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7 Things About Relationship I Wish I Could Tell My Younger Self

7 Things About Relationship I Wish I Could Tell My Younger Self

Every relationship comes with a challenge. Growing up and trying to make the best out of relationships was hard. Sometimes it was about taking. Other times it was about giving. Truthfully being in a relationship meant so much when we were younger, we just wanted to be part of the process and dating someone may have been ideal since everyone was doing it.

Looking back or reflecting on the pictures of me being together with some of my dates, there are things I wouldn’t do or do now. Growing up has thought me what relationships truly mean and here are some things I have learned along the way that I would have been happy to share with my younger self about relationships.

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1. An individual’s physical appearance really doesn’t amount to much

At first the physical attraction could be powerful and all you may think of is the person’s eyes, body and smile. But then what contributes to a stable and committed relationship is never the looks of the other person. There are many other facets you should consider in the other person before proceeding with the relationship. Ask yourself if the other person is an excellent communicator or if the other person can relate with your goals and shares your values.

2. Every relationship is unique

Don’t expect every relationship you enter to be similar to your past relationship. Every relationship is unique. And yes they can be amazingly beautiful. You should understand that when you share your world with someone you create a whole new world of bliss and magic that sorts of entwine you with each other every time.

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3. True love exists

There could be times when you are heartbroken and you could give in to doubts that being in love is a mirage or an illusion. But you should not be negative about every relationship you enter. Yes true love does exist. But it requires some hard work and effort on your part. You have to nurture every relationship and work hard to make love happen.

4. You can’t be deserving of love if you do not love yourself

Before you can faithfully express love to anyone you have to experience it with yourself. Many people do not understand the importance of this but growing up I found out that I have to gentle on myself and make time for activities that make me feel alive. If you can show yourself unconditional love and compassion it will be easier to navigate through the tides of any relationship.

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5. Always learn to reveal who you really are

Communication is a key to the success of any relationship. Honesty grilled with this communication helps in a lot of cases. You should be expressive in a relationship. You should not hide who you are or try to hide your character behind a heavy mask. The people who we fall in love with the most are those who express their truest self, their passions, fears, dreams funny habits and quirks.

6. There really are different languages of love

Show your partner what love is. Let them feel it. We all have different ways which we accept love. It could be through being helped out, through touching and affection, the simplicity of your company or being helped out. It is your duty growing up to learn how to speak the different languages of love.

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7. Be willing to be the giver in every relationship

Do not waltz into relationships because you want to receive. Giving is very important to the success of any relationship. Learn to appreciate the other person. When you give to them there is something that is joyful about it. It is a way of feeling someone else’s happiness and making it as your own. Jump on opportunities to make them smile, laugh and feel fulfilled.

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Why It’s Never Too Late To Redefine Yourself

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The ability to reinvent and redefine yourself is a bold, daring and purposeful choice. It doesn’t just happen. You have to make a conscious, intentional choice and then follow through.

If the thought of forging a new path, changing habits, thought patterns and your inner circle of friends scares you – you’re not alone. Change can be a very scary thing. It takes courage, fortitude and a bit of faith to decide to shed your old self and don a new persona. However, it is one of the most critical processes one must repeatedly endure in the pursuit of destiny. Change unlocks new levels of potential.

The Need for Change

Everyday when we wake up, we make a decision. We decide to follow our routine or we decide to go off script and shake things up a bit. For those who are creatures of habit, routine is comfortable, easy and produces very little stress. The problem with this is, after a while you stop growing.

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We all reinvent ourselves at some point in our lives. It is absolutely necessary to achieve certain levels of success.

Reflect back on who you were as a teenager and then who you were at 25. Those are two very different people. Most of us are completely different. Your thought patterns changed, your appearance, job, level of education and even your friends– changed. We like to refer to this as “growing up” or maturing and consider it to be one of life’s natural progressions. However the changes you made were purposeful and deliberate.

This process must be a lifelong and continuous cycle. You are never too old to refresh yourself.

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    Signs It’s Time to Redefine

    “Just as established products and brands need updating to stay alive and vibrant, you periodically need to refresh or reinvent yourself.”– Mireille Guiliano

    So how do you know when it’s time for a system upgrade? There are signs along the way that alert you that it is time for an overhaul. The first sign is the feeling of being stuck. If you feel like you are in a rut, you’re bored with life or you need some newness and excitement, a self reinvention may be in order. Re-evaluate your life vision and your goals. Is that vision still valid and are your goals consistent with your vision and–are they achievable? If you are off course, it’s time for a change. If you are not moving forward and making progress, it’s time for a change.

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    In life, there’s no such thing as neutrality–you’re either moving forward or you are moving backward. Time constantly moves forward and if you are standing still, you are actually losing ground. No matter your age or stage in life– there is always room for improvement.

    “You’re never too old to set another goal or dream a new dream.” ~C. S. Lewis

    The second sign that you are due for a change is the occurrence of major life events in which change is forced upon you. Getting married, starting a new job, being promoted, ending a relationship, becoming a parenting or relocating are all prime opportunities to completely overhaul your life.

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    When these major shifts occur in your life–you have to shift with them. You can’t have a single mentality and have a successful marriage. You can’t remain selfish and irresponsible, and raise a healthy, well-adjusted child. You can’t be promoted to a supervisory position and keep the same subordinate attitude. Each level of success requires something different from you.

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      Consider, for a moment, Arnold Schwarzenegger. People may have different opinions about his character and some of his life choices, but he is a master at reinventing himself. He achieved the ultimate success as a professional body builder by earning the title “Mr. Universe” three times. He then earned a tremendous amount of fame and fortune in the entertainment industry making action/adventure films. And in his latest role, he served two terms as the Governor of California. He succeeded as a professional body builder, a film star and a politician. Each role required massive amounts of change, commitment, strength and hard work.

      And if Arnold can do it…so can you!

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