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Why Early Risers Are Great Partners

Why Early Risers Are Great Partners

Everyone knows that the early bird gets the worm. But few people realize that there are many traits of early risers that also make them great partners.

There are plenty of great things about waking up early. Not only do you get to watch the sunrise with your morning coffee but you also get extra time for yourself.

Of course, there’s nothing wrong with sleeping in. But those who chronically sleep past their alarms can learn a lot from those who are up with the birds. Not only do early risers have more hours in their day but they often use them wisely.

Here are five reasons why early risers make great partners:

They Are More Proactive

Even for the most alert morning people, it takes a certain amount of stamina to let both feet hit the floor so early in the morning. As a whole, those who are up with the sun are more proactive than night owls. They are more likely to take the world head on rather than procrastinate.

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This translates into being a good partner because they are more likely to be direct about their feelings. They are also more open to change. But beyond this, early risers are more likely to get involved in working to become better in their relationships for their partners.

Being proactive in a relationship leaves less room for stagnancy and resentment. These are two of the biggest serious romance killers.

They Are More Successful

It has long been established that those who get up earlier are more successful than those who hit snooze. One study showed that students who identified as early risers had a full point higher GPA than those who doze through the morning.

Of course, most of the world’s most financially successful people are all out of bed well before seven in the morning. Many have done more before 9 AM than most people do all day.

But does success in the classroom and the boardroom make early risers better partners?

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It can. When someone is happier with their professional life and fulfilled in their roles at work and school, they can share that success with their partner. It is more fun to be with someone who is successful at their job than someone who struggles to make it through the day.

They Are Happier

Early risers suffer less stress than those who speed through their morning routines. It’s not hard to imagine why. When you can get up and enjoy a leisurely start to your day, you are much more relaxed than if you are still shaving as you walk out the door.

For many people, mornings are when people are at their crankiest. The stress associated with mornings only makes it worse. Needless to say, some of a couple’s most bitter fights happen before lunch time.

But when you start your morning off on the right side of the bed, you are likely to be happier and have more patience through the rest of the day.

At the end of the day, happy, patient people make better partners than morose and anxious people do.

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They Are More Productive

Early risers are more productive. This productivity comes as the result of almost every quality on this list. Happy and proactive people are naturally more productive than others.

A productive person makes a great partner because they are more likely to share in the responsibilities that come a relationship. People who enjoying getting things done will be more likely to do their fair share of work around the house. They’ll make sure all the electricals are in working order and dirty dishes don’t stay languishing in the sink. They are also happier to pick up the slack if their partner needs a break.

They Are Healthier

Early risers are healthier for a few reasons. The primary reason is that many early birds use the extra few hours to get a workout in before work. They also have time to cook and eat a nutritious breakfast which sets them up for the rest of the day.

Since early risers are more proactive and more productive, they are more likely to stick to a long term work out plan. Regular exercise has proven to be one of the essential components for long term health.

Having a healthy partner is great for everyone. Most people do not enter a relationship looking for a physically health partner because it is naturally a part of our mating process. This happens for a few reasons. Not only do healthier partners live longer lives but they usually produce healthier children. They also do not feed any hidden unhealthy habits in their partners.

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As it turns out, the only disadvantage of dating an early riser is the early alarm.

There is much to be said for starting out your day with peace and happiness. Early risers are happier, healthier and just more fun to have around.

Featured photo credit: Loren Kerns via flickr.com

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Last Updated on May 21, 2019

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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