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Advantages to Marrying Your High School Sweetheart

Advantages to Marrying Your High School Sweetheart

Most people advise against marrying your high school sweetheart. There are a myriad of different reasons from not being able to experience dating others to being married too young. Despite the negative connotation, there are also a lot of benefits as well that are not often mentioned. It is rare, but personally for me having friends who were high school sweethearts and later went on to get married proved that it works for some couples. Read on to learn why building your life with someone who you have dated since you were a teen can be a really positive thing.

1. You will never have to worry about the holidays

When you get married the inevitable question of where you will spend the holidays comes up. If you and your spouse come from hometowns on the opposite sides of the country it can make this situation even more problematic. Marrying someone from your hometown means that you will never have this issue. No more fighting over which side of the family you will see for Thanksgiving and which side you will see for Christmas. Phew!

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    2. You will have someone by your side who watched you mature and grow

    Looking back on your teenage years, there are some things that make you laugh in disbelief and sometimes in embarrassment. Having a spouse that was right there for all those awkward moments (!) and can share your stories of youth firsthand is something special that you two will always share. Watching each other grow up into the adults today can make you appreciate each other more, knowing how far you both have come.

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      3. You know you will have someone who is willing to stick it out through the hard times

      High school is not always the easiest time and having someone who was willing to help navigate those times with you is a keeper. From self-confidence issues to fighting with your parents, it is nice to have a spouse who was a great support system in those years! You’ve been through the tough stuff and you know they will continue to be by your side during future hardships.

      4. You will have someone by your side that knows how to ride out rough patches in your relationship

      Long-term relationships that begin in high school have their fair share of hardships that couples have to endure. Whether it was going through a temporary separation in junior year or suffering the heartache of long-distance relationships, you as a couple have seen it all! Being able to survive the ups and downs of a longtime relationship makes you that much more resilient as a married couple.

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        5. You got to be there for each others’ important life milestones

        Graduating high school together, being there for each others’ college graduations, navigating the real world together. Having a spouse who you have shared these important milestones together with is priceless. You do not have to explain certain significant moments in your life, because you spouse was a firsthand witness to all of them and vice versa.

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        6. You have some who knows what you were like when you were young

        Most people when they get married only know their spouses as adults, with many different responsibilities. Marry someone from high school means that you knew your spouse from way back when they were carefree teenagers! Remember what it was like when you did not have to worry about rent, taxes and career goals? Knowing your spouse from their high school years give you an extra perspective on the person you married and also give you the ability to remind them to embrace their younger self every once in awhile when they are struggling under the weight of adult responsibilities.

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        7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

        7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

        When giving a presentation or speech, you have to engage your audience effectively in order to truly get your point across. Unlike a written editorial or newsletter, your speech is fleeting; once you’ve said everything you set out to say, you don’t get a second chance to have your voice heard in that specific arena.

        You need to make sure your audience hangs on to every word you say, from your introduction to your wrap-up. You can do so by:

        1. Connecting them with each other

        Picture your typical rock concert. What’s the first thing the singer says to the crowd after jumping out on stage? “Hello (insert city name here)!” Just acknowledging that he’s coherent enough to know where he is is enough for the audience to go wild and get into the show.

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        It makes each individual feel as if they’re a part of something bigger. The same goes for any public speaking event. When an audience hears, “You’re all here because you care deeply about wildlife preservation,” it gives them a sense that they’re not just there to listen, but they’re there to connect with the like-minded people all around them.

        2. Connect with their emotions

        Speakers always try to get their audience emotionally involved in whatever topic they’re discussing. There are a variety of ways in which to do this, such as using statistics, stories, pictures or videos that really show the importance of the topic at hand.

        For example, showing pictures of the aftermath of an accident related to drunk driving will certainly send a specific message to an audience of teenagers and young adults. While doing so might be emotionally nerve-racking to the crowd, it may be necessary to get your point across and engage them fully.

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        3. Keep going back to the beginning

        Revisit your theme throughout your presentation. Although you should give your audience the credit they deserve and know that they can follow along, linking back to your initial thesis can act as a subconscious reminder of why what you’re currently telling them is important.

        On the other hand, if you simply mention your theme or the point of your speech at the beginning and never mention it again, it gives your audience the impression that it’s not really that important.

        4. Link to your audience’s motivation

        After you’ve acknowledged your audience’s common interests in being present, discuss their motivation for being there. Be specific. Using the previous example, if your audience clearly cares about wildlife preservation, discuss what can be done to help save endangered species’ from extinction.

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        Don’t just give them cold, hard facts; use the facts to make a point that they can use to better themselves or the world in some way.

        5. Entertain them

        While not all speeches or presentations are meant to be entertaining in a comedic way, audiences will become thoroughly engaged in anecdotes that relate to the overall theme of the speech. We discussed appealing to emotions, and that’s exactly what a speaker sets out to do when he tells a story from his past or that of a well-known historical figure.

        Speakers usually tell more than one story in order to show that the first one they told isn’t simply an anomaly, and that whatever outcome they’re attempting to prove will consistently reoccur, given certain circumstances.

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        6. Appeal to loyalty

        Just like the musician mentioning the town he’s playing in will get the audience ready to rock, speakers need to appeal to their audience’s loyalty to their country, company, product or cause. Show them how important it is that they’re present and listening to your speech by making your words hit home to each individual.

        In doing so, the members of your audience will feel as if you’re speaking directly to them while you’re addressing the entire crowd.

        7. Tell them the benefits of the presentation

        Early on in your presentation, you should tell your audience exactly what they’ll learn, and exactly how they’ll learn it. Don’t expect them to listen if they don’t have clear-cut information to listen for. On the other hand, if they know what to listen for, they’ll be more apt to stay engaged throughout your entire presentation so they don’t miss anything.

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