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8 Things Only People Who Have Experienced Traumatic Accidents Can Understand

8 Things Only People Who Have Experienced Traumatic Accidents Can Understand

Every now and then we come across people who have been through terrible trauma. Without fail, we can see that these people possess qualities and characteristics that are admirable and, to say the least, enviable.

They see life through fresh eyes and from a totally different perspective than before.

While life isn’t all easy for accident survivors they do seem to gain insights which are out of reach for the rest of us.

Here’s what they have come to understand:

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1. We Only Have Today

There is no more poignant a lesson to teach us about the value of living in the present than to be in a serious accident.

Facing death changes us and our personalities. People who face terrible challenges usually become stronger and better able to face their new world.

2. We See Beauty All Around Us

Something we don’t notice before a trauma is that beauty is everywhere – it’s in nature, people, children, cities, galleries and so on. There are things worth seeing everywhere we go. Those who have suffered trauma don’t need to be reminded of this – they can see it clearly.

3. We May Need Support For the Rest of Our Lives

Nobody wants to be dependent on others, but it is a saddening fact for many who have serious accidents. This can be frustrating, embarrassing and downright intolerable but eventually the survivor has to accept that they are unable to do some things for themselves and so need the help of others.

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4. We Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff

After we’ve been through something really big we don’t worry about the smaller stuff as much. Our outlook on what the smaller stuff is can change too.

Giving an important presentation would have been a big deal at one time but after a horrendous emotional and physical journey the presentation is no longer a big deal – this is a walk in the park for the survivor.

5. We Still Have Challenges – But Now it’s Rewarding Too

Many things may pose as challenges for those of us who have survived accidents: driving a car, speaking, figuring out problems – some things just don’t come as easily anymore.

The silver lining to this cloud is that after such trauma we often realize that every small achievement is a reward in itself. We take great pride in our small wins.

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6. We Cherish Our Family and Friends

Things we once took for granted like the love of those closest to us are embraced after a serious accident. We feel vulnerable and at the mercy of those who care for us.

After an accident we understand that nothing is here ‘forever’ – that everything and everyone moves on sooner or later. This is difficult to accept but helps bring us closer to those that matter most.

7. We Know That Life is Full of Surprises

No one expects to be in a serious accident. One minute everything’s great – the next – bang, your whole life changes. You may be seriously injured or left with difficult memories to deal with.

Only someone who has experienced this can understand how this impacts on your daily life. The unexpected twists can leave someone with a severe sense of uncertainty.

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8. We Fear the Bad Memories Won’t Leave Us

Remembering traumatic accidents can be overwhelming and many need help to overcome these powerful thoughts. However, the darkest times will pass.

Being in a very serious accident is not something we plan for. It’s not something we ever want to happen to us or our loved ones. But rest assured that while recovery is difficult, the survivor understands more about life than many of us do.

They know how precious life is and what’s important and what’s not. The survivor grows stronger everyday and becomes an inspiration to us all. They become the teacher in the end.

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Last Updated on February 13, 2019

10 Things Happy People Do Differently

10 Things Happy People Do Differently

Think being happy is something that happens as a result of luck, circumstance, having money, etc.? Think again.

Happiness is a mindset. And if you’re looking to improve your ability to find happiness, then check out these 10 things happy people do differently.

Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions. -Dalai Lama

1. Happy people find balance in their lives.

Folks who are happy have this in common: they’re content with what they have, and don’t waste a whole lot of time worrying and stressing over things they don’t. Unhappy people do the opposite: they spend too much time thinking about what they don’t have. Happy people lead balanced lives. This means they make time for all the things that are important to them, whether it’s family, friends, career, health, religion, etc.

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2. Happy people abide by the golden rule.

You know that saying you heard when you were a kid, “Do unto others as you would have them do to you.” Well, happy people truly embody this principle. They treat others with respect. They’re sensitive to the thoughts and feelings of other people. They’re compassionate. And they get treated this way (most of the time) in return.

3. Happy people don’t sweat the small stuff.

One of the biggest things happy people do differently compared to unhappy people is they let stuff go. Bad things happen to good people sometimes. Happy people realize this, are able to take things in stride, and move on. Unhappy people tend to dwell on minor inconveniences and issues, which can perpetuate feelings of sadness, guilt, resentment, greed, and anger.

4. Happy people take responsibility for their actions.

Happy people aren’t perfect, and they’re well aware of that. When they screw up, they admit it. They recognize their faults and work to improve on them. Unhappy people tend to blame others and always find an excuse why things aren’t going their way. Happy people, on the other hand, live by the mantra:

“There are two types of people in the world: those that do and those that make excuses why they don’t.”

5. Happy people surround themselves with other happy people.

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    One defining characteristic of happy people is they tend to hang out with other happy people. Misery loves company, and unhappy people gravitate toward others who share their negative sentiments. If you’re struggling with a bout of sadness, depression, worry, or anger, spend more time with your happiest friends or family members. Chances are, you’ll find that their positive attitude rubs off on you.

    6. Happy people are honest with themselves and others.

    People who are happy often exhibit the virtues of honesty and trustworthiness. They would rather give you candid feedback, even when the truth hurts, and they expect the same in return. Happy people respect people who give them an honest opinion.

    7. Happy people show signs of happiness.

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      This one may sound obvious but it’s a key differentiator between happy and unhappy people. Think about your happiest friends. Chances are, the mental image you form is of them smiling, laughing, and appearing genuinely happy. On the flip side, those who aren’t happy tend to look the part. Their posture may be slouched and you may perceive a lack of confidence.

      8. Happy people are passionate.

      Another thing happy people have in common is their ability to find their passions in life and pursue those passions to the fullest. Happy people have found what they’re looking for, and they spend their time doing what they love.

      9. Happy people see challenges as opportunities.

      Folks who are happy accept challenges and use them as opportunities to learn and grow. They turn negatives into positives and make the best out of seemingly bad situations. They don’t dwell on things that are out of their control; rather, they seek solutions and creative ways of overcoming obstacles.

      10. Happy people live in the present.

      While unhappy people tend to dwell on the past and worry about the future, happy people live in the moment. They are grateful for “the now” and focus their efforts on living life to the fullest in the present. Their philosophy is:

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      There’s a reason it’s called “the present.” Because life is a gift.

      So if you’d like to bring a little more happiness into your life, think about the 10 principles above and how you can use them to make yourself better.

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