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5 Reasons Why Serious Breakup Is Actually Good for You

5 Reasons Why Serious Breakup Is Actually Good for You

Breaking up with someone is never easy, especially if it was a serious relationship. No amount of comfort food or Netflix binge watching seems to heal the immense pain that you feel. Even if it is hard to believe, your friends and family were right when they said you will eventually start to move on and feel better.

Despite all the hardships that you are struggling with now, there are some benefits that will come out of this experience. Read on to see what major breakups can teach you in the long-term.

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1. They will spare you the bigger heartbreak in the future.

It may seem like a mistake at the moment, but breaking up with the love of your life happened for a reason. It is better to have come to this conclusion that you are not a good fit now before you make a bigger commitment to each other and are married with children. Believe me that it is infinitely harder to go your separate ways when things are not working out when you are legally bound to one another and share huge life responsibilities like kids between the two of you.

2. They will give you time to reevaluate your life.

One of the benefits of breaking up is having more alone time to reflect on yourself. Moments of hardship within your life tend to provide an opportunity to grow if you are willing to embrace them. At first, it may be difficult to think about positive self-growth since you are dealing with the sadness and array of other difficult emotions that come along with a serious breakup.

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After a while though, you will start to see the benefit of being single and being able to redirect the energy that you used to focus on your relationship to your own needs.

3. They will allow you to be more independent.

Being in a relationship, you always had a built-in companion by your side. Now that you are single, you will have to learn how to navigate life on your own.

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Learning how to be self-reliant is invaluable in all areas of life, whether in work or in your personal daily routine. Learning to be independent will also give you the courage to step out of your comfort zone and try things that you never thought of exploring before. Traveling solo to a new country? Why not. Trying your hand at a cooking class? Bring it on.

4. They will encourage you to be more social.

After the initial pain of the breakup wears off and you feel ready to brave the world that does not include your living room and sweats, going out and being social is crucial to moving on. It may seem awkward and strange at first — going out as a party of one with your friends. But this just means you are more receptive to social invitations. Instead of wanting to stay home with your significant other and watch Homeland on Saturday night, you have more time to hang out with friends and hit the town.

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5. They help you put things in perspective.

After going through a difficult breakup, you realize that you are a lot stronger than you think. You also realize that situations that once seem insurmountable are actually not that big of a deal. Having this new perspective in life can help you gain the courage to confront people in your life that you have been avoiding, or take a leap of faith by attending a writing workshop that you always wanted to try.

Soon, you will come to realize that there is a life after your relationship and that the only way to know this is by enduring the momentary pain of the break-up.

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Last Updated on December 2, 2018

7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

When giving a presentation or speech, you have to engage your audience effectively in order to truly get your point across. Unlike a written editorial or newsletter, your speech is fleeting; once you’ve said everything you set out to say, you don’t get a second chance to have your voice heard in that specific arena.

You need to make sure your audience hangs on to every word you say, from your introduction to your wrap-up. You can do so by:

1. Connecting them with each other

Picture your typical rock concert. What’s the first thing the singer says to the crowd after jumping out on stage? “Hello (insert city name here)!” Just acknowledging that he’s coherent enough to know where he is is enough for the audience to go wild and get into the show.

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It makes each individual feel as if they’re a part of something bigger. The same goes for any public speaking event. When an audience hears, “You’re all here because you care deeply about wildlife preservation,” it gives them a sense that they’re not just there to listen, but they’re there to connect with the like-minded people all around them.

2. Connect with their emotions

Speakers always try to get their audience emotionally involved in whatever topic they’re discussing. There are a variety of ways in which to do this, such as using statistics, stories, pictures or videos that really show the importance of the topic at hand.

For example, showing pictures of the aftermath of an accident related to drunk driving will certainly send a specific message to an audience of teenagers and young adults. While doing so might be emotionally nerve-racking to the crowd, it may be necessary to get your point across and engage them fully.

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3. Keep going back to the beginning

Revisit your theme throughout your presentation. Although you should give your audience the credit they deserve and know that they can follow along, linking back to your initial thesis can act as a subconscious reminder of why what you’re currently telling them is important.

On the other hand, if you simply mention your theme or the point of your speech at the beginning and never mention it again, it gives your audience the impression that it’s not really that important.

4. Link to your audience’s motivation

After you’ve acknowledged your audience’s common interests in being present, discuss their motivation for being there. Be specific. Using the previous example, if your audience clearly cares about wildlife preservation, discuss what can be done to help save endangered species’ from extinction.

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Don’t just give them cold, hard facts; use the facts to make a point that they can use to better themselves or the world in some way.

5. Entertain them

While not all speeches or presentations are meant to be entertaining in a comedic way, audiences will become thoroughly engaged in anecdotes that relate to the overall theme of the speech. We discussed appealing to emotions, and that’s exactly what a speaker sets out to do when he tells a story from his past or that of a well-known historical figure.

Speakers usually tell more than one story in order to show that the first one they told isn’t simply an anomaly, and that whatever outcome they’re attempting to prove will consistently reoccur, given certain circumstances.

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6. Appeal to loyalty

Just like the musician mentioning the town he’s playing in will get the audience ready to rock, speakers need to appeal to their audience’s loyalty to their country, company, product or cause. Show them how important it is that they’re present and listening to your speech by making your words hit home to each individual.

In doing so, the members of your audience will feel as if you’re speaking directly to them while you’re addressing the entire crowd.

7. Tell them the benefits of the presentation

Early on in your presentation, you should tell your audience exactly what they’ll learn, and exactly how they’ll learn it. Don’t expect them to listen if they don’t have clear-cut information to listen for. On the other hand, if they know what to listen for, they’ll be more apt to stay engaged throughout your entire presentation so they don’t miss anything.

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