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5 Reasons Why Serious Breakup Is Actually Good for You

5 Reasons Why Serious Breakup Is Actually Good for You

Breaking up with someone is never easy, especially if it was a serious relationship. No amount of comfort food or Netflix binge watching seems to heal the immense pain that you feel. Even if it is hard to believe, your friends and family were right when they said you will eventually start to move on and feel better.

Despite all the hardships that you are struggling with now, there are some benefits that will come out of this experience. Read on to see what major breakups can teach you in the long-term.

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1. They will spare you the bigger heartbreak in the future.

It may seem like a mistake at the moment, but breaking up with the love of your life happened for a reason. It is better to have come to this conclusion that you are not a good fit now before you make a bigger commitment to each other and are married with children. Believe me that it is infinitely harder to go your separate ways when things are not working out when you are legally bound to one another and share huge life responsibilities like kids between the two of you.

2. They will give you time to reevaluate your life.

One of the benefits of breaking up is having more alone time to reflect on yourself. Moments of hardship within your life tend to provide an opportunity to grow if you are willing to embrace them. At first, it may be difficult to think about positive self-growth since you are dealing with the sadness and array of other difficult emotions that come along with a serious breakup.

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After a while though, you will start to see the benefit of being single and being able to redirect the energy that you used to focus on your relationship to your own needs.

3. They will allow you to be more independent.

Being in a relationship, you always had a built-in companion by your side. Now that you are single, you will have to learn how to navigate life on your own.

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Learning how to be self-reliant is invaluable in all areas of life, whether in work or in your personal daily routine. Learning to be independent will also give you the courage to step out of your comfort zone and try things that you never thought of exploring before. Traveling solo to a new country? Why not. Trying your hand at a cooking class? Bring it on.

4. They will encourage you to be more social.

After the initial pain of the breakup wears off and you feel ready to brave the world that does not include your living room and sweats, going out and being social is crucial to moving on. It may seem awkward and strange at first — going out as a party of one with your friends. But this just means you are more receptive to social invitations. Instead of wanting to stay home with your significant other and watch Homeland on Saturday night, you have more time to hang out with friends and hit the town.

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5. They help you put things in perspective.

After going through a difficult breakup, you realize that you are a lot stronger than you think. You also realize that situations that once seem insurmountable are actually not that big of a deal. Having this new perspective in life can help you gain the courage to confront people in your life that you have been avoiding, or take a leap of faith by attending a writing workshop that you always wanted to try.

Soon, you will come to realize that there is a life after your relationship and that the only way to know this is by enduring the momentary pain of the break-up.

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Last Updated on June 13, 2019

How to Quit Your Boring Life and Start Living an Interesting One

How to Quit Your Boring Life and Start Living an Interesting One

Think you have a boring life?

The definition of boring is dull or not interesting. Maybe you’ve been doing the same thing and living the same life for too long, or maybe your daily routine is limiting your growth and happiness. Whatever your reason is, the following list of 20 things can definitely make any day more interesting. Some of them are silly, while some are more meaningful, so hopefully just reading the list makes your life less boring and sparks your creativity.

Let’s dive in the list to quit your boring life and start living an interesting (and meaning) one!

1. Channel Your 7-Year-Old Self

What would he or she want to do right now? Color? Paint? Run around outside? Play dress up? Eat with your hands? Play that instrument hiding in the back of your closet that you haven’t touched in years?

Just because you’re a grown up doesn’t mean any of this stuff will be less enjoyable than you remember it. Give yourself permission to play.

2. Go Play with Kids

Speaking of little kids, if you have your own or access to any (in a non-creepy way, like they’re your niece or your best friend’s kid, you get the idea) go play with them!

They didn’t create an entire show called Kids Say The Darndest Things because kids aren’t hilarious. They also keep things so simple, and we can really stand to be reminded of this and stop allowing ourselves to get bogged down in boring details.

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3. Order a Hot Dog

While you’re eating it, Google: “What’s in a hot dog?” You decide whether or not you want to finish it.

4. For the Ladies: Wear Your Sexiest Lingerie Under Your Work Clothes

Your “little secret” will leave you feeling anything but boring all day!

5. Play Cell Phone Roulette

You’ll need at least one buddy for this. Scroll through the contacts in your phone, stop on a random one and call the person.

You could spark an incredible catch up session or be incredibly awkward. Neither are boring.

6. Fill out a Pack of Thank-You Cards

Give them to random people who probably don’t get thanked too often for doing what they do ever day.

Ideas: police officers, librarians, servers, baristas, cab drivers, sanitation workers, teachers, people behind any check out counter, receptionists, your friends, the guy at the falafel stand, etc.

7. Sign up for a Class in Something You’ve “Always Wanted to Do”, or Something That Makes You Really Uncomfortable

Ideas: pole dancing, salsa lessons, improv, pottery, cooking, knitting (yup, there are classes for this, too!), karate, boxing, something techy like the workshops they run in Apple stores, get Rosetta Stone and learn that language you’ve always wanted to speak, etc.

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What’s good about joining an interest class is that you will also meet new people!

8. Interview Your Grandparents About Their Lives

You can bet they’ve had some crazy experiences you probably never knew about.

9. Get up on Stage at an Open Mic Night

Whether you’re funny or not, get up on stage and just talk funny. And if you’re not, memorize a few of your favorite jokes and tell those!

10. Do Something for Someone Else That You Wish Someone Would Do for You

We all have a few ideas on this list. I promise you will feel amazing after and anything but bored.

11. Start a DIY Project in Your Home

It doesn’t have to be super complicated. If you need ideas, there’re plenty on Pinterest. Or you can also check out these 30 Awesome DIY Projects that You’ve Never Heard of.

12. Plan a Weekend Trip or an All-Out Vacation

This will give you something to look forward to.

Even if you don’t have the time or money to go on a vacation, plan for a staycation, which is same fun and relaxing!

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13. People Watch

Find a bench in a crowded area (centers of transportation like airports, bus stops and train stations are great for this!) and just observe.

People are infinitely interesting.

14. Eat Something You’ve Never Eaten Before

Bonus points if it’s a random fruit or veggie.

15. Dance

You can get your friends together for a night on the town or just pull up a video on YouTube and bust a move from your own living room.

If you’re feeling extra brave, you can even dance in public and get other people involved.

16. Go to YOUTUBE and Search “Funny Pets” or “Funny Babies”

This is also a great quickie ab workout as you will be laughing hysterically.

17. Pick up a Book and Start Reading

Check out the NY Times Best Sellers lists and grab a new book you can get lost in.

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18. Step Away from the Computer and Go Get Some Time with People You Care About in Real Life

Facebook stalking doesn’t count as real social interaction. You can even share this post with your friends and vote on which one you’d like to do together!

19. Check out a Museum You’ve Never Been to Before

OK, depending on your interests, this one might actually be boring. If you love learning, art or different cultures though, this one is for you!

20. Write a List of Things You Desire and Truly Want

This is a great way to help you figure out the real reason why you’re feeling bored about your life. Maybe you haven’t really done things that you truly enjoy? Maybe what you’ve wanted to do all the time has been left behind?

Think about the list of things you really want to do, and ask yourself why you aren’t doing these things (yet). Then start taking your first step to make what you want happen.

Now go make your life interesting and live your dream life!

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