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5 Ways to Support a Friend Who Is Getting Over a Breakup

5  Ways to Support a Friend Who Is Getting Over a Breakup

It can be difficult to know what to say when a friend is going through a breakup, but it is important that you show your support in any way that you can. Being present is the first step to being there for your friend.

Here are a few other ways that you can help out a friend in need.

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Allow your friend to feel what they need to

Every person handles breakups differently and it is important to remember whatever your friend is feeling is a valid emotion. Whether they are angry, sad or display reckless behavior, it is important as their friend not to try to dismiss their behavior or feel it is your responsibility to always cheer them up.

The most important thing that you can do as their friend is to stay by their side and clearly state that you will support them no mater what.

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Give yourself space if needed

It is also important to make sure that you know your limits as to what you can give your friend; after all, you are only human. A friend in need can be taxing on a friendship if you ignore your own needs, so it’s important to not feel guilty when saying no to certain things. When you need to dedicate some time to yourself, make sure to do so clearly, but gently tell your friend you need to take care of some personal things.

Afterwards, let them know when you are available to hang out again, so that your friend can look forward to your company and also so there is no miscommunication between you two.

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Attend to the details

One of the best ways you can be helpful is by making sure certain things in your friend’s life are taken care of. One of the biggest ways you can assist your friend with is to bring food over. Whether it is a pot of homemade soup or a pizza you have picked up, good food truly does help nourish a broken heart.

Other things that you can help with are walking their dog, picking-up their dry cleaning and helping sort through their mail. After a breakup, the smallest tasks can seem burdensome and being able to have someone else take care of those details for a while is a godsend.

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Encourage your friend to be active

After a breakup, it is easy to want to stay at home in your pajamas on the couch and binge watch Netflix. While this may be part of the grieving process for your friend, it is important that you also encourage him or her to get some fresh air. Start out by suggesting a walk around the neighborhood. Even a 30 minute walk can do wonders for your heartbroken friend, offering a change of scenery. If your friend is up to it, take a day trip somewhere that you both do not normally go. Heading to the beach or a nearby state park can be a great temporary distraction for your friend for the day and help clear their mind.

Indulge in an activity that your friend enjoys

Does your friend enjoy basketball? Take them to a local game to cheer on their favorite team. Does your friend have a sweet tooth? Treat them to a chocolate fudge sundae. During a breakup, it is important to remind a friend of their passions and help them remember that they can feel happy once again. Avoid surprising your friend and instead ask them first about whether they want to do a certain activity. They may have a bad association with certain places or things that reminds them of their ex that you are not aware of.

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Last Updated on December 2, 2018

7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience

When giving a presentation or speech, you have to engage your audience effectively in order to truly get your point across. Unlike a written editorial or newsletter, your speech is fleeting; once you’ve said everything you set out to say, you don’t get a second chance to have your voice heard in that specific arena.

You need to make sure your audience hangs on to every word you say, from your introduction to your wrap-up. You can do so by:

1. Connecting them with each other

Picture your typical rock concert. What’s the first thing the singer says to the crowd after jumping out on stage? “Hello (insert city name here)!” Just acknowledging that he’s coherent enough to know where he is is enough for the audience to go wild and get into the show.

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It makes each individual feel as if they’re a part of something bigger. The same goes for any public speaking event. When an audience hears, “You’re all here because you care deeply about wildlife preservation,” it gives them a sense that they’re not just there to listen, but they’re there to connect with the like-minded people all around them.

2. Connect with their emotions

Speakers always try to get their audience emotionally involved in whatever topic they’re discussing. There are a variety of ways in which to do this, such as using statistics, stories, pictures or videos that really show the importance of the topic at hand.

For example, showing pictures of the aftermath of an accident related to drunk driving will certainly send a specific message to an audience of teenagers and young adults. While doing so might be emotionally nerve-racking to the crowd, it may be necessary to get your point across and engage them fully.

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3. Keep going back to the beginning

Revisit your theme throughout your presentation. Although you should give your audience the credit they deserve and know that they can follow along, linking back to your initial thesis can act as a subconscious reminder of why what you’re currently telling them is important.

On the other hand, if you simply mention your theme or the point of your speech at the beginning and never mention it again, it gives your audience the impression that it’s not really that important.

4. Link to your audience’s motivation

After you’ve acknowledged your audience’s common interests in being present, discuss their motivation for being there. Be specific. Using the previous example, if your audience clearly cares about wildlife preservation, discuss what can be done to help save endangered species’ from extinction.

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Don’t just give them cold, hard facts; use the facts to make a point that they can use to better themselves or the world in some way.

5. Entertain them

While not all speeches or presentations are meant to be entertaining in a comedic way, audiences will become thoroughly engaged in anecdotes that relate to the overall theme of the speech. We discussed appealing to emotions, and that’s exactly what a speaker sets out to do when he tells a story from his past or that of a well-known historical figure.

Speakers usually tell more than one story in order to show that the first one they told isn’t simply an anomaly, and that whatever outcome they’re attempting to prove will consistently reoccur, given certain circumstances.

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6. Appeal to loyalty

Just like the musician mentioning the town he’s playing in will get the audience ready to rock, speakers need to appeal to their audience’s loyalty to their country, company, product or cause. Show them how important it is that they’re present and listening to your speech by making your words hit home to each individual.

In doing so, the members of your audience will feel as if you’re speaking directly to them while you’re addressing the entire crowd.

7. Tell them the benefits of the presentation

Early on in your presentation, you should tell your audience exactly what they’ll learn, and exactly how they’ll learn it. Don’t expect them to listen if they don’t have clear-cut information to listen for. On the other hand, if they know what to listen for, they’ll be more apt to stay engaged throughout your entire presentation so they don’t miss anything.

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