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12 Things To Remember If You Love Someone Who Is Low Maintenance But Has High Standards

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12 Things To Remember If You Love Someone Who Is Low Maintenance But Has High Standards

There are a lot of things you should know if you love someone who is low maintenance but has high standards. For starters, they make great friends and are the best people to date. These people focus on what’s important, and disregard what they cannot control. Keep these twelve things in mind if you love someone who is low maintenance but has high standards.

1. We only fight when its important

We don’t start fights without a good reason. We might argue over big issues, but we ignore everything else. We like to focus on our relationships and the things that can be tweaked or improved. Communication is important in any relationship, but low maintenance people with high standards generally argue only when absolutely necessary and tend to give their significant other a lot of space. That is truly a wonderful thing to have.

2. We appreciate when something comes from the heart

We don’t expect you to fetch the moon and stars for us. Having said this, we like it when people take our preferences into consideration. There should be some meaning behind whatever it is you do for us. If you take the time to see what we like, we promise we will appreciate every little effort you put into for us.

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3. We want our relationships to be genuine

A relationship that is real will feel real. To us, truth and honesty are the best possible things to have in a relationship. This is why low maintenance but high standard people who are involved in relationships are so genuine and honest with not only themselves, but their partners as well. All of the qualities on this list, this one is my favorite.

4. We want people to be aware of our feelings without having to say anything

Sometimes two people in a relationship will understand each others feelings without having to say anything. This kind of relationship sets itself apart because there’s a sense of communication without actually having to communicate. Being aware of someone’s feelings is a wonderful and noble quality to have.

5. We want to go the extra mile to make the relationship unique

Contrary to “not trying in a relationship,” low maintenance people think that going out of the way for a relationship is what it’s all about. It makes a relationship more fulfilling and enriching. When you put in the extra effort to make a relationship feel unique, you wind up being closer to the other person than you could have ever previously imagined.

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6. We don’t complain unless absolutely necessary

We aren’t critical but will voice our beliefs if we need to. This is actually something to be proud of, because while it’s easy to complain all the time, only doing it when it matters is extraordinary.

7. We give our best in a relationship and we expect it in return

Having high standards means we want to give our best in a relationship. But while we give our one hundred percent, we also expect you to do your part! Only then can the relationship be at its peak and thrive.

8. We love to fuel our passions

High standards people want to take on the world and act on their beliefs. In other words, we are dreamers. We want to fly as high as we possibly can in life. We want the impossible to be possible, and we like to push the limits each and every time we can.

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9. We aren’t pushovers

Don’t think that you can tell us what to do. We like thinking for ourselves, and we prefer to keep it that way. Don’t ever tell us what to do, because you will it hear from us!

10. We are independent and like it that way

Our independence is one of our most prized possessions and we want you to respect us for that. Don’t make us dependent on anything! Let us do things for ourselves. If we need help, we will ask for it. Don’t cut in without us asking – we’d be furious!

11. We want you to respect us

Respect is important for us, especially in a lasting and loving relationship. Actually, having high standards for respect shouldn’t even need to be asked for – it’s simply common sense. Make sure you show us a whole lot of respect. Otherwise, we won’t be there for you for long! Our self-respect is equally important as yours in a relationship, and we make sure that point is stressed!

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12. We love expressing ourselves and our identity

Expression is a beautiful thing. Do whatever it takes to express yourself, and we will do the same. Believe in yourself and who you are, and don’t be afraid to express it. We will love you all the more. It’s important to be yourself in front of us because we love people who are genuine and remain genuine to us!

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10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

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10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

We all fall into the trap of judging a person’s character by their appearance. How wrong we are! All too often, the real character of the person only appears when some negative event hits them or you. Then you may see a toxic person emerging from the ruins and it is often a shock.

A truly frightening example is revealed in the book by O’Toole in Bowman called Dangerous Instincts: How Gut Instincts Betray Us. A perfectly respectable, charming, well dressed neighbor was found to have installed a torture chamber in his garage where he was systematically abusing kidnapped women. This is an extreme example, but it does show how we can be totally deceived by a person’s physical appearance, manners and behavior.

So, what can you do? You want to be able to assess personal qualities when you come into contact with colleagues, fresh acquaintances and new friends who might even become lifelong partners. You want to know if they are:

  • honest
  • reliable
  • competent
  • kind and compassionate
  • capable of taking the blame
  • able to persevere
  • modest and humble
  • pacific and can control anger.

The secret is to reserve judgment and take your time. Observe them in certain situations; look at how they react. Listen to them talking, joking, laughing, explaining, complaining, blaming, praising, ranting, and preaching. Only then will you be able to judge their character. This is not foolproof, but if you follow the 10 ways below, you have a pretty good chance of not ending up in an abusive relationship.

1. Is anger a frequent occurrence?

All too often, angry reactions which may seem to be excessive are a sign that there are underlying issues. Do not think that every person who just snaps and throws his/her weight around mentally and physically is just reacting normally. Everyone has an occasional angry outburst when driving or when things go pear-shaped.

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But if this is almost a daily occurrence, then you need to discover why and maybe avoid that person. Too often, anger will escalate to violent and aggressive behavior. You do not want to be near someone who thinks violence can solve personal or global problems.

2. Can you witness acts of kindness?

How often do you see this person being kind and considerate? Do they give money to beggars, donate to charity, do voluntary work or in some simple way show that they are willing to share the planet with about 7 billion other people?

I was shocked when a guest of mine never showed any kindness to the weak and disadvantaged people in our town. She was ostensibly a religious person, but I began to doubt the sincerity of her beliefs.

“The best index to a person’s character is how he treats people who can’t do him any good, and how he treats people who can’t fight back.”

Abigail Van Buren

3. How does this person take the blame?

Maybe you know that s/he is responsible for a screw-up in the office or even in not turning up on time for a date. Look at their reaction. If they start blaming other colleagues or the traffic, well, this is an indication that they are not willing to take responsibility for their mistakes.

4. Don’t use Facebook as an indicator.

You will be relieved to know that graphology (the study of that forgotten skill of handwriting) is no longer considered a reliable test of a person’s character. Neither is Facebook stalking, fortunately. A study showed that Facebook use of foul language, sexual innuendo and gossip were not reliable indicators of a candidate’s character or future performance in the workplace.

5. Read their emails.

Now a much better idea is to read the person’s emails. Studies show that the use of the following can indicate certain personality traits:

  • Too many exclamation points may reveal a sunny disposition
  • Frequent errors may indicate apathy
  • Use of smileys is the only way a person can smile at you
  • Use of the third person may reveal a certain formality
  • Too many question marks can show anger
  • Overuse of capital letters is regarded as shouting. They are a definite no-no in netiquette, yet a surprising number of  people still use them.

6. Watch out for the show offs.

Listen to people as they talk. How often do they mention their achievements, promotions, awards and successes? If this happens a lot, it is a sure indication that this person has an over-inflated view of his/her achievements. They are unlikely to be modest or show humility. What a pity!  Another person to avoid.

7. Look for evidence of perseverance.

A powerful indicator of grit and tenacity is when a person persists and never gives up when they really want to achieve a life goal. Look for evidence of them keeping going in spite of enormous difficulties.

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Great achievements by scientists and inventors all bear the hallmark of perseverance. We only have to think of Einstein, Edison (who failed thousands of times) and Nelson Mandela to get inspiration. The US Department of Education is in no doubt about how grit, tenacity and perseverance will be key success factors for youth in the 21st century.

8. Their empathy score is high.

Listen to how they talk about the less fortunate members of our society such as the poor, immigrants and the disabled. Do you notice that they talk in a compassionate way about these people? The fact that they even mention them is a strong indicator of empathy.

People with zero empathy will never talk about the disadvantaged. They will rarely ask you a question about a difficult time or relationship. They will usually steer the conversation back to themselves. These people have zero empathy and in extreme cases, they are psychopaths who never show any feelings towards their victims.

9. Learn how to be socially interactive.

We are social animals and this is what makes us so uniquely human. If a person is isolated or a loner, this may be a negative indicator of their character. You want to meet a person who knows about trust, honesty and loyalty. The only way to practice these great qualities is to actually interact socially. The great advantage is that you can share problems and celebrate success and joy together.

“One can acquire everything in solitude, except character.”

Stendhal

 10. Avoid toxic people.

These people are trying to control others and often are failing to come to terms with their own failures. Typical behavior and conversations may concern:

  • Envy or jealousy
  • Criticism of partners, colleagues and friends
  • Complaining about their own lack of success
  • Blaming others for their own bad luck or failure
  • Obsession with themselves and their problems

Listen to these people talk and you will quickly discover that you need to avoid them at all costs because their negativity will drag you down. In addition, as much as you would like to help them, you are not qualified to do so.

Now, having looked at some of the best ways to judge a person, what about yourself? How do others see you? Why not take Dr. Phil’s quiz and find out. Can you bear it?

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