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5 Positive Mindsets That You Should Have To Get Over A Breakup

5 Positive Mindsets That You Should Have To Get Over A Breakup

Every break up hurts. You lose your self-esteem and your emotions are bruised. Sometimes you may think that it will take forever to heal and you start to ask yourself questions like, “am I a worthy person to be loved,” or “can I be loved again?” A lot of thoughts of unworthiness suddenly swing through your mind and you wonder if you will ever get out of such a situation.

The truth is that although every breakup is hard, it can serve as a step in the right direction. While the present may see gloom and tortuous, there are always amazing possibilities. To tap into what lovely possibilities that awaits you, it is time to develop a positive mindset and look at the bright side of what you are going through. You should never succumb to the negativity of what has been lost rather you should consider the master of what interesting and exciting prospects await you. It is time to envision and picture your new relationship will be like. With these five positive mindsets you can get a grip of where you are and get over your breakup as soon as possible.

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Sometimes it is better to leave a relationship broken because like a glass it only hurts trying to fix them and put them back together

Not every story is meant to end the exact way we want it. Most times we do nurture selfish inclinations that we could have either made a great couple and we could have lived together happily ever after. However this is not always the case. Although a sad truth, it is always a better option to move on since not all relationships can be fixed.

No one loses love. When it is not reciprocated it has a way of flowing back to soften and purifying the heart

There is nothing wrong in the act of loving. Actually it should be an act of giving without expecting anything in return. So focus on what you have to give and know that nature has a way of rewarding such act of goodness.

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It is not about the wrong person who walks out of your life, it is about offering something beautiful to the right one

There is no reason to be cynical or bitter about love. If the person was right for you there is no reason for them not to appreciate something so beautiful. However what treasures you have within should be for the right person when they come along.

Letting go of the life we planned is the best way to earn the life that is waiting for us

Every experience whether negative or positive defines who we are. If you want to get the best out of your present situation you have to see the possibilities of growth rather than holding on to what is lost. Getting over the negative experiences of a terrible breakup will push you further to experiencing something better eventually. While you may be reminiscing over the life and possibilities of things that may have happened before the breakup, the brightest future can only be attained out of a forgotten past.

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Letting go does not mean that you do not care about someone anymore. You are simply willing to take the chance of having control over yourself

While you might want to cling on to thoughts as “what might have been” or “where he/she must be without me” you should understand that you do not have any control over your exes. Every relationship is a choice for every individual involved. If they want to leave, there is nothing you can do about that. It is up to you now to accept the situation, let go, heal and aspire to be a better person with more interesting prospects.

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Last Updated on June 19, 2019

6 Ways to Be a Successful Risk Taker and Take More Chances

6 Ways to Be a Successful Risk Taker and Take More Chances

I’ve stood on the edge of my own personal cliffs many times. Each time I jumped, something different happened. There were risks that started off great, but eventually faded. There were risks that left me falling until I hit the ground. There were risks that started slow, but built into massive successes.

Every risk is different, but every risk is the same. You need to have some fundamentals ready before you jump, but not too many.

It wouldn’t be a risk if you knew everything that was about to happen, would it? Here’re 6 ways to be a successful risk taker.

1. Understand That Failure Is Going to Happen a Lot

It’s part of life. Everything we do has failure attached to it. All successful people have stories of massive failure attached to them. Thinking that your risk is going to be pain free and run as smooth as silk is insane.

Expect some pain and failure. Actually, expect a lot of it. Expect the sleepless nights with crazy thoughts of insecurity that leave you trembling under the covers. It’s going to happen, no matter how positive you are about the risk you are about to take.

When failure hits, the only options are to keep going or quit. If you expect falling into a meadow of flowers and frolicking unicorns, then you’re going to immediately quit once you realize that getting to that meadow requires you to go through a rock filled cave filled with hungry bats.

2. Trust the Muse

Writing a story isn’t a big risk. It’s really just a risk on my time. So when I start writing a story, I’m scared it will be time wasted. Of course, it never really is. Even if the story doesn’t turn out fabulous, I still practiced.

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When I’ve taken risks in my life, the successful ones always seemed to happen when I followed the muse. Steven Pressfield describes the muse,

“The Muse demands depth. Shallow does not work for her. If we’re seeking her help, we can’t stay in the kiddie end. When we work, we have to go hard and go deep.”

The muse is a goddess who wants our attention and wants us to work on our passion.

If you’re taking a risk in anything, it’s assumed that there is some passion built up behind that risk. That passion, deep inside you, is the muse. Trust it, focus on it, listen to it.

The most successful articles and stories I write are the ones I’ve focused all my attention on. There were no interruptions during their creative development. I didn’t check my phone or go watch my Twitter feed. I was fully engaged in my work.

Trust the muse, focus your attention on your risk, let the ideas and path develop themselves, and leave the distractions at the side of the road.

3. Remember to Be Authentic

Taking a risk and then turning into something you’re not, is only going to lead to disaster. Whether you are risking a new relationship or new opportunity, you must be yourself throughout the entire process.

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How many times have you acted like you loved something just because the men or woman you just started going out with loved it?

For example, I’m not an office worker. I have an incredibly hard time working in a confined timeline (ie. 9-5). That’s why I write. I can do it whenever the mood strikes, I don’t have somebody breathing down my neck, telling me that I’m five minutes late, or missed a comma somewhere. I don’t have to walk on eggshells wondering if what I’m writing will get me fired or make me lose a promotion. I can just be myself, period.

One girlfriend didn’t understand that. She believed solely in the 9-5 motto, specifically something in human resources because that was a very stable job. I was scared for my future, but I stuck with the relationship because of my own insecurities and acted like I would do it to make her happy.

Here’s a tip: NEVER take away from your happiness to make somebody else satisfied (note I didn’t say happy).

Making somebody else happy will make you happy. Doing something to satisfy somebody is murder on your soul.

4. Don’t Take Any Risks While You’re Not Clearheaded

I’d been considering the risk for a couple weeks. It all sounded good. I was 22 and I could be rich in a couple of years. That’s what they were selling me, anyways.

One night, while at a house party with some friends, I found myself at a computer. A couple of my friends were standing nearby and asked me what I was doing. I told them I was considering starting my own business and it was only going to cost me $1,500.

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Of course, when a bunch of drunk people are surrounded by more drunk people, things get enthusiastic. It sounded like the best business venture in the world to everybody, including me. So I signed up and gave them my credit card number.

A few painful months and close to $4,000 dollars lost later, I quit the business. I was young and fell into the pyramid scheme trap. It was an expensive drunk decision.

Drinking heavily and making decisions has a proven track record of failure. So when you have something important to decide, don’t let your emotions take over your brain.

5. Fully Understand What You’re Risking

It was the start of my baseball comeback. I got a tryout with a professional scout and killed it. After the tryout, he talked to my girlfriend and myself, making sure we understood I would be gone for up to 6 months at a time. That strain on the relationship could be tough.

We understood. I left to play ball, chose to stay in the city I played in, and a year later we broke up. Not because of baseball, see point 3 above. Taking big risks can have massive impacts on everything in your life from relationships to money. Know what you’re risking before you take the risk.

If you believe the risk will be worth it or you have the support you need from your family, then go ahead and make the leap.

You can get more guidance on how to take calculated risks from this article: How to Take Calculated Risk to Achieve More and Become Successful

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6. Remember This Is Your One Shot Only

As far as we know officially, this is our one shot at life, so why not take some risks?

The top thing people are saddened by on their deathbeds are these regrets. They wish they did more, asked that girl in the coffee shop out, spoke out when they should have, or did what they were passionate about.

Don’t regret. Learn and experience. Live. Take the risks you believe in. Be yourself and make the world a better place.

Now go ahead, take that risk and be successful at it!

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