Advertising
Advertising

10 Phrases Women Should Stop Saying to Each Other

10 Phrases Women Should Stop Saying to Each Other

Equality for women has come on in leaps and bounds over the last 100 years, with society changing and accepting women as the equals that they are. However, there are are still restrictions placed on women by both society and, surprisingly enough, other women. Some phrases that are ingrained into our society as compliments and questions are actually negative and add to the pressures on women.

Women should bring each other up, not pull each other down. Check out 10 phrases women should stop saying to each other below.

Advertising

1. “Forget her — you’re prettier than she is anyway.”

Most women say this with the best intentions. Maybe their friend has just gone through a break-up, or maybe they experienced infidelity. They want to cheer up their friend and put a smile on their face, but they are associating value purely with beauty. This implies that women are in competition with each other, and that beauty is a mark of success for women — but this simply isn’t true.

2. “Have you lost weight? You look great!”

When women say this they are aiming to compliment each other. But unless the other woman is trying to lose weight, compliments shouldn’t be linked to body weight. This can cause women to think their self-worth grows when they lose weight.

Advertising

3. “You’re so skinny — eat a burger!”

This is also meant as a compliment, but for some women this targets something they are actually very self-concious about. Many women struggle to gain weight, and being told they should alter their weight can be very damaging and upsetting.

4. “Guys prefer this body type.”

No one needs to have their weight justified by anyone, and implying men set the standards of female beauty has damaging effects. The only priority is that you are healthy and happy in your own skin.

Advertising

5. “When are you getting married?”

Equality for women has vastly improved over recent years, but some societal pressures still remain for some women. Women may ask this question only for the sake of conversation, but marriage is optional and many women are not personally interested in getting married. This can make the woman feel like she needs to justify her decisions.

6. “When do you want to have a baby?”

Like the phrase above, this phrase also assumes women are going to make certain decisions. If you already know they are planning on having a baby, this question is obviously totally fine. However, having a baby is a huge decision and some women are choose not to have children. This is a personal choice that doesn’t require justification.

Advertising

7. “All women are crazy.”

Most blanket statements are inaccurate and this one is no exception. Women rarely mean this seriously when they say it, but it creates an overall image that women find each other irrational and crazy — which is a negative, inaccurate viewpoint.

8. “Why are you single?”

Whether you are a man or a woman, no one’s self worth is determined by having a partner. There are many excellent reasons to stay single and many excellent reasons to be in a relationship, and no one needs to explain their choice.

9. “Be careful, you might get a reputation.”

A women’s sex life shouldn’t determine her importance. Implying that sleeping with lots of people will decrease someone’s worth is a damaging sentiment that causes other women to openly and freely judge each other for their personal decisions.

10. “Do I look fat in this?”

Every human is equally important, and weight isn’t a deciding factor in your importance. This phrase implies self-worth is linked to being slim; it is important to be healthy, but it isn’t important to be thin.

More by this author

Amy Johnson

Amy is a writer who blogs about relationships and lifestyle advice.

10 Health Benefits Of Avocado If You Feel Trapped, Do These 9 Things To Take Your Life Back If You Feel Trapped, Do These 9 Things To Take Your Life Back This List of 50 Low-cost Hobbies Will Excite You Daily Routine of Successful People That Will Inspire You to Achieve More 15 Inspirational Weekend Activities to do by Yourself

Trending in Communication

1 5 Powerful Ways for Building Fulfilling Relationships 2 How a Lack of Communication Can Cost Your Career 3 What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People 4 How to Find Happiness in Your Everyday Life 5 What Is Self Awareness (And How to Increase Yours)

Read Next

Advertising
Advertising
Advertising

Last Updated on October 16, 2019

5 Powerful Ways for Building Fulfilling Relationships

5 Powerful Ways for Building Fulfilling Relationships

We all have relationships. We have acquaintances, relatives, colleagues, neighbors and friends. However, for a large percentage of us, many of these relationships are not fulfilling.

They are unfulfilling because they lack real strength; and they lack real strength because they lack real depth.

Unfortunately, in today’s society, we tend to have shallow, superficial relationships with others, and it’s extremely hard for this kind of relationships to provide anything more than faint satisfaction.

I’d like to show you, based on my experience as a communication and confidence coach, how you can add a significant amount of depth, and thus strength, to your relationships and make your social life a whole lot more meaningful.

Here’re 5 simple yet powerful ways for meaningful relationships building:

1. Meet More People

This is an apparent paradox, but the quality of the people you meet has considerably to do with the quantity of people you meet.

Advertising

If you don’t know a lot of people and you barely meet one or two new people every season of the year, considering the variety of individuals out there, you won’t meet very often people who are a good match with you in terms of personality, interests and values.

And since this natural match plays a huge part in building strong relationships, you’ll just as seldom have the opportunity to develop strong relationships.

Conversely, if you go out a lot, you meet a lot of new people and you constantly expand your social circle, you’re much more likely to meet people you match up well with, and these people have a tremendous potential to become good friends, reliable partners, etc.

This is why it’s important to meet more people.

2. Talk about the Things That Matter To You

A relationship becomes the strongest when two people discover they believe in the same things and have similar interests. It’s these commonalities regarding values and interests that create the strongest emotional connection.

I’ve noticed that many people keep conversations shallow. They talk about trivial stuff such as the weather, what’s on TV, the lives of various movie stars, but they rarely talk about what really matters to them in life. This is a mistake from my perspective, because it’s the perfect method for a relationship to not develop.

Advertising

Talk about the things that truly matter to you and give others a chance to know what you care about and what you believe in. If they believe in the same things and they care about the same things, they’ll eagerly let you know. Thus you’ll find meaningful common ground and you’ll feel more connected.

3. Express Vulnerability

Many people try to come off as perfect. They don’t talk about their failures, they hide their shortcomings and they never say anything that could embarrass them.

This is all just a facade though. You may appear perfect to some, but you know you’re not perfect and they know that too. You’re only human and humans have flaws.

However, by hiding your flaws, what you do succeed in is appearing cold and impersonal. You seem like a marble statue rather than a real person. And this makes it very hard for anyone to connect with you emotionally.

Humans connect with other humans, not with ideals. Keep this in mind and don’t be afraid to let your vulnerability and your humanity show. This is what takes a relationship to the next level.

Take a look at this article and find out Why Showing Vulnerability Actually Proves Your Strength.

Advertising

4. Have Integrity

Integrity, as I see it, is the alignment between your thoughts, your words and your actions. When you say what you think and you do what you said you’ll do, you have integrity.

This is a crucial trait because if you have integrity, people can trust you. They can trust you to give them an honest feedback, even when it’s hard to shallow, and they can trust you to keep your promises.

This trust is one of the central pillars of a strong relationship, both in your personal and your professional life. So, as challenging as it can be sometimes, always try to have integrity.

Be honest with the people around you, even when this will initially hurt them. It’s more important for them to trust you than to not feel hurt. And always do what you promised. Even better, think twice before you promise anything, and only promise what you really can and you are willing to do.

5. Be There for Others

Another central pillar of strong relationships is support. Connections between people grow sturdy if they can rely on each other for support when it’s needed, whether that support means a few kind words or several massive actions.

Of course, you can’t be there for everybody, all the time. Your time, energy and other resources are limited. But what you can do is identify the genuinely important people in your life and then seek to be there as much as possible, at least for them.

Advertising

Your support will help them practically, and it will comfort them emotionally; which makes one hell of a difference in a relationship.

The Bottom Line

With the right mindset and the right behavior, you can strengthen a wide range of relationships in your life and advance them as far as they can be advanced.

And with strong relationships, not only that you feel more fulfilled, but you feel more connected to the entire world. You feel that your life has real value, you have more fun and you live in the moment. An entire world of opportunities opens up in front of you.

Then your task is to simply walk through the open doors.

More About Effective Communication

Featured photo credit: Proxyclick Visitor Management System via unsplash.com

Read Next