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15 Things Only Girls Who Fall In Love With Their Gay Friends Can Understand

15 Things Only Girls Who Fall In Love With Their Gay Friends Can Understand

You have a friend who is smart, hot, sophisticated, fun, good-looking and sexy. You feel they are perfect and you want to be with them forever. But one more thing, they are gay. There is just everything that can be right in the relationship except any romantic involvement. And you have to understand these things:

You know everything can’t be perfect

Whether you think it right or not, you suddenly know that this person cannot be for you. You want to explore options but whatever you think of and try to picture will not just be the perfect story.

You know that they will always want to be friends

There is nothing as difficult or as straining as reaching a point where things just become stagnated. There is really no progress in the relationship.

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You will always be in love with that person

You love the person but somehow even while there are prospects for being better friends, things won’t just go beyond that.

They have a way of making you stay in their lives

They don’t make you go away. You may be uncomfortable with the way things are or how you have become great friends without any romantic displays but you must admit that they have a way of becoming relevant in your world.

You daydream of possibilities

You ask yourself questions of how things would have been if they were straight.

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You wonder why things cannot happen the way you want it to

Such fantasies will only help you develop better understanding of who they really are and you are okay with it.

You hate the situation but you love the closeness

You do not like things working out the way you want it to, but you must admit that you love the closeness in the relationship because you can tell them almost anything and they can tell you almost anything. You become comfortable with revealing yourself to them.

You know it may never be over

What happens between you two would never be over. At least the thoughts of it will always linger. The thoughts of you never being together will always hurt in a way.

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You become stronger

The situation somehow makes you emotionally stronger over time. You start becoming aware of the way things are and you are okay.

You have nostalgic feelings

The feeling you have can be sometimes nostalgic because you are happy that you found them regardless of the dissimilarities. As they say what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. This applies in this case also.

You sometimes feel stupid

You sometimes feel you are in the wrong and that you are not good enough or something.

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You feel vulnerable

When you are with them it is hard to be in control of your feelings. You wish you were never caught up in the drama and you have to start learning how to deal with the situation you are in.

You deny reality for a while

You wanted to think that things would change and that they will be yours somehow. You wanted to fight reality and waltz into some place different where things were different and they loved you just as much as you love them. You wanted to be with him so bad that you fought the certainty of facts that you would never be with him.

You cry a lot

You can’t say everything because words cannot express how you feel. Your heart breaks in small pieces and you try to figure out whose fault it is after all. But you cannot point fingers or blame anyone but assume the responsibility of being in love with the wrong person.

You understand that things would definitely work out

At some point you understand that the world is not against you but there are other persons out there who want a perfect relationship with you. You can learn to be optimistic rather than becoming a victim of your emotions and loving someone who is gay.

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Why It’s Never Too Late To Redefine Yourself

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The ability to reinvent and redefine yourself is a bold, daring and purposeful choice. It doesn’t just happen. You have to make a conscious, intentional choice and then follow through.

If the thought of forging a new path, changing habits, thought patterns and your inner circle of friends scares you – you’re not alone. Change can be a very scary thing. It takes courage, fortitude and a bit of faith to decide to shed your old self and don a new persona. However, it is one of the most critical processes one must repeatedly endure in the pursuit of destiny. Change unlocks new levels of potential.

The Need for Change

Everyday when we wake up, we make a decision. We decide to follow our routine or we decide to go off script and shake things up a bit. For those who are creatures of habit, routine is comfortable, easy and produces very little stress. The problem with this is, after a while you stop growing.

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We all reinvent ourselves at some point in our lives. It is absolutely necessary to achieve certain levels of success.

Reflect back on who you were as a teenager and then who you were at 25. Those are two very different people. Most of us are completely different. Your thought patterns changed, your appearance, job, level of education and even your friends– changed. We like to refer to this as “growing up” or maturing and consider it to be one of life’s natural progressions. However the changes you made were purposeful and deliberate.

This process must be a lifelong and continuous cycle. You are never too old to refresh yourself.

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    Signs It’s Time to Redefine

    “Just as established products and brands need updating to stay alive and vibrant, you periodically need to refresh or reinvent yourself.”– Mireille Guiliano

    So how do you know when it’s time for a system upgrade? There are signs along the way that alert you that it is time for an overhaul. The first sign is the feeling of being stuck. If you feel like you are in a rut, you’re bored with life or you need some newness and excitement, a self reinvention may be in order. Re-evaluate your life vision and your goals. Is that vision still valid and are your goals consistent with your vision and–are they achievable? If you are off course, it’s time for a change. If you are not moving forward and making progress, it’s time for a change.

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    In life, there’s no such thing as neutrality–you’re either moving forward or you are moving backward. Time constantly moves forward and if you are standing still, you are actually losing ground. No matter your age or stage in life– there is always room for improvement.

    “You’re never too old to set another goal or dream a new dream.” ~C. S. Lewis

    The second sign that you are due for a change is the occurrence of major life events in which change is forced upon you. Getting married, starting a new job, being promoted, ending a relationship, becoming a parenting or relocating are all prime opportunities to completely overhaul your life.

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    When these major shifts occur in your life–you have to shift with them. You can’t have a single mentality and have a successful marriage. You can’t remain selfish and irresponsible, and raise a healthy, well-adjusted child. You can’t be promoted to a supervisory position and keep the same subordinate attitude. Each level of success requires something different from you.

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      Consider, for a moment, Arnold Schwarzenegger. People may have different opinions about his character and some of his life choices, but he is a master at reinventing himself. He achieved the ultimate success as a professional body builder by earning the title “Mr. Universe” three times. He then earned a tremendous amount of fame and fortune in the entertainment industry making action/adventure films. And in his latest role, he served two terms as the Governor of California. He succeeded as a professional body builder, a film star and a politician. Each role required massive amounts of change, commitment, strength and hard work.

      And if Arnold can do it…so can you!

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