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10 Pieces Of Truth All Introverts Want To Tell You Out Loud

10 Pieces Of Truth All Introverts Want To Tell You Out Loud

Being introverts, we love the world we live in, but we feel misunderstood much of the time. If we happen upon a particularly inquisitive extrovert, these are a few musings and observations we’d love to share. Reading this list will give you fantastic insight into that loved one, friend, or even stranger who can be puzzling.

1. We honestly don’t care to be more outgoing.

Most of the world has this idea that introverts are just extroverts who aren’t fully formed yet. The truth is, we genuinely love being reserved, and it’s part of who we are!

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2. We hate any surprises where we’re the center of attention.

If you’re going to plan a birthday party for one of us, please don’t make it a surprise party. We love your concern and generosity, but don’t bombard us with stimulation!

3. We may know some of your friends better than you do.

We have keen powers of observation for the minutest of details, and we don’t take this for granted. We watch our circle of friends carefully, and we can pick up on things that normally take months or years for other people to notice.

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4. Yes, we need alone time, but that doesn’t mean we’re shy!

We do love our alone time (it’s practically what we’re known for), but we also love meeting new people! We just love having the chance to get an all-encompassing first impression of someone, and to have the same opportunity with ourselves.

5. We don’t like small talk but we love the idea of getting to know people on deeper levels.

Sharing every little detail of what’s going on in our lives and what we think about it at a moment’s notice is something that can make our skin crawl. We simply want the chance to spend quality time with people, because this is what allows relationships to develop on a time-proof level.

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6. We appreciate it when people give us the same level of attention we give others.

We do love getting to know people, which is why shallow conversation seems so fickle and uninteresting! We will deeply appreciate it if you afford us lasting, authentic attention.

7. Having alone time allows us to engage our best when we are socializing.

We’re totally up for a party now and then, but we need plenty of solo time before and after for us to feel A) functional, and B) like we engaged fully and dynamically at the party.

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8. We think a ton about what we’re going to say and how we’re going to say it.

There’s not a day that passes when we aren’t planning for any variety of conversations that may happen. This goes back to how we love deep, authentic communication. We want to present our best thoughts to others, and we’re immensely grateful when this favor is returned!

9. We plan for the future with a depth most people don’t consider.

We think about our future selves a lot, as it’s the person we want to become. We see where we are now, and we’re excited and enthralled with the person we know we can become.

10. When we call you a best friend, we mean it from the bottom of our heart!

As mentioned before, we care a ton about the people we spend most of our time with. If we consider you one of our best friends, it’s an award and an honor few other people will ever be bestowed with!

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Last Updated on October 17, 2018

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Overcome Your Fear

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Overcome Your Fear

The ability to take risks by stepping outside your comfort zone is the primary way by which we grow. But we are often afraid to take that first step.

In truth, comfort zones are not really about comfort, they are about fear. Break the chains of fear to get outside. Once you do, you will learn to enjoy the process of taking risks and growing in the process.

Here are 10 ways to help you step out of your comfort zone and get closer to success:

1. Become aware of what’s outside of your comfort zone

What are the things that you believe are worth doing but are afraid of doing yourself because of the potential for disappointment or failure?

Draw a circle and write those things down outside the circle. This process will not only allow you to clearly identify your discomforts, but your comforts. Write identified comforts inside the circle.

2. Become clear about what you are aiming to overcome

Take the list of discomforts and go deeper. Remember, the primary emotion you are trying to overcome is fear.

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How does this fear apply uniquely to each situation? Be very specific.

Are you afraid of walking up to people and introducing yourself in social situations? Why? Is it because you are insecure about the sound of your voice? Are you insecure about your looks?

Or, are you afraid of being ignored?

3. Get comfortable with discomfort

One way to get outside of your comfort zone is to literally expand it. Make it a goal to avoid running away from discomfort.

Let’s stay with the theme of meeting people in social settings. If you start feeling a little panicked when talking to someone you’ve just met, try to stay with it a little longer than you normally would before retreating to comfort. If you stay long enough and practice often enough, it will start to become less uncomfortable.

4. See failure as a teacher

Many of us are so afraid of failure that we would rather do nothing than take a shot at our dreams.

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Begin to treat failure as a teacher. What did you learn from the experience? How can you take that lesson to your next adventure to increase your chance of success?

Many highly successful people failed plenty of times before they succeeded. Here’re some examples:

10 Famous Failures to Success Stories That Will Inspire You to Carry On

5. Take baby steps

Don’t try to jump outside your comfort zone, you will likely become overwhelmed and jump right back in.

Take small steps toward the fear you are trying to overcome. If you want to do public speaking, start by taking every opportunity to speak to small groups of people. You can even practice with family and friends.

Take a look at this article on how you can start taking baby steps:

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The Number One Secret to Life Success: Baby Steps

6. Hang out with risk takers

There is no substitute for this step. If you want to become better at something, you must start hanging out with the people who are doing what you want to do and start emulating them. (Here’re 8 Reasons Why Risk Takers Are More Likely To Be Successful).

Almost inevitably, their influence will start have an effect on your behavior.

7. Be honest with yourself when you are trying to make excuses

Don’t say “Oh, I just don’t have the time for this right now.” Instead, be honest and say “I am afraid to do this.”

Don’t make excuses, just be honest. You will be in a better place to confront what is truly bothering you and increase your chance of moving forward.

8. Identify how stepping out will benefit you

What will the ability to engage in public speaking do for your personal and professional growth? Keep these potential benefits in mind as motivations to push through fear.

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9. Don’t take yourself too seriously

Learn to laugh at yourself when you make mistakes. Risk taking will inevitably involve failure and setbacks that will sometimes make you look foolish to others. Be happy to roll with the punches when others poke fun.

If you aren’t convinced yet, check out these 6 Reasons Not to Take Life So Seriously.

10. Focus on the fun

Enjoy the process of stepping outside your safe boundaries. Enjoy the fun of discovering things about yourself that you may not have been aware of previously.

Final thoughts

It will probably seem really scary at first to get out of your comfort zone. But as I said, you don’t need to jump right out of your comfort zone at once, you can take baby steps gradually. As you slowly push past your comfort zone, you’ll feel more and more at ease about the new stuff which seems so dangerous to you.

Take the first step and I’m sure you’ll make it!

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