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5 Things Being A Former Emo Kid Taught You

5 Things Being A Former Emo Kid Taught You

Now in your twenties you may look back on your teenage years and cringe, but that time spent as an emo or scene kid has undoubtedly shaped your life. As an adult we now recognize the alternative emo trend we once followed like a religion, was an invaluable experience.

Here’s our top 5 things that being a former emo kid has taught us:

1. Things aren’t that bad… or are they?

If much of your emo life was spent feeling depressed, maybe it was for a good reason. Life as an adult was ahead, and life as an adult can suck! Paying rent or a mortgage, bills, along with long working weeks, and not having time to hang out in large groups in parks are enough to get anybody down!

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That said, maybe it’s not all bad – think of the hours wasted moping around; your post-emo life is surely productive in comparison. You now achieve something everyday – not just perfectly applying black nail varnish; and your life has direction.

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    2. Halloween is the only acceptable day to dress emo

     Each year you count down the days to Halloween, looking forward to dressing the way you used to. Halloween is basically Emo throwback day, the only acceptable day to dress emo or goth as an adult. Make the most of this and go all out each year!

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    Use Halloween as a photo op too! Step aside, ‘Selfies’, and hark back to your MySpace days with pictures that are all about the angles! Reminisce back to a time where a sweeping fringe hides half of your face – and eyeliner hides the other half – this was once an everyday thing.

    3. Band tees rock, and it is okay to wear Chuck Tailors Converse…

    …Just maybe not to work. Depending on you career choice, work attire may be quite relaxed. Studies show that work-wear rules and regulations have softened over the years.

    As an emo you used to personalize your clothing to look unique and to express yourself, and so, even today you probably still look for ways to add that special something to your favorite outfit to stand out, or look for pieces of clothing not usually found in mainstream stores. Just bear in mind that whatever your job you may need to tone it down a little. Keep the casual for the weekend, and guys: no painted fingernails. (Oh, and ditch the guyliner too, leave that one to Jimmy Carr!)

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    4. Read books 

    Years spent as a scene kid has made you open to change, and you realize that trends change over time, but that doesn’t mean you’ve changed your beliefs, your interests or favorite music. Those hours spent tucked away in your room reading taught you a lot. So swap those emo novels and books about self-exploration and feelings for classic reads.

    Reading improves your outlook on life, and can in fact help with depression (and coping with adult life – see number 1). William Nicholson once said, “We read to know that we are not alone”. It can help you connect with the world, feel less depressed or isolated, and feel better about life. Further benefits of reading books include gaining knowledge and expanding your vocabulary. Reading can improve your writing skills too.

    5. Music alters mood… 

    …Sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse. Emo music is stereo-typically melodramatic guitar-based rock music. It can either be aggressive and ‘shouty’ or it can acoustic and gentle. Chances are it contains confessional or explicitly personal lyrics, often about heartbreak or loneliness. Ditch these depressing sounds, but don’t write off rock just yet. Explore the genre and find a new sound.

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    Chances are you have an open mind when it comes to music. As an emo kid you didn’t listen to mainstream music. This has likely led you to discover a much broader range of music than other people since then. Time may change but your interests shouldn’t – gigs are great, so keep going to shows and remember: it is ok to enjoy the music and move around!

    Featured photo credit: Restless Globe Trotter via flickr.com

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    Last Updated on October 20, 2020

    How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

    How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

    You have a deadline looming. However, instead of doing your work, you are fiddling with miscellaneous things like checking email, social media, watching videos, surfing blogs and forums. You know you should be working, but you just don’t feel like doing anything.

    We are all familiar with the procrastination phenomenon. When we procrastinate, we squander away our free time and put off important tasks we should be doing them till it’s too late. And when it is indeed too late, we panic and wish we got started earlier.

    The chronic procrastinators I know have spent years of their life looped in this cycle. Delaying, putting off things, slacking, hiding from work, facing work only when it’s unavoidable, then repeating this loop all over again. It’s a bad habit that eats us away and prevents us from achieving greater results in life.

    Don’t let procrastination take over your life. Here, I will share my personal steps on how to stop procrastinating. These 11 steps will definitely apply to you too:

    1. Break Your Work into Little Steps

    Part of the reason why we procrastinate is because subconsciously, we find the work too overwhelming for us. Break it down into little parts, then focus on one part at the time. If you still procrastinate on the task after breaking it down, then break it down even further. Soon, your task will be so simple that you will be thinking “gee, this is so simple that I might as well just do it now!”.

    For example, I’m currently writing a new book (on How to achieve anything in life). Book writing at its full scale is an enormous project and can be overwhelming. However, when I break it down into phases such as –

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    • (1) Research
    • (2) Deciding the topic
    • (3) Creating the outline
    • (4) Drafting the content
    • (5) Writing Chapters #1 to #10,
    • (6) Revision
    • (7) etc.

    Suddenly it seems very manageable. What I do then is to focus on the immediate phase and get it done to my best ability, without thinking about the other phases. When it’s done, I move on to the next.

    2. Change Your Environment

    Different environments have different impact on our productivity. Look at your work desk and your room. Do they make you want to work or do they make you want to snuggle and sleep? If it’s the latter, you should look into changing your workspace.

    One thing to note is that an environment that makes us feel inspired before may lose its effect after a period of time. If that’s the case, then it’s time to change things around. Refer to Steps #2 and #3 of 13 Strategies To Jumpstart Your Productivity, which talks about revamping your environment and workspace.

    3. Create a Detailed Timeline with Specific Deadlines

    Having just 1 deadline for your work is like an invitation to procrastinate. That’s because we get the impression that we have time and keep pushing everything back, until it’s too late.

    Break down your project (see tip #1), then create an overall timeline with specific deadlines for each small task. This way, you know you have to finish each task by a certain date. Your timelines must be robust, too – i.e. if you don’t finish this by today, it’s going to jeopardize everything else you have planned after that. This way it creates the urgency to act.

    My goals are broken down into monthly, weekly, right down to the daily task lists, and the list is a call to action that I must accomplish this by the specified date, else my goals will be put off.

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    Here’re more tips on setting deadlines: 22 Tips for Effective Deadlines

    4. Eliminate Your Procrastination Pit-Stops

    If you are procrastinating a little too much, maybe that’s because you make it easy to procrastinate.

    Identify your browser bookmarks that take up a lot of your time and shift them into a separate folder that is less accessible. Disable the automatic notification option in your email client. Get rid of the distractions around you.

    I know some people will out of the way and delete or deactivate their facebook accounts. I think it’s a little drastic and extreme as addressing procrastination is more about being conscious of our actions than counteracting via self-binding methods, but if you feel that’s what’s needed, go for it.

    5. Hang out with People Who Inspire You to Take Action

    I’m pretty sure if you spend just 10 minutes talking to Steve Jobs or Bill Gates, you’ll be more inspired to act than if you spent the 10 minutes doing nothing. The people we are with influence our behaviors. Of course spending time with Steve Jobs or Bill Gates every day is probably not a feasible method, but the principle applies — The Hidden Power of Every Single Person Around You

    Identify the people, friends or colleagues who trigger you – most likely the go-getters and hard workers – and hang out with them more often. Soon you will inculcate their drive and spirit too.

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    As a personal development blogger, I “hang out” with inspiring personal development experts by reading their blogs and corresponding with them regularly via email and social media. It’s communication via new media and it works all the same.

    6. Get a Buddy

    Having a companion makes the whole process much more fun. Ideally, your buddy should be someone who has his/her own set of goals. Both of you will hold each other accountable to your goals and plans. While it’s not necessary for both of you to have the same goals, it’ll be even better if that’s the case, so you can learn from each other.

    I have a good friend whom I talk to regularly, and we always ask each other about our goals and progress in achieving those goals. Needless to say, it spurs us to keep taking action.

    7. Tell Others About Your Goals

    This serves the same function as #6, on a larger scale. Tell all your friends, colleagues, acquaintances and family about your projects. Now whenever you see them, they are bound to ask you about your status on those projects.

    For example, sometimes I announce my projects on The Personal Excellence Blog, Twitter and Facebook, and my readers will ask me about them on an ongoing basis. It’s a great way to keep myself accountable to my plans.

    8. Seek out Someone Who Has Already Achieved the Outcome

    What is it you want to accomplish here, and who are the people who have accomplished this already? Go seek them out and connect with them. Seeing living proof that your goals are very well achievable if you take action is one of the best triggers for action.

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    9. Re-Clarify Your Goals

    If you have been procrastinating for an extended period of time, it might reflect a misalignment between what you want and what you are currently doing. Often times, we outgrow our goals as we discover more about ourselves, but we don’t change our goals to reflect that.

    Get away from your work (a short vacation will be good, else just a weekend break or staycation will do too) and take some time to regroup yourself. What exactly do you want to achieve? What should you do to get there? What are the steps to take? Does your current work align with that? If not, what can you do about it?

    10. Stop Over-Complicating Things

    Are you waiting for a perfect time to do this? That maybe now is not the best time because of X, Y, Z reasons? Ditch that thought because there’s never a perfect time. If you keep waiting for one, you are never going to accomplish anything.

    Perfectionism is one of the biggest reasons for procrastination. Read more about why perfectionist tendencies can be a bane than a boon: Why Being A Perfectionist May Not Be So Perfect.

    11. Get a Grip and Just Do It

    At the end, it boils down to taking action. You can do all the strategizing, planning and hypothesizing, but if you don’t take action, nothing’s going to happen. Occasionally, I get readers and clients who keep complaining about their situations but they still refuse to take action at the end of the day.

    Reality check:

    I have never heard anyone procrastinate their way to success before and I doubt it’s going to change in the near future. Whatever it is you are procrastinating on, if you want to get it done, you need to get a grip on yourself and do it.

    Bonus: Think Like a Rhino

    More Tips for Procrastinators to Start Taking Action

    Featured photo credit: Malvestida Magazine via unsplash.com

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