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Advantages to Marrying Your High School Sweetheart

Advantages to Marrying Your High School Sweetheart

Most people advise against marrying your high school sweetheart. There are a myriad of different reasons from not being able to experience dating others to being married too young. Despite the negative connotation, there are also a lot of benefits as well that are not often mentioned. It is rare, but personally for me having friends who were high school sweethearts and later went on to get married proved that it works for some couples. Read on to learn why building your life with someone who you have dated since you were a teen can be a really positive thing.

1. You will never have to worry about the holidays

When you get married the inevitable question of where you will spend the holidays comes up. If you and your spouse come from hometowns on the opposite sides of the country it can make this situation even more problematic. Marrying someone from your hometown means that you will never have this issue. No more fighting over which side of the family you will see for Thanksgiving and which side you will see for Christmas. Phew!

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    2. You will have someone by your side who watched you mature and grow

    Looking back on your teenage years, there are some things that make you laugh in disbelief and sometimes in embarrassment. Having a spouse that was right there for all those awkward moments (!) and can share your stories of youth firsthand is something special that you two will always share. Watching each other grow up into the adults today can make you appreciate each other more, knowing how far you both have come.

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      3. You know you will have someone who is willing to stick it out through the hard times

      High school is not always the easiest time and having someone who was willing to help navigate those times with you is a keeper. From self-confidence issues to fighting with your parents, it is nice to have a spouse who was a great support system in those years! You’ve been through the tough stuff and you know they will continue to be by your side during future hardships.

      4. You will have someone by your side that knows how to ride out rough patches in your relationship

      Long-term relationships that begin in high school have their fair share of hardships that couples have to endure. Whether it was going through a temporary separation in junior year or suffering the heartache of long-distance relationships, you as a couple have seen it all! Being able to survive the ups and downs of a longtime relationship makes you that much more resilient as a married couple.

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        5. You got to be there for each others’ important life milestones

        Graduating high school together, being there for each others’ college graduations, navigating the real world together. Having a spouse who you have shared these important milestones together with is priceless. You do not have to explain certain significant moments in your life, because you spouse was a firsthand witness to all of them and vice versa.

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        6. You have some who knows what you were like when you were young

        Most people when they get married only know their spouses as adults, with many different responsibilities. Marry someone from high school means that you knew your spouse from way back when they were carefree teenagers! Remember what it was like when you did not have to worry about rent, taxes and career goals? Knowing your spouse from their high school years give you an extra perspective on the person you married and also give you the ability to remind them to embrace their younger self every once in awhile when they are struggling under the weight of adult responsibilities.

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        Last Updated on December 10, 2019

        5 Smart Reasons to Start Journal Writing Today

        5 Smart Reasons to Start Journal Writing Today

        Here’s the truth: your effectiveness at life is not what it could be. You’re missing out.

        Each day passes by and you have nothing to prove that it even happened. Did you achieve something? Go on a date? Have an emotional breakthrough? Who knows?

        But what you do know is that you don’t want to make the same mistakes that you’ve made in the past.

        Our lives are full of hidden gems of knowledge and insight, and the most recent events in our lives contain the most useful gems of all. Do you know why? It’s simple, those hidden lessons are the most up to date, meaning they have the largest impact on what we’re doing right now.

        But the question is, how do you get those lessons? There’s a simple way to do it, and it doesn’t involve time machines:

        Journal writing.

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        Improved mental clarity, the ability to see our lives in the big picture, as well as serving as a piece of evidence cataloguing every success we’ve ever had; we are provided all of the above and more by doing some journal writing.

        Journal writing is a useful and flexible tool to help shed light on achieving your goals.

        Here’s 5 smart reasons why you should do journal writing:

        1. Journals Help You Have a Better Connection with Your Values, Emotions, and Goals

        By journaling about what you believe in, why you believe it, how you feel, and what your goals are, you understand your relationships with these things better. This is because you must sort through the mental clutter and provide details on why you do what you do and feel what you feel.

        Consider this:

        Perhaps you’ve spent the last year or so working at a job you don’t like. It would be easy to just suck it up and keep working with your head down, going on as if it’s supposed to be normal to not like your job. Nobody else is complaining, so why should you, right?

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        But a little journal writing will set things straight for you. You don’t like your job. You feel like it’s robbing you of happiness and satisfaction, and you don’t see yourself better there in the future.

        The other workers? Maybe they don’t know, maybe they don’t care. But you do, you know and care enough to do something about it. And you’re capable of fixing this problem because your journal writing allows you to finally be honest with yourself about it.

        2. Journals Improve Mental Clarity and Help Improve Your Focus

        If there’s one thing journal writing is good for, it’s clearing the mental clutter.

        How does it work? Simply, whenever you have a problem and write about it in a journal, you transfer the problem from your head to the paper. This empties the mind, allowing allocation of precious resources to problem-solving rather than problem-storing.

        Let’s say you’ve been juggling several tasks at work. You’ve got data entry, testing, e-mails, problems with the boss, and so on—enough to overwhelm you—but as you start journal writing, things become clearer and easier to understand: Data entry can actually wait till Thursday; Bill kindly offered earlier to do my testing; For e-mails, I can check them now; the boss is just upset because Becky called in sick, etc.

        You become better able to focus and reason your tasks out, and this is an indispensable and useful skill to have.

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        3. Journals Improve Insight and Understanding

        As a positive consequence of improving your mental clarity, you become more open to insights you may have missed before. As you write your notes out, you’re essentially having a dialogue with yourself. This draws out insights that you would have missed otherwise; it’s almost as if two people are working together to better understand each other. This kind of insight is only available to the person who has taken the time to connect with and understand themselves in the form of writing.

        Once you’ve gotten a few entries written down, new insights can be gleaned from reading over them. What themes do you see in your life? Do you keep switching goals halfway through? Are you constantly dating the same type of people who aren’t good for you? Have you slowly but surely pushed people out of your life for fear of being hurt?

        All of these questions can be answered by simply self-reflecting, but you can only discover the answers if you’ve captured them in writing. These questions are going to be tough to answer without a journal of your actions and experiences.

        4. Journals Track Your Overall Development

        Life happens, and it can happen fast. Sometimes we don’t take the time to stop and look around at what’s happening to us at each moment. We don’t get to see the step-by-step progress that we’re making in our own lives. So what happens? One day it’s the future, and you have no idea how you’ve gotten there.

        Journal writing allows you to see how you’ve changed over time, so you can see where you did things right, and you can see where you took a misstep and fell.

        The great thing about journals is that you’ll know what that misstep was, and you can make sure it doesn’t happen again—all because you made sure to log it, allowing yourself to learn from your mistakes.

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        5. Journals Facilitate Personal Growth

        The best thing about journal writing is that no matter what you end up writing about, it’s hard to not grow from it. You can’t just look at a past entry in which you acted shamefully and say “that was dumb, anyway!” No, we say “I will never make a dumb choice like that again!”

        It’s impossible not to grow when it comes to journal writing. That’s what makes journal writing such a powerful tool, whether it’s about achieving goals, becoming a better person, or just general personal-development. No matter what you use it for, you’ll eventually see yourself growing as a person.

        Kickstart Journaling

        How can journaling best be of use to you? To vent your emotions? To help achieve your goals? To help clear your mind? What do you think makes journaling such a useful life skill?

        Know the answer? Then it’s about time you reap the benefits of journal writing and start putting pen to paper.

        Here’s what you can do to start journaling:

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