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10 Reasons Why Single Dads Are Good Lovers

10 Reasons Why Single Dads Are Good Lovers

If you’re looking for love and not including single dads in your list, maybe it’s time you give a second thought to it. Being a single parent is not easy but there’s some kind of sexiness when it comes to dating single dads. Plus, it’s never too easy to find someone who’s ready to start a relationship and still raising his child.

You might also not be so reluctant to find love in a man who shares children and custody with an ex, but the devotion they have to their children shows their commitment and compassion towards a true relationship. Dating a single dad comes with obstacles, but there are plenty of reasons why you should be avoiding the bedroom because you find out your date has a past and a child.

Check out these reasons why single dads are good lovers to make sure why you might be going to do the best thing in your life.

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1. They are patient.

One thing that’s most necessary to make a relationship work is patience and single dads have mastered the skill. Anyone who needs to prepare meals for their kids, manage their dresses, pack for all eventualities and do daily chores they never wanted to, in some cases dads can be slightly military operation. Single dads know the art of patience and they know how to make things work.

2. They take birth control seriously.

Having a kid is never a mistake but when it comes to existing dependents, single dads know how babies are made- no biology classes required. You never need to worry about the side effects of birth control because they know what’s the right time for them to become a dad again.

3. They are not afraid of their sensitive side.

If your date has a male child, you can imagine times he’s spent during the afternoon playing football and tying his shoes when he’s off to school. Or, if he has a little girl, he must have spent hours doing her nails. Raising kids is a tough thing and there are emotions involved with it. It takes a lot of strength to be soft and keep the kids happy as well. Plus, if you are hand-holding type, you’ll make a perfect match.

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4. They are dynamite in bed.

There’s no doubt that someone with confidence and openness has universally sexy qualities in him. They not only respect your body but understand how to make things work under the sheets. Even if you’re less self-conscious, he’ll never let you down when it comes to having a great time in bed. Believe me or not, but your sexiest fantasies can come true if you date single dads.

5. They are aware of what they want.

One important skill that develops with having children is an ability to adjust to changes and cope up with unexpected plans with a lot of positivity and grace. Things might happen and will happen again in life and even without having a solid game plan for their lives, single dads know what they want and what needs to be done. This should probably the best dateable quality you’re looking for in a man.

6. They give an opportunity to play part in someone else’s life.

A single dad is always looking to protect his children. If he introduces you to his child at some point, it’s because he’s giving you an opportunity to touch someone else’s life. You’re getting to know someone who he values the most in life and there’s no better honor than that. However, you should similarly honor their trust and comprehend the do’s and don’ts of single parent dating.

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7. They are good listeners.

Believe me or not, but a single dad never moves out from having a conversation just because you’re all over him. Maybe it’s just a small thing when you’re asking him to go out for a movie or fighting because he did not call you on time. Single dads listen, understand all of the bits and pieces of you, talk, and solve the problem.

8. They are handy.

Be it fixing a toy, building a LEGO house, finding a t-shirt that matches your complexion, or choosing the right tool for a task, single dads know how to make things work. They’ve already gone through a lot of toil trying to make things work in their previous relationship and keeping their children happy. They know what works right and they’re never shy of working on taking on a new challenge.

9. They know what makes a relationship work.

There are tons of reasons that can end up someone’s life as a single parent. But, what’s important is the experience they’ve went through trying to make their relationship work. Having children teaches a lot about making connections and establishing a healthy relationship.

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They’ll talk you to watch a romantic comedy or walk around the park whenever you want them to. You need to feel lucky when you know you’re dating a single dad, because he just does not know how to break up.

10. They take things slow.

I know you’ve probably dated someone who wanted to get into bed right after you had a cup of coffee. Single dads just don’t have time to be that guy. Some who has kids and is single is always looking for the right time to do the right thing. He knows that he needs to maintain a boundary in between the dating life and kid life and that boundary is what has taught him to take things slow which can be a rock solid foundation for your perfect love.

Featured photo credit: Father via rawstory.com

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The Gentle Art of Saying No

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No!

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

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But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

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What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

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But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here are the Top 10 tips for learning the Gentle Art of Saying No:

  1. Value your time. Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”
  2. Know your priorities. Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time? For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.
  3. Practice saying no. Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.
  4. Don’t apologize. A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.
  5. Stop being nice. Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets. Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.
  6. Say no to your boss. Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning. But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.
  7. Pre-empting. It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting, “Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”
  8. Get back to you. Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them: “After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.” At least you gave it some consideration.
  9. Maybe later. If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say, “This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].” Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.
  10. It’s not you, it’s me. This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time. Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.

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