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7 Things About Relationship I Wish I Could Tell My Younger Self

7 Things About Relationship I Wish I Could Tell My Younger Self

Every relationship comes with a challenge. Growing up and trying to make the best out of relationships was hard. Sometimes it was about taking. Other times it was about giving. Truthfully being in a relationship meant so much when we were younger, we just wanted to be part of the process and dating someone may have been ideal since everyone was doing it.

Looking back or reflecting on the pictures of me being together with some of my dates, there are things I wouldn’t do or do now. Growing up has thought me what relationships truly mean and here are some things I have learned along the way that I would have been happy to share with my younger self about relationships.

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1. An individual’s physical appearance really doesn’t amount to much

At first the physical attraction could be powerful and all you may think of is the person’s eyes, body and smile. But then what contributes to a stable and committed relationship is never the looks of the other person. There are many other facets you should consider in the other person before proceeding with the relationship. Ask yourself if the other person is an excellent communicator or if the other person can relate with your goals and shares your values.

2. Every relationship is unique

Don’t expect every relationship you enter to be similar to your past relationship. Every relationship is unique. And yes they can be amazingly beautiful. You should understand that when you share your world with someone you create a whole new world of bliss and magic that sorts of entwine you with each other every time.

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3. True love exists

There could be times when you are heartbroken and you could give in to doubts that being in love is a mirage or an illusion. But you should not be negative about every relationship you enter. Yes true love does exist. But it requires some hard work and effort on your part. You have to nurture every relationship and work hard to make love happen.

4. You can’t be deserving of love if you do not love yourself

Before you can faithfully express love to anyone you have to experience it with yourself. Many people do not understand the importance of this but growing up I found out that I have to gentle on myself and make time for activities that make me feel alive. If you can show yourself unconditional love and compassion it will be easier to navigate through the tides of any relationship.

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5. Always learn to reveal who you really are

Communication is a key to the success of any relationship. Honesty grilled with this communication helps in a lot of cases. You should be expressive in a relationship. You should not hide who you are or try to hide your character behind a heavy mask. The people who we fall in love with the most are those who express their truest self, their passions, fears, dreams funny habits and quirks.

6. There really are different languages of love

Show your partner what love is. Let them feel it. We all have different ways which we accept love. It could be through being helped out, through touching and affection, the simplicity of your company or being helped out. It is your duty growing up to learn how to speak the different languages of love.

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7. Be willing to be the giver in every relationship

Do not waltz into relationships because you want to receive. Giving is very important to the success of any relationship. Learn to appreciate the other person. When you give to them there is something that is joyful about it. It is a way of feeling someone else’s happiness and making it as your own. Jump on opportunities to make them smile, laugh and feel fulfilled.

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Last Updated on October 15, 2018

Why Helping Others Actually Helps Yourself

Why Helping Others Actually Helps Yourself

Helping others: it’s a fundamental part of humanity, bonding together and helping a fellow man or woman. In times of tragedy, the stories of those who help others are inspiring, such as helping the nation recover from national disasters and terrorist attacks. Some men and women even devote their lives to helping others, from the police force that protects our cities, to the fire departments who run into burning buildings, to the service men and women who risk their lives for the common good.

“No one has ever become poor by giving.” ― Anne Frank, diary of Anne Frank

But helping others isn’t limited to these grand gestures or times of tribulation. Helping others can be done each and every day. And contrary to what you may have heard, helping others doesn’t always have to be a selfless act. It’s important to understand that helping others can actually help yourself. No matter what the motivation, getting out and helping others is the key. So in that spirit of motivation, here are 5 reasons why helping others actually helps yourself.

1. Quid Pro Quo

When you help someone, they will be more likely to help you. This is the basic, unspoken agreement that fuels nearly every move. I’ll spend my entire day lugging boxes, but you owe me. It’s much easier to find help when someone knows you’d do the same for them. They may not always live up to their end of the bargin, and you may not either. But if you help enough people and do many good deeds, it will be given back when needed.

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2. Karma goes both ways.

All too often, the idea of Karma is described in a negative way. If you do bad, bad will come find you. But it works the other way too. When you are a good person and help people, good things seem to happen. And while you may not believe in an inter-connected universe that rewards good deeds, there is something to be said about how helping others changes your perspective. When you’re helping others, you will often feel better about yourself, increasing the likelihood that your next experience will be a positive one, rather than a negative one.

3. Doing good feels good.

It’s maybe the most cited benefit of doing good: you’ll feel great. Helping others is a great way to feel better about yourself. Seeing a smile or even tears of joy makes it all worth it. It’s as simple as that.

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4. Good publicity is the best publicity.

People notice when you’re doing good. It may not be the reason you help out, but someone is always watching. Even the simplest gesture can make an awesome impression.

When I was in college, I had a class that helped out at a school for a full day. I worked with a small group of high school students who were incredibly interested in writing, and I had a great time. I asked the teacher if I could come back on my own time and work with these students to finish this project we were working on, to which she agreed.

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I went two more times that week, thinking nothing more about it. Fast forward a few weeks: I received a letter in the mail stating I had been chosen as a Presidential Grant Recipient for the summer and received a $2,000 stipend to work with a group of students and professors on a research project over the summer. I was floored, as I hadn’t even applied. I was nominated by that teacher who appreciated the work I did with her students. It wasn’t expected, but helping others ended up opening a door I never would have known was even available.

5. Helping others looks good on a resume or application.

Is your resume looking a little thin? Does your college application need a bit of pizzaz? Volunteering your time and energy to help others makes your resume and applications look as good as it makes you feel. Hiring managers look favorably on volunteer work and many acceptance committees use it to separate similar candidates. So read to some first graders, volunteer at the homeless shelter, and volunteer at your local Boys and Girl Club. Your resume will thank you.

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