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5 Introversive Moments Of An Extrovert That You Might Not Realize

5 Introversive Moments Of An Extrovert That You Might Not Realize

Although an introverted personality is the polar opposite of an extrovert, each personality has some characteristics that a common. According to ThoughtCatalog.com, “Being outgoing and outspoken doesn’t equate to being an extrovert. Being shy and reserved doesn’t equate to being an introvert. There are a lot of outgoing introverts and there are a lot of shy extroverts.” here is no such thing as pure introvert or pure extrovert.

There are times where even the most extroverted of people will exhibit signs of being introverted. With this in mind, here are the most common times where an extrovert may act introverted.

1. You like quiet encouragement

“Well done is better than well said.” Benjamin Franklin

They enjoy giving quiet, sincere encouragement without causing too much attention. Yet at times, if they see a fellow coworker who has done a really great job, they might whisper to them, “Good job”. In this instance, they have given them quiet encouragement.

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Most times, introverts may be considered to be more low key yet very encouraging. A low key introvert can be far more encouraging and effective than the charismatic, dynamic extrovert  For extroverts, they have a tendency to wait until private moments to give encouragement. It’s really great thing to share encouragement and the more creative they are with their encouragement, the more impactful it will be.

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    2. You believe in inspired action

    “Inspirations never go in for long engagements; they demand immediate marriage to action.” Brendan Francis

    Extroverts like to get things done; and extroverts like to be inspired into action. On the other hand, sometimes you have to inspire or “light a fire” to an introvert to encourage them to take action. However with extroverts, they like taking action quickly as they are being inspired.

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    Inspired action for extroverts means that they will see something that needs to be done and if it is beneficial to them, they will usually do it. They are normally inspired when they can get attention. Case in point, if the boss really wants an extrovert to take action, give kudos to the extrovert. It would help move the task along regardless if the kudos is private or public, it will still inspire action from the extrovert.

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      3. You spend time on intense thinking

      “Contemplation often makes life miserable. We should act more, think less, and stop watching ourselves live.” ~Sébastien-Roch Nicolas

      Extroverts have a tendency, as do introverts, to do intense thinking regarding life issue. It’s the outcome of the thinking which makes them different. As an extrovert, after intense thinking, they normally take action quickly or act while thinking.

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      An example of intense thinking about a life issue could be whether to change jobs if a better offer comes along. For an extrovert, even though would spend time thinking about the job offer, they will take action quicker to make the change. It would be seen as them making an improvement in their life and job status.

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        4. You are judgmental at times

        “We are all inclined to judge ourselves by our ideals; others, by their acts. ~Harold Nicolson

        They are judgemental which can also be seen as an introversive moments. Even though introverts have a tendency to internalize when they are judging others, it’s still there. With an extrovert, they have a tendency to be external with their judging by taking actions that is showing that they are being judgemental.

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        For example, an extrovert may see someone being treated wrong. The will judge the situation, figure out if they need to help or get help and then they will quickly take action. They would most like be the man who will run into a burning building even though he’s not a firefighter to save someone.

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          5. You rely on intuition

          “Success will never be a big step in the future, success is a small step taken just now.” Jonatan Mårtensson

          They are intuitive and believe in seeing past what’s in front of them. When it comes to being intuitive, extroverts and introverts both exhibit this characteristic too. So, when an extrovert challenges change via intuition, they expect something to happen that will lead to a conclusion they expect. In cases where the conclusion is different from their expectation, they will adjust and keep moving forward.

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            How to Be True to Yourself and Live the Life You Want

            How to Be True to Yourself and Live the Life You Want

            We live in a world that constantly tells us what to do, how to act, what to be. Knowing how to be true to yourself and live the life you want can be a challenge.

            When someone asks how we are, we assume that the person does not mean the question sincerely, for it would lead to an in depth conversation. So telling them that you are good or fine, even if you’re not, is the usual answer.

            In an ideal world, we would stop and truly listen. We wouldn’t be afraid to be ourselves. Instead, when we answer about how we are doing, our mask, the persona we show the world, tightens. Sometimes even more so than it might have been before. Eventually, it becomes hard to take off, even when you’re alone.

            Imagine a world where we asked how someone was doing and they really told us. Imagine a world where there were no masks, only transparency when we talked to one another.

            If you want to live in a world that celebrates who you are, mistakes and all, take off the mask. It doesn’t mean you have to be positive or fine all the time.

            According to a Danish psychologist, Svend Brinkman, we expect each other to be happy and fine every second, and we expect it of ourselves. And that “has a dark side.”[1] Positive psychology can have its perks but not at the expense at hiding how you truly feel in order to remain seemingly positive to others.

            No one can feel positive all the time and yet, that is what our culture teaches us to embrace. We have to unlearn this. That said, telling others you are ‘“fine”’ all the time is actually detrimental to your wellbeing, because it stops you from being assertive, from being authentic or your truest self.

            When you acknowledge a feeling, it leads you to the problem that’s causing that feeling; and once you identify the problem, you can find a solution to it. When you hide that feeling, you stuff it way down so no one can help you.You can’t even help yourself.

            Feelings are there for one reason: to be felt. That doesn’t mean you have to act on that feeling. It just means that you start the process of problem solving so you can live the life you want.

            1. Embrace Your Vulnerability

            When you are your true self, you can better self-advocate or stand up for what you need. Your self-expression matters, and you should value your voice. It’s okay to need things, it’s okay to speak up, and it’s okay not to be okay.

            Telling someone you are simply “fine” when you are not, does your story and your journey a great disservice. Being true to yourself entails embracing all aspects of your existence.

            When you bring your whole self to the table, there is nothing that you can’t beat. Here’re 7 benefits of being vulnerable you should learn.

            Can you take off the mask? This is the toughest thing anyone can do. We have learned to wait until we are safe before we start to be authentic.

            In relationships especially, this can be hard. Some people avoid vulnerability at any cost. And in our relationship with ourselves, we can look in the mirror and immediately put on the mask.

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            It all starts with your story. You have been on your own unique journey. That journey has led you here, to the person you are today. You have to be unafraid, and embrace all aspects of that journey.

            You should seek to thrive, not just survive. That means you do not have to compete or compare yourself with anyone.

            Authenticity means you are enough. It’s enough to be who you are to get what you want.

            What if for the first time ever, you were real? What if you said what you wanted to say, did what you wanted to do, and didn’t apologize for it?

            You were assertive, forthcoming in your opinions or actions to stand for what is right for you, (rather than being passive or aggressive) in doing so. You didn’t let things get to you. You knew you had something special to offer.

            That’s where we all should be.

            So, answer me this:

            How are you, really?

            And know that no matter the answer, you should still be accepted.

            Bravery is in the understanding that you still may not be accepted for your truth.

            Bravery is knowing you matter even when others say that you do not.

            Bravery is believing in yourself when all evidence counters doing so (i.e. past failures or losses)

            Bravery is in being vulnerable while knowing vulnerability is a sign of strength.

            It’s taking control.

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            2. Choose Your Attitude in Adversity

            You can take control of your destiny and live the life you want by being true to yourself. You can start anytime. You can start today.

            You can start with one day at a time, just facing what happens that day. Most of us get overwhelmed when faced with the prospect of a big change. Even if the only thing we change is our attitude.

            In one instant, you can become a different person with a change of attitude. When you take control of your attitude, you become able to better understand what is around you. This allows you to move forward.

            Originally, you may have had a life plan. It could have started when you were little; you were hoping to become a mermaid, doctor, astronaut or all three when you grew up. You were hoping to be someone. You were hoping to be remembered.

            You can still dream those dreams, but eventually reality sets in. Obstacles and struggles arise. You set on a different path when the last one didn’t work out. You think of all the “shoulds” in your life in living the life you want. You should be doing this…should be doing that…

            Clayton Barbeau, psychologist, coined the term “shoulding yourself.’[2] When we are set on one path and find ourselves doing something different. It becomes all the things you should be doing rather than seeing the opportunities right in front of you.

            But in all this disarray, did you lose sight of the real you?

            It may be in our perceived failures and blunders that we lose sight of who we are, because we try to maintain position and status.

            In being who we really are and achieving what we really want, we need to be resilient: How to Build Resilience to Face What Life Throws at You

            It means that we do not see all possibilities of what might happen, but must trust ourselves to begin again, and continue to build the life we want. In the face of adversity, you must choose your attitude.

            Can attitude overcome adversity? It certainly helps. While seeking to be true to yourself and live the life you want, you will have to face a fact:

            Change will happen.

            Whether that change is good or bad is unique to each person and their perspective.

            You might have to start over, once, twice, a few times. It doesn’t mean that everything will be okay, but that you will be okay. What remains or should remain is the true you. When you’ve lost sight of that, you’ve lost sight of everything.

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            And then, you rebuild. Moment after moment, day after day. We all have a choice, and in this moment, that matters.

            You can choose to have a positive attitude, seeing the silver lining in each situation and, where there is none, the potential for one. Maybe that silver lining is you and what you will do with the situation. How will you use it for something good?

            That’s how you can tap into yourself and your power. Sometimes it happens by accident, sometimes on purpose. It can happen when we aren’t even looking for it, or it can be your only focus. Everyone gets there differently.

            You can rise, or you can remain. Your choice.

            When the worst happens, you can rely on your authenticity to pull you through. That’s because Self Advocacy, speaking up to let others know what you need, is part of finding the real you.

            There is nothing wrong with asking for help. Or sometimes, helping others can help us deal with the pain of a hurtful situation. You decide how you’re going to help others, and suddenly, you become your best self.

            3. Do What Makes You Happy When No One’s Looking

            Being the best version of you has nothing to do with your success or your status. It has everything to do with your Character, what you do when no one’s looking.

            In order to create the life you want, you have to be the person you want to be. Faking it till you make it is just a way to white knuckle it through your journey. You have the fire inside of you to make things right, to put the pieces together, to live authentically. And Character is how you get there.

            If you fall down and you help another up while you’re down there, it’s like you rise twice.

            Along with attitude, your character is about the choices you make rather than what happens to you.

            Yes, it’s about doing the right thing even when obstacles seem insurmountable.  It’s about using that mountain you’ve been given to show others it can be moved.  It’s about being unapologetically you, taking control, choosing your attitude in adversity and being the best version of you to create the life you want.

            How do you know what you really want? Is it truly status or success?

            Unfortunately, these things do not always bring happiness. And aspects of our image or “performance driven existence” may not achieve satisfaction. Materialism is part of our refusal to accept ourselves as enough. All the things we use to repress our true selves are about being enough.

            “Enoughness” is what we truly seek, but ego gets in the way.

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            Ego is the perception of self as outer worth. It’s not REAL self worth.

            Ego represses our true self with a new self— the self of chasing ‘“Am I ever enough?”’ questions. And instead of filling our true selves with self-love and acceptance, when we “should ourselves” and chase “enoughness,” we feed the ego or our image.

            It’s important to realize YOU ARE ENOUGH, without all the material trappings.

            Stanford psychologist Meagan O’Reilly describes the damage of not thinking we are enough. One of her tactics for combating this is to complete the sentence,[3]

            “If I believed I were already enough, I’d ____”

            What would you do if you felt you were enough?

            By believing you are enough, you can live the life you want.

            So many fake it to try to get there, and they end up losing themselves when they lose more and more touch with their Authenticity.

            Final Thoughts

            By being yourself, you are being brave. By acknowledging all you can be, you tell the universe that you can until you believe it too. The steps are easy, and you are worth it. All of it is about the purpose you are leading and the passion that is your fuel.

            Being true to yourself is all about mastering how to live life authentically rather than faking or forcing it. Having the life you want (and deserve) is about being trusting in yourself and the purpose you are living for. Both need passion behind it, fueling it each second, or you will experience burn out.

            When you are authentic, you can call the road you walk your own. When you live your life for you and not just the results of all your actions (faking it till you make it), you can let go of what you don’t need. This clarifies and pushes purpose to you, living for something that is greater than you.

            You will find that making decisions based on what will actually achieve your goals, will help you attain the life you want, and your success with each step, will allow you to enjoy the process. Good luck!

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