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13 Rights Every Woman Should Bravely Defend For Herself

13 Rights Every Woman Should Bravely Defend For Herself

Every woman is different in her own way. A woman has certain rights of her own that she should rightly assert. There is no difference between males and females. A woman and man have rights that are central to them and their individuality. Here is a list of rights that every woman in the world should bravely defend for herself as she is beautiful no matter what anyone says.

1. Her body no matter how it looks

No woman should have to desperately hate her body because of what people think about her. Why can guys live in peace but women have to resent their bodies? Isn’t this rigged? I definitely think it is. I used to be very skinny and then gained a little weight, and I was criticized during both these phases. I am happy regardless of how I look like because I know I am genuinely a nice person. No one should care about what you look like as long as you are not hurting or “offending” anybody. So, do not be ashamed of who you are. Embrace both inner and outer beauty because you are beautiful no matter what anybody says about you.

2. Her appearance

Be proud of the way you look. Whether tall, short, curvy, skinny, you are original. You can’t be replaced by anyone i

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n this world because you are a one piece person. There is no one on this earth that can match up to you or your standards. Make sure you remind yourself this each day because it’s quite easy to forget and I never want to see you forget this. It is an essential part to your self-esteem and courage. Each women is beautiful in her own way. Never ever let anybody tell you are inferior to anybody else. They are flat out wrong.

3. Her judgment and concern over topics

Everyone is allowed to express concern over topics they find engaging or distressing. Women are entitled to their fair share of judgment and self-expression. Why can a man say his opinion while a women can’t? If men and women are truly equal, then both parties should be able to express their opinions without any tension of the world or other people. All people have a right to voice their opinion regardless of race, creed, or gender for the matter. Be bold, and be blunt! It is not who you are, but it is who you want to be and desire to be.

4. Her relationship status

Women do not always have to be in relationships. Sometimes, finding the right man is hard. Why is it a sin to be single? There is no shame in admitting that one has not found the right person yet. There is a time and place for everything. This includes relationships that are meant to be. A relationship will come when its mean to come. There is no hassle or rush in these sorts of things.

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5. Her choice of a partner

A woman has the right to choose if she wants to be in a relationship or not. There is nobody out in the world that can tell a woman what she can and must do. The key is having confidence in yourself regardless of the outcome. I have learned this from going rock bottom and coming back up again. Relationships are meant for everyone. No one has the right to tell you to live a life determined by their choices or standards. Stand up for yourself and speak when necessary. You are you and nobody can take that away from you!

6. Her want of a relationship

Everyone is allowed a relationship. The same goes for females. Why is a woman criticized in a relationship but a man is not? If a woman wants one that is great. If she doesn’t that is also okay. This plays into our next subtopic of not wanting to have a relationship or choosing to be happy being completely single. Some of the most bravest women are single because they need nobody but themselves in a world (that tends to be cruel all too often).

7. Her denial of a relationship

A relationship will come when it is meant to come. If a woman does not want a relationship, she does not have to have one.There is no rush or no need for a relationship if it just does not come naturally from the heart. When a woman wants to be in a relationship she will vouch to be in one. No one can be in a relationship with someone’s force. Everything comes from the inside.

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8. Her desire for children

Yes, we all see women having children and some not having them. Age is no barrier. A women can conceive anytime she feels like wanting to. A women is inborn with a mother-like instinct. Why must she curb it to fit into society’s thinking?

9. Her happiness or unhappiness

When a woman is not happy, it is alright. She is a human like all other people. She doesn’t constantly have to show that she is on top of the world if she really just feels down in the dumps. Sometimes it is in the best interest to just express yourself even if its not the best emotion. There is nothing better than being yourself and who you exactly are.

10. Her salary

Sometimes it becomes bitter talk when a woman starts earning more money to her male equivalent or partner. It does not matter the gender. It is through hard work and determination that one earns money, based on the context of his or her potential and strong-will. Don’t care about the protractors, believe in yourself, and your dedication, and craft! You are simply amazing the way you are.

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11. Her strong ambitions

Only men do not have the liberty to pursue their passion. Women equally have the right to be ambitious and do what their heart tells them to do. Life is about seizing each of the moments that come your way. A woman is attractive especially when she is independent and what’s to do something on her own terms. She becomes all the more special.

12. Her success

If a female is successful, she should be proud of it, and never try to hide it from others. Why is it alright if a man is successful but if a women is, that there are tons of detractors? A female being successful calls for even more celebration, considering the history of “women’s rights” that we all fought for. Sometimes it is in the best interest to be a feminist. I know I am one big feminist, but I am proud of it, as we are tough and strong on the outside, but fragile and extremely emotional on the inside. We are beautiful creatures and we should be proud.

13. Her choice to show emotions

Whether happy or sad, a woman has the ability to choose to show emotions if she chooses to. When someone is happy or sad, or even angry, a person has the ability to choose to show it or not. In this case, we are talking about females. A female has the full right to choose to speak her opinion and show her emotion.

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Published on April 7, 2021

6 Signs Of A Controlling Person To Be Aware Of

6 Signs Of A Controlling Person To Be Aware Of

Some of the most manipulative people are so good at what they do that their words and actions can convince you into thinking they truly care about what’s best for you when in reality, it’s quite the opposite. The most common signs of a controlling person are rarely obvious to outside observers. And for someone enmeshed in a controlling relationship or friendship, it can be incredibly challenging to stay away from this toxic person, even if you’re aware of their emotionally abusive tendencies.

While it’s ultimately up to you to decide whether to preserve or leave a lopsided, unfulfilling relationship, it’s nevertheless critical to understand the following six signs of controlling people so you can better advocate for yourself and mitigate the influence of their manipulative tendencies in your own life.

1. They Push Their Own Personal Agenda

Do you know someone who always tries to micromanage the words, behaviors, and attitudes of people around them? Does this person act like they have the right to know anything they want about you, including your location, what you’re doing in a given moment, who you’re talking to online, or any other private information about you? And when planning events and special occasions, does this person dominate conversations, steer plans in their own preferred directions, disparage others’ suggestions, and refuse to collaborate with anyone who might disagree with them?

If you answered “yes” to some of the above questions, then those are clear signs of a controlling person whom you absolutely need to be cautious around. Controlling people are reluctant to even consider alternative ideas, let alone enthusiastically work with people who have differing views. They prefer to be the captain of every ship—regardless of how much or how little an issue personally impacts them—and they have an arsenal of manipulative tactics to deploy if someone stands in the way of them achieving their own personal agendas.

In long-term relationships with controlling people, you may feel constantly pressured to meet their demands, follow their schedule, and focus on whatever they feel is most important. It’s not an exaggeration to say that these people act like the universe revolves around them, which can be exhausting to deal with for their family members, friends, and colleagues.

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2. They Make Everything Transactional

Controlling people aren’t always self-centered, but they’re not too empathetic either. Empathy for them tends to appear in the form of strategic concessions they use as a means to get what they want. They typically view interpersonal relationships as transactional opportunities to extract more value from people surrounding them, which can have a draining effect on those they interact with.

For example, one sign of a controlling person may be their insistence on “keeping score.” This can involve doing nice things for you with the ulterior motive of demanding something from you at a later date in exchange for what you thought was just an act of kindness or a friendly support.

Perhaps they shower you in praise (also known as “love-bombing”) or gifts then blow up at you if you don’t intuitively know they’re expecting something back from you. None of us are mind-readers, but controlling people behave as though everyone else should think and act like they want others to and those who fall out of line are punished for failing to meet their impossible expectations.

A controlling person may also threaten to withhold support if you don’t adhere to their demands, but they do so in such subtle ways that the guilt they impose blinds you from the unreasonable nature of their behaviors.

Some statements to be wary of include:

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  • “I did ___________ for you. What do you mean you can’t do ___________ for me?”
  • “Remember how I helped you with ___________? That took a lot of time and energy from me, but I guess you didn’t appreciate my help.”
  • “I always give you ___________. Don’t you care about my needs too?”
  • “You’re so selfish!” or “You don’t care about me at all!” (gaslighting if you respond with hesitation or politely decline their request for help for perfectly valid reasons, such as not having enough time or resources to assist them)

3. They Criticize Everything

One of the most common telltale signs of a controlling person is their capacity to criticize anything and everything, even small things that seemingly don’t matter. As with many toxic traits in relationships, these problems typically start out so small that you may not even notice. At first, you may even agree with their criticism or at least be able to understand their perspective when they bring up an issue.

However, the criticism tends to get more intense, more constant, and more perplexing for people who maintain relationships with controlling people. You’ll likely notice how they rarely seem to criticize something they do. It’s almost always other-oriented and these types of people are so manipulative that any rationale they offer can seem plausibly legitimate.

Some warning signs of a controlling person who’s overly critical to the point of abusiveness include:

  • Criticizing things about you that you have little to no control over (e.g., appearance, disability, family)
  • Criticizing your personal choices and interests, such as educational pursuits, career, clothing, favorite music, time spent on your hobbies, etc.
  • Punishing you for expressing vulnerability by invalidating thoughts and feelings you share with them
  • Attacking you whenever you express an opinion counter to theirs

4. They Balk When Someone Criticizes Them

We all know the adage, “what goes around, comes around.” But this statement doesn’t apply as much to toxic, controlling people. They’d much prefer to dish out criticism without ever having to take it in return.

For instance, if your friend constantly talks about your appearance with little regard for your emotions but flips out if you make just a single comment about their appearance, there’s a possibility that they could have some hidden controlling tendencies left unchecked. Remember, these people aren’t just controlling in their behaviors towards others. They’re also actively trying to stay in complete control over every aspect of their lives, which includes how others view them.

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This seemingly insatiable desire for control can prompt them to lash out against even the smallest bits of criticism, leaving people around them too weary or scared to speak up again in the future. While it’s possible they may suffer from something called rejection sensitivity dysphoria, this does not excuse them from the consequences of their words and actions. They should seek professional help to better manage their reactions to criticism.

5. They Socially Isolate You

Not all controlling people do this, but for manipulative narcissists, socially isolating victims is a go-to strategy for maintaining control because it’s effective at preventing people from truly understanding how toxic their partner, family member, or friend is treating them. Think of it this way—if you don’t talk to many other people in your life, there’s less of a risk that you’ll damage their reputation by revealing their abusive tendencies.

Socially isolating others also gives the person more control over you and your life as it becomes more difficult to break away from them if you don’t have other healthier channels of communication and interpersonal support to turn to.

This process doesn’t happen overnight, nor is it something you can readily recognize as abusive. At first, it may seem reasonable, such as asking you to stop engaging so often with family members with whom both of you disagree on major social or political issues. As the social isolation progresses, they may suggest cutting people out of your life—especially if they don’t like that person, regardless of how you personally feel—or even conjure up high-stakes problems like “it’s me or them” under the guise of saving you from people in your life whom they don’t like for whatever reason.

In a controlling person’s life narrative, they’re always the protagonist who’s incapable of any wrongdoing. The blame is always redirected at someone else, whether that’s you or other people in your life. The more they isolate you from other supportive people in your life, the more susceptible you’ll be to falsely believing that they’re right and you “don’t need” your other friends and family when you have someone as perfect as this person.

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6. They’re Emotionally Abusive

It’s hard enough to be in control of your own emotions but when someone else is constantly belittling you and your interests or leveraging guilt and shame to manipulate you into saying or doing what they want, this can make it even more challenging to stay in control of your own life and emotional well-being.

Emotional abuse is another sign of a controlling person that is often overlooked in relationships. After all, human personalities vary widely in terms of passivity, and it’s not uncommon for one person in a relationship to be significantly more passive than the other. This becomes an issue when the controlling partner or friend exudes signs of emotional abuse, which can start subtly and become much more pronounced over time.

Concerning signs of emotionally abusive language or behavior to watch out for include:

  • Dismissing your needs and/or belittling your interests in counterproductive ways
  • Privately or publicly shaming or humiliating you
  • Making you feel as though you can never live up to their expectations or do anything right (according to their own vague, subjective standards)
  • Gaslighting you into thinking they said or did something that never actually happened (making you question your own reality)

Final Thoughts

It’s sometimes hard to see the negative things about someone with whom we have a relationship. We may sometimes unconsciously overlook the signs of a controlling person, especially if that person is someone we have known for a long time or are close to us. However, cutting them off your life is the best thing you can do for yourself. Just watch out for these six signs of a controlling person and take immediate action when you spot them.

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