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12 Feelings That People With Depression And Anxiety Are Familiar With

12 Feelings That People With Depression And Anxiety Are Familiar With

Depression and anxiety are extremely difficult to live with, but living with both is actually more common than you may expect. Nearly one half of people who have been diagnosed with depression also suffer from an anxiety disorder.

Everyone has different experiences of depression and anxiety, but many people experience similar day-to-day struggles.

1. Worrying that cancelling plans will end friendships but still being too anxious to actually go

You hate the idea of letting your friends down because they mean so much to you, but sometimes you are just too overwhelmed to leave the house. The idea of socializing sounds like hell – but so does the idea of losing your wonderful friends.

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2. Feeling terrified about failing a test but being too worried to revise properly

All of your revision notes are in front of you, but you can barely stay focused because your mind keeps reminding you that you might fail. After an hour of revising you haven’t learnt anything, but you are super-stressed and near tears.

3. On some days you are too tired to get out of bed and on others you sleep for over 12 hours

On some nights you can’t get to sleep because you are too stressed or worried, and you lay wide awake in bed for hours. On other nights, you fall asleep at 10PM and wake up in the afternoon the next day. Even when you do finally wake up, you just want to curl up under the bed-sheets and hide.

4. When you can’t get out of bed you become stressed about the things you’re not doing

On the days when you can’t get out of bed, you rarely go back to sleep. Instead, you worry about work and the responsibilities that you are missing.

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5. You missed a few events and now it upsets you that no-one invites you anymore

You turned down plans with your friends because you couldn’t face leaving the house, and now they have stopped inviting you out. You understand why, but it upsets you to know they have stopped making an effort.

6. When your home is untidy but you don’t have the energy to clean up

You dislike living in a messy home and looking at the mess makes you feel stressed out, but you simply don’t have enough energy to tidy up.

7. Writing lots of to-do lists to help you to get out of a rut

You write lots of to-do lists with things that you need to do to lower your anxiety. Writing the lists actually helps you calm down and relax. While you rarely do everything on the list, it does help you to feel more in-control.

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8. Fearing being alone but disliking company

You fear being totally alone and your friends are very important to you, but you prefer your own company because there is less pressure.

9. Worrying that your loved ones are mad at you

You are always worried that you have upset someone that you care about. You want to check that they aren’t annoyed with you, but you worry that you will seem clingy and obsessive.

10. Wishing you could find a partner but fearing the dating scene

You’d love to find someone to spend your life with, but even the thought of dating makes you sweat. You’re not sure if you can handle spending a prolonged amount of time with a stranger.

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11. Worrying that your partner will leave you

You think your partner is amazing and even when things are going well, you are worried that they will leave you. You rationally know nothing bad has happened, but you hate the idea of losing someone you love.

12. You feel more tired the less you move

When you’re having a bad week you just want to hide in your bed. Sometimes, you’ll spend 5 days of sitting in your bed worrying you’re so tired that you can barely keep your eyes open.

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Last Updated on January 3, 2020

The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

Are you waiting for life events to turn out the way you want so that you can feel more positive about your life? Do you find yourself having pre-conditions to your sense of well-being, thinking that certain things must happen for you to be happier? Do you think there is no way that your life stresses can make you anything other than “stressed out” and that other people just don’t understand?  If your answer is “yes” to any of these questions, you might find yourself lingering in the land of negativity for too long!

The following are some tips to keep positive no matter what comes your way. This post will help you stop looking for what psychologists call “positivity” in all the wrong places!  Here are the ten essential habits of positive people.

1. Positive people don’t confuse quitting with letting go.

Instead of hanging on to ideas, beliefs, and even people that are no longer healthy for them, they trust their judgement to let go of negative forces in their lives.  Especially in terms of relationships, they subscribe to The Relationship Prayer which goes:

 I will grant myself the ability to trust the healthy people in my life … 

To set limits with, or let go of, the negative ones … 

And to have the wisdom to know the DIFFERENCE!

 2.  Positive people don’t just have a good day – they make a good day.

Waiting, hoping and wishing seldom have a place in the vocabulary of positive individuals. Rather, they use strong words that are pro-active and not reactive. Passivity leads to a lack of involvement, while positive people get very involved in constructing their lives. They work to make changes to feel better in tough times rather than wish their feelings away.

3. For the positive person, the past stays in the past.

Good and bad memories alike stay where they belong – in the past where they happened. They don’t spend much time pining for the good ol’ days because they are too busy making new memories now. The negative pulls from the past are used not for self-flagellation or unproductive regret, but rather productive regret where they use lessons learned as stepping stones towards a better future.

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4. Show me a positive person and I can show you a grateful person.

The most positive people are the most grateful people.  They do not focus on the potholes of their lives.  They focus on the pot of gold that awaits them every day, with new smells, sights, feelings and experiences.  They see life as a treasure chest full of wonder.

5. Rather than being stuck in their limitations, positive people are energized by their possibilities.

Optimistic people focus on what they can do, not what they can’t do.  They are not fooled to think that there is a perfect solution to every problem, and are confident that there are many solutions and possibilities.  They are not afraid to attempt new solutions to old problems, rather than spin their wheels expecting things to be different this time.  They refuse to be like Charlie Brown expecting that this time Lucy will not pull the football from him!

6. Positive people do not let their fears interfere with their lives!

Positive people have observed that those who are defined and pulled back by their fears never really truly live a full life. While proceeding with appropriate caution, they do not let fear keep them from trying new things. They realize that even failures are necessary steps for a successful life. They have confidence that they can get back up when they are knocked down by life events or their own mistakes, due to a strong belief in their personal resilience.

7. Positive people smile a lot!

When you feel positive on the inside it is like you are smiling from within, and these smiles are contagious. Furthermore, the more others are with positive people, the more they tend to smile too! They see the lightness in life, and have a sense of humor even when it is about themselves. Positive people have a high degree of self-respect, but refuse to take themselves too seriously!

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8. People who are positive are great communicators.

They realize that assertive, confident communication is the only way to connect with others in everyday life.  They avoid judgmental, angry interchanges, and do not let someone else’s blow up give them a reason to react in kind. Rather, they express themselves with tact and finesse.  They also refuse to be non-assertive and let people push them around. They refuse to own problems that belong to someone else.

9. Positive people realize that if you live long enough, there are times for great pain and sadness.

One of the most common misperceptions about positive people is that to be positive, you must always be happy. This can not be further from the truth. Anyone who has any depth at all is certainly not happy all the time.  Being sad, angry, disappointed are all essential emotions in life. How else would you ever develop empathy for others if you lived a life of denial and shallow emotions? Positive people do not run from the gamut of emotions, and accept that part of the healing process is to allow themselves to experience all types of feelings, not only the happy ones. A positive person always holds the hope that there is light at the end of the darkness.  

10. Positive person are empowered people – they refuse to blame others and are not victims in life.

Positive people seek the help and support of others who are supportive and safe.They limit interactions with those who are toxic in any manner, even if it comes to legal action and physical estrangement such as in the case of abuse. They have identified their own basic human rights, and they respect themselves too much to play the part of a victim. There is no place for holding grudges with a positive mindset. Forgiveness helps positive people become better, not bitter.

How about you?  How many habits of positive people do you personally find in yourself?  If you lack even a few of these 10 essential habits, you might find that the expected treasure at the end of the rainbow was not all that it was cracked up to be. How could it — if you keep on bringing a negative attitude around?

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I wish you well in keeping positive, because as we all know, there is certainly nothing positive about being negative!

Featured photo credit: Janaína Castelo Branco via flickr.com

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