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I Don’t Want To Get Drunk On Jealousy But I Am So Scared To Lose You.

I Don’t Want To Get Drunk On Jealousy But I Am So Scared To Lose You.

Having severe insecurity is a hardship for those who feel that way. But for those who love an insecure person, it can be confusing and difficult trying to help. If you keep these few things in mind, it is guaranteed to help the person you love through their hard days and their insecurity.

1. We aren’t trying to drive you crazy

There will be days when we’ve asked you a million times if we just said or did something embarrassing, if our outfit looks bad, or if we look fat. We promise it is not to drive you crazy. How nervous we are about how we appear to others has a lot to do with how insecure we are feeling for the day. If we ask you a million times how we look or if we did something embarrassing, it’s not to drive you crazy- it’s because we’re scared we’re not living up to what we want to be. So go along with us when we need it- it’ll help us both.

2. We don’t mean to feel jealous

We love you very much, you need to know that. The days where we feel jealous or worried that you’re not interested in us anymore- it doesn’t have to do with you. It has everything to do with our own insecurity. It’s us feeling worried that we’re not good enough for you and that one day you will figure that out and shatter our hearts. We don’t want to be crazy with jealousy, but we are so scared to lose you.

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3. You make us feel comfortable when you’re near us

Around you, we are our most comfortable. On the good days, we know that we have someone in our lives that we can be ourselves around. Someone that we can let out our loudest laugh with or wear our worst sweatshirt. Please remember how special and important that is to us- there’s not that many people in the world who can take away our insecurity.

4. Some days we just feel down

There will be days when our insecurity is just too much and we’re feeling down. On these days be sensitive to our bad day. We may need an extra hug, compliment, alone time, or all of the above. Remember that it’s okay for us to have a bad day, be there for us and let us know we are loved.

5. It’s not your fault

With insecurity usually comes sensitivity. We can’t help being sensitive any more than you can help saying one little wrong thing. Deep down we know it’s not your fault that you mentioned that the dress we’re wearing doesn’t make us look very good even though we thought it looked great. You weren’t trying to but it still hurt our feelings. Just know that our insecurity is NOT your fault. You did nothing to cause us to feel this way, it’s just who we are.

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6. Sex isn’t as simple as it seems

For you it may be as simple as turning out the lights, dropping the clothes and having a little fun under the sheets. For us, it’s so much more than that. Not only are we worried about every aspect of our body, but we also have major insecurity about if we’re doing everything right. Sometimes we get so far into our own head in worry that sex is no longer fun, but stressful. Remember to be extra tender when the lights go out, and let us feel how loved we are.

7. We think you see every single flaw

We would give pretty much anything to see ourselves the way you see us. But we can’t. All we can do is see ourselves through our own eyes. And through our own eyes all of our insecurities come out and we see every single flaw. But the worst feeling is we think you see every single flaw as well. Every wrinkle, blemish, and extra pound we gain. Show us you think we’re attractive and we’ll open up so much more.

8. A new outfit can change a night

When we’re headed for a night out- we absolutely don’t mean to make you late when we can’t find anything to wear and we aren’t trying to be a pain. But we genuinely don’t feel comfortable in anything we’re wearing. There’s nothing worse for a person who has insecurities than to feel like they don’t look good. So give us a few minutes in a department store to shop around and find something we’re comfortable in, it could change the entire night.

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9. Only give compliments when you mean it

We know the difference between a true compliment and a false one simply intended to make us feel better. We have enough insecurity, so please only give us the true ones. It’ll only make us worry more if we’re wondering why you’re trying so hard to make us feel good.

10. Love us extra hard because sometimes we forget to love ourselves

We see all of our flaws, we remember every embarrassing thing we’ve ever done, and we let all of our insecurity get the best of us. When all of this piles up, sometimes we forget to love ourselves. So give us extra love, hugs, and kisses. Stand by us on our toughest days and we’ll continue to love you fiercely.

Loving a person with such major insecurity issues is a challenge, but being a person with high insecurity is a challenge as well. The most important thing to remember is to keep loving us, and we’ll give you everything we have.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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