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10 Amazing Things Only People Who Date Their Best Friend Would Understand

10 Amazing Things Only People Who Date Their Best Friend Would Understand

Best friends are a rare gem in life. They’re precious and must be held carefully to keep the friendship safe. The same exact thing can be said about romantic relationships. But the most rare find of all is finding that your best friend is also the same person you are in a relationship with. Sometimes a friendship turns into romance or the relationship ends up creating the bond of best friends.

No matter how it happens, it’s only when you are lucky enough to find a relationship with your best friend that you realize how truly amazing it is.

If you’ve found love with your best friend, you know the following to be true.

1. You can read their mind

It often feels like best friends can read each others’ minds. By simply looking at each other, they know exactly what the other is thinking.

When you are in a relationship with your best friend, this phenomenon becomes even better. The emotional bond in a relationship becomes so strong, not only can you tell what they are thinking, but you are most often thinking the same thing.

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2. You are always together

People love taking road trips with their best friends, and they love taking vacations with their significant others. When your significant other is your best friend, you get to be with them for all of these trips.

You never have to choose if you should be taking a trip with your best friend or your significant other — because you’re lucky enough that they are the same person.

3. They understand you like no one else

Best friends know you inside and out. When you are in a relationhsip, your significant other also knows everything that’s in your heart. But often times there are a few secrets you hide from either one. Things that you would feel uncomfortable telling your best friend, or a secret you’re not sure if you should share with your significant other.

But when you’re in a relationship with your best friend, you find yourself opening up a whole new part of yourself, exposing every secret. It makes you, as a couple, that much stronger.

4. Nights in become infinitely better

Spending a night in as a couple becomes infinitely more fun when your significant other is also your best friend. You feel you couldn’t ask for a better Friday night than binge watching movies, a nice bottle of wine, and of course, some junk food.

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This makes for the perfect romantic night in — all the while having lots of fun because you’re with your best friend.

5. They will be there for you like no one else

Best friends are a shoulder to cry on; romantic partners hold you tightly when things go wrong.

When you’re in a relationship with your best friend, they are there for you like no one else. They will protect you fiercely, and care for you with every ounce they have — because you are their entire world.

6. You can trust them with your heart

Knowing that your significant other is also your best friend adds a comforting layer of security that makes your heart feel protected. You’ve trusted them with so much, like your secrets and your friendship, that it becomes easy to trust them with your heart. You feel that they will do anything to keep it safe.

7. Dinners out become way more fun

Dining out is such a fun thing to do when you’re out with your best friend. You gorge on anything and everything you want and have no worries about ordering that second drink. When you are out with your significant other, you have the fun and excitement of romance.

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When these two get combined, a couple who is also best friends get double dining-out fun. Not only do you feel comfortable having the extra drink and ordering that loaded baked potato instead of a salad, but you also get to share your significant other’s food, all while having a romantic night together.

8. You can find them in a crowded room just by sensing them

In a crowded party, you always want to be able to find your best friend and your significant other. But when a room is really crowded, it can obviously be tough. When you’re in a relationship with your best friend, you can almost feel their presence — which makes finding them completely easy.

There’s some type of unexplained bond which gives you a very specific type of feel when your best friend and significant other is around. Something that fills in from your heart and flows through your veins, alerting every part of you that they are near.

9. You can be your true self around them

Best friends have seen each other with no makeup, sweatpants, and in dirty t-shirts. It’s a level of comfort you gain when you are around those that know you best.

When a couple is best friends, that level of comfort is even better. You don’t have to be in a constant state of dressing to impress, you can be seen in your ratty pajamas and your significant other will find you just as attractive and love you just the same.

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10. They will never judge you

The reason a best friend is a best friend is because they love you for who you are and they will never judge you for anything that you do. When you are lucky enough to date your best friend, you know that your opinions, actions, and deepest fears will never be judged.

Being in a relationship with your significant other has so many amazing qualities; it is a relationship most people strive for. Best of all is knowing that no matter what, they are on your side and will love you through it all.

Featured photo credit: www.ChristianCrush.com via flickr.com

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Last Updated on November 19, 2020

The Gentle Art of Saying No for a Less Stressful Life

The Gentle Art of Saying No for a Less Stressful Life

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments—you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time. That’s why the art of saying no can be a game changer for productivity.

Requests for your time are coming in all the time—from family members, friends, children, coworkers, etc. To stay productive, minimize stress, and avoid wasting time, you have to learn the gentle art of saying no—an art that many people have problems with.

What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger, or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

However, it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here’s how to stop people pleasing and master the gentle art of saying no.

1. Value Your Time

Know your commitments and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it.

Be honest when you tell them that: “I just can’t right now. My plate is overloaded as it is.” They’ll sympathize as they likely have a lot going on as well, and they’ll respect your openness, honesty, and attention to self-care.

2. Know Your Priorities

Even if you do have some extra time (which, for many of us, is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time?

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For example, if my wife asks me to pick up the kids from school a couple of extra days a week, I’ll likely try to make time for it as my family is my highest priority. However, if a coworker asks for help on some extra projects, I know that will mean less time with my wife and kids, so I will be more likely to say no. 

However, for others, work is their priority, and helping on extra projects could mean the chance for a promotion or raise. It’s all about knowing your long-term goals and what you’ll need to say yes and no to in order to get there. 

You can learn more about how to set your priorities here.

3. Practice Saying No

Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word[1].

Sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.

4. Don’t Apologize

A common way to start out is “I’m sorry, but…” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important when you learn to say no, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm and unapologetic about guarding your time.

When you say no, realize that you have nothing to feel bad about. You have every right to ensure you have time for the things that are important to you. 

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5. Stop Being Nice

Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. However, if you erect a wall or set boundaries, they will look for easier targets.

Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.

6. Say No to Your Boss

Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss—they’re our boss, right? And if we start saying no, then we look like we can’t handle the work—at least, that’s the common reasoning[2].

In fact, it’s the opposite—explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.

7. Pre-Empting

It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting,

“Look, everyone, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects, and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”

This, of course, takes a great deal of awareness that you’ll likely only have after having worked in one place or been friends with someone for a while. However, once you get the hang of it, it can be incredibly useful.

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8. Get Back to You

Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, try saying no this way:

“After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.”

At least you gave it some consideration.

9. Maybe Later

If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say,

“This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].”

Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands. If you need to continue saying no, here are some other ways to do so[3]:

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    10. It’s Not You, It’s Me

    This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often, the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time.

    Simply say so—you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization—but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true, as people can sense insincerity.

    The Bottom Line

    Saying no isn’t an easy thing to do, but once you master it, you’ll find that you’re less stressed and more focused on the things that really matter to you. There’s no need to feel guilty about organizing your personal life and mental health in a way that feels good to you.

    Remember that when you learn to say no, isn’t about being mean. It’s about taking care of your time, energy, and sanity. Once you learn how to say no in a good way, people will respect your willingness to practice self-care and prioritization. 

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