Advertising
Advertising

15 Things Only Girls Who Fall In Love With Their Gay Friends Can Understand

15 Things Only Girls Who Fall In Love With Their Gay Friends Can Understand

You have a friend who is smart, hot, sophisticated, fun, good-looking and sexy. You feel they are perfect and you want to be with them forever. But one more thing, they are gay. There is just everything that can be right in the relationship except any romantic involvement. And you have to understand these things:

You know everything can’t be perfect

Whether you think it right or not, you suddenly know that this person cannot be for you. You want to explore options but whatever you think of and try to picture will not just be the perfect story.

You know that they will always want to be friends

There is nothing as difficult or as straining as reaching a point where things just become stagnated. There is really no progress in the relationship.

Advertising

You will always be in love with that person

You love the person but somehow even while there are prospects for being better friends, things won’t just go beyond that.

They have a way of making you stay in their lives

They don’t make you go away. You may be uncomfortable with the way things are or how you have become great friends without any romantic displays but you must admit that they have a way of becoming relevant in your world.

You daydream of possibilities

You ask yourself questions of how things would have been if they were straight.

Advertising

You wonder why things cannot happen the way you want it to

Such fantasies will only help you develop better understanding of who they really are and you are okay with it.

You hate the situation but you love the closeness

You do not like things working out the way you want it to, but you must admit that you love the closeness in the relationship because you can tell them almost anything and they can tell you almost anything. You become comfortable with revealing yourself to them.

You know it may never be over

What happens between you two would never be over. At least the thoughts of it will always linger. The thoughts of you never being together will always hurt in a way.

Advertising

You become stronger

The situation somehow makes you emotionally stronger over time. You start becoming aware of the way things are and you are okay.

You have nostalgic feelings

The feeling you have can be sometimes nostalgic because you are happy that you found them regardless of the dissimilarities. As they say what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. This applies in this case also.

You sometimes feel stupid

You sometimes feel you are in the wrong and that you are not good enough or something.

Advertising

You feel vulnerable

When you are with them it is hard to be in control of your feelings. You wish you were never caught up in the drama and you have to start learning how to deal with the situation you are in.

You deny reality for a while

You wanted to think that things would change and that they will be yours somehow. You wanted to fight reality and waltz into some place different where things were different and they loved you just as much as you love them. You wanted to be with him so bad that you fought the certainty of facts that you would never be with him.

You cry a lot

You can’t say everything because words cannot express how you feel. Your heart breaks in small pieces and you try to figure out whose fault it is after all. But you cannot point fingers or blame anyone but assume the responsibility of being in love with the wrong person.

You understand that things would definitely work out

At some point you understand that the world is not against you but there are other persons out there who want a perfect relationship with you. You can learn to be optimistic rather than becoming a victim of your emotions and loving someone who is gay.

Featured photo credit: http://www.pixabay.com via pixabay.com

More by this author

Casey Imafidon

Specialized in motivation and personal growth, providing advice to make readers fulfilled and spurred on to achieve all that they desire in life.

Master These 15 Skills for Success to Get Ahead in Your Career 15 Signs Of Self-Absorbed People Follow This Simple Success Formula to Stop Feeling Stuck in Life 20 Signs You’re A Charming Person Though You Are Not Aware 6 Reasons Why You Don’t Love The Person You Cheat On, Even If You Claim You Do

Trending in Communication

1 10 Websites To Learn Something New In 30 Minutes A Day 2 7 Most Difficult Languages In The World to Learn For English Speakers 3 6 Ways to Be a Successful Risk Taker and Take More Chances 4 12 Signs You Are A Lifelong Learner 5 40 Ways to Achieve Peace Of Mind and Inner Calm

Read Next

Advertising
Advertising
Advertising

Last Updated on June 19, 2019

6 Ways to Be a Successful Risk Taker and Take More Chances

6 Ways to Be a Successful Risk Taker and Take More Chances

I’ve stood on the edge of my own personal cliffs many times. Each time I jumped, something different happened. There were risks that started off great, but eventually faded. There were risks that left me falling until I hit the ground. There were risks that started slow, but built into massive successes.

Every risk is different, but every risk is the same. You need to have some fundamentals ready before you jump, but not too many.

It wouldn’t be a risk if you knew everything that was about to happen, would it? Here’re 6 ways to be a successful risk taker.

1. Understand That Failure Is Going to Happen a Lot

It’s part of life. Everything we do has failure attached to it. All successful people have stories of massive failure attached to them. Thinking that your risk is going to be pain free and run as smooth as silk is insane.

Expect some pain and failure. Actually, expect a lot of it. Expect the sleepless nights with crazy thoughts of insecurity that leave you trembling under the covers. It’s going to happen, no matter how positive you are about the risk you are about to take.

When failure hits, the only options are to keep going or quit. If you expect falling into a meadow of flowers and frolicking unicorns, then you’re going to immediately quit once you realize that getting to that meadow requires you to go through a rock filled cave filled with hungry bats.

2. Trust the Muse

Writing a story isn’t a big risk. It’s really just a risk on my time. So when I start writing a story, I’m scared it will be time wasted. Of course, it never really is. Even if the story doesn’t turn out fabulous, I still practiced.

Advertising

When I’ve taken risks in my life, the successful ones always seemed to happen when I followed the muse. Steven Pressfield describes the muse,

“The Muse demands depth. Shallow does not work for her. If we’re seeking her help, we can’t stay in the kiddie end. When we work, we have to go hard and go deep.”

The muse is a goddess who wants our attention and wants us to work on our passion.

If you’re taking a risk in anything, it’s assumed that there is some passion built up behind that risk. That passion, deep inside you, is the muse. Trust it, focus on it, listen to it.

The most successful articles and stories I write are the ones I’ve focused all my attention on. There were no interruptions during their creative development. I didn’t check my phone or go watch my Twitter feed. I was fully engaged in my work.

Trust the muse, focus your attention on your risk, let the ideas and path develop themselves, and leave the distractions at the side of the road.

3. Remember to Be Authentic

Taking a risk and then turning into something you’re not, is only going to lead to disaster. Whether you are risking a new relationship or new opportunity, you must be yourself throughout the entire process.

Advertising

How many times have you acted like you loved something just because the men or woman you just started going out with loved it?

For example, I’m not an office worker. I have an incredibly hard time working in a confined timeline (ie. 9-5). That’s why I write. I can do it whenever the mood strikes, I don’t have somebody breathing down my neck, telling me that I’m five minutes late, or missed a comma somewhere. I don’t have to walk on eggshells wondering if what I’m writing will get me fired or make me lose a promotion. I can just be myself, period.

One girlfriend didn’t understand that. She believed solely in the 9-5 motto, specifically something in human resources because that was a very stable job. I was scared for my future, but I stuck with the relationship because of my own insecurities and acted like I would do it to make her happy.

Here’s a tip: NEVER take away from your happiness to make somebody else satisfied (note I didn’t say happy).

Making somebody else happy will make you happy. Doing something to satisfy somebody is murder on your soul.

4. Don’t Take Any Risks While You’re Not Clearheaded

I’d been considering the risk for a couple weeks. It all sounded good. I was 22 and I could be rich in a couple of years. That’s what they were selling me, anyways.

One night, while at a house party with some friends, I found myself at a computer. A couple of my friends were standing nearby and asked me what I was doing. I told them I was considering starting my own business and it was only going to cost me $1,500.

Advertising

Of course, when a bunch of drunk people are surrounded by more drunk people, things get enthusiastic. It sounded like the best business venture in the world to everybody, including me. So I signed up and gave them my credit card number.

A few painful months and close to $4,000 dollars lost later, I quit the business. I was young and fell into the pyramid scheme trap. It was an expensive drunk decision.

Drinking heavily and making decisions has a proven track record of failure. So when you have something important to decide, don’t let your emotions take over your brain.

5. Fully Understand What You’re Risking

It was the start of my baseball comeback. I got a tryout with a professional scout and killed it. After the tryout, he talked to my girlfriend and myself, making sure we understood I would be gone for up to 6 months at a time. That strain on the relationship could be tough.

We understood. I left to play ball, chose to stay in the city I played in, and a year later we broke up. Not because of baseball, see point 3 above. Taking big risks can have massive impacts on everything in your life from relationships to money. Know what you’re risking before you take the risk.

If you believe the risk will be worth it or you have the support you need from your family, then go ahead and make the leap.

You can get more guidance on how to take calculated risks from this article: How to Take Calculated Risk to Achieve More and Become Successful

Advertising

6. Remember This Is Your One Shot Only

As far as we know officially, this is our one shot at life, so why not take some risks?

The top thing people are saddened by on their deathbeds are these regrets. They wish they did more, asked that girl in the coffee shop out, spoke out when they should have, or did what they were passionate about.

Don’t regret. Learn and experience. Live. Take the risks you believe in. Be yourself and make the world a better place.

Now go ahead, take that risk and be successful at it!

More About Living Your Best Life

Featured photo credit: Unsplash via unsplash.com

Read Next