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10 Amazing Things Only People Who Date Their Best Friend Would Understand

10 Amazing Things Only People Who Date Their Best Friend Would Understand

Best friends are a rare gem in life. They’re precious and must be held carefully to keep the friendship safe. The same exact thing can be said about romantic relationships. But the most rare find of all is finding that your best friend is also the same person you are in a relationship with. Sometimes a friendship turns into romance or the relationship ends up creating the bond of best friends.

No matter how it happens, it’s only when you are lucky enough to find a relationship with your best friend that you realize how truly amazing it is.

If you’ve found love with your best friend, you know the following to be true.

1. You can read their mind

It often feels like best friends can read each others’ minds. By simply looking at each other, they know exactly what the other is thinking.

When you are in a relationship with your best friend, this phenomenon becomes even better. The emotional bond in a relationship becomes so strong, not only can you tell what they are thinking, but you are most often thinking the same thing.

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2. You are always together

People love taking road trips with their best friends, and they love taking vacations with their significant others. When your significant other is your best friend, you get to be with them for all of these trips.

You never have to choose if you should be taking a trip with your best friend or your significant other — because you’re lucky enough that they are the same person.

3. They understand you like no one else

Best friends know you inside and out. When you are in a relationhsip, your significant other also knows everything that’s in your heart. But often times there are a few secrets you hide from either one. Things that you would feel uncomfortable telling your best friend, or a secret you’re not sure if you should share with your significant other.

But when you’re in a relationship with your best friend, you find yourself opening up a whole new part of yourself, exposing every secret. It makes you, as a couple, that much stronger.

4. Nights in become infinitely better

Spending a night in as a couple becomes infinitely more fun when your significant other is also your best friend. You feel you couldn’t ask for a better Friday night than binge watching movies, a nice bottle of wine, and of course, some junk food.

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This makes for the perfect romantic night in — all the while having lots of fun because you’re with your best friend.

5. They will be there for you like no one else

Best friends are a shoulder to cry on; romantic partners hold you tightly when things go wrong.

When you’re in a relationship with your best friend, they are there for you like no one else. They will protect you fiercely, and care for you with every ounce they have — because you are their entire world.

6. You can trust them with your heart

Knowing that your significant other is also your best friend adds a comforting layer of security that makes your heart feel protected. You’ve trusted them with so much, like your secrets and your friendship, that it becomes easy to trust them with your heart. You feel that they will do anything to keep it safe.

7. Dinners out become way more fun

Dining out is such a fun thing to do when you’re out with your best friend. You gorge on anything and everything you want and have no worries about ordering that second drink. When you are out with your significant other, you have the fun and excitement of romance.

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When these two get combined, a couple who is also best friends get double dining-out fun. Not only do you feel comfortable having the extra drink and ordering that loaded baked potato instead of a salad, but you also get to share your significant other’s food, all while having a romantic night together.

8. You can find them in a crowded room just by sensing them

In a crowded party, you always want to be able to find your best friend and your significant other. But when a room is really crowded, it can obviously be tough. When you’re in a relationship with your best friend, you can almost feel their presence — which makes finding them completely easy.

There’s some type of unexplained bond which gives you a very specific type of feel when your best friend and significant other is around. Something that fills in from your heart and flows through your veins, alerting every part of you that they are near.

9. You can be your true self around them

Best friends have seen each other with no makeup, sweatpants, and in dirty t-shirts. It’s a level of comfort you gain when you are around those that know you best.

When a couple is best friends, that level of comfort is even better. You don’t have to be in a constant state of dressing to impress, you can be seen in your ratty pajamas and your significant other will find you just as attractive and love you just the same.

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10. They will never judge you

The reason a best friend is a best friend is because they love you for who you are and they will never judge you for anything that you do. When you are lucky enough to date your best friend, you know that your opinions, actions, and deepest fears will never be judged.

Being in a relationship with your significant other has so many amazing qualities; it is a relationship most people strive for. Best of all is knowing that no matter what, they are on your side and will love you through it all.

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Last Updated on September 18, 2020

13 Helping Points When Things Don’t Go Your Way

13 Helping Points When Things Don’t Go Your Way

For the original article by Celestine: 13 Helping Points When Things Don’t Go Your Way

“We all have problems. The way we solve them is what makes us different.” ~Unknown

“It’s not stress that kills us, it is our reaction to it.” – Hans Selye

Have you ever experienced moments when things just don’t go your way? For example, losing your keys, accidentally spilling your drink, waking up late, missing your buses/trains, forgetting to bring your things, and so on?

You’re not alone. All of us, myself included, experience times when things don’t go as we expect.

Here is my guide on how to deal with daily setbacks.

1. Take a step back and evaluate

When something bad happens, take a step back and evaluate the situation. Some questions to ask yourself:

  1. What is the problem?
  2. Are you the only person facing this problem in the world today?
  3. How does this problem look like at an individual level? A national level? On a global scale?
  4. What’s the worst possible thing that can happen to you as a result of this?
  5. How is it going to impact your life in the next 1 year? 5 years? 10 years?

Doing this exercise is not to undermine the problem or disclaiming responsibility, but to consider different perspectives, so you can adopt the best approach for it. Most problems we encounter daily may seem like huge issues when they crop up, but most, if not all, don’t have much impact in our life beyond that day.

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2. Vent if you have to, but don’t linger on the problem

If you feel very frustrated and need to let off some steam, go ahead and do that. Talk to a friend, complain, crib about it, or scream at the top of your lungs if it makes you happy.

At the same time, don’t get caught up with venting. While venting may temporarily relieve yourself, it’s not going to solve the problem ultimately. You don’t want to be an energy vampire.

Vent if there’s a need to, but do it for 15 to 20 minutes. Then move on.

3. Realize there are others out there facing this too

Even though the situation may be frustrating, you’re not alone. Remember there are almost 7 billion people in the world today, and chances are that other people have faced the same thing before too. Knowing it’s not just you helps you to get out of a self-victimizing mindset.

4. Process your thoughts/emotions

Process your thoughts/emotions with any of the four methods:

  1. Journal. Write your unhappiness in a private diary or in your blog. It doesn’t have to be formal at all – it can be a brain dump on rough paper or new word document. Delete after you are done.
  2. Audio taping. Record yourself as you talk out what’s on your mind. Tools include tape recorder, your PC (Audacity is a freeware for recording/editing audio) and your mobile (most mobiles today have audio recording functions). You can even use your voice mail for this. Just talking helps you to gain awareness of your emotions. After recording, play back and listen to what you said. You might find it quite revealing.
  3. Meditation. At its simplest form, meditation is just sitting/lying still and observing your reality as it is – including your thoughts and emotions. Some think that it involves some complex mambo-jumbo, but it doesn’t.
  4. Talking to someone. Talking about it with someone helps you work through the issue. It also gets you an alternate viewpoint and consider it from a different angle.

5. Acknowledge your thoughts

Don’t resist your thoughts, but acknowledge them. This includes both positive and negative thoughts.

By acknowledging, I mean recognizing these thoughts exist. So if say, you have a thought that says, “Wow, I’m so stupid!”, acknowledge that. If you have a thought that says, “I can’t believe this is happening to me again”, acknowledge that as well.

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Know that acknowledging the thoughts doesn’t mean you agree with them. It’s simply recognizing the existence of said thoughts so that you can stop resisting yourself and focus on the situation on hand.

6. Give yourself a break

If you’re very stressed out by the situation, and the problem is not time sensitive, then give yourself a break. Take a walk, listen to some music, watch a movie, or get some sleep. When you’re done, you should feel a lot more revitalized to deal with the situation.

7. Uncover what you’re really upset about

A lot of times, the anger we feel isn’t about the world. You may start off feeling angry at someone or something, but at the depth of it, it’s anger toward yourself.

Uncover the root of your anger. I have written a five part anger management series on how to permanently overcome anger.

After that, ask yourself: How can you improve the situation? Go to Step #9, where you define your actionable steps. Our anger comes from not having control on the situation. Sitting there and feeling infuriated is not going to change the situation. The more action we take, the more we will regain control over the situation, the better we will feel.

8. See this as an obstacle to be overcome

As Helen Keller once said,

“Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experiences of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired and success achieved.”

Whatever you’re facing right now, see it as an obstacle to be overcome. In every worthy endeavor, there’ll always be countless obstacles that emerge along the way. These obstacles are what separate the people who make it, and those who don’t. If you’re able to push through and overcome them, you’ll emerge a stronger person than before. It’ll be harder for anything to get you down in the future.

9. Analyze the situation – Focus on actionable steps

In every setback, there are going to be things that can’t be reversed since they have already occurred. You want to focus on things that can still be changed (salvageable) vs. things that have already happened and can’t be changed. The only time the situation changes is when you take steps to improve it. Rather than cry over spilt milk, work through your situation:

  1. What’s the situation?
  2. What’s stressing you about this situation?
  3. What are the next steps that’ll help you resolve them?
  4. Take action on your next steps!

After you have identified your next steps, act on them. The key here is to focus on the actionable steps, not the inactionable steps. It’s about regaining control over the situation through direct action.

10. Identify how it occurred (so it won’t occur again next time)

A lot of times we react to our problems. The problem occurs, and we try to make the best out of what has happened within the context. While developing a healthy coping mechanism is important (which is what the other helping points are on), it’s also equally important, if not more, to understand how the problem arose. This way, you can work on preventing it from taking place next time, vs. dealing reactively with it.

Most of us probably think the problem is outside of our control, but reality is most of the times it’s fully preventable. It’s just a matter of how much responsibility you take over the problem.

For example, for someone who can’t get a cab for work in the morning, he/she may see the problem as a lack of cabs in the country, or bad luck. However, if you trace to the root of the problem, it’s probably more to do with (a) Having unrealistic expectations of the length of time to get a cab. He/she should budget more time for waiting for a cab next time. (b) Oversleeping, because he/she was too tired from working late the previous day. He/she should allocate enough time for rest next time. He/she should also pick up better time management skills, so as to finish work in lesser time.

11. Realize the situation can be a lot worse

No matter how bad the situation is, it can always be much worse. A plus point vs. negative point analysis will help you realize that.

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12. Do your best, but don’t kill yourself over it

No matter how bad your situation may seem, do your best, but don’t kill yourself over it. Life is too beautiful to worry so much over daily issues. Take a step back (#1), give yourself a break if you need to (#6), and do what you can within your means (#9). Everything else will unfold accordingly. Worrying too much about the outcome isn’t going to change things or make your life any better.

13. Pick out the learning points from the encounter

There’s something to learn from every encounter. What have you learned from this situation? What lessons have you taken away?

After you identify your learning points, think about how you’re going to apply them moving forward. With this, you’ve clearly gained something from this encounter. You’ve walked away a stronger, wiser, better person, with more life lessons to draw from in the future.

Get the manifesto version of this article: [Manifesto] What To Do When Things Don’t Go Your Way

Featured photo credit: Alice Donovan Rouse via unsplash.com

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