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15 Things Only Girls Who Fall In Love With Their Gay Friends Can Understand

15 Things Only Girls Who Fall In Love With Their Gay Friends Can Understand

You have a friend who is smart, hot, sophisticated, fun, good-looking and sexy. You feel they are perfect and you want to be with them forever. But one more thing, they are gay. There is just everything that can be right in the relationship except any romantic involvement. And you have to understand these things:

You know everything can’t be perfect

Whether you think it right or not, you suddenly know that this person cannot be for you. You want to explore options but whatever you think of and try to picture will not just be the perfect story.

You know that they will always want to be friends

There is nothing as difficult or as straining as reaching a point where things just become stagnated. There is really no progress in the relationship.

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You will always be in love with that person

You love the person but somehow even while there are prospects for being better friends, things won’t just go beyond that.

They have a way of making you stay in their lives

They don’t make you go away. You may be uncomfortable with the way things are or how you have become great friends without any romantic displays but you must admit that they have a way of becoming relevant in your world.

You daydream of possibilities

You ask yourself questions of how things would have been if they were straight.

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You wonder why things cannot happen the way you want it to

Such fantasies will only help you develop better understanding of who they really are and you are okay with it.

You hate the situation but you love the closeness

You do not like things working out the way you want it to, but you must admit that you love the closeness in the relationship because you can tell them almost anything and they can tell you almost anything. You become comfortable with revealing yourself to them.

You know it may never be over

What happens between you two would never be over. At least the thoughts of it will always linger. The thoughts of you never being together will always hurt in a way.

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You become stronger

The situation somehow makes you emotionally stronger over time. You start becoming aware of the way things are and you are okay.

You have nostalgic feelings

The feeling you have can be sometimes nostalgic because you are happy that you found them regardless of the dissimilarities. As they say what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. This applies in this case also.

You sometimes feel stupid

You sometimes feel you are in the wrong and that you are not good enough or something.

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You feel vulnerable

When you are with them it is hard to be in control of your feelings. You wish you were never caught up in the drama and you have to start learning how to deal with the situation you are in.

You deny reality for a while

You wanted to think that things would change and that they will be yours somehow. You wanted to fight reality and waltz into some place different where things were different and they loved you just as much as you love them. You wanted to be with him so bad that you fought the certainty of facts that you would never be with him.

You cry a lot

You can’t say everything because words cannot express how you feel. Your heart breaks in small pieces and you try to figure out whose fault it is after all. But you cannot point fingers or blame anyone but assume the responsibility of being in love with the wrong person.

You understand that things would definitely work out

At some point you understand that the world is not against you but there are other persons out there who want a perfect relationship with you. You can learn to be optimistic rather than becoming a victim of your emotions and loving someone who is gay.

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Last Updated on October 16, 2019

5 Powerful Ways for Building Fulfilling Relationships

5 Powerful Ways for Building Fulfilling Relationships

We all have relationships. We have acquaintances, relatives, colleagues, neighbors and friends. However, for a large percentage of us, many of these relationships are not fulfilling.

They are unfulfilling because they lack real strength; and they lack real strength because they lack real depth.

Unfortunately, in today’s society, we tend to have shallow, superficial relationships with others, and it’s extremely hard for this kind of relationships to provide anything more than faint satisfaction.

I’d like to show you, based on my experience as a communication and confidence coach, how you can add a significant amount of depth, and thus strength, to your relationships and make your social life a whole lot more meaningful.

Here’re 5 simple yet powerful ways for meaningful relationships building:

1. Meet More People

This is an apparent paradox, but the quality of the people you meet has considerably to do with the quantity of people you meet.

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If you don’t know a lot of people and you barely meet one or two new people every season of the year, considering the variety of individuals out there, you won’t meet very often people who are a good match with you in terms of personality, interests and values.

And since this natural match plays a huge part in building strong relationships, you’ll just as seldom have the opportunity to develop strong relationships.

Conversely, if you go out a lot, you meet a lot of new people and you constantly expand your social circle, you’re much more likely to meet people you match up well with, and these people have a tremendous potential to become good friends, reliable partners, etc.

This is why it’s important to meet more people.

2. Talk about the Things That Matter To You

A relationship becomes the strongest when two people discover they believe in the same things and have similar interests. It’s these commonalities regarding values and interests that create the strongest emotional connection.

I’ve noticed that many people keep conversations shallow. They talk about trivial stuff such as the weather, what’s on TV, the lives of various movie stars, but they rarely talk about what really matters to them in life. This is a mistake from my perspective, because it’s the perfect method for a relationship to not develop.

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Talk about the things that truly matter to you and give others a chance to know what you care about and what you believe in. If they believe in the same things and they care about the same things, they’ll eagerly let you know. Thus you’ll find meaningful common ground and you’ll feel more connected.

3. Express Vulnerability

Many people try to come off as perfect. They don’t talk about their failures, they hide their shortcomings and they never say anything that could embarrass them.

This is all just a facade though. You may appear perfect to some, but you know you’re not perfect and they know that too. You’re only human and humans have flaws.

However, by hiding your flaws, what you do succeed in is appearing cold and impersonal. You seem like a marble statue rather than a real person. And this makes it very hard for anyone to connect with you emotionally.

Humans connect with other humans, not with ideals. Keep this in mind and don’t be afraid to let your vulnerability and your humanity show. This is what takes a relationship to the next level.

Take a look at this article and find out Why Showing Vulnerability Actually Proves Your Strength.

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4. Have Integrity

Integrity, as I see it, is the alignment between your thoughts, your words and your actions. When you say what you think and you do what you said you’ll do, you have integrity.

This is a crucial trait because if you have integrity, people can trust you. They can trust you to give them an honest feedback, even when it’s hard to shallow, and they can trust you to keep your promises.

This trust is one of the central pillars of a strong relationship, both in your personal and your professional life. So, as challenging as it can be sometimes, always try to have integrity.

Be honest with the people around you, even when this will initially hurt them. It’s more important for them to trust you than to not feel hurt. And always do what you promised. Even better, think twice before you promise anything, and only promise what you really can and you are willing to do.

5. Be There for Others

Another central pillar of strong relationships is support. Connections between people grow sturdy if they can rely on each other for support when it’s needed, whether that support means a few kind words or several massive actions.

Of course, you can’t be there for everybody, all the time. Your time, energy and other resources are limited. But what you can do is identify the genuinely important people in your life and then seek to be there as much as possible, at least for them.

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Your support will help them practically, and it will comfort them emotionally; which makes one hell of a difference in a relationship.

The Bottom Line

With the right mindset and the right behavior, you can strengthen a wide range of relationships in your life and advance them as far as they can be advanced.

And with strong relationships, not only that you feel more fulfilled, but you feel more connected to the entire world. You feel that your life has real value, you have more fun and you live in the moment. An entire world of opportunities opens up in front of you.

Then your task is to simply walk through the open doors.

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