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Why True Love Isn’t Like Hide-And-Seek But Building Sand Castles

Why True Love Isn’t Like Hide-And-Seek But Building Sand Castles

With the dominant presence of the media, we are expected to find love and live happily ever after. When the subject is centered on love many are becoming more nonchalant and unwilling to work for it or building it. But this is why true love isn’t like hide and seek but like building sand castles.

1. It starts in a tender way

Building a sand castle starts on a soft surface just like love. Love has a strong appeal on each of us and makes us calmer, tender and softer so that we have a more positive perception of the world around us.

2. It can be fragile

After being attracted to someone you are willing to take the risks to get to know the person on a different level. Like building a sand castle you have to be creative and strategic in how you express your feelings and how you take this attraction to another level in the relationship.

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3. We do not know what form it will take

Like building a sand castle we do not know where we are headed but the journey and the prospects are so exciting that we are ready to go all the way. In its purest form, true love takes us on a path we may never have plied on our own.

4. You are willing to learn

For many, building a sand castle is a task that is both exciting and offers learning to our curious minds. With love you should be willing to learn how to trust and respect the other person, and you should not be ready to expect anything less.

5. It takes time

You don’t build a sand castle in seconds. It takes time to build and nurture love; such patience and effort makes it more rewarding and enriching.

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6. You should focus on giving than getting

Enjoy the process of being in love. Don’t think of the rewards; diving in deep, you should not expect getting something back in return from your partner to justify your actions.

7. You should be willing to face the challenges

Love is not like a fairy tale. Although exciting and fun filled a love story comes with its challenges and you have to be willing to tolerate the other person’s flaws. Don’t get too serious and expect perfection. A sand castle is really not a perfect structure after all but with the right desires and expectations you can get a lot from it.

8. You will be adaptive

We tend to do things that we have not done before or may not do ordinarily for the one we love. True love is adaptive and accommodating. You have to be willing to accept the unconventional to make a balanced relationship.

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9. It evolves

Love doesn’t have a boundary or a limit, it actually evolves and gets better. You will be more equipped to face the future as you can overcome the hurdles that every stage presents.

10. It is a way of living

While some people think that love is passive and is emotional, you will find out that love is active and a way of life. You are willing to keep your promises and commit yourself to the process. Like building a sand castle, it needs action rather than mere wishful thinking or daydreaming.

11. It is bold

Being in love makes you feel alive and willing to take on challenges or march into higher grounds. You simply feel obligated to make your partner feel loved and special.

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12. It takes two

True love is not individualized. It takes two to make it a success. Interestingly as the relationship deepens you are willing to focus on the “we” rather than “me.”

At the end of the day, you should not force this type of love. It will grow and become a sand castle that you always cherish

Featured photo credit: RossHelen via shutterstock.com

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Last Updated on August 16, 2018

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

The ability to take risks by stepping outside your comfort zone is the primary way by which we grow. But we are often afraid to take that first step.

In truth, comfort zones are not really about comfort, they are about fear. Break the chains of fear to get outside. Once you do, you will learn to enjoy the process of taking risks and growing in the process.

Here are 10 ways to help you step out of your comfort zone and get closer to success:

1. Become aware of what’s outside of your comfort zone

What are the things that you believe are worth doing but are afraid of doing yourself because of the potential for disappointment or failure?

Draw a circle and write those things down outside the circle. This process will not only allow you to clearly identify your discomforts, but your comforts. Write identified comforts inside the circle.

2. Become clear about what you are aiming to overcome

Take the list of discomforts and go deeper. Remember, the primary emotion you are trying to overcome is fear.

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How does this fear apply uniquely to each situation? Be very specific.

Are you afraid of walking up to people and introducing yourself in social situations? Why? Is it because you are insecure about the sound of your voice? Are you insecure about your looks?

Or, are you afraid of being ignored?

3. Get comfortable with discomfort

One way to get outside of your comfort zone is to literally expand it. Make it a goal to avoid running away from discomfort.

Let’s stay with the theme of meeting people in social settings. If you start feeling a little panicked when talking to someone you’ve just met, try to stay with it a little longer than you normally would before retreating to comfort. If you stay long enough and practice often enough, it will start to become less uncomfortable.

4. See failure as a teacher

Many of us are so afraid of failure that we would rather do nothing than take a shot at our dreams.

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Begin to treat failure as a teacher. What did you learn from the experience? How can you take that lesson to your next adventure to increase your chance of success?

Many highly successful people failed plenty of times before they succeeded. Here’re some examples:

10 Famous Failures to Success Stories That Will Inspire You to Carry On

5. Take baby steps

Don’t try to jump outside your comfort zone, you will likely become overwhelmed and jump right back in.

Take small steps toward the fear you are trying to overcome. If you want to do public speaking, start by taking every opportunity to speak to small groups of people. You can even practice with family and friends.

Take a look at this article on how you can start taking baby steps:

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The Number One Secret to Life Success: Baby Steps

6. Hang out with risk takers

There is no substitute for this step. If you want to become better at something, you must start hanging out with the people who are doing what you want to do and start emulating them. (Here’re 8 Reasons Why Risk Takers Are More Likely To Be Successful).

Almost inevitably, their influence will start have an effect on your behavior.

7. Be honest with yourself when you are trying to make excuses

Don’t say “Oh, I just don’t have the time for this right now.” Instead, be honest and say “I am afraid to do this.”

Don’t make excuses, just be honest. You will be in a better place to confront what is truly bothering you and increase your chance of moving forward.

8. Identify how stepping out will benefit you

What will the ability to engage in public speaking do for your personal and professional growth? Keep these potential benefits in mind as motivations to push through fear.

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9. Don’t take yourself too seriously

Learn to laugh at yourself when you make mistakes. Risk taking will inevitably involve failure and setbacks that will sometimes make you look foolish to others. Be happy to roll with the punches when others poke fun.

If you aren’t convinced yet, check out these 6 Reasons Not to Take Life So Seriously.

10. Focus on the fun

Enjoy the process of stepping outside your safe boundaries. Enjoy the fun of discovering things about yourself that you may not have been aware of previously.

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