While you may view it as a complex process, dating an outgoing girl with a guarded heart opens your world to exhilarating revelations. There is a lot of intrigue when it comes to dating someone who is defensive. However, you will be more prepared to deal with dating a girl like this when you can remember these things.
1. She is a people person
She is concerned about relationships. And she is happy being with people. But she should not be trampled upon, because she has secured and bordered her own personal territory.
2. She doesn’t make the same mistake twice
She lives for the present. If she has failed or made a mistake, she is learning from it. She simply wants to be right and enjoy where she is at right now — you shouldn’t try to stop her from doing that.
3. She laughs a lot
She is a cheerful person. She knows her cheer and big smile are attractive and warm people up to her. She rarely puts up a frown or a stern face. She simply wants people to be comfortable and relaxed when they are around her.
4. She is curious
While she smiles and acts defensively, she is inquisitive and wants to know what you are up to. Maybe she likes you, and maybe not, but she still wants to know what you are up to.
5. She needs you to be patient
She is not in a hurry to do anything, or seemingly appears not to be. She wants to do things on her own terms and there is nothing you should do to upset that.
6. She is worth the wait
Don’t be mistaken or misconstrue her evasiveness, she is not turned off or arrogant, she simply wants to be subjugated. And, yes, she is definitely worth the wait. After giving you such a hard time, she will love you deeply.
7. She is defensive
She is protecting the great things she has stored within herself. She is simply not in a hurry because she has learned that rushing into things doesn’t usually end up well. She is willing to take her time, and building such great walls around her heart will help her through this ordeal of getting what she wants.
8. She is yearning
She may seem solid and formidable, but she yearns for you to do the “manly” thing. She wants to know what you are capable of doing. She actually wants to see it and experience it.
9. She is focused
She used her guarded heart to identify her objectives and focus on getting them. So, yes, she can be obstinate or dogged, but it doesn’t make her an awful person. She simply wants to get the best of what she wants out of her life and she knows distractions won’t help her get it.
10. She is a mixed breed
Don’t assume that she is simply the fearless type. She also has her concerns, anxieties, and fears. She is actually a mixed breed — a fearful person that displays courage.
11. She appears intimidating
Yes, she uses all her strength for being social and outgoing to intimidate you. But, don’t be intimidated by that. She is as welcoming as any other person you might just meet.
12. She will never tell you everything
Let her make her conclusions about you first, because as much as she acts verbal and voiced, she is still going to keep a lot of things away from you. Work on the trust first.
13. She is never boring
This is why she is always worth the wait: she is just plain fun to be with. She will always engage you with thoughtful conversations and make you laugh in the process. At the end of the day, you will understand that all her gimmicks are part of her charm and plan to reach happiness.
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