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14 Things Only Girls Who Are Stuck in A “Girl’s World” Can Understand

14 Things Only Girls Who Are Stuck in A “Girl’s World” Can Understand

Beyond the kind of things you see in “Mean Girls,” every girl wants to feel great about being a girl. Being in the right group or being associated with the right people solidifies your position as the ideal girl. But the strain that comes with wanting to be the “it” girl is cumbersome. It’s nothing scary though. You just have to learn to deal with being stuck in that world for a while. And, as you already know, there are some things you understand that no ordinary girl would. Here are 13 things only girls who are stuck in a “girl’s world” would understand.

1. You don’t have enough time for yourself.

Your friends take a lot of your time. There is always something to gossip or talk about. It is not as if you cannot make time for something else; it’s just that you are constantly engaged by your friends whether positively or negatively.

2. You will have to make tough decisions.

Certainly you will have to make tough decisions, especially when a boyfriend comes into the picture.

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3. You will have a lot of “girl evenings.”

Yes, you will have a lot of hanging out to do with your girlfriends who need you as a companion.

4. You don’t have a small group of close friends.

You will need some space. You may need a friend or two, but when you are stuck in a “girl’s world,” you have a bunch of friends. You wish you didn’t have so many, but the girl’s code is all about having enough girlfriends to have your back.

5. You will get stabbed in the back every now and then.

Well you have to face it: the more friends you have, the higher the chance that at least one of them will stab you in the back and make you look stupid.

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6. You will need to attend a lot of functions.

There are always functions for you to attend: birthdays, weddings, festivals—the list is endless.

7. You have to do a lot of shopping.

Shopping means a lot in the girl’s world—if you are not well dressed or made up, you will have a lot of problems with your girlfriends. So spend that money and be great at shopping tactics!

8. You have to know what “popular” means.

You may not be good enough if you are not popular enough. You just have to set your own trends and fight for the spotlight. The goal is to have as many other girls follow or emulate your successes.

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9. You will have competition.

It is not just about you and your friends. There will be others who want to take you down when they see a weakness on your part. You have to always be on top of your game.

10. You have to know how to use social media to your gains.

Well, you probably already know this, but to be in the center of attention you have to attract attention. And what better way to get the business done than by using social media.

11. You have to stick to looking good.

You can’t afford to look awful. Put on a smart face, visit the gym often, buy the most expensive beauty products, work hard, and be attractive enough to attract the attention of males and/or females.

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12. You can become addicted to colors.

Is teal your favorite color this month? Pink? Cobalt blue? Make sure you are great at selecting and wearing the right colors.

13. You should always smell nice.

Living in a “girl’s world” means regular showering, teeth-brushing and whitening, and other types of hygiene maintenance.

14. You have to protect yourself.

You can’t afford to be nonchalant. Living in a “girl’s world” means you are strong enough to hold your own and capable enough to defend your own turfs. And this could mean that you become mean in the process of showing how tough you are.

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Last Updated on December 3, 2019

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

There are so many lessons I wish I had learned while I was young enough to appreciate and apply them. The thing with wisdom, and often with life lessons in general, is that they’re learned in retrospect, long after we needed them. The good news is that other people can benefit from our experiences and the lessons we’ve learned.

Here’re 10 important life lessons you should learn early on:

1. Money Will Never Solve Your Real Problems

Money is a tool; a commodity that buys you necessities and some nice “wants,” but it is not the panacea to your problems.

There are a great many people who are living on very little, yet have wonderfully full and happy lives… and there are sadly a great many people are living on quite a lot, yet have terribly miserable lives.

Money can buy a nice home, a great car, fabulous shoes, even a bit of security and some creature comforts, but it cannot fix a broken relationship, or cure loneliness, and the “happiness” it brings is only fleeting and not the kind that really and truly matters. Happiness is not for sale. If you’re expecting the “stuff” you can buy to “make it better,” you will never be happy.

2. Pace Yourself

Often when we’re young, just beginning our adult journey we feel as though we have to do everything at once. We need to decide everything, plan out our lives, experience everything, get to the top, find true love, figure out our life’s purpose, and do it all at the same time.

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Slow down—don’t rush into things. Let your life unfold. Wait a bit to see where it takes you, and take time to weigh your options. Enjoy every bite of food, take time to look around you, let the other person finish their side of the conversation. Allow yourself time to think, to mull a bit.

Taking action is critical. Working towards your goals and making plans for the future is commendable and often very useful, but rushing full-speed ahead towards anything is a one-way ticket to burnout and a good way to miss your life as it passes you by.

3. You Can’t Please Everyone

“I don’t know the secret to success, but the secret to failure is trying to please everyone” – Bill Cosby.

You don’t need everyone to agree with you or even like you. It’s human nature to want to belong, to be liked, respected and valued, but not at the expense of your integrity and happiness. Other people cannot give you the validation you seek. That has to come from inside.

Speak up, stick to your guns, assert yourself when you need to, demand respect, stay true to your values.

4. Your Health Is Your Most Valuable Asset

Health is an invaluable treasure—always appreciate, nurture, and protect it. Good health is often wasted on the young before they have a chance to appreciate it for what it’s worth.

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We tend to take our good health for granted, because it’s just there. We don’t have to worry about it, so we don’t really pay attention to it… until we have to.

Heart disease, bone density, stroke, many cancers—the list of many largely preventable diseases is long, so take care of your health now, or you’ll regret it later on.

5. You Don’t Always Get What You Want

“Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans.” – John Lennon

No matter how carefully you plan and how hard you work, sometimes things just don’t work out the way you want them to… and that’s okay.

We have all of these expectations; predetermined visions of what our “ideal” life will look like, but all too often, that’s not the reality of the life we end up with. Sometimes our dreams fail and sometimes we just change our minds mid-course. Sometimes we have to flop to find the right course and sometimes we just have to try a few things before we find the right direction.

6. It’s Not All About You

You are not the epicenter of the universe. It’s very difficult to view the world from a perspective outside of your own, since we are always so focused on what’s happening in our own lives. What do I have to do today? What will this mean for me, for my career, for my life? What do I want?

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It’s normal to be intensely aware of everything that’s going on in your own life, but you need to pay as much attention to what’s happening around you, and how things affect other people in the world as you do to your own life. It helps to keep things in perspective.

7. There’s No Shame in Not Knowing

No one has it all figured out. Nobody has all the answers. There’s no shame in saying “I don’t know.” Pretending to be perfect doesn’t make you perfect. It just makes you neurotic to keep up the pretense of manufactured perfection.

We have this idea that there is some kind of stigma or shame in admitting our limitations or uncertainly, but we can’t possibly know everything. We all make mistakes and mess up occasionally. We learn as we go, that’s life.

Besides—nobody likes a know-it-all. A little vulnerability makes you human and oh so much more relatable.

8. Love Is More Than a Feeling; It’s a Choice

That burst of initial exhilaration, pulse quickening love and passion does not last long. But that doesn’t mean long-lasting love is not possible.

Love is not just a feeling; it’s a choice that you make every day. We have to choose to let annoyances pass, to forgive, to be kind, to respect, to support, to be faithful.

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Relationships take work. Sometimes it’s easy and sometimes it’s incredibly hard. It is up to us to choose how we want to act, think and speak in a relationship.

9. Perspective Is a Beautiful Thing

Typically, when we’re worried or upset, it’s because we’ve lost perspective. Everything that is happening in our lives seems so big, so important, so do or die, but in the grand picture, this single hiccup often means next to nothing.

The fight we’re having, the job we didn’t get, the real or imagined slight, the unexpected need to shift course, the thing we wanted, but didn’t get. Most of it won’t matter 20, 30, 40 years from now. It’s hard to see long term when all you know is short term, but unless it’s life-threatening, let it go, and move on.

10. Don’t Take Anything for Granted

We often don’t appreciate what we have until it’s gone: that includes your health, your family and friends, your job, the money you have or think you will have tomorrow.

When you’re young, it seems that your parents will always be there, but they won’t. You think you have plenty of time to get back in touch with your old friends or spend time with new ones, but you don’t. You have the money to spend, or you think you’ll have it next month, but you might not.

Nothing in your life is not guaranteed to be there tomorrow, including those you love.

This is a hard life lesson to learn, but it may be the most important of all: Life can change in an instant. Make sure you appreciate what you have, while you still have it.

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