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7 Sweet Moments Only Long Distance Couples Can Experience

7 Sweet Moments Only Long Distance Couples Can Experience

The downsides to being a long-distance couple are obvious: lack of physical intimacy, that awkward table for one and missing out on company at the end of the day. But there are some serious sweet side effects to going the distance, too. Whether you’ve met someone online or a job relocates your partner, you can relish those sweet moments only long-distance couples will ever understand and love.

1. Getting a care package for the first time since college

This era of digital saturation makes snail mail all the more special. It’s rare to get anything in the mail these days other than bills and credit card solicitations. The first time you see a stamped envelope from your lover and open it to discover his actual handwriting scrawled across the page, expressing his deepest feelings for you, sends you to the moon. Or how about when your sweetheart express mails you a batch of homemade chocolate chip cookies just because? It takes a little extra effort to head on down to the post office but it sure ups the ante on those lovin’ feelings.

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2. Enjoying a virtual date

Hello Hulu. Your Friday night date nights can continue thanks to technology streaming at your fingertips. Don’t have Hulu? How about Netflix or Youtube? You can even arrange to see a movie at an actual theatre “together” by exchanging movie times and calling each other after the fact to swap thoughts on the dialogue that moved you, the scenes you found funny and whether you’d give the film a thumbs up or down. And the best part is: you can eat all the popcorn and junk food you want guilt-free.

3. Opening that sexy snapchat

After a long day at work, you might feel blue coming home to an empty house. But then you see a Snapchat pop up on your iPhone and relish those ten sweet seconds of your lover posing in the nude. Being far apart can inspire your naughty side to surface in ways you’d be too embarrassed to indulge face-to-face. Who says snapchat is for tweens? If you haven’t tried it yet, we challenge you to claim it as your own and use it to spice up your long-distance love life. Record a saucy video and send it in two seconds flat. Strike a hot pose and hit send. Your recipient will thank you.

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4. Gazing at the same moon while you chat a thousand miles apart

The stuff you only see in movies is now your reality. Like that night you pine away for your lover and you both step outside to chat and realize you’re looking at the same moon. It makes you feel like the world is smaller and your love is so close, you can feel each other near.

5. Engaging in a book club for two

It’s exclusive. It keeps you connected. And you realize as you read chapter by chapter together that you’re growing at the same pace. Distance doesn’t change the intellectual buzz you share as you pore over material and swap thoughts on engaging your imagination together as you enter into the words on page. It’s an exciting discovery that’s unfolding between the two of you together…even if you’re not in the same room.

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6. Realizing your love is the “icing” but you are the “cake”

Sometimes we get so infatuated with our significant other, we forgo our interests, hobbies and friends to widen the room for our partners. Time apart means getting re-acquainted with those things you loved but lost as you nurtured your budding romance.

7. Tearing past the TSA to welcome each other again

You buy that ticket, create a countdown to mark the days and when the day comes, you travel through the clouds in high anticipation of seeing your partner face-to-face. Your heart races on the plane and you rack your brain with all the right things to say but you’re just so damn excited to race from the terminal and welcome your sweetie with open arms. And the moment that happens is perhaps the sweetest moment of all.

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Featured photo credit: Online Romance, Don Hankins, Taken May 11, 2010 via flickr.com

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Last Updated on June 19, 2019

6 Ways to Be a Successful Risk Taker and Take More Chances

6 Ways to Be a Successful Risk Taker and Take More Chances

I’ve stood on the edge of my own personal cliffs many times. Each time I jumped, something different happened. There were risks that started off great, but eventually faded. There were risks that left me falling until I hit the ground. There were risks that started slow, but built into massive successes.

Every risk is different, but every risk is the same. You need to have some fundamentals ready before you jump, but not too many.

It wouldn’t be a risk if you knew everything that was about to happen, would it? Here’re 6 ways to be a successful risk taker.

1. Understand That Failure Is Going to Happen a Lot

It’s part of life. Everything we do has failure attached to it. All successful people have stories of massive failure attached to them. Thinking that your risk is going to be pain free and run as smooth as silk is insane.

Expect some pain and failure. Actually, expect a lot of it. Expect the sleepless nights with crazy thoughts of insecurity that leave you trembling under the covers. It’s going to happen, no matter how positive you are about the risk you are about to take.

When failure hits, the only options are to keep going or quit. If you expect falling into a meadow of flowers and frolicking unicorns, then you’re going to immediately quit once you realize that getting to that meadow requires you to go through a rock filled cave filled with hungry bats.

2. Trust the Muse

Writing a story isn’t a big risk. It’s really just a risk on my time. So when I start writing a story, I’m scared it will be time wasted. Of course, it never really is. Even if the story doesn’t turn out fabulous, I still practiced.

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When I’ve taken risks in my life, the successful ones always seemed to happen when I followed the muse. Steven Pressfield describes the muse,

“The Muse demands depth. Shallow does not work for her. If we’re seeking her help, we can’t stay in the kiddie end. When we work, we have to go hard and go deep.”

The muse is a goddess who wants our attention and wants us to work on our passion.

If you’re taking a risk in anything, it’s assumed that there is some passion built up behind that risk. That passion, deep inside you, is the muse. Trust it, focus on it, listen to it.

The most successful articles and stories I write are the ones I’ve focused all my attention on. There were no interruptions during their creative development. I didn’t check my phone or go watch my Twitter feed. I was fully engaged in my work.

Trust the muse, focus your attention on your risk, let the ideas and path develop themselves, and leave the distractions at the side of the road.

3. Remember to Be Authentic

Taking a risk and then turning into something you’re not, is only going to lead to disaster. Whether you are risking a new relationship or new opportunity, you must be yourself throughout the entire process.

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How many times have you acted like you loved something just because the men or woman you just started going out with loved it?

For example, I’m not an office worker. I have an incredibly hard time working in a confined timeline (ie. 9-5). That’s why I write. I can do it whenever the mood strikes, I don’t have somebody breathing down my neck, telling me that I’m five minutes late, or missed a comma somewhere. I don’t have to walk on eggshells wondering if what I’m writing will get me fired or make me lose a promotion. I can just be myself, period.

One girlfriend didn’t understand that. She believed solely in the 9-5 motto, specifically something in human resources because that was a very stable job. I was scared for my future, but I stuck with the relationship because of my own insecurities and acted like I would do it to make her happy.

Here’s a tip: NEVER take away from your happiness to make somebody else satisfied (note I didn’t say happy).

Making somebody else happy will make you happy. Doing something to satisfy somebody is murder on your soul.

4. Don’t Take Any Risks While You’re Not Clearheaded

I’d been considering the risk for a couple weeks. It all sounded good. I was 22 and I could be rich in a couple of years. That’s what they were selling me, anyways.

One night, while at a house party with some friends, I found myself at a computer. A couple of my friends were standing nearby and asked me what I was doing. I told them I was considering starting my own business and it was only going to cost me $1,500.

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Of course, when a bunch of drunk people are surrounded by more drunk people, things get enthusiastic. It sounded like the best business venture in the world to everybody, including me. So I signed up and gave them my credit card number.

A few painful months and close to $4,000 dollars lost later, I quit the business. I was young and fell into the pyramid scheme trap. It was an expensive drunk decision.

Drinking heavily and making decisions has a proven track record of failure. So when you have something important to decide, don’t let your emotions take over your brain.

5. Fully Understand What You’re Risking

It was the start of my baseball comeback. I got a tryout with a professional scout and killed it. After the tryout, he talked to my girlfriend and myself, making sure we understood I would be gone for up to 6 months at a time. That strain on the relationship could be tough.

We understood. I left to play ball, chose to stay in the city I played in, and a year later we broke up. Not because of baseball, see point 3 above. Taking big risks can have massive impacts on everything in your life from relationships to money. Know what you’re risking before you take the risk.

If you believe the risk will be worth it or you have the support you need from your family, then go ahead and make the leap.

You can get more guidance on how to take calculated risks from this article: How to Take Calculated Risk to Achieve More and Become Successful

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6. Remember This Is Your One Shot Only

As far as we know officially, this is our one shot at life, so why not take some risks?

The top thing people are saddened by on their deathbeds are these regrets. They wish they did more, asked that girl in the coffee shop out, spoke out when they should have, or did what they were passionate about.

Don’t regret. Learn and experience. Live. Take the risks you believe in. Be yourself and make the world a better place.

Now go ahead, take that risk and be successful at it!

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