Advertising
Advertising

5 Things Being A Former Emo Kid Taught You

5 Things Being A Former Emo Kid Taught You

Now in your twenties you may look back on your teenage years and cringe, but that time spent as an emo or scene kid has undoubtedly shaped your life. As an adult we now recognize the alternative emo trend we once followed like a religion, was an invaluable experience.

Here’s our top 5 things that being a former emo kid has taught us:

1. Things aren’t that bad… or are they?

If much of your emo life was spent feeling depressed, maybe it was for a good reason. Life as an adult was ahead, and life as an adult can suck! Paying rent or a mortgage, bills, along with long working weeks, and not having time to hang out in large groups in parks are enough to get anybody down!

Advertising

That said, maybe it’s not all bad – think of the hours wasted moping around; your post-emo life is surely productive in comparison. You now achieve something everyday – not just perfectly applying black nail varnish; and your life has direction.

Emo night out halloween

    2. Halloween is the only acceptable day to dress emo

     Each year you count down the days to Halloween, looking forward to dressing the way you used to. Halloween is basically Emo throwback day, the only acceptable day to dress emo or goth as an adult. Make the most of this and go all out each year!

    Advertising

    Use Halloween as a photo op too! Step aside, ‘Selfies’, and hark back to your MySpace days with pictures that are all about the angles! Reminisce back to a time where a sweeping fringe hides half of your face – and eyeliner hides the other half – this was once an everyday thing.

    3. Band tees rock, and it is okay to wear Chuck Tailors Converse…

    …Just maybe not to work. Depending on you career choice, work attire may be quite relaxed. Studies show that work-wear rules and regulations have softened over the years.

    As an emo you used to personalize your clothing to look unique and to express yourself, and so, even today you probably still look for ways to add that special something to your favorite outfit to stand out, or look for pieces of clothing not usually found in mainstream stores. Just bear in mind that whatever your job you may need to tone it down a little. Keep the casual for the weekend, and guys: no painted fingernails. (Oh, and ditch the guyliner too, leave that one to Jimmy Carr!)

    Advertising

    4. Read books 

    Years spent as a scene kid has made you open to change, and you realize that trends change over time, but that doesn’t mean you’ve changed your beliefs, your interests or favorite music. Those hours spent tucked away in your room reading taught you a lot. So swap those emo novels and books about self-exploration and feelings for classic reads.

    Reading improves your outlook on life, and can in fact help with depression (and coping with adult life – see number 1). William Nicholson once said, “We read to know that we are not alone”. It can help you connect with the world, feel less depressed or isolated, and feel better about life. Further benefits of reading books include gaining knowledge and expanding your vocabulary. Reading can improve your writing skills too.

    5. Music alters mood… 

    …Sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse. Emo music is stereo-typically melodramatic guitar-based rock music. It can either be aggressive and ‘shouty’ or it can acoustic and gentle. Chances are it contains confessional or explicitly personal lyrics, often about heartbreak or loneliness. Ditch these depressing sounds, but don’t write off rock just yet. Explore the genre and find a new sound.

    Advertising

    Chances are you have an open mind when it comes to music. As an emo kid you didn’t listen to mainstream music. This has likely led you to discover a much broader range of music than other people since then. Time may change but your interests shouldn’t – gigs are great, so keep going to shows and remember: it is ok to enjoy the music and move around!

    Featured photo credit: Restless Globe Trotter via flickr.com

    More by this author

    4 Exciting Games To Play With Your Dog 5 Perks Every Entrepreneur Should Offer To Their Employees 4 Ways To Launch A Better Website With A Smaller Budget 9 Things To Make Travelling That Little Bit Easier Night train at Budapest Keleti How to Sleep Well and Stay Safe on a Night Train

    Trending in Lifestyle

    1 10 Comics About Periods That Only Women Would Understand 2 10 Powerful Ways to Stop Worrying and Start Living Today 3 7 Best Tea for Bloating and Stomach Gas Relief 4 How to Learn Something New Every Day and Stay Smart 5 How to Enjoy Life In a Way Most People Don’t

    Read Next

    Advertising
    Advertising
    Advertising

    Last Updated on December 2, 2019

    10 Powerful Ways to Stop Worrying and Start Living Today

    10 Powerful Ways to Stop Worrying and Start Living Today

    Plato knew that the body and mind are intimately linked. And in the late 1800s, the Mayo brothers, famous physicians, estimated that over half of all hospital beds are filled with people suffering from frustration, anxiety, worry and despair. Causes of worry are everywhere, in our relationships and our jobs, so it’s key we find ways to take charge of the stress.

    In his classic book How to Stop Worrying and Start Living, Dale Carnegie offers tools to ditch excessive worrying that help you make a worry-free environment for your private and professional life.

    These are the top 10 tips to grab worry by the horns and wrestle it to the ground:

    1. Make Your Decision and Never Look Back

    Have you ever made a decision in life only to second-guess it afterwards? Of course you have! It’s hard not to wonder whether you’ve done the right thing and whether there might still be time to take another path.

    But keep this in mind: you’ve already made your decision, so act decisively on it and dismiss all your anxiety about it.

    Don’t stop to hesitate, to reconsider, or to retrace your steps. Once you’ve chosen a course of action, stick to it and never waver.

    Advertising

    2. Live for Today, Package Things up in “Day-Tight Compartments”

    You know that feeling: tossing, turning and worrying over something that happened or something that might, well into the wee hours. To avoid this pointless worrying, you need “day-tight compartments”. Much as a ship has different watertight compartments, your own “day-tight” ones are a way to limit your attention to the present day.

    The rule is simple: whatever happened in the past or might happen in the future must not intrude upon today. Everything else has to wait its turn for tomorrow’s box or stay stuck in the past.

    3. Embrace the Worst-Case Scenario and Strategize to Offset It

    If you’re worried about something, ask yourself: “What’s the worst thing that could happen?” Could you lose your job? Be jailed? Get killed?

    Whatever the “worst” might be, it’s probably not so world-ending. You could probably even bounce back from it!

    If, for example, you lose your job, you could always find another. Once you accept the worst-case scenario and get thinking about contingency plans, you’ll feel calmer.

    4. Put a Lid on Your Worrying

    Sometimes we stress endlessly about negative experiences when just walking away from them would serve us far better.

    Advertising

    To make squashing that worry easier, try this strategy, straight from stock traders: it’s called the “stop-loss” order, where shares are bought at a certain price, and then their price development is observed. If things go badly and the share price hits a certain point, they are sold off immediately. This stops the loss from increasing further.

    In the same manner, you can put a stop-loss order on things that cause you stress and grief.

    5. Fake It ‘Til You Make It – Happiness, That Is

    We can’t directly influence how we feel, but we can nudge ourselves to change through how we think and act.

    If you’re feeling sad or low, slap a big grin on your face and whistle a chipper tune. You’ll find it impossible to be blue when acting cheerful. But you don’t necessarily need to act outwardly happy; you can simply think happier thoughts instead.

    Marcus Aurelius summed it up aptly:

    “Our life is what our thoughts make it.”

    6. Give for the Joy of Giving

    When we perform acts of kindness, we often do so with the expectation of gratitude. But harboring such expectations will probably leave you disappointed.

    One person well aware of this fact was the lawyer Samuel Leibowitz. Over the course of his career, Leibowitz saved 78 people from going to the electric chair. Guess how many thanked him? None.

    So stop expecting gratitude when you’re kind to someone. Instead, take joy from the act yourself.

    7. Dump Envy – Enjoy Being Uniquely You

    Your genes are completely unique. Even if someone had the same parents as you, the likelihood of someone identical to you being born is just one in 300,000 billion.

    Despite this amazing fact, many of us long to be someone else, thinking the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. But living your life this way is pointless. Embrace your uniqueness and get comfortable with who you really are: How to Be True to Yourself and Live the Life You Want

    8. Haters Will Hate — It Just Means You’re Doing It Right

    When you’re criticized, it often means you’re accomplishing something noteworthy. In fact, let’s take it a step further and consider this: the more you’re criticized, the more influential and important a person you likely are.

    Advertising

    So the next time somebody talks you down, don’t let it get to you. Take it as a compliment!

    9. Chill Out! Learn to Rest Before You Get Tired

    Scientists agree that emotions are the most common cause of fatigue. And it works the other way around, too: fatigue produces more worries and negative emotions.

    It should be clear, therefore, that you’ve got to relax regularly before you feel tired. Otherwise, worries and fatigue will accumulate on top of each other.

    It’s impossible to worry when you are relaxed, and regular rest helps you maintain your ability to work effectively.

    10. Get Organized and Enjoy Your Work

    There are few greater sources of misery in life than having to work, day in, day out, in a job you despise. It would make sense then that you shouldn’t pick a job you hate, or even just dislike doing.

    But say you already have a job. How can you make it more enjoyable and worry-free? One way is to stay organized: a desk full of unanswered mails and memos is sure to breed worries.

    Advertising

    Better yet, rethink about the job you’re doing: What to Do When You Hate Your Job but Want a Successful Career

    More About Living a Fulfilling Life

    Featured photo credit: Tyler Nix via unsplash.com

    Read Next