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13 Rights Every Woman Should Bravely Defend For Herself

13 Rights Every Woman Should Bravely Defend For Herself
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Every woman is different in her own way. A woman has certain rights of her own that she should rightly assert. There is no difference between males and females. A woman and man have rights that are central to them and their individuality. Here is a list of rights that every woman in the world should bravely defend for herself as she is beautiful no matter what anyone says.

1. Her body no matter how it looks

No woman should have to desperately hate her body because of what people think about her. Why can guys live in peace but women have to resent their bodies? Isn’t this rigged? I definitely think it is. I used to be very skinny and then gained a little weight, and I was criticized during both these phases. I am happy regardless of how I look like because I know I am genuinely a nice person. No one should care about what you look like as long as you are not hurting or “offending” anybody. So, do not be ashamed of who you are. Embrace both inner and outer beauty because you are beautiful no matter what anybody says about you.

2. Her appearance

Be proud of the way you look. Whether tall, short, curvy, skinny, you are original. You can’t be replaced by anyone i

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n this world because you are a one piece person. There is no one on this earth that can match up to you or your standards. Make sure you remind yourself this each day because it’s quite easy to forget and I never want to see you forget this. It is an essential part to your self-esteem and courage. Each women is beautiful in her own way. Never ever let anybody tell you are inferior to anybody else. They are flat out wrong.

3. Her judgment and concern over topics

Everyone is allowed to express concern over topics they find engaging or distressing. Women are entitled to their fair share of judgment and self-expression. Why can a man say his opinion while a women can’t? If men and women are truly equal, then both parties should be able to express their opinions without any tension of the world or other people. All people have a right to voice their opinion regardless of race, creed, or gender for the matter. Be bold, and be blunt! It is not who you are, but it is who you want to be and desire to be.

4. Her relationship status

Women do not always have to be in relationships. Sometimes, finding the right man is hard. Why is it a sin to be single? There is no shame in admitting that one has not found the right person yet. There is a time and place for everything. This includes relationships that are meant to be. A relationship will come when its mean to come. There is no hassle or rush in these sorts of things.

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5. Her choice of a partner

A woman has the right to choose if she wants to be in a relationship or not. There is nobody out in the world that can tell a woman what she can and must do. The key is having confidence in yourself regardless of the outcome. I have learned this from going rock bottom and coming back up again. Relationships are meant for everyone. No one has the right to tell you to live a life determined by their choices or standards. Stand up for yourself and speak when necessary. You are you and nobody can take that away from you!

6. Her want of a relationship

Everyone is allowed a relationship. The same goes for females. Why is a woman criticized in a relationship but a man is not? If a woman wants one that is great. If she doesn’t that is also okay. This plays into our next subtopic of not wanting to have a relationship or choosing to be happy being completely single. Some of the most bravest women are single because they need nobody but themselves in a world (that tends to be cruel all too often).

7. Her denial of a relationship

A relationship will come when it is meant to come. If a woman does not want a relationship, she does not have to have one.There is no rush or no need for a relationship if it just does not come naturally from the heart. When a woman wants to be in a relationship she will vouch to be in one. No one can be in a relationship with someone’s force. Everything comes from the inside.

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8. Her desire for children

Yes, we all see women having children and some not having them. Age is no barrier. A women can conceive anytime she feels like wanting to. A women is inborn with a mother-like instinct. Why must she curb it to fit into society’s thinking?

9. Her happiness or unhappiness

When a woman is not happy, it is alright. She is a human like all other people. She doesn’t constantly have to show that she is on top of the world if she really just feels down in the dumps. Sometimes it is in the best interest to just express yourself even if its not the best emotion. There is nothing better than being yourself and who you exactly are.

10. Her salary

Sometimes it becomes bitter talk when a woman starts earning more money to her male equivalent or partner. It does not matter the gender. It is through hard work and determination that one earns money, based on the context of his or her potential and strong-will. Don’t care about the protractors, believe in yourself, and your dedication, and craft! You are simply amazing the way you are.

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11. Her strong ambitions

Only men do not have the liberty to pursue their passion. Women equally have the right to be ambitious and do what their heart tells them to do. Life is about seizing each of the moments that come your way. A woman is attractive especially when she is independent and what’s to do something on her own terms. She becomes all the more special.

12. Her success

If a female is successful, she should be proud of it, and never try to hide it from others. Why is it alright if a man is successful but if a women is, that there are tons of detractors? A female being successful calls for even more celebration, considering the history of “women’s rights” that we all fought for. Sometimes it is in the best interest to be a feminist. I know I am one big feminist, but I am proud of it, as we are tough and strong on the outside, but fragile and extremely emotional on the inside. We are beautiful creatures and we should be proud.

13. Her choice to show emotions

Whether happy or sad, a woman has the ability to choose to show emotions if she chooses to. When someone is happy or sad, or even angry, a person has the ability to choose to show it or not. In this case, we are talking about females. A female has the full right to choose to speak her opinion and show her emotion.

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Last Updated on July 20, 2021

How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)
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You’re standing behind the curtain, just about to make your way on stage to face the many faces half-shrouded in darkness in front of you. As you move towards the spotlight, your body starts to feel heavier with each step. A familiar thump echoes throughout your body – your heartbeat has gone off the charts.

Don’t worry, you’re not the only one with glossophobia(also known as speech anxiety or the fear of speaking to large crowds). Sometimes, the anxiety happens long before you even stand on stage.

Your body’s defence mechanism responds by causing a part of your brain to release adrenaline into your blood – the same chemical that gets released as if you were being chased by a lion.

Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you overcome your fear of public speaking:

1. Prepare yourself mentally and physically

According to experts, we’re built to display anxiety and to recognize it in others. If your body and mind are anxious, your audience will notice. Hence, it’s important to prepare yourself before the big show so that you arrive on stage confident, collected and ready.

“Your outside world is a reflection of your inside world. What goes on in the inside, shows on the outside.” – Bob Proctor

Exercising lightly before a presentation helps get your blood circulating and sends oxygen to the brain. Mental exercises, on the other hand, can help calm the mind and nerves. Here are some useful ways to calm your racing heart when you start to feel the butterflies in your stomach:

Warming up

If you’re nervous, chances are your body will feel the same way. Your body gets tense, your muscles feel tight or you’re breaking in cold sweat. The audience will notice you are nervous.

If you observe that this is exactly what is happening to you minutes before a speech, do a couple of stretches to loosen and relax your body. It’s better to warm up before every speech as it helps to increase the functional potential of the body as a whole. Not only that, it increases muscle efficiency, improves reaction time and your movements.

Here are some exercises to loosen up your body before show time:

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  1. Neck and shoulder rolls – This helps relieve upper body muscle tension and pressure as the rolls focus on rotating the head and shoulders, loosening the muscle. Stress and anxiety can make us rigid within this area which can make you feel agitated, especially when standing.
  2. Arm stretches – We often use this part of our muscles during a speech or presentation through our hand gestures and movements. Stretching these muscles can reduce arm fatigue, loosen you up and improve your body language range.
  3. Waist twists – Place your hands on your hips and rotate your waist in a circular motion. This exercise focuses on loosening the abdominal and lower back regions which is essential as it can cause discomfort and pain, further amplifying any anxieties you may experience.

Stay hydrated

Ever felt parched seconds before speaking? And then coming up on stage sounding raspy and scratchy in front of the audience? This happens because the adrenaline from stage fright causes your mouth to feel dried out.

To prevent all that, it’s essential we stay adequately hydrated before a speech. A sip of water will do the trick. However, do drink in moderation so that you won’t need to go to the bathroom constantly.

Try to avoid sugary beverages and caffeine, since it’s a diuretic – meaning you’ll feel thirstier. It will also amplify your anxiety which prevents you from speaking smoothly.

Meditate

Meditation is well-known as a powerful tool to calm the mind. ABC’s Dan Harris, co-anchor of Nightline and Good Morning America weekend and author of the book titled10% Happier , recommends that meditation can help individuals to feel significantly calmer, faster.

Meditation is like a workout for your mind. It gives you the strength and focus to filter out the negativity and distractions with words of encouragement, confidence and strength.

Mindfulness meditation, in particular, is a popular method to calm yourself before going up on the big stage. The practice involves sitting comfortably, focusing on your breathing and then bringing your mind’s attention to the present without drifting into concerns about the past or future – which likely includes floundering on stage.

Here’s a nice example of guided meditation before public speaking:

2. Focus on your goal

One thing people with a fear of public speaking have in common is focusing too much on themselves and the possibility of failure.

Do I look funny? What if I can’t remember what to say? Do I look stupid? Will people listen to me? Does anyone care about what I’m talking about?’

Instead of thinking this way, shift your attention to your one true purpose – contributing something of value to your audience.

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Decide on the progress you’d like your audience to make after your presentation. Notice their movements and expressions to adapt your speech to ensure that they are having a good time to leave the room as better people.

If your own focus isn’t beneficial and what it should be when you’re speaking, then shift it to what does. This is also key to establishing trust during your presentation as the audience can clearly see that you have their interests at heart.[1]

3. Convert negativity to positivity

There are two sides constantly battling inside of us – one is filled with strength and courage while the other is doubt and insecurities. Which one will you feed?

‘What if I mess up this speech? What if I’m not funny enough? What if I forget what to say?’

It’s no wonder why many of us are uncomfortable giving a presentation. All we do is bring ourselves down before we got a chance to prove ourselves. This is also known as a self-fulfilling prophecy – a belief that comes true because we are acting as if it already is. If you think you’re incompetent, then it will eventually become true.

Motivational coaches tout that positive mantras and affirmations tend to boost your confidents for the moments that matter most. Say to yourself: “I’ll ace this speech and I can do it!”

Take advantage of your adrenaline rush to encourage positive outcome rather than thinking of the negative ‘what ifs’.

Here’s a video of Psychologist Kelly McGonigal who encourages her audience to turn stress into something positive as well as provide methods on how to cope with it:

4. Understand your content

Knowing your content at your fingertips helps reduce your anxiety because there is one less thing to worry about. One way to get there is to practice numerous times before your actual speech.

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However, memorizing your script word-for-word is not encouraged. You can end up freezing should you forget something. You’ll also risk sounding unnatural and less approachable.

“No amount of reading or memorizing will make you successful in life. It is the understanding and the application of wise thought that counts.” – Bob Proctor

Many people unconsciously make the mistake of reading from their slides or memorizing their script word-for-word without understanding their content – a definite way to stress themselves out.

Understanding your speech flow and content makes it easier for you to convert ideas and concepts into your own words which you can then clearly explain to others in a conversational manner. Designing your slides to include text prompts is also an easy hack to ensure you get to quickly recall your flow when your mind goes blank.[2]

One way to understand is to memorize the over-arching concepts or ideas in your pitch. It helps you speak more naturally and let your personality shine through. It’s almost like taking your audience on a journey with a few key milestones.

5. Practice makes perfect

Like most people, many of us are not naturally attuned to public speaking. Rarely do individuals walk up to a large audience and present flawlessly without any research and preparation.

In fact, some of the top presenters make it look easy during showtime because they have spent countless hours behind-the-scenes in deep practice. Even great speakers like the late John F. Kennedy would spend months preparing his speech beforehand.

Public speaking, like any other skill, requires practice – whether it be practicing your speech countless of times in front of a mirror or making notes. As the saying goes, practice makes perfect!

6. Be authentic

There’s nothing wrong with feeling stressed before going up to speak in front of an audience.

Many people fear public speaking because they fear others will judge them for showing their true, vulnerable self. However, vulnerability can sometimes help you come across as more authentic and relatable as a speaker.

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Drop the pretence of trying to act or speak like someone else and you’ll find that it’s worth the risk. You become more genuine, flexible and spontaneous, which makes it easier to handle unpredictable situations – whether it’s getting tough questions from the crowd or experiencing an unexpected technical difficulty.

To find out your authentic style of speaking is easy. Just pick a topic or issue you are passionate about and discuss this like you normally would with a close family or friend. It is like having a conversation with someone in a personal one-to-one setting. A great way to do this on stage is to select a random audience member(with a hopefully calming face) and speak to a single person at a time during your speech. You’ll find that it’s easier trying to connect to one person at a time than a whole room.

With that said, being comfortable enough to be yourself in front of others may take a little time and some experience, depending how comfortable you are with being yourself in front of others. But once you embrace it, stage fright will not be as intimidating as you initially thought.

Presenters like Barack Obama are a prime example of a genuine and passionate speaker:

7. Post speech evaluation

Last but not the least, if you’ve done public speaking and have been scarred from a bad experience, try seeing it as a lesson learned to improve yourself as a speaker.

Don’t beat yourself up after a presentation

We are the hardest on ourselves and it’s good to be. But when you finish delivering your speech or presentation, give yourself some recognition and a pat on the back.

You managed to finish whatever you had to do and did not give up. You did not let your fears and insecurities get to you. Take a little more pride in your work and believe in yourself.

Improve your next speech

As mentioned before, practice does make perfect. If you want to improve your public speaking skills, try asking someone to film you during a speech or presentation. Afterwards, watch and observe what you can do to improve yourself next time.

Here are some questions you can ask yourself after every speech:

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  • How did I do?
  • Are there any areas for improvement?
  • Did I sound or look stressed?
  • Did I stumble on my words? Why?
  • Was I saying “um” too often?
  • How was the flow of the speech?

Write everything you observed down and keep practicing and improving. In time, you’ll be able to better manage your fears of public speaking and appear more confident when it counts.

If you want even more tips about public speaking or delivering a great presentation, check out these articles too:

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