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10 Phrases Women Should Stop Saying to Each Other

10 Phrases Women Should Stop Saying to Each Other

Equality for women has come on in leaps and bounds over the last 100 years, with society changing and accepting women as the equals that they are. However, there are are still restrictions placed on women by both society and, surprisingly enough, other women. Some phrases that are ingrained into our society as compliments and questions are actually negative and add to the pressures on women.

Women should bring each other up, not pull each other down. Check out 10 phrases women should stop saying to each other below.

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1. “Forget her — you’re prettier than she is anyway.”

Most women say this with the best intentions. Maybe their friend has just gone through a break-up, or maybe they experienced infidelity. They want to cheer up their friend and put a smile on their face, but they are associating value purely with beauty. This implies that women are in competition with each other, and that beauty is a mark of success for women — but this simply isn’t true.

2. “Have you lost weight? You look great!”

When women say this they are aiming to compliment each other. But unless the other woman is trying to lose weight, compliments shouldn’t be linked to body weight. This can cause women to think their self-worth grows when they lose weight.

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3. “You’re so skinny — eat a burger!”

This is also meant as a compliment, but for some women this targets something they are actually very self-concious about. Many women struggle to gain weight, and being told they should alter their weight can be very damaging and upsetting.

4. “Guys prefer this body type.”

No one needs to have their weight justified by anyone, and implying men set the standards of female beauty has damaging effects. The only priority is that you are healthy and happy in your own skin.

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5. “When are you getting married?”

Equality for women has vastly improved over recent years, but some societal pressures still remain for some women. Women may ask this question only for the sake of conversation, but marriage is optional and many women are not personally interested in getting married. This can make the woman feel like she needs to justify her decisions.

6. “When do you want to have a baby?”

Like the phrase above, this phrase also assumes women are going to make certain decisions. If you already know they are planning on having a baby, this question is obviously totally fine. However, having a baby is a huge decision and some women are choose not to have children. This is a personal choice that doesn’t require justification.

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7. “All women are crazy.”

Most blanket statements are inaccurate and this one is no exception. Women rarely mean this seriously when they say it, but it creates an overall image that women find each other irrational and crazy — which is a negative, inaccurate viewpoint.

8. “Why are you single?”

Whether you are a man or a woman, no one’s self worth is determined by having a partner. There are many excellent reasons to stay single and many excellent reasons to be in a relationship, and no one needs to explain their choice.

9. “Be careful, you might get a reputation.”

A women’s sex life shouldn’t determine her importance. Implying that sleeping with lots of people will decrease someone’s worth is a damaging sentiment that causes other women to openly and freely judge each other for their personal decisions.

10. “Do I look fat in this?”

Every human is equally important, and weight isn’t a deciding factor in your importance. This phrase implies self-worth is linked to being slim; it is important to be healthy, but it isn’t important to be thin.

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Last Updated on June 13, 2019

How to Quit Your Boring Life and Start Living an Interesting One

How to Quit Your Boring Life and Start Living an Interesting One

Think you have a boring life?

The definition of boring is dull or not interesting. Maybe you’ve been doing the same thing and living the same life for too long, or maybe your daily routine is limiting your growth and happiness. Whatever your reason is, the following list of 20 things can definitely make any day more interesting. Some of them are silly, while some are more meaningful, so hopefully just reading the list makes your life less boring and sparks your creativity.

Let’s dive in the list to quit your boring life and start living an interesting (and meaning) one!

1. Channel Your 7-Year-Old Self

What would he or she want to do right now? Color? Paint? Run around outside? Play dress up? Eat with your hands? Play that instrument hiding in the back of your closet that you haven’t touched in years?

Just because you’re a grown up doesn’t mean any of this stuff will be less enjoyable than you remember it. Give yourself permission to play.

2. Go Play with Kids

Speaking of little kids, if you have your own or access to any (in a non-creepy way, like they’re your niece or your best friend’s kid, you get the idea) go play with them!

They didn’t create an entire show called Kids Say The Darndest Things because kids aren’t hilarious. They also keep things so simple, and we can really stand to be reminded of this and stop allowing ourselves to get bogged down in boring details.

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3. Order a Hot Dog

While you’re eating it, Google: “What’s in a hot dog?” You decide whether or not you want to finish it.

4. For the Ladies: Wear Your Sexiest Lingerie Under Your Work Clothes

Your “little secret” will leave you feeling anything but boring all day!

5. Play Cell Phone Roulette

You’ll need at least one buddy for this. Scroll through the contacts in your phone, stop on a random one and call the person.

You could spark an incredible catch up session or be incredibly awkward. Neither are boring.

6. Fill out a Pack of Thank-You Cards

Give them to random people who probably don’t get thanked too often for doing what they do ever day.

Ideas: police officers, librarians, servers, baristas, cab drivers, sanitation workers, teachers, people behind any check out counter, receptionists, your friends, the guy at the falafel stand, etc.

7. Sign up for a Class in Something You’ve “Always Wanted to Do”, or Something That Makes You Really Uncomfortable

Ideas: pole dancing, salsa lessons, improv, pottery, cooking, knitting (yup, there are classes for this, too!), karate, boxing, something techy like the workshops they run in Apple stores, get Rosetta Stone and learn that language you’ve always wanted to speak, etc.

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What’s good about joining an interest class is that you will also meet new people!

8. Interview Your Grandparents About Their Lives

You can bet they’ve had some crazy experiences you probably never knew about.

9. Get up on Stage at an Open Mic Night

Whether you’re funny or not, get up on stage and just talk funny. And if you’re not, memorize a few of your favorite jokes and tell those!

10. Do Something for Someone Else That You Wish Someone Would Do for You

We all have a few ideas on this list. I promise you will feel amazing after and anything but bored.

11. Start a DIY Project in Your Home

It doesn’t have to be super complicated. If you need ideas, there’re plenty on Pinterest. Or you can also check out these 30 Awesome DIY Projects that You’ve Never Heard of.

12. Plan a Weekend Trip or an All-Out Vacation

This will give you something to look forward to.

Even if you don’t have the time or money to go on a vacation, plan for a staycation, which is same fun and relaxing!

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13. People Watch

Find a bench in a crowded area (centers of transportation like airports, bus stops and train stations are great for this!) and just observe.

People are infinitely interesting.

14. Eat Something You’ve Never Eaten Before

Bonus points if it’s a random fruit or veggie.

15. Dance

You can get your friends together for a night on the town or just pull up a video on YouTube and bust a move from your own living room.

If you’re feeling extra brave, you can even dance in public and get other people involved.

16. Go to YOUTUBE and Search “Funny Pets” or “Funny Babies”

This is also a great quickie ab workout as you will be laughing hysterically.

17. Pick up a Book and Start Reading

Check out the NY Times Best Sellers lists and grab a new book you can get lost in.

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18. Step Away from the Computer and Go Get Some Time with People You Care About in Real Life

Facebook stalking doesn’t count as real social interaction. You can even share this post with your friends and vote on which one you’d like to do together!

19. Check out a Museum You’ve Never Been to Before

OK, depending on your interests, this one might actually be boring. If you love learning, art or different cultures though, this one is for you!

20. Write a List of Things You Desire and Truly Want

This is a great way to help you figure out the real reason why you’re feeling bored about your life. Maybe you haven’t really done things that you truly enjoy? Maybe what you’ve wanted to do all the time has been left behind?

Think about the list of things you really want to do, and ask yourself why you aren’t doing these things (yet). Then start taking your first step to make what you want happen.

Now go make your life interesting and live your dream life!

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