7 Things About Relationship I Wish I Could Tell My Younger Self

7 Things About Relationship I Wish I Could Tell My Younger Self

Every relationship comes with a challenge. Growing up and trying to make the best out of relationships was hard. Sometimes it was about taking. Other times it was about giving. Truthfully being in a relationship meant so much when we were younger, we just wanted to be part of the process and dating someone may have been ideal since everyone was doing it.

Looking back or reflecting on the pictures of me being together with some of my dates, there are things I wouldn’t do or do now. Growing up has thought me what relationships truly mean and here are some things I have learned along the way that I would have been happy to share with my younger self about relationships.


1. An individual’s physical appearance really doesn’t amount to much

At first the physical attraction could be powerful and all you may think of is the person’s eyes, body and smile. But then what contributes to a stable and committed relationship is never the looks of the other person. There are many other facets you should consider in the other person before proceeding with the relationship. Ask yourself if the other person is an excellent communicator or if the other person can relate with your goals and shares your values.

2. Every relationship is unique

Don’t expect every relationship you enter to be similar to your past relationship. Every relationship is unique. And yes they can be amazingly beautiful. You should understand that when you share your world with someone you create a whole new world of bliss and magic that sorts of entwine you with each other every time.


3. True love exists

There could be times when you are heartbroken and you could give in to doubts that being in love is a mirage or an illusion. But you should not be negative about every relationship you enter. Yes true love does exist. But it requires some hard work and effort on your part. You have to nurture every relationship and work hard to make love happen.

4. You can’t be deserving of love if you do not love yourself

Before you can faithfully express love to anyone you have to experience it with yourself. Many people do not understand the importance of this but growing up I found out that I have to gentle on myself and make time for activities that make me feel alive. If you can show yourself unconditional love and compassion it will be easier to navigate through the tides of any relationship.


5. Always learn to reveal who you really are

Communication is a key to the success of any relationship. Honesty grilled with this communication helps in a lot of cases. You should be expressive in a relationship. You should not hide who you are or try to hide your character behind a heavy mask. The people who we fall in love with the most are those who express their truest self, their passions, fears, dreams funny habits and quirks.

6. There really are different languages of love

Show your partner what love is. Let them feel it. We all have different ways which we accept love. It could be through being helped out, through touching and affection, the simplicity of your company or being helped out. It is your duty growing up to learn how to speak the different languages of love.


7. Be willing to be the giver in every relationship

Do not waltz into relationships because you want to receive. Giving is very important to the success of any relationship. Learn to appreciate the other person. When you give to them there is something that is joyful about it. It is a way of feeling someone else’s happiness and making it as your own. Jump on opportunities to make them smile, laugh and feel fulfilled.

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Last Updated on December 2, 2018

7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

When giving a presentation or speech, you have to engage your audience effectively in order to truly get your point across. Unlike a written editorial or newsletter, your speech is fleeting; once you’ve said everything you set out to say, you don’t get a second chance to have your voice heard in that specific arena.

You need to make sure your audience hangs on to every word you say, from your introduction to your wrap-up. You can do so by:

1. Connecting them with each other

Picture your typical rock concert. What’s the first thing the singer says to the crowd after jumping out on stage? “Hello (insert city name here)!” Just acknowledging that he’s coherent enough to know where he is is enough for the audience to go wild and get into the show.


It makes each individual feel as if they’re a part of something bigger. The same goes for any public speaking event. When an audience hears, “You’re all here because you care deeply about wildlife preservation,” it gives them a sense that they’re not just there to listen, but they’re there to connect with the like-minded people all around them.

2. Connect with their emotions

Speakers always try to get their audience emotionally involved in whatever topic they’re discussing. There are a variety of ways in which to do this, such as using statistics, stories, pictures or videos that really show the importance of the topic at hand.

For example, showing pictures of the aftermath of an accident related to drunk driving will certainly send a specific message to an audience of teenagers and young adults. While doing so might be emotionally nerve-racking to the crowd, it may be necessary to get your point across and engage them fully.


3. Keep going back to the beginning

Revisit your theme throughout your presentation. Although you should give your audience the credit they deserve and know that they can follow along, linking back to your initial thesis can act as a subconscious reminder of why what you’re currently telling them is important.

On the other hand, if you simply mention your theme or the point of your speech at the beginning and never mention it again, it gives your audience the impression that it’s not really that important.

4. Link to your audience’s motivation

After you’ve acknowledged your audience’s common interests in being present, discuss their motivation for being there. Be specific. Using the previous example, if your audience clearly cares about wildlife preservation, discuss what can be done to help save endangered species’ from extinction.


Don’t just give them cold, hard facts; use the facts to make a point that they can use to better themselves or the world in some way.

5. Entertain them

While not all speeches or presentations are meant to be entertaining in a comedic way, audiences will become thoroughly engaged in anecdotes that relate to the overall theme of the speech. We discussed appealing to emotions, and that’s exactly what a speaker sets out to do when he tells a story from his past or that of a well-known historical figure.

Speakers usually tell more than one story in order to show that the first one they told isn’t simply an anomaly, and that whatever outcome they’re attempting to prove will consistently reoccur, given certain circumstances.


6. Appeal to loyalty

Just like the musician mentioning the town he’s playing in will get the audience ready to rock, speakers need to appeal to their audience’s loyalty to their country, company, product or cause. Show them how important it is that they’re present and listening to your speech by making your words hit home to each individual.

In doing so, the members of your audience will feel as if you’re speaking directly to them while you’re addressing the entire crowd.

7. Tell them the benefits of the presentation

Early on in your presentation, you should tell your audience exactly what they’ll learn, and exactly how they’ll learn it. Don’t expect them to listen if they don’t have clear-cut information to listen for. On the other hand, if they know what to listen for, they’ll be more apt to stay engaged throughout your entire presentation so they don’t miss anything.

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