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Advantages to Marrying Your High School Sweetheart

Advantages to Marrying Your High School Sweetheart

Most people advise against marrying your high school sweetheart. There are a myriad of different reasons from not being able to experience dating others to being married too young. Despite the negative connotation, there are also a lot of benefits as well that are not often mentioned. It is rare, but personally for me having friends who were high school sweethearts and later went on to get married proved that it works for some couples. Read on to learn why building your life with someone who you have dated since you were a teen can be a really positive thing.

1. You will never have to worry about the holidays

When you get married the inevitable question of where you will spend the holidays comes up. If you and your spouse come from hometowns on the opposite sides of the country it can make this situation even more problematic. Marrying someone from your hometown means that you will never have this issue. No more fighting over which side of the family you will see for Thanksgiving and which side you will see for Christmas. Phew!

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    2. You will have someone by your side who watched you mature and grow

    Looking back on your teenage years, there are some things that make you laugh in disbelief and sometimes in embarrassment. Having a spouse that was right there for all those awkward moments (!) and can share your stories of youth firsthand is something special that you two will always share. Watching each other grow up into the adults today can make you appreciate each other more, knowing how far you both have come.

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      3. You know you will have someone who is willing to stick it out through the hard times

      High school is not always the easiest time and having someone who was willing to help navigate those times with you is a keeper. From self-confidence issues to fighting with your parents, it is nice to have a spouse who was a great support system in those years! You’ve been through the tough stuff and you know they will continue to be by your side during future hardships.

      4. You will have someone by your side that knows how to ride out rough patches in your relationship

      Long-term relationships that begin in high school have their fair share of hardships that couples have to endure. Whether it was going through a temporary separation in junior year or suffering the heartache of long-distance relationships, you as a couple have seen it all! Being able to survive the ups and downs of a longtime relationship makes you that much more resilient as a married couple.

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        5. You got to be there for each others’ important life milestones

        Graduating high school together, being there for each others’ college graduations, navigating the real world together. Having a spouse who you have shared these important milestones together with is priceless. You do not have to explain certain significant moments in your life, because you spouse was a firsthand witness to all of them and vice versa.

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        6. You have some who knows what you were like when you were young

        Most people when they get married only know their spouses as adults, with many different responsibilities. Marry someone from high school means that you knew your spouse from way back when they were carefree teenagers! Remember what it was like when you did not have to worry about rent, taxes and career goals? Knowing your spouse from their high school years give you an extra perspective on the person you married and also give you the ability to remind them to embrace their younger self every once in awhile when they are struggling under the weight of adult responsibilities.

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        The ability to take risks by stepping outside your comfort zone is the primary way by which we grow. But we are often afraid to take that first step.

        In truth, comfort zones are not really about comfort, they are about fear. Break the chains of fear to get outside. Once you do, you will learn to enjoy the process of taking risks and growing in the process.

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        Take the list of discomforts and go deeper. Remember, the primary emotion you are trying to overcome is fear.

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        Are you afraid of walking up to people and introducing yourself in social situations? Why? Is it because you are insecure about the sound of your voice? Are you insecure about your looks?

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        One way to get outside of your comfort zone is to literally expand it. Make it a goal to avoid running away from discomfort.

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        Many highly successful people failed plenty of times before they succeeded. Here’re some examples:

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