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12 Things To Remember If You Love Someone Who Is Low Maintenance But Has High Standards

12 Things To Remember If You Love Someone Who Is Low Maintenance But Has High Standards

There are a lot of things you should know if you love someone who is low maintenance but has high standards. For starters, they make great friends and are the best people to date. These people focus on what’s important, and disregard what they cannot control. Keep these twelve things in mind if you love someone who is low maintenance but has high standards.

1. We only fight when its important

We don’t start fights without a good reason. We might argue over big issues, but we ignore everything else. We like to focus on our relationships and the things that can be tweaked or improved. Communication is important in any relationship, but low maintenance people with high standards generally argue only when absolutely necessary and tend to give their significant other a lot of space. That is truly a wonderful thing to have.

2. We appreciate when something comes from the heart

We don’t expect you to fetch the moon and stars for us. Having said this, we like it when people take our preferences into consideration. There should be some meaning behind whatever it is you do for us. If you take the time to see what we like, we promise we will appreciate every little effort you put into for us.

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3. We want our relationships to be genuine

A relationship that is real will feel real. To us, truth and honesty are the best possible things to have in a relationship. This is why low maintenance but high standard people who are involved in relationships are so genuine and honest with not only themselves, but their partners as well. All of the qualities on this list, this one is my favorite.

4. We want people to be aware of our feelings without having to say anything

Sometimes two people in a relationship will understand each others feelings without having to say anything. This kind of relationship sets itself apart because there’s a sense of communication without actually having to communicate. Being aware of someone’s feelings is a wonderful and noble quality to have.

5. We want to go the extra mile to make the relationship unique

Contrary to “not trying in a relationship,” low maintenance people think that going out of the way for a relationship is what it’s all about. It makes a relationship more fulfilling and enriching. When you put in the extra effort to make a relationship feel unique, you wind up being closer to the other person than you could have ever previously imagined.

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6. We don’t complain unless absolutely necessary

We aren’t critical but will voice our beliefs if we need to. This is actually something to be proud of, because while it’s easy to complain all the time, only doing it when it matters is extraordinary.

7. We give our best in a relationship and we expect it in return

Having high standards means we want to give our best in a relationship. But while we give our one hundred percent, we also expect you to do your part! Only then can the relationship be at its peak and thrive.

8. We love to fuel our passions

High standards people want to take on the world and act on their beliefs. In other words, we are dreamers. We want to fly as high as we possibly can in life. We want the impossible to be possible, and we like to push the limits each and every time we can.

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9. We aren’t pushovers

Don’t think that you can tell us what to do. We like thinking for ourselves, and we prefer to keep it that way. Don’t ever tell us what to do, because you will it hear from us!

10. We are independent and like it that way

Our independence is one of our most prized possessions and we want you to respect us for that. Don’t make us dependent on anything! Let us do things for ourselves. If we need help, we will ask for it. Don’t cut in without us asking – we’d be furious!

11. We want you to respect us

Respect is important for us, especially in a lasting and loving relationship. Actually, having high standards for respect shouldn’t even need to be asked for – it’s simply common sense. Make sure you show us a whole lot of respect. Otherwise, we won’t be there for you for long! Our self-respect is equally important as yours in a relationship, and we make sure that point is stressed!

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12. We love expressing ourselves and our identity

Expression is a beautiful thing. Do whatever it takes to express yourself, and we will do the same. Believe in yourself and who you are, and don’t be afraid to express it. We will love you all the more. It’s important to be yourself in front of us because we love people who are genuine and remain genuine to us!

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The Gentle Art of Saying No

The Gentle Art of Saying No

No!

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

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But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

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What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

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But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here are the Top 10 tips for learning the Gentle Art of Saying No:

  1. Value your time. Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”
  2. Know your priorities. Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time? For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.
  3. Practice saying no. Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.
  4. Don’t apologize. A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.
  5. Stop being nice. Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets. Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.
  6. Say no to your boss. Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning. But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.
  7. Pre-empting. It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting, “Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”
  8. Get back to you. Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them: “After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.” At least you gave it some consideration.
  9. Maybe later. If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say, “This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].” Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.
  10. It’s not you, it’s me. This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time. Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.

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