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7 Sweet Moments Only Long Distance Couples Can Experience

7 Sweet Moments Only Long Distance Couples Can Experience

The downsides to being a long-distance couple are obvious: lack of physical intimacy, that awkward table for one and missing out on company at the end of the day. But there are some serious sweet side effects to going the distance, too. Whether you’ve met someone online or a job relocates your partner, you can relish those sweet moments only long-distance couples will ever understand and love.

1. Getting a care package for the first time since college

This era of digital saturation makes snail mail all the more special. It’s rare to get anything in the mail these days other than bills and credit card solicitations. The first time you see a stamped envelope from your lover and open it to discover his actual handwriting scrawled across the page, expressing his deepest feelings for you, sends you to the moon. Or how about when your sweetheart express mails you a batch of homemade chocolate chip cookies just because? It takes a little extra effort to head on down to the post office but it sure ups the ante on those lovin’ feelings.

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2. Enjoying a virtual date

Hello Hulu. Your Friday night date nights can continue thanks to technology streaming at your fingertips. Don’t have Hulu? How about Netflix or Youtube? You can even arrange to see a movie at an actual theatre “together” by exchanging movie times and calling each other after the fact to swap thoughts on the dialogue that moved you, the scenes you found funny and whether you’d give the film a thumbs up or down. And the best part is: you can eat all the popcorn and junk food you want guilt-free.

3. Opening that sexy snapchat

After a long day at work, you might feel blue coming home to an empty house. But then you see a Snapchat pop up on your iPhone and relish those ten sweet seconds of your lover posing in the nude. Being far apart can inspire your naughty side to surface in ways you’d be too embarrassed to indulge face-to-face. Who says snapchat is for tweens? If you haven’t tried it yet, we challenge you to claim it as your own and use it to spice up your long-distance love life. Record a saucy video and send it in two seconds flat. Strike a hot pose and hit send. Your recipient will thank you.

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4. Gazing at the same moon while you chat a thousand miles apart

The stuff you only see in movies is now your reality. Like that night you pine away for your lover and you both step outside to chat and realize you’re looking at the same moon. It makes you feel like the world is smaller and your love is so close, you can feel each other near.

5. Engaging in a book club for two

It’s exclusive. It keeps you connected. And you realize as you read chapter by chapter together that you’re growing at the same pace. Distance doesn’t change the intellectual buzz you share as you pore over material and swap thoughts on engaging your imagination together as you enter into the words on page. It’s an exciting discovery that’s unfolding between the two of you together…even if you’re not in the same room.

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6. Realizing your love is the “icing” but you are the “cake”

Sometimes we get so infatuated with our significant other, we forgo our interests, hobbies and friends to widen the room for our partners. Time apart means getting re-acquainted with those things you loved but lost as you nurtured your budding romance.

7. Tearing past the TSA to welcome each other again

You buy that ticket, create a countdown to mark the days and when the day comes, you travel through the clouds in high anticipation of seeing your partner face-to-face. Your heart races on the plane and you rack your brain with all the right things to say but you’re just so damn excited to race from the terminal and welcome your sweetie with open arms. And the moment that happens is perhaps the sweetest moment of all.

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Featured photo credit: Online Romance, Don Hankins, Taken May 11, 2010 via flickr.com

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Last Updated on October 22, 2019

How to Get “I Can’t Do It” Out of Your Vocabulary

How to Get “I Can’t Do It” Out of Your Vocabulary

When someone says, “I can’t do it” . . . I say to myself, “What do you mean you can’t do it?” Maybe you don’t want to do it, but saying you “can’t” do it is a completely different story.

With the right mindset, positive attitude, and a clear vision of what you want to accomplish, the only thing that is holding you back is yourself.

Can’t is a terrible word and it has to be taken out of your vocabulary.

By saying you can’t do something, you’re already doubting yourself, submitting to defeat, and you’re making that barrier around your life tighter.

So today, right now, we are going to remove this word for good.

From now on there is nothing we can’t do.

“Attitude is Tattoo”

Your attitude is everything; it’s your reason, your why and how, your facial expression, emotions, body language, and potentially the end result. How you approach an opportunity, and the result of it, is solely based on you — not your boss or your co-worker or friend.

If you enter a business meeting with a sour attitude, that negative energy can spread like wildfire. People can also feel it — maybe even taste it. This is not an impression you want to leave.

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Now imagine you enter a business meeting with a positive attitude, that whatever happens in here is going to be your result, in your control, not someone else’s. Of course, we can’t always win, but even if the outcome is negative, your attitude and perception can turn it into a positive. The question is: can you do it?

Of course you can, because there is nothing in this world you can’t do.

It’s much better to be known for your positive attitude — your poise, your energy, the reason why things go so well because you are able to maintain such character. A negative attitude is easy. It’s easy to complain, it’s easy to be mad, and it’s even easier to do nothing to change it.

When I say your “attitude is tattoo”, it sounds permanent. Tattoos can be removed, but that’s not the point. Your attitude is like a tattoo because you wear it. People can see it and sometimes, they will judge you on it. If you maintain a negative attitude, then it is permanent until you change it.

Change your attitude and I guarantee the results change as well.

Believe You Can Do It

Do you know why most people say “can’t” and doubt themselves before trying anything?

It’s our lack of self-confidence and fear on many different levels. The one thing we have to purge from ourselves is fear — fear of bad results, fear of change, fear of denial, fear of loss, the fear that makes us worry and lose sleep. Worrying is the same as going outside with an umbrella, waiting for rain to hit it. Stop worrying and move on.

Confidence is fragile: It builds up slowly, but can shatter like glass. Project your confidence and energy into believing in yourself. This is a very important and groundbreaking step — one that is usually the hardest to take. Start telling yourself you can do something, anything, and you will do it the best to your ability. Remove doubt, remove fear, and stick with positive energy.

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Embrace Failure

Do not fear failure. Do not run away from it. Face it, learn from it, grow, and take action. Just remember: You will never know success if you have never failed.

Your confidence will bolster after embracing these facts. You will be immune to demoralizing results, and instead you will find ways to fix it, improve upon it, and make it better than before. You will learn to never say “can’t,” and will realize how many more opportunities you can create by removing that one word.

Don’t let one simple and ugly word plague your confidence. You’re better and stronger than that.

Start Making the Change

But to actually start the process of change is very challenging.

Why is that?

Fear? Time? Don’t know how — or where — to start?

It’s hard because what we’re doing is unlearning what we know. We are used to doing things a certain way, and chances are we’ve been doing them for years.

So here are some ways that I avoid using the word “can’t”, and actually take the steps to put forth the change that I wish to see. I hope you can incorporate these methods into your life.

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Write down What You Want to Change

Write it on post-its, notecards, whatever makes you comfortable — something you will always see. I usually write mine on post-its and put them all over the wall behind my monitor so I always see them.

Tell a Friend and Talk About It

Discussing your goals, what you want to change, is very effective when you say it out loud and tell another person other than yourself. It’s almost like saying, hey, I bet I can do it — watch me.

When you fulfill that goal and tell your friend, it feels rewarding and will motivate you to do it again in a different aspect. Who knows? Maybe your friend adopts the same mindset as you.

Stop Yourself from Saying the Forbidden Word

Sometimes,I can’t control myself in public when I’m with friends, so I have to be careful with the words I use so I don’t embarrass or insult anyone.

Treat the word “can’t” as the worst word you can possibly use. Stop yourself from saying it, mid-sentence if you must, and turn your whole perspective around — you can do it, you will do it, and nothing is impossible!

Repetition, Repetition, Repetition

You think this change will be overnight? No way. This is a practice. Something you’re going to be doing for the rest of your life from now until forever.

As I said earlier, you are unlearning what you know. You know how easy it is to say you can’t do something, so by unlearning this easy practice, you’re self-disciplining yourself to live without boundaries.

Practice this everyday, a little at a time, and before you know it, the word can’t will not be part of your language.

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Do Anything That Can Relieve Your Uncertainty

When I catch myself saying I can’t do something or I don’t know something, looking up information on that action or subject, doing research, educating yourself, relieves that uncertainty.

Sometimes, we think we can’t do something because the whole idea of it seems too large. We skip the small steps in our head and only focus on the end.

Before you say you can’t do something, rewind and slow down a little bit. Focus on what the first step is, then the next. Take it a step at a time, and before you know it you will have done something you previously thought you couldn’t do.

Final Thoughts

You know what you must do. The first step is right now. Once you begin this habit, and really start noticing some change, you’ll realize the door to opportunity is everywhere.

The funny thing is: Those doors have always been there. The evil word that we no longer use put a veil over our eyes because that’s how powerful that word is.

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