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10 Small Thoughtful Habits That Tell He Is A Man Worth Marrying

10 Small Thoughtful Habits That Tell He Is A Man Worth Marrying

Marriage is a major decision and you want to make sure the man you are wanting to marry has some good thoughtful habits. This article will discuss 10 thoughtful habits to look for before marrying your man.

Please add a few more of your own in the comment section below.

1. He starts the day by giving you a kiss.

Everyday is a new beginning, he starts his by always giving you a good morning kiss. This is one of the best and simplest ways to know he is consistent, plus it gets you in great mood to start your day.

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2. He would rather listen than talk.

After a long, short, bad or good day, he is ready to hear about your day. He patiently waits until you finish and supports whatever decision you had made for the day. He basically has your back 100% – just like you have his.

3. He cooks.

Sure, it is always easy to order take-out and call it night. However, the ideal man would rather cook a simple meal for his family. There’s nothing like coming home from work and eating a home-cooked pasta with some wine.

4. He cuddles.

Once the day is over and you are relaxing with a glass of wine reading or watching a movie, he is right there hugging you (with his beer). I am not referring to just hugging and sitting on the couch and watching a movie. He will hug you, occasionally kiss you, offer to fill up your glass, and sometimes even massage your feet.

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5. He is a pleaser.

He does whatever is necessary to please you during sex. He is romantic when you are in the mood for romance. He is spontaneous and exciting when you are in the mood for adventure or feel like letting your wild side out. He is not scared of a little adventure, a little sex in the movie theater, a park, or on a rooftop – depending on the mood, of course.

6. He enjoys your friends and family.

Marriage is life-long contract and it is important that everyone involved gets along and respects each other. He is very loving and understanding with your family and friends. He is willing to be the designated driver for you and your friends. He is also willing to shuttle your family back and front from the airport. He does not make a big fuss about where Thanksgiving or Christmas get-togethers should be.

7. He loves the little ones.

He absolutely loves playing with kids. When you go to your sister’s house, he is always playing Hide-N-Go-Seek or playfully chasing your nieces and nephews. He makes children feel safe, reads them stories, and is even willing to babysit occasionally. Imagine watching him crawling on all fours and chasing those adorable kids.

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8. He is financially responsible.

No matter what kind of job he has, he is not the type to live beyond his means. He is responsible and pays his bills on time. He also makes plans for his future – hopefully a future with you.

9. He notices you.

While at a Christmas party or an evening gala, he compliments how good you look. He looks right at you, even when he is in a crowd. He makes you feel like you are the only one that matters. You are indeed the only person that matters to him at that moment and you can feel it without him saying a word. You can tell just by the way he is looking at you.

10. He takes care of himself.

He does some form of physical activity at least 5 times per week – whether it’s weights, running, biking, rock climbing, or Cross-fit.   He takes pride in the way he looks. He has a well groomed beard. He also dresses sharply and always smells good (except of course while training). He reads books and takes care of his mental health as much as his physical health.

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Last Updated on June 19, 2019

6 Ways to Be a Successful Risk Taker and Take More Chances

6 Ways to Be a Successful Risk Taker and Take More Chances

I’ve stood on the edge of my own personal cliffs many times. Each time I jumped, something different happened. There were risks that started off great, but eventually faded. There were risks that left me falling until I hit the ground. There were risks that started slow, but built into massive successes.

Every risk is different, but every risk is the same. You need to have some fundamentals ready before you jump, but not too many.

It wouldn’t be a risk if you knew everything that was about to happen, would it? Here’re 6 ways to be a successful risk taker.

1. Understand That Failure Is Going to Happen a Lot

It’s part of life. Everything we do has failure attached to it. All successful people have stories of massive failure attached to them. Thinking that your risk is going to be pain free and run as smooth as silk is insane.

Expect some pain and failure. Actually, expect a lot of it. Expect the sleepless nights with crazy thoughts of insecurity that leave you trembling under the covers. It’s going to happen, no matter how positive you are about the risk you are about to take.

When failure hits, the only options are to keep going or quit. If you expect falling into a meadow of flowers and frolicking unicorns, then you’re going to immediately quit once you realize that getting to that meadow requires you to go through a rock filled cave filled with hungry bats.

2. Trust the Muse

Writing a story isn’t a big risk. It’s really just a risk on my time. So when I start writing a story, I’m scared it will be time wasted. Of course, it never really is. Even if the story doesn’t turn out fabulous, I still practiced.

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When I’ve taken risks in my life, the successful ones always seemed to happen when I followed the muse. Steven Pressfield describes the muse,

“The Muse demands depth. Shallow does not work for her. If we’re seeking her help, we can’t stay in the kiddie end. When we work, we have to go hard and go deep.”

The muse is a goddess who wants our attention and wants us to work on our passion.

If you’re taking a risk in anything, it’s assumed that there is some passion built up behind that risk. That passion, deep inside you, is the muse. Trust it, focus on it, listen to it.

The most successful articles and stories I write are the ones I’ve focused all my attention on. There were no interruptions during their creative development. I didn’t check my phone or go watch my Twitter feed. I was fully engaged in my work.

Trust the muse, focus your attention on your risk, let the ideas and path develop themselves, and leave the distractions at the side of the road.

3. Remember to Be Authentic

Taking a risk and then turning into something you’re not, is only going to lead to disaster. Whether you are risking a new relationship or new opportunity, you must be yourself throughout the entire process.

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How many times have you acted like you loved something just because the men or woman you just started going out with loved it?

For example, I’m not an office worker. I have an incredibly hard time working in a confined timeline (ie. 9-5). That’s why I write. I can do it whenever the mood strikes, I don’t have somebody breathing down my neck, telling me that I’m five minutes late, or missed a comma somewhere. I don’t have to walk on eggshells wondering if what I’m writing will get me fired or make me lose a promotion. I can just be myself, period.

One girlfriend didn’t understand that. She believed solely in the 9-5 motto, specifically something in human resources because that was a very stable job. I was scared for my future, but I stuck with the relationship because of my own insecurities and acted like I would do it to make her happy.

Here’s a tip: NEVER take away from your happiness to make somebody else satisfied (note I didn’t say happy).

Making somebody else happy will make you happy. Doing something to satisfy somebody is murder on your soul.

4. Don’t Take Any Risks While You’re Not Clearheaded

I’d been considering the risk for a couple weeks. It all sounded good. I was 22 and I could be rich in a couple of years. That’s what they were selling me, anyways.

One night, while at a house party with some friends, I found myself at a computer. A couple of my friends were standing nearby and asked me what I was doing. I told them I was considering starting my own business and it was only going to cost me $1,500.

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Of course, when a bunch of drunk people are surrounded by more drunk people, things get enthusiastic. It sounded like the best business venture in the world to everybody, including me. So I signed up and gave them my credit card number.

A few painful months and close to $4,000 dollars lost later, I quit the business. I was young and fell into the pyramid scheme trap. It was an expensive drunk decision.

Drinking heavily and making decisions has a proven track record of failure. So when you have something important to decide, don’t let your emotions take over your brain.

5. Fully Understand What You’re Risking

It was the start of my baseball comeback. I got a tryout with a professional scout and killed it. After the tryout, he talked to my girlfriend and myself, making sure we understood I would be gone for up to 6 months at a time. That strain on the relationship could be tough.

We understood. I left to play ball, chose to stay in the city I played in, and a year later we broke up. Not because of baseball, see point 3 above. Taking big risks can have massive impacts on everything in your life from relationships to money. Know what you’re risking before you take the risk.

If you believe the risk will be worth it or you have the support you need from your family, then go ahead and make the leap.

You can get more guidance on how to take calculated risks from this article: How to Take Calculated Risk to Achieve More and Become Successful

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6. Remember This Is Your One Shot Only

As far as we know officially, this is our one shot at life, so why not take some risks?

The top thing people are saddened by on their deathbeds are these regrets. They wish they did more, asked that girl in the coffee shop out, spoke out when they should have, or did what they were passionate about.

Don’t regret. Learn and experience. Live. Take the risks you believe in. Be yourself and make the world a better place.

Now go ahead, take that risk and be successful at it!

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