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7 Struggles Only People With Concealed Depression Can Understand

7 Struggles Only People With Concealed Depression Can Understand

It is a hard thing to hide depression. Why would someone do this? Well, for a number of reasons: to make themselves seem normal and strong as opposed to weak and fragile. People that conceal their depression deal with many struggles that many of us can’t understand. Let us look at the struggles these individuals have to go through. My heart goes to each and every one of them.

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    1. They make efforts to appear normal.

    It is fairly normal for people who conceal their depression to appear as happy as everyone else that is around them. I personally feel this to be the hardest and most difficult of the struggles that are listed. When you feel down in the dumps, and you have to show or represent yourself as being “happy,” it takes a lot away from you.

    This is a truly sad situation. Having been through all this myself, I can assure you — it isn’t easy at all.

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    2. Being alone is terrifying.

    People with hidden depression know that they like to be alone sometimes. But at other times, it is useful to be with someone. When the depressed become alienated, it is also extremely nerve-wracking because it is so difficult to adjust from being alone to being with someone (and vice versa).

    It is complicated, but I have gone through it and I know that this truly does happen.

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      3. They have the worst types of eating/sleeping habits.

      People who conceal depression are either sleeping way too much or sleeping too little. It is a nuisance that they have to deal with. Sometimes, they don’t get any sleep at all. It is a whole roller coaster ride having to deal with the depths of depression.

      When I went through depression, I sometimes found it very difficult to get sleep and other days I would just sleep the entire day.

      4. They know about life and death very well and closely.

      People who hide their depression know that they go through death each single day. They deal with it on a daily basis and so they have a nice view of what life is all about. They know that things should never be taken for granted.

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        5. They look for a purpose in life.

        People who conceal their depression yet again look for a purpose to life. They search for something that fuels their passion to an extent. Searching for their calling is something that comes naturally to them. They love to look at the depth in life…and everything in it.

        6. They also try to discover love in small ways.

        Just because someone tries to hide their depression doesn’t mean that they aren’t looking for love. As a matter of fact, because they aren’t feeling up to the mark, they find love in small places and small ways. They may feel away from love so they try to grasp it when possible. So, if you love someone who tries to hide their depression, know that they may be some of the most beautiful and strongest people out there.

        7. They have outbursts of crying at times when things get too much.

        When they can’t handle the pressure, these people like to cry it out. Many times it is hard to understand why they are feeling a certain way, so the best thing to do is just let it all out. Know that it is all right if they do so. In the end, crying helps  them feel better. It helps achieve a state of accepting their emotions on a human level, and that is okay to not try and be perfect all the time.

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          The ability to take risks by stepping outside your comfort zone is the primary way by which we grow. But we are often afraid to take that first step.

          In truth, comfort zones are not really about comfort, they are about fear. Break the chains of fear to get outside. Once you do, you will learn to enjoy the process of taking risks and growing in the process.

          Here are 10 ways to help you step out of your comfort zone and get closer to success:

          1. Become aware of what’s outside of your comfort zone

          What are the things that you believe are worth doing but are afraid of doing yourself because of the potential for disappointment or failure?

          Draw a circle and write those things down outside the circle. This process will not only allow you to clearly identify your discomforts, but your comforts. Write identified comforts inside the circle.

          2. Become clear about what you are aiming to overcome

          Take the list of discomforts and go deeper. Remember, the primary emotion you are trying to overcome is fear.

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          How does this fear apply uniquely to each situation? Be very specific.

          Are you afraid of walking up to people and introducing yourself in social situations? Why? Is it because you are insecure about the sound of your voice? Are you insecure about your looks?

          Or, are you afraid of being ignored?

          3. Get comfortable with discomfort

          One way to get outside of your comfort zone is to literally expand it. Make it a goal to avoid running away from discomfort.

          Let’s stay with the theme of meeting people in social settings. If you start feeling a little panicked when talking to someone you’ve just met, try to stay with it a little longer than you normally would before retreating to comfort. If you stay long enough and practice often enough, it will start to become less uncomfortable.

          4. See failure as a teacher

          Many of us are so afraid of failure that we would rather do nothing than take a shot at our dreams.

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          Begin to treat failure as a teacher. What did you learn from the experience? How can you take that lesson to your next adventure to increase your chance of success?

          Many highly successful people failed plenty of times before they succeeded. Here’re some examples:

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          Don’t try to jump outside your comfort zone, you will likely become overwhelmed and jump right back in.

          Take small steps toward the fear you are trying to overcome. If you want to do public speaking, start by taking every opportunity to speak to small groups of people. You can even practice with family and friends.

          Take a look at this article on how you can start taking baby steps:

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          There is no substitute for this step. If you want to become better at something, you must start hanging out with the people who are doing what you want to do and start emulating them. (Here’re 8 Reasons Why Risk Takers Are More Likely To Be Successful).

          Almost inevitably, their influence will start have an effect on your behavior.

          7. Be honest with yourself when you are trying to make excuses

          Don’t say “Oh, I just don’t have the time for this right now.” Instead, be honest and say “I am afraid to do this.”

          Don’t make excuses, just be honest. You will be in a better place to confront what is truly bothering you and increase your chance of moving forward.

          8. Identify how stepping out will benefit you

          What will the ability to engage in public speaking do for your personal and professional growth? Keep these potential benefits in mind as motivations to push through fear.

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          9. Don’t take yourself too seriously

          Learn to laugh at yourself when you make mistakes. Risk taking will inevitably involve failure and setbacks that will sometimes make you look foolish to others. Be happy to roll with the punches when others poke fun.

          If you aren’t convinced yet, check out these 6 Reasons Not to Take Life So Seriously.

          10. Focus on the fun

          Enjoy the process of stepping outside your safe boundaries. Enjoy the fun of discovering things about yourself that you may not have been aware of previously.

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