They are Our Future Leaders

        Their passion and views on life and policy will help to shape our future. They are educated and hard-working and are more than just some stylish clothes. They use their intellect to get them to the next stage of their career. They are informed and will work hard to make sure others are too.

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          10. They are Individuals

          They aren’t trying to be a hipster, they are being themselves. Everything that they are and do come natural. They do not like the title of hipster or trendy. Their style, passion, and hope are all of the things that make them great and makes them an individual.

          Featured photo credit: Thomas Parker Cableknit Cardigan- American Eagle via lookbook.nu

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          How to Say No When You Say Yes Too Often

          How to Say No When You Say Yes Too Often

          Do you say yes so often that you realize you aren’t really happy about this, wondering how to say no to people?

          For years, I was a serial people pleaser. Known as someone who would step up, I would gladly make time especially when it came to volunteering for certain causes. I proudly carried this role all through grade school, college, even through law school. For years, I thought saying “no” meant I would disappoint a good friend or someone I respected.

          But somewhere along the way, I noticed I wasn’t quite living my life. Instead, I seem to have created a schedule that was a strange combination of meeting the expectations of others, what I thought I should be doing, and some of what I actually wanted to do. The result? I had a packed schedule that left me overwhelmed and unfulfilled.

          It took a long while but I learned the art of saying no. Saying ‘no’ meant I no longer catered fully to everyone else’s needs and could make more room for what I really wanted to do. Instead of cramming too much in, I chose to pursue what really mattered. I started to manage my time more around my own needs and interests. When that happened, I became a lot happier. And guess what? I hardly disappointed anyone.

          The Importance of Saying No

          When you learn the art of saying ‘no,’ you begin to look at the world differently. Rather than seeing all of the things you could or should be doing (and aren’t doing), you start to look at how to say yes to what’s important.

          In other words, you aren’t just reacting to what life throws at you. You seek the opportunities that move you to where you want to be.

          Successful people aren’t afraid to say no. Oprah Winfrey considered one of the most successful women in the world confessed that it was much later in life when she learned how to say no. Even after she had become internationally famous, she felt she had to say yes to virtually everything. It was only when she realized that after years of struggling with saying no, I finally got to this question: “What do I want?”

          Being able to say no also helps you manage your time better.

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          Warren Buffett views no as essential to his success. He said,

          “The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything.”

          When I made ‘no’ a part of my toolbox, I drove more of my own success focusing on fewer things and doing them well.

          How We Are Pressured to Say Yes

          It’s no wonder a lot of us find it hard to say ‘no.’

          From an early age, we are conditioned to say ‘yes.’ We said yes probably hundreds of time in order to graduate from high school and then get into college. We said yes to find work. We said yes get a promotion. We said yes to find love and then yes again to stay in a relationship. We said yes to find and keep friends.

          We say yes because it feels better to help someone. We say yes because it can seem like the right thing to do. We say yes because we think that is key to success. And we say yes because the request might come from someone who is hard to resist like the boss.

          And that’s not all. The pressure to say yes doesn’t just come from others. We put a lot of pressure on ourselves. At work, we say yes because we compare ourselves to others who seem to be doing more than we are. Outside of work, we say yes because we feel guilty we aren’t doing enough to spend time with family or friends.

          The message no matter where we turn is nearly always, “You really could be doing more.” The result? When people ask us for our time, we are heavily conditioned to say yes.

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          How to Say No Without Feeling Guilty

          Deciding to add the word ‘no’ to your toolbox is no small thing. Perhaps you already say ‘no’ but not as much as you would like. Maybe you have an instinct that if you were to learn the art of ‘no’ that you could finally create more time for things you care about. But let’s be honest, using the word ‘no’ doesn’t come easily for many people.

          The 3 Rules of Thumbs for Saying No

          1. You Need to Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

          Let’s face it. It is hard to say no. Setting boundaries around your time especially you haven’t done it much in the past will feel awkward.

          2. You Are the Air Traffic Controller of Your Time

          Remember that you are the only one who understands the demands for your time. Think about it, who else knows about all of the demands on your time? No one. Only you are at the center of all of these requests. are the only one that understands what time you really have.

          3. Saying ‘No’ Means Saying ‘Yes’ to Something That Matters

          When we decide not to do something, it means we can say yes to something else. You have a unique opportunity to decide how you spend your precious time.

          6 Ways to Start Saying No

          Incorporating that little word ‘no’ into your life can be transformational. Turning some things down will mean you can open doors to what really matters. Here are some essential tips to learn the art of no:

          1. Check in With Your Obligation Meter

          One of the biggest challenges to saying ‘no’ is a feeling of obligation. Do you feel you have a responsibility to say yes and worry that saying no reflect poorly on you?

          Ask yourself whether you truly have the duty to say yes. Check your assumptions or beliefs about whether you carry the responsibility to say yes. Turn it around and instead ask what duty you owe to yourself.

          2. Resist the Fear of Missing out (FOMO)

          Do you have a fear of missing out (FOMO)? FOMO can follow us around in so many ways. At work, we volunteer our time because we fear we won’t move ahead. In our personal lives, we agree to join the crowd because FOMO even while we ourselves aren’t enjoying the fun.

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          Check in with yourself. Are you saying yes because of FOMO or because you really want to say yes? More often than not, running after fear doesn’t make us feel better.

          3. Check Your Assumptions About What It Means to Say ‘No’

          Do you dread the reaction you will get if you say no? Often, we say ‘yes’ because we worry about how others will respond or the consequences of saying no or because of the consequences. We may be afraid to disappoint others or think we will lose respect from others. We often forget how much we are disappointing ourselves along the way.

          Keep in mind that saying ‘no’ can be exactly what is needed to send the right message that you have limited time. In the tips below, you will see how to communicate your no in a gentle and loving way. You might disappoint someone initially but drawing a boundary can bring you the freedom you need so that you can give freely of yourself when you truly want to.

          4. When the Request Comes In, Sit on It

          Sometimes, when we are in the moment, we instinctively agree. The request might make sense at first. Or we typically have said yes to this request in the past.

          Give yourself a little time to reflect on whether you really have the time, or can do the task properly. You may decide the best option is to say ‘no.’ There is no harm in giving yourself the time to decide.

          5. Communicate Your ‘No’ with Transparency and Kindness

          When you are ready to tell someone no, communicate your decision clearly. The message can be open and honest to ensure the recipient that your reasons have to do with your limited time.

          Resist the temptation not to respond or communicate all. But do not feel obligated to provide a lengthy account about why you are saying no.

          A clear communication with a short explanation is all that is needed. I have found it useful to tell people that I have many demands and need to be careful with how I allocate my time. I will sometimes say I really appreciate that they came to me and for them to check in again if the opportunity arises another time.

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          6. Consider How to Use a Modified ‘No’

          If you are under pressure to say yes but want to say no, you may want to consider downgrading a “yes” to a “yes but…” giving you an opportunity to condition your agreement to what works best for you.

          Sometimes, the condition can be to do the task but not in the time frame that was originally requested. Or perhaps you can do part of what has been asked.

          Final Thoughts

          Beginning right now, you can change how you respond to requests for your time. When the request comes in, take yourself off autopilot where you might normally say yes.

          Use the request as a fresh request to draw a healthy boundary around your time. Pay particular attention to when you place certain demands on yourself. If you are the one placing the demand on yourself, try to evaluate the demand as if it were coming from somewhere else.

          Try it now. Say no to a friend who continues to take advantage of your goodwill. Or, draw the line with a workaholic colleague and tell them you will complete the project but not by working all weekend. Or, tell someone in your family you can’t loan them money again because they never paid you back the last time. You’ll find yourself much happier.

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