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4 Books Introverts Wish You Would Read

4 Books Introverts Wish You Would Read

The latest estimates put the number of people who identify as “introverts” at 50%. That’s an increase of nearly 30% from a few decades ago. Could it be that the instance of the introverted personality trait is increasing as time goes on? Perhaps more and more people are gaining an understanding of the introverted personality trait and are identifying those aspects in themselves. Whatever the reason, books about introverts, extroverts, and the struggles between them keep coming.  Here are four books that take the reader inside the mysterious minds of those who identify as “introverts” and what it’s like to live in their worlds. You may find a little (or a lot) of yourself in these writings…

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    1. Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking, by Susan Cain

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      Perhaps THE book that inspired the current love affair with all things introverted, Susan Cain brings us the vanguard writing on introverts and how they manage in a world where extroversion seems to lead the way while introversion is often viewed as something that needs to be fixed.

      Cain begins with a short history lesson recounting the U.S.’s culture shift away from the building of character and toward the “cult of personality” when we started to see extroversion as the gateway to personal and professional success. From there she moves on to extol the virtues of the introverted mindset and ends with a call to action for society in general to rethink its views of introversion in all aspects of life from how we educate our children to how we lead our organizations. The success of the book has spawned an ever-growing online community of introverts who connect on Facebook and through Cain’s website Quiet Revolution.

      2. The Genius of Opposites: How Introverts and Extroverts Achieve Extraordinary Results Together, by Jennifer B. Kahnweiller, PhD

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        Can introverts and extroverts work together successfully? According to Kahnweiler, the answer is a resounding yes, with exponential results. However the path to success can be fraught with opportunities for these tenuous relationships between opposites to break down. Kahnweiller discusses well-known opposite duos that have made it work, as well as some who failed, and she provides a 5-step process she believes will set these pairs up for success.

        3. The Introvert’s Way: Living a Quiet Life in a Noisy World, by Sophia Dembling

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          With chapter titles like “Quiet Riot” and “Hell is a Cocktail Party,” The Introvert’s Way: Living a Quiet Life in a Noisy World could be taken as the heavy metal version of Cain’s Quiet…. Irreverent and un-apologetic, this book further illustrates the misconceptions and deep-seated biases introverts and extroverts have toward each other; and offers a “safe space” for the introverted among us to flip society the *quiet* bird for trying to change who we are.

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          4. The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You, by Elaine N. Aron, PhD

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            Let’s get it out of the way right off the bat… all introverts are not highly sensitive and all highly sensitive people are not introverts. The terms are not interchangeable. However, evidence suggests that people who fall into the introverted category also have a higher incidence of what Elaine Aron terms “high sensitivity.” According to Aron a “highly sensitive person” is someone who may be easily overwhelmed by external stimuli like the light and sound one may encounter at a large gathering. The “high sensitive” may need to remove him- or herself from these types of situations in order to re-group and recharge. High sensitives may display more empathy, feel more deeply, and in general be more reflective than the less sensitive among us – traits also commonly attributed to introverts. It shouldn’t come as a surprise, then, that Aron characterizes Carl Jung as a high sensitive (1996).

            Backlash against the “new” love affair with introversion

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            Maybe it’s that introverts are getting all the attention or that they no longer feel they need to apologize for being themselves. Or maybe it’s because this country loves an underdog…Whatever it is, these days it seems introverts get all the love while extroverts are cast as loud-mouthed jerks be-boppin’ and scattin’ their way through life with all the self-awareness of a freight train. Either way if you are an introvert, work with introverts or otherwise share your life with introverts, these books provide insights into their worlds that may help you understand them (and yourself) a little better.

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            Last Updated on October 9, 2018

            27 Ways to Instantly Feel Better When You’re Down

            27 Ways to Instantly Feel Better When You’re Down

            Who has never gone through some ups and downs in the life? But some people can feel better in a quicker way than others because they’ve found their own remedies to heal the bad feelings.

            If you haven’t found yours, these ways will help you instantly feel better and ditch that negative self talk when you’re feeling bad about yourself:

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            1. Listen to the songs you loved when you were in high school or university, this will recall you of the old good times.
            2. Write something. Write down how you feel as a way to express your thoughts if you don’t feel like talking to anyone.
            3. Draw something. Draw anything you want because no one’s going to judge your drawing skills.
            4. Read the postcards or letters your friends or family sent you before, remind yourself there are people who always remember you.
            5. Silently think of a day or moment which you truly enjoyed and try to recapture that very first feeling. Was it the day of your graduation? The moment you traveled with your loved one?
            6. Take out your photo albums and go over your childhood photos.
            7. Cry when you feel like doing so. There’s nothing wrong with crying; cry out all your fear and stress and just face the truth after crying.
            8. Sing loudly like no one can hear you. Do you know that in Japan, people always sing karaoke to relieve stress?
            9. Cook a nice meal for yourself or for your family.
            10. Read your previous diary entries and look at your great memories.
            11. Dress up nicely to feel happier.
            12. Don’t stay in your bed! Get your laptop or a book and sit in a coffee place.
            13. Take a walk outside and feel the fresh air.
            14. Sweat yourself! Go jogging or play some sports.
            15. Pick up the musical instrument you used to play a lot and start to play it.
            16. Tidy up your desk or wardrobe, you’ll feel good that you’re being productive and actually doing something.
            17. Watch some funny videos, sure you can find a lot of them on Youtube.
            18. Eat something you like, be it a chocolate cake, or an ice-cream. Just please yourself with the flavour you like.
            19. Re-read your favorite book and write down the sentences or passages that you love.
            20. Watch a new movie, there must be a movie which you’ve always interested in but had no time to watch it.
            21. Do something nice that no one will notice, say picking up a rubbish in the street and throw it to a trash bin.
            22. Call your best friend and just talk whatever you want! Human beings are social animals after all, connecting with people close to you will make you feel better.
            23. Do voluntary work and help people in need, you’ll feel happy and satisfied.
            24. Get drunk with your close friends at home – a safe place for you to get drunk and get crazy. Let loose and have fun with your very close friends.
            25. Write an email or a note to a friend who you care about.
            26. Get out of your routine life and meet new friends. Get out of your comfort zone! Meeting new people can give you new inspirations in life.
            27. Look into the mirror and smile. Act like today’s already a wonderful day. How we act affects how we feel. It’s difficult to go on feeling sad if you’re trying to smile!

            Remember:

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            It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.  — Epictetus

            If you want to feel better, change what you’re doing because obviously what you’re doing doesn’t make you happy!

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