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Small Things Couples Can Do Every Day To Keep Their Relationships Fresh

Small Things Couples Can Do Every Day To Keep Their Relationships Fresh

Anyone who’s been in a long-term relationship will tell you: the overwhelming infatuation you feel at the beginning of a relationship doesn’t last very long. But that’s not necessarily a bad thing. When you first meet someone you’re attracted to, it doesn’t take much effort to forge a close bond. What does take work is keeping the relationship from growing stale and boring. But just because it takes work doesn’t mean it’s not worth it. It totally is.

Ask about their day – and listen to their answer

Do ask them how their day went. But this is the equivalent of asking your friend “What’s up?” They will most likely answer “Good” and move on to something else. But if you’re genuine when you ask them this question, it lets them know you truly want to know about their day – the good and the bad. Allow them to open up to you on a daily basis, and you’ll continue growing closer each and every day.

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Show gratitude

You’re definitely thankful for everything your love does, but do they know that? Make it a point to give thanks constantly, even for the littlest favors. If they serve you dinner, be sure to tell them how much you appreciate it. If you come home to a clean house, make it a point to say “thanks” for their hard work. Most importantly, thank them simply for being who they are, and being there for you when you need them most.

Show interest in their passions

You’re both separate people, with separate interests and hobbies. But you should always be willing to try new things together, especially if it’s something your significant other loves to do. Expand your comfort zone; you might end up finding a new passion that you can enjoy together for the rest of your lives.

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Schedule down time together

It’s no secret that we live in a busy world. Because of this, it’s incredibly important to find time to just relax together. Even if it’s ten minutes in the morning or right before bed, make it a point to turn the TV off and spend some quality time together. It may be a while before you get the chance to do so again.

Pull your weight

A relationship simply can’t be one-sided. You both have to put an equal effort into every single part of it. If your significant other’s working, make sure dinner is on the table when they get home. If you both have a night off, don’t make plans with your other friends and leave them sitting at home. Don’t be the one that forgets anniversaries and holidays. Put your all into the relationship; it might be the most important connection you make in your lifetime.

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Be excited for them

Be enthusiastic about every little thing that gets them excited. Maybe they just got a new job, or a new opportunity opened up for them at work. Maybe something interesting happened to them on the way home from class. Whatever it is, be just as excited as they are when they come to you with something worth talking about. They’re only telling you because they want to share their exuberance with you.

Be weird together

Being in a relationship with the person of your dreams should mean you don’t really care what anyone else besides that person thinks. You’d do anything to make them smile, even if it goes against social norms. Be the one to jump in a puddle and start singing in the rain, or the one who to do a cartwheel in the middle of the park while walking to a picnic bench. While taking your relationship seriously, it’s important to remember not to take life too seriously.

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Featured photo credit: Sunset / Laura Gineitytė via farm9.staticflickr.com

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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