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Pregnancy Checklist: What To Do When Pregnant

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Pregnancy Checklist: What To Do When Pregnant

1. Know the common symptoms

If you are feeling a bit off lately, or more specifically, as though your body has been overtaken by a force that distorts, swells, discomforts, exhausts, nauseates, and leaves little to reason, then do not fret. You are simply pregnant and these are extremely common symptoms.

2. Breathe

The most important thing to do upon realizing you are pregnant is to simply breathe. Whether this new reality is a surprise or a well-planned outcome, breathe. That is the only thing the tiny life in your womb needs from you at this moment.

3. Determine your due date

Now that you have caught your breath and are grinning at this new future before you, it is time to determine your due date. The most common method used by healthcare providers is to add two weeks to the beginning of your last menstrual cycle (in order to approximate conception) and then add thirty-eight weeks to establish your approximate due date.

4. Choose your doctor

The next step in your pregnancy checklist is to choose a doctor whom you will be comfortable seeing throughout this journey. Your first appointment will typically be scheduled for the eighth week of your pregnancy. This visit will entail exploring your health history, any risk factors that may be present, recommendations for possible diet or lifestyle changes, and will lastly serve as an opportunity for you to ask your doctor any questions you might have regarding the pregnancy.

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5. Learn about how to have a healthy pregnancy diet

Highly recommended vitamins and supplements are folic acid (vitamin B9), vitamin D, and iron. Pregnancy multi-vitamins are also available but are not nearly as effective as a balanced diet.

6. Learn about folic acid

Foods that are high in folic acid and recommended in the first trimester include spinach, citrus fruit, and okra. Folic acid protects your baby from brain and spinal cord threats commonly associated with the first trimester.

7. Learn about vitamin D

Excellent sources of vitamin D are asparagus, yogurt, salmon, and eggs. Women are commonly deficient in Vitamin D due to the simple fact that they cannot generate enough of it on their own. Vitamin D is synthesized by skin when exposed to sunlight.

8. Learn about iron

Reliable sources of iron are broccoli, collard greens, lean beef, and chicken. You will eventually have fifty percent more blood flowing through your body and your baby’s body and iron is instrumental in boosting the protein in red blood cells that spread oxygen to other cells.

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9. Learn about your pregnancy protein needs

Supplementing protein can be achieved through lentils, nuts, cottage cheese, and beans. Pregnant women need an additional 60 grams of protein per day. It is advised that any protein derived from eggs, fish, chicken, or beef should be organic and hormone-free.

10. Figure out what foods and activities suit you

There will be a trial period, in which you will have to test what foods and activities are best for you. If nausea becomes a problem the best route to take is eating little but doing it often. The best medicine for all of these ailments is rest. It is important to get as much of it as you can in the first trimester.

11. Manage physical changes

Alongside changes in your diet there will be changes in your body you will want to manage, as well. One of the most common and early signs of pregnancy is tender and enlarging breasts. There are maternity bras available, which will increase comfort and support throughout the pregnancy.

12. Learn about other possible physical changes

Other physical changes early in the pregnancy might include thicker hair, darkened skin, and acne breakouts. No two women are the same and each is affected by pregnancy differently, but anticipating these potential changes will make them easier to accept.

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13. Learn about what to avoid

Things to avoid now that you are living for two are alcohol, cigarettes, and recreational drugs like marijuana. Caffeine intake will need to be cut back and all medications, including nonprescription, should be approved by your doctor before use.

14. Learn what foods to avoid

There are also certain foods to avoid, as well. Due to threats of bacteria, parasites, and toxins that can harm your baby it is advised to not consume certain cheeses, unpasteurized dairy products, deli meat, raw or under-cooked eggs, and raw shellfish.

15. Learn about pregnancy danger signs

Be aware of danger signs such as cramping accompanied by bleeding. Your doctor should be consulted immediately if this occurs.

16. Learn when you can find out your baby’s gender

Between ten and thirteen weeks you can have your first ultrasound performed. You will be able to see your baby and hear its heartbeat. Gender will not typically be identified until sixteen to twenty weeks.

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17. Begin picking out names

One of the most exciting tasks in the pregnancy checklist is to begin the process of choosing a name for the baby. Even though you do not know what you will be having at this point, the act of picking prospective names for the boy or girl will bring you two even closer.

18. Figure out when you want to tell friends and family

Announcing the exciting news to friends and family is entirely up to you; however, complications and the possibility of miscarriage drop substantially upon completion of the first trimester. Many women prefer to wait until this point to share the news because risks are minimized.

19. Consider your finances

Whether you are a good planner or not it will behoove you to examine your finances. Find out what the pregnancy will cost from beginning to end. Then anticipate what monthly costs will look like once the baby is born, taking into consideration such things as diapers, food, and clothing, among other things. Here are some money saving tips to help you with your budgeting.

20. Learn about being intimate with your partner during pregnancy

To conclude this pregnancy checklist, as long as you are not feeling too tired, irritable, sick, lethargic, or stressed to have sex with your partner, then it is perfectly welcome throughout the duration of your pregnancy.

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Last Updated on October 7, 2021

Why Spending Time With Your Family Is Important (And How To Do So)

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Why Spending Time With Your Family Is Important (And How To Do So)

In today’s chaotic world, having family time isn’t always easy. It can get pretty hard to coordinate schedules, especially if the family is large. Life demands that we work, attend school, nurture friendships, hobbies, etc. All of those things are extremely time-consuming and important—but so is spending time with your family.

Why is family time so important? Because we all need love and support, and a good, strong family can provide that regularly. For children, spending time with their family helps shape them into good, responsible adults, improve their mental health, and develop strong core values.

There are many positive effects of spending time with your family. My family and I, for instance (and this includes grandchildren as well), meet every Tuesday night for dinner and games. My older son and I take turns cooking. This gives all of us a chance to try some new recipes. After dinner, we play games. And without fail, they inspire competitiveness and laughter. As family night has evolved, the grandkids have invited their friends over as well, creating the need for more chairs but also expanding our circle of fun.

Aside from the obvious fun and games, there are other reasons why spending time with your family is paramount. In this article, I will provide you with multiple reasons why spending time with your family regularly is a win-win. And then, I will lay out some ways on how to do it.

Let’s get started, shall we?

Why Spending Time With Your Family Is Important

Here are six reasons why it’s important to spend time with your family.

1. Provides the Opportunity to Bond

When you spend time together as a family—talking about your day, your highs, your lows—it fosters communication. As parents, it gives you the chance to listen to your children, to hear them out, to learn about what’s going on in their world. It also provides you with the opportunity to use life situations as teaching moments.

Before our Tuesday night dinner/game nights, my family used to see each other pretty regularly but not consistently, especially the grandkids. Our family night changed all that. Now, it’s guaranteed that the grandchildren, along with some of their friends, will be there. Not only do I get to find out what’s been happening in their lives, but they also get to know us better. It’s creating memories they can treasure forever, as well as modeling the Get-Together tradition for when they eventually have families of their own.

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“Spending time partaking in everyday family leisure activities has been associated with greater emotional bonding within families.”[1]

2. Teaches the Value of Family

Taking the time to be with your family lets your children know they are valued—that spending time together is a priority. I know that in today’s world, both parents are busy as both usually working. What better way to let your children know they are loved than by carving out time each week to spend with them?

According to Marilyn Price-Mitchell, Ph.D., “words like honesty, trust, fairness, respect, responsibility, and courage are core to centuries of religious, philosophical, and family beliefs. Use them and others to express and reinforce your family values. Teach children the behaviors that flow from these principles. Use quotes to ignite meaningful dinner conversations and encourage kids to talk about these values.”[2]

3. Enhances Mental Well-Being

Spending that quality time together gives your children a safe platform in which to express themselves, ask questions about things that are bothering them, or talk about their day and things they’ve learned. I know that my 9-year old granddaughter can’t wait until it’s her turn to talk about her day. She usually goes on and on and has to be stopped to give everyone else a chance to talk about their goings-on.

“Research shows the quality of family relationships is more important than their size or composition. Whoever the family is made up of, they can build strong, positive relationships that promote wellbeing and support children and young people’s mental health.”[3]

For children, having the opportunity to seek advice from parents they trust—as well as being able to have a sounding board and help with problem-solving—is priceless. In addition, being able to voice their opinions and be heard—and to feel like what they have to say matters—is an esteem-builder. All of these can have a very impactful positive effect on their well-being.

4. Helps the Child Feel Loved

How do you think a child feels knowing their parents want to spend time with them—talking, sharing experiences, playing games, listening to them? It will make them feel as though they are important, and a child that feels important is happier and more apt to thrive. Setting aside chores or work to spend time with your children demonstrates that they’re essential—that they matter. What a gift to give your child!

“If a child has your undivided attention, it signals that they are loved and important to you. This can be further nurtured by experiencing joyful activities together, as it demonstrates that you want to spend time with your children over and above all of the daily demands.”[4]

5. Creates a Safe Environment

If you regularly spend time with your children, you are also creating an atmosphere of trust. The more trust they have, the more likely they are to share with you what’s going on in their world. As they get older, you’re going to want to know. Negative influences can show up at any time, but if you’ve always been there for your child, they are more apt to come to you and ask for your advice.

Spending time together generates familiarity and feelings of being supported. When a child feels safe and comfortable, they’re more likely to open up. This is one way to get to know your child and know what’s on their minds. Are they okay? Do they need your guidance? If so, how?

6. Reduces Stress

This is significant. We all suffer from stress at one point or another in our lives. Spending time with family helps alleviate that stress. It’s an opportunity to talk things out, get feedback, and maybe brainstorm for a solution to the problem that is causing the stress.

According to Brandy Drzymkowski, “During the holidays, your closest five people probably shifts to family and friends. You may even get to see loved ones who live far away. Good news! This can actually help lower your stress levels. Studies show ‘face-to-face interaction…counteracts the body’s defensive ‘fight-or-flight’ response.’ In other words, quality time spent with loved ones is nature’s stress reliever.”[5]

So, now that you know some of the benefits, what are some ideas for making family time happen?

How to Make Family Time Happen

Here are four things you can do to make family time happen and spend more time with them.

1. Family Dinners

This, as I said above, is a wonderful way to spend time together. While you’re having dinner, you have the chance to discuss things that are going on in your lives—the ups, the downs, and everywhere in between. It’s like having a buffer against life’s challenges.

Aside from that, eating dinner together has many additional benefits. Studies have shown that for kids who eat regularly with their families, there is less risk of substance abuse, teen pregnancy, and depression.[6]

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“Our belief in the ‘magic’ of family dinners is grounded in research on the physical, mental and emotional benefits of regular family meals.” It further states, “We recommend combining food, fun and conversation at mealtimes because those three ingredients are the recipe for a warm, positive family dinner—the type of environment that makes these scientifically proven benefits possible.”[7]

According to Parenting NI, “children and adolescents who spend more time with their parents are less likely to get involved in risky behavior. According to studies done by the National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse via Arizona State University, teens who have infrequent family dinners are twice as likely to use tobacco, nearly twice as likely to use alcohol and one and a half times more likely to use marijuana.”[8]

As you can see, there are multiple benefits to spending time with each other routinely. You can’t go wrong with this family activity.

2.  Regular Movie Nights

This is another fun event, although, from personal experience, I have to caution that choosing a movie that everyone wants to see is not easy. So, give yourselves plenty of time so you don’t spend two hours searching for a movie, and then end up watching no movie at all because the night is practically over. Try and choose a movie before the day, if possible.

Afterward, open it up for discussion. Ask questions pertinent to the movie. What do you think of ABC? Should they have done that? Would you have done something differently? There are so many questions you can ask to spark a conversation and keep the night going.

3. Game Night

This is another occasion for great fun. If you have a competitive spirit, it makes it even more fun. There are numerous games out there—Balderdash, Pictionary, Apples to Apples, Charades, to name a few—that can create fun havoc. All I can say is, on game nights, don’t take yourself too seriously. It’s okay if you lose the game. The fun is in being together, laughing, debating, and having a good time.

In addition, “Playing board games is great for children for many reasons besides the obvious; it’s fun to play games! Age appropriate games can help children to think strategically, solve problems creatively, work on pattern recognition and build simple math skills. They also help children develop social skills such as following rules, taking turns, and graceful winning or losing. Additionally, a family game night provides an opportunity for children to bond with siblings, parents and family members as well as peers. It can promote tradition building and establish a fun routine.”[9]

So, go find your family a game and start having fun!

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4. Sharing a Hobby

If you and one of your kids like to do the same things, do it more often. For example, my oldest son and his teenage son go on long bike rides together on the weekends. Not only do they get to exercise, but they also get to talk and look at beautiful sceneries. They’ve also incorporated cooking into their routine. They plan the meal, shop, and prepare—activities that bring them closer together.

Sharing a hobby is a great way to bring family members together. It bonds people in amazing ways. According to Alison Ratner Mayer, LICSW, “One of the easiest and most important ways to build a child’s self-esteem is to spend time with them doing something not only that they enjoy but something that you also enjoy. There is a special magic that happens between a parent and a child when they share a mutually beloved activity. It sends the message to the child that their parents are having fun, true, honest, real fun, with them.”[10]

Final Thoughts

Spending time with the family is an investment. It is an investment in the happiness, well-being, and security of that system. It can also serve as a way to break out of the daily rut and the constant worldly demands, while at the same time, building a strong family unit.

Even though it isn’t always easy to find the time, finding the time is key to staying close and to providing and receiving love and support. There is no greater gift than the gift of time. That’s what we all seem to be missing nowadays. So, in giving that gift consistently, everyone feels loved and appreciated.

The family that takes the time to interact regularly is typically happy. They know they are part of a tribe, and that’s essential in today’s chaotic world. To know that there are people whom you can count on—people who will have your back in times of need—is invaluable.

Now, go and plan something plan with your family, if you haven’t already.

Featured photo credit: Jimmy Dean via unsplash.com

Reference

[1] Pittsburgh Parent: Spending Time Together—Benefits of Family Time
[2] Roots of Action: Integrity: How Families Teach and Live Their Values
[3] Beyond Blue: Healthy Families
[4] Esperance Anglican Community School: The importance of family time
[5] Brandy Drzymkowski: Spending Time With Loved Ones Reduces Stress
[6] Harvard Graduate School of Education: Harvard EdCast: The Benefit of Family Mealtime
[7] The Family Dinner Project: BENEFITS OF FAMILY DINNERS
[8] Parenting NI: The Importance of Spending Time Together
[9] WNY Children: Family Game Night- The Benefits of Game Play
[10] Child Therapy Boston: The Benefits of Sharing a Hobby With Your Child

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