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30 Ways Couples Keep Their Relationships Fun And Fresh

30 Ways Couples Keep Their Relationships Fun And Fresh

Relationships can be one of the most complicated forms of interactions. Often, we think of relationships with a significant other, but we build relationships every day in a myriad of different ways. We generate different levels of relationships with our favorite coffee barista, with the the other people at our gym, with our co-workers, and, of course, with our romantic partners.

There is always something happening around us, and life rushes at very high speeds, often demanding our focus and attention for longer periods of time. It’s easy—and efficient for the brain—to put many day-to-day activities into habit mode. However, your relationship with the one you love is one thing you don’t want to slip into habit with. This might be only a hop, skip, and a jump away from detrimental actions such as failure to communicate, not thinking of the other person’s needs, taking each other for granted, and drifting apart.

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The list below is filled with simple, everyday things you can do with your significant other in order to keep your relationship fresh and fun.

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We’ve all heard the basics of a healthy relationship, which includes good communication, empathy, responsibility for your emotions, and various other self-improvement and mindfulness traits. Now, here are 30 fun and easy things to bring into your relationship to help keep you present, playful, and remembering all those fabulous things you love about your partner.

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The drive to be in a loving relationship can be an incredibly strong need. After all, love is one of our strongest emotions. Whether you have been in a relationship 6 months or 12 years, actively working toward keeping the relationship healthy and strong takes two people. If nothing else, cuddle up on the couch, pop some popcorn, and enjoy the list below as your own form of bonding time.

  1. Spend a little extra time in bed (morning or night) to laugh, joke, and talk about goals and what excites you.
  2. Cook meals together.
  3. When you bump into each other around the house, use the opportunity for a hug, silly kiss, or playful moment.
  4. Try an activity you both can be awkward at together and don’t take it too seriously.
  5. Learn something new together.
  6. Teach each other something new.
  7. Have a conversation with each other using just movie quotes.
  8. Share your goals as you work on them through the day.
  9. Cheer each other on as you both work through your goals and projects for the day.
  10. Get up early and make breakfast for each other.
  11. Surprise your partner at lunch with their favorite hot drink.
  12. Make sure to ask how each other’s day went.
  13. Flirt with each other throughout the day.
  14. Go for an evening walk and watch the stars come out.
  15. Plan an at-home retreat day together (no phones or computers).
  16. Check out a local open house or two.
  17. Create a yummy recipe together.
  18. Tell each other “I love you” at night before going to sleep.
  19. Play, “I’m grateful for (fill in the blank)” together.
  20. Spend an afternoon being silly together—go to playgrounds, get ice cream cones, and go window shopping, etc.
  21. Spend an afternoon going through old albums and boxes to see what you discover.
  22. Browse in a used bookstore.
  23. Write down all the things about your partner you’re grateful for and share it with each other at the end of the night.
  24. Invite friends over for a potluck and board games. Expand your circle of friends by having them bring one new friend.
  25. Volunteer at an animal shelter together.
  26. Coach a kids’ sports team together.
  27. Always kiss each other hello whenever you see each other.
  28. Turn on your favorite music and dance through the house.
  29. Check the local paper for free musical festivals, farmers’ markets, or other festivals to enjoy together.
  30. Set a timer and listen to each other for 1 minute. First person gets to tell about their day, their worries, goals, etc. The second person actively listens, then switch.

Mix and match them, create your own, have fun with it. Share it with your friends and see what they think!

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Last Updated on June 19, 2019

6 Ways to Be a Successful Risk Taker and Take More Chances

6 Ways to Be a Successful Risk Taker and Take More Chances

I’ve stood on the edge of my own personal cliffs many times. Each time I jumped, something different happened. There were risks that started off great, but eventually faded. There were risks that left me falling until I hit the ground. There were risks that started slow, but built into massive successes.

Every risk is different, but every risk is the same. You need to have some fundamentals ready before you jump, but not too many.

It wouldn’t be a risk if you knew everything that was about to happen, would it? Here’re 6 ways to be a successful risk taker.

1. Understand That Failure Is Going to Happen a Lot

It’s part of life. Everything we do has failure attached to it. All successful people have stories of massive failure attached to them. Thinking that your risk is going to be pain free and run as smooth as silk is insane.

Expect some pain and failure. Actually, expect a lot of it. Expect the sleepless nights with crazy thoughts of insecurity that leave you trembling under the covers. It’s going to happen, no matter how positive you are about the risk you are about to take.

When failure hits, the only options are to keep going or quit. If you expect falling into a meadow of flowers and frolicking unicorns, then you’re going to immediately quit once you realize that getting to that meadow requires you to go through a rock filled cave filled with hungry bats.

2. Trust the Muse

Writing a story isn’t a big risk. It’s really just a risk on my time. So when I start writing a story, I’m scared it will be time wasted. Of course, it never really is. Even if the story doesn’t turn out fabulous, I still practiced.

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When I’ve taken risks in my life, the successful ones always seemed to happen when I followed the muse. Steven Pressfield describes the muse,

“The Muse demands depth. Shallow does not work for her. If we’re seeking her help, we can’t stay in the kiddie end. When we work, we have to go hard and go deep.”

The muse is a goddess who wants our attention and wants us to work on our passion.

If you’re taking a risk in anything, it’s assumed that there is some passion built up behind that risk. That passion, deep inside you, is the muse. Trust it, focus on it, listen to it.

The most successful articles and stories I write are the ones I’ve focused all my attention on. There were no interruptions during their creative development. I didn’t check my phone or go watch my Twitter feed. I was fully engaged in my work.

Trust the muse, focus your attention on your risk, let the ideas and path develop themselves, and leave the distractions at the side of the road.

3. Remember to Be Authentic

Taking a risk and then turning into something you’re not, is only going to lead to disaster. Whether you are risking a new relationship or new opportunity, you must be yourself throughout the entire process.

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How many times have you acted like you loved something just because the men or woman you just started going out with loved it?

For example, I’m not an office worker. I have an incredibly hard time working in a confined timeline (ie. 9-5). That’s why I write. I can do it whenever the mood strikes, I don’t have somebody breathing down my neck, telling me that I’m five minutes late, or missed a comma somewhere. I don’t have to walk on eggshells wondering if what I’m writing will get me fired or make me lose a promotion. I can just be myself, period.

One girlfriend didn’t understand that. She believed solely in the 9-5 motto, specifically something in human resources because that was a very stable job. I was scared for my future, but I stuck with the relationship because of my own insecurities and acted like I would do it to make her happy.

Here’s a tip: NEVER take away from your happiness to make somebody else satisfied (note I didn’t say happy).

Making somebody else happy will make you happy. Doing something to satisfy somebody is murder on your soul.

4. Don’t Take Any Risks While You’re Not Clearheaded

I’d been considering the risk for a couple weeks. It all sounded good. I was 22 and I could be rich in a couple of years. That’s what they were selling me, anyways.

One night, while at a house party with some friends, I found myself at a computer. A couple of my friends were standing nearby and asked me what I was doing. I told them I was considering starting my own business and it was only going to cost me $1,500.

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Of course, when a bunch of drunk people are surrounded by more drunk people, things get enthusiastic. It sounded like the best business venture in the world to everybody, including me. So I signed up and gave them my credit card number.

A few painful months and close to $4,000 dollars lost later, I quit the business. I was young and fell into the pyramid scheme trap. It was an expensive drunk decision.

Drinking heavily and making decisions has a proven track record of failure. So when you have something important to decide, don’t let your emotions take over your brain.

5. Fully Understand What You’re Risking

It was the start of my baseball comeback. I got a tryout with a professional scout and killed it. After the tryout, he talked to my girlfriend and myself, making sure we understood I would be gone for up to 6 months at a time. That strain on the relationship could be tough.

We understood. I left to play ball, chose to stay in the city I played in, and a year later we broke up. Not because of baseball, see point 3 above. Taking big risks can have massive impacts on everything in your life from relationships to money. Know what you’re risking before you take the risk.

If you believe the risk will be worth it or you have the support you need from your family, then go ahead and make the leap.

You can get more guidance on how to take calculated risks from this article: How to Take Calculated Risk to Achieve More and Become Successful

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6. Remember This Is Your One Shot Only

As far as we know officially, this is our one shot at life, so why not take some risks?

The top thing people are saddened by on their deathbeds are these regrets. They wish they did more, asked that girl in the coffee shop out, spoke out when they should have, or did what they were passionate about.

Don’t regret. Learn and experience. Live. Take the risks you believe in. Be yourself and make the world a better place.

Now go ahead, take that risk and be successful at it!

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