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10 Reasons Why Single Dads Are Good Lovers

10 Reasons Why Single Dads Are Good Lovers

If you’re looking for love and not including single dads in your list, maybe it’s time you give a second thought to it. Being a single parent is not easy but there’s some kind of sexiness when it comes to dating single dads. Plus, it’s never too easy to find someone who’s ready to start a relationship and still raising his child.

You might also not be so reluctant to find love in a man who shares children and custody with an ex, but the devotion they have to their children shows their commitment and compassion towards a true relationship. Dating a single dad comes with obstacles, but there are plenty of reasons why you should be avoiding the bedroom because you find out your date has a past and a child.

Check out these reasons why single dads are good lovers to make sure why you might be going to do the best thing in your life.

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1. They are patient.

One thing that’s most necessary to make a relationship work is patience and single dads have mastered the skill. Anyone who needs to prepare meals for their kids, manage their dresses, pack for all eventualities and do daily chores they never wanted to, in some cases dads can be slightly military operation. Single dads know the art of patience and they know how to make things work.

2. They take birth control seriously.

Having a kid is never a mistake but when it comes to existing dependents, single dads know how babies are made- no biology classes required. You never need to worry about the side effects of birth control because they know what’s the right time for them to become a dad again.

3. They are not afraid of their sensitive side.

If your date has a male child, you can imagine times he’s spent during the afternoon playing football and tying his shoes when he’s off to school. Or, if he has a little girl, he must have spent hours doing her nails. Raising kids is a tough thing and there are emotions involved with it. It takes a lot of strength to be soft and keep the kids happy as well. Plus, if you are hand-holding type, you’ll make a perfect match.

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4. They are dynamite in bed.

There’s no doubt that someone with confidence and openness has universally sexy qualities in him. They not only respect your body but understand how to make things work under the sheets. Even if you’re less self-conscious, he’ll never let you down when it comes to having a great time in bed. Believe me or not, but your sexiest fantasies can come true if you date single dads.

5. They are aware of what they want.

One important skill that develops with having children is an ability to adjust to changes and cope up with unexpected plans with a lot of positivity and grace. Things might happen and will happen again in life and even without having a solid game plan for their lives, single dads know what they want and what needs to be done. This should probably the best dateable quality you’re looking for in a man.

6. They give an opportunity to play part in someone else’s life.

A single dad is always looking to protect his children. If he introduces you to his child at some point, it’s because he’s giving you an opportunity to touch someone else’s life. You’re getting to know someone who he values the most in life and there’s no better honor than that. However, you should similarly honor their trust and comprehend the do’s and don’ts of single parent dating.

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7. They are good listeners.

Believe me or not, but a single dad never moves out from having a conversation just because you’re all over him. Maybe it’s just a small thing when you’re asking him to go out for a movie or fighting because he did not call you on time. Single dads listen, understand all of the bits and pieces of you, talk, and solve the problem.

8. They are handy.

Be it fixing a toy, building a LEGO house, finding a t-shirt that matches your complexion, or choosing the right tool for a task, single dads know how to make things work. They’ve already gone through a lot of toil trying to make things work in their previous relationship and keeping their children happy. They know what works right and they’re never shy of working on taking on a new challenge.

9. They know what makes a relationship work.

There are tons of reasons that can end up someone’s life as a single parent. But, what’s important is the experience they’ve went through trying to make their relationship work. Having children teaches a lot about making connections and establishing a healthy relationship.

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They’ll talk you to watch a romantic comedy or walk around the park whenever you want them to. You need to feel lucky when you know you’re dating a single dad, because he just does not know how to break up.

10. They take things slow.

I know you’ve probably dated someone who wanted to get into bed right after you had a cup of coffee. Single dads just don’t have time to be that guy. Some who has kids and is single is always looking for the right time to do the right thing. He knows that he needs to maintain a boundary in between the dating life and kid life and that boundary is what has taught him to take things slow which can be a rock solid foundation for your perfect love.

Featured photo credit: Father via rawstory.com

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Last Updated on June 19, 2019

6 Ways to Be a Successful Risk Taker and Take More Chances

6 Ways to Be a Successful Risk Taker and Take More Chances

I’ve stood on the edge of my own personal cliffs many times. Each time I jumped, something different happened. There were risks that started off great, but eventually faded. There were risks that left me falling until I hit the ground. There were risks that started slow, but built into massive successes.

Every risk is different, but every risk is the same. You need to have some fundamentals ready before you jump, but not too many.

It wouldn’t be a risk if you knew everything that was about to happen, would it? Here’re 6 ways to be a successful risk taker.

1. Understand That Failure Is Going to Happen a Lot

It’s part of life. Everything we do has failure attached to it. All successful people have stories of massive failure attached to them. Thinking that your risk is going to be pain free and run as smooth as silk is insane.

Expect some pain and failure. Actually, expect a lot of it. Expect the sleepless nights with crazy thoughts of insecurity that leave you trembling under the covers. It’s going to happen, no matter how positive you are about the risk you are about to take.

When failure hits, the only options are to keep going or quit. If you expect falling into a meadow of flowers and frolicking unicorns, then you’re going to immediately quit once you realize that getting to that meadow requires you to go through a rock filled cave filled with hungry bats.

2. Trust the Muse

Writing a story isn’t a big risk. It’s really just a risk on my time. So when I start writing a story, I’m scared it will be time wasted. Of course, it never really is. Even if the story doesn’t turn out fabulous, I still practiced.

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When I’ve taken risks in my life, the successful ones always seemed to happen when I followed the muse. Steven Pressfield describes the muse,

“The Muse demands depth. Shallow does not work for her. If we’re seeking her help, we can’t stay in the kiddie end. When we work, we have to go hard and go deep.”

The muse is a goddess who wants our attention and wants us to work on our passion.

If you’re taking a risk in anything, it’s assumed that there is some passion built up behind that risk. That passion, deep inside you, is the muse. Trust it, focus on it, listen to it.

The most successful articles and stories I write are the ones I’ve focused all my attention on. There were no interruptions during their creative development. I didn’t check my phone or go watch my Twitter feed. I was fully engaged in my work.

Trust the muse, focus your attention on your risk, let the ideas and path develop themselves, and leave the distractions at the side of the road.

3. Remember to Be Authentic

Taking a risk and then turning into something you’re not, is only going to lead to disaster. Whether you are risking a new relationship or new opportunity, you must be yourself throughout the entire process.

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How many times have you acted like you loved something just because the men or woman you just started going out with loved it?

For example, I’m not an office worker. I have an incredibly hard time working in a confined timeline (ie. 9-5). That’s why I write. I can do it whenever the mood strikes, I don’t have somebody breathing down my neck, telling me that I’m five minutes late, or missed a comma somewhere. I don’t have to walk on eggshells wondering if what I’m writing will get me fired or make me lose a promotion. I can just be myself, period.

One girlfriend didn’t understand that. She believed solely in the 9-5 motto, specifically something in human resources because that was a very stable job. I was scared for my future, but I stuck with the relationship because of my own insecurities and acted like I would do it to make her happy.

Here’s a tip: NEVER take away from your happiness to make somebody else satisfied (note I didn’t say happy).

Making somebody else happy will make you happy. Doing something to satisfy somebody is murder on your soul.

4. Don’t Take Any Risks While You’re Not Clearheaded

I’d been considering the risk for a couple weeks. It all sounded good. I was 22 and I could be rich in a couple of years. That’s what they were selling me, anyways.

One night, while at a house party with some friends, I found myself at a computer. A couple of my friends were standing nearby and asked me what I was doing. I told them I was considering starting my own business and it was only going to cost me $1,500.

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Of course, when a bunch of drunk people are surrounded by more drunk people, things get enthusiastic. It sounded like the best business venture in the world to everybody, including me. So I signed up and gave them my credit card number.

A few painful months and close to $4,000 dollars lost later, I quit the business. I was young and fell into the pyramid scheme trap. It was an expensive drunk decision.

Drinking heavily and making decisions has a proven track record of failure. So when you have something important to decide, don’t let your emotions take over your brain.

5. Fully Understand What You’re Risking

It was the start of my baseball comeback. I got a tryout with a professional scout and killed it. After the tryout, he talked to my girlfriend and myself, making sure we understood I would be gone for up to 6 months at a time. That strain on the relationship could be tough.

We understood. I left to play ball, chose to stay in the city I played in, and a year later we broke up. Not because of baseball, see point 3 above. Taking big risks can have massive impacts on everything in your life from relationships to money. Know what you’re risking before you take the risk.

If you believe the risk will be worth it or you have the support you need from your family, then go ahead and make the leap.

You can get more guidance on how to take calculated risks from this article: How to Take Calculated Risk to Achieve More and Become Successful

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6. Remember This Is Your One Shot Only

As far as we know officially, this is our one shot at life, so why not take some risks?

The top thing people are saddened by on their deathbeds are these regrets. They wish they did more, asked that girl in the coffee shop out, spoke out when they should have, or did what they were passionate about.

Don’t regret. Learn and experience. Live. Take the risks you believe in. Be yourself and make the world a better place.

Now go ahead, take that risk and be successful at it!

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