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5 Positive Mindsets That You Should Have To Get Over A Breakup

5 Positive Mindsets That You Should Have To Get Over A Breakup

Every break up hurts. You lose your self-esteem and your emotions are bruised. Sometimes you may think that it will take forever to heal and you start to ask yourself questions like, “am I a worthy person to be loved,” or “can I be loved again?” A lot of thoughts of unworthiness suddenly swing through your mind and you wonder if you will ever get out of such a situation.

The truth is that although every breakup is hard, it can serve as a step in the right direction. While the present may see gloom and tortuous, there are always amazing possibilities. To tap into what lovely possibilities that awaits you, it is time to develop a positive mindset and look at the bright side of what you are going through. You should never succumb to the negativity of what has been lost rather you should consider the master of what interesting and exciting prospects await you. It is time to envision and picture your new relationship will be like. With these five positive mindsets you can get a grip of where you are and get over your breakup as soon as possible.

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Sometimes it is better to leave a relationship broken because like a glass it only hurts trying to fix them and put them back together

Not every story is meant to end the exact way we want it. Most times we do nurture selfish inclinations that we could have either made a great couple and we could have lived together happily ever after. However this is not always the case. Although a sad truth, it is always a better option to move on since not all relationships can be fixed.

No one loses love. When it is not reciprocated it has a way of flowing back to soften and purifying the heart

There is nothing wrong in the act of loving. Actually it should be an act of giving without expecting anything in return. So focus on what you have to give and know that nature has a way of rewarding such act of goodness.

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It is not about the wrong person who walks out of your life, it is about offering something beautiful to the right one

There is no reason to be cynical or bitter about love. If the person was right for you there is no reason for them not to appreciate something so beautiful. However what treasures you have within should be for the right person when they come along.

Letting go of the life we planned is the best way to earn the life that is waiting for us

Every experience whether negative or positive defines who we are. If you want to get the best out of your present situation you have to see the possibilities of growth rather than holding on to what is lost. Getting over the negative experiences of a terrible breakup will push you further to experiencing something better eventually. While you may be reminiscing over the life and possibilities of things that may have happened before the breakup, the brightest future can only be attained out of a forgotten past.

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Letting go does not mean that you do not care about someone anymore. You are simply willing to take the chance of having control over yourself

While you might want to cling on to thoughts as “what might have been” or “where he/she must be without me” you should understand that you do not have any control over your exes. Every relationship is a choice for every individual involved. If they want to leave, there is nothing you can do about that. It is up to you now to accept the situation, let go, heal and aspire to be a better person with more interesting prospects.

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Last Updated on February 18, 2019

Why It’s Never Too Late To Redefine Yourself

Why It’s Never Too Late To Redefine Yourself

The ability to reinvent and redefine yourself is a bold, daring and purposeful choice. It doesn’t just happen. You have to make a conscious, intentional choice and then follow through.

If the thought of forging a new path, changing habits, thought patterns and your inner circle of friends scares you – you’re not alone. Change can be a very scary thing. It takes courage, fortitude and a bit of faith to decide to shed your old self and don a new persona. However, it is one of the most critical processes one must repeatedly endure in the pursuit of destiny. Change unlocks new levels of potential.

The Need for Change

Everyday when we wake up, we make a decision. We decide to follow our routine or we decide to go off script and shake things up a bit. For those who are creatures of habit, routine is comfortable, easy and produces very little stress. The problem with this is, after a while you stop growing.

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We all reinvent ourselves at some point in our lives. It is absolutely necessary to achieve certain levels of success.

Reflect back on who you were as a teenager and then who you were at 25. Those are two very different people. Most of us are completely different. Your thought patterns changed, your appearance, job, level of education and even your friends– changed. We like to refer to this as “growing up” or maturing and consider it to be one of life’s natural progressions. However the changes you made were purposeful and deliberate.

This process must be a lifelong and continuous cycle. You are never too old to refresh yourself.

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    Signs It’s Time to Redefine

    “Just as established products and brands need updating to stay alive and vibrant, you periodically need to refresh or reinvent yourself.”– Mireille Guiliano

    So how do you know when it’s time for a system upgrade? There are signs along the way that alert you that it is time for an overhaul. The first sign is the feeling of being stuck. If you feel like you are in a rut, you’re bored with life or you need some newness and excitement, a self reinvention may be in order. Re-evaluate your life vision and your goals. Is that vision still valid and are your goals consistent with your vision and–are they achievable? If you are off course, it’s time for a change. If you are not moving forward and making progress, it’s time for a change.

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    In life, there’s no such thing as neutrality–you’re either moving forward or you are moving backward. Time constantly moves forward and if you are standing still, you are actually losing ground. No matter your age or stage in life– there is always room for improvement.

    “You’re never too old to set another goal or dream a new dream.” ~C. S. Lewis

    The second sign that you are due for a change is the occurrence of major life events in which change is forced upon you. Getting married, starting a new job, being promoted, ending a relationship, becoming a parenting or relocating are all prime opportunities to completely overhaul your life.

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    When these major shifts occur in your life–you have to shift with them. You can’t have a single mentality and have a successful marriage. You can’t remain selfish and irresponsible, and raise a healthy, well-adjusted child. You can’t be promoted to a supervisory position and keep the same subordinate attitude. Each level of success requires something different from you.

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      Consider, for a moment, Arnold Schwarzenegger. People may have different opinions about his character and some of his life choices, but he is a master at reinventing himself. He achieved the ultimate success as a professional body builder by earning the title “Mr. Universe” three times. He then earned a tremendous amount of fame and fortune in the entertainment industry making action/adventure films. And in his latest role, he served two terms as the Governor of California. He succeeded as a professional body builder, a film star and a politician. Each role required massive amounts of change, commitment, strength and hard work.

      And if Arnold can do it…so can you!

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