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12 Signs That You’re Loving One That You Shouldn’t

12 Signs That You’re Loving One That You Shouldn’t

Love is a powerful feeling and most times it is very important to take the position such feeling puts you in seriously. Rather than loving the person you shouldn’t be loving you should be in the right relationship, one that brings out the best in you and makes you feel loved. Here are signs to make you aware that you are loving the one you shouldn’t be in love with.

1. Every encounter leaves you burnt out

You should feel energized with the right person, not stressed and overwhelmed after you have spent some time with them.

2. You are more aware in the relationship

Many decisions should be made spontaneously and automatically when you’re loving the right person. But when you’re loving the wrong person it is as if you are burdened with the decision of including them in every plan you make. For example decisions about your future should not be the one you are anxious about, you should be glad to have them be a part of your future.

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3. You do not look forward to every time you want to hang out with them

You are not expectant or excited at the times you will be hanging out with them. Rather it seems to be more like an obligation to be spending time with them.

4. You have arguments a lot

Arguments are important to every relationship, since no one is perfect. But every argument shouldn’t be one where you battle it out to know which one is right or wrong or who is deserving of a win or a defeat.

5. You feel inferior in the relationship

You do not feel complimented by the other person, rather you feel bruised and totally dominated by the other person. As much as you would love the relationship to improve your self-esteem, it diminishes it the more.

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6. You do not feel any spark in the relationship

The relationship seems drudgery and boring. While the relationship should make you happy and bring out the light and enthusiasm in you, it is as if it strains you.

7. You do not see things working out in the future

You are not certain about the relationship. You have a lot of doubts, and it is more like “if you are still going to be together.” Such does not make your plans accurate and precise.

8. You do not reveal your true self to them

You are pretending and you are not real in the relationship. You would prefer to present a false persona just to be more appealing and make the other person more comfortable with you.

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9. You are very cautious in the relationship

You are not comfortable when you say or do something because you are always worried about how the other person will feel or what they will say about your actions. You tend to over-think every single thing you want to say and how you are going to present your statement to them.

10. You are always defensive and protective of everything you have with them

You are not willing to share or offer your items or resources to them. You see them as a disturbance and an obstacle to living the fullness of your life.

11. You are not willing to show them off to your friends and family

You are not proud of them around you. You do not showcase them and you really do not care about how your friends or family views them.

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12. You have a stagnant relationship with them

Your relationship is not progressive, it lacks growth and it never seems as if it is going to the next phase. It is not like any of you cares about where you are in the relationship or even notice the stagnation in the relationship. It actually seems more comforting or assuring for you to stay in the current situation forever rather than make an effort to improve it.

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Last Updated on September 17, 2019

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

Positive thinking can lead to a lot of positive change in your life. Developing an optimistic outlook can be good for both your physical and mental health.

But sometimes, certain situations arise in life that makes it hard to keep a positive outlook. Take steps to make positive thinking become more like your second nature and you’ll reap the biggest benefits.

Here are 10 ways to make thinking positive thoughts easy:

1. Spend Time with Positive People

If you surround yourself with constant complainers, their negativity is likely to rub off on you.

Spend time with positive friends and family members to increase the likelihood that their positive thinking habits will become yours too. It’s hard to be negative when everyone around you is so positive.

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2. Take Responsibility for Your Behavior

When you encounter problems and difficulties in life, don’t play the role of the victim. Acknowledge your role in the situation and take responsibility for your behavior.

Accepting responsibility can help you learn from mistakes and prevent you from blaming others unfairly.

3. Contribute to the Community

One of the best ways to feel good about what you have, is to focus on what you have to give.

Volunteer in some manner and give back to the community. Helping others can give you a new outlook on the world and can assist you with positive thinking.

4. Read Positive and Inspirational Materials

Spend time each day reading something that encourages positive thinking. Read the Bible, spiritual material, or inspirational quotes to help you focus on what’s important to you in life. It can be a great way to start and end your day.

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5. Recognize and Replace Negative Thoughts

You won’t be successful at positive thinking if you’re still plagued by frequent negative thoughts. Learn to recognize and replace thoughts that are overly negative. Often, thoughts that include words like “always” and “never” signal that they aren’t true.

If you find yourself thinking something such as, “I always mess everything up,” replace it with something more realistic such as, “Sometimes I make mistakes but I learn from them.”

There’s no need to make your thoughts unrealistically positive, but instead, make them more realistic.

6. Establish and Work Toward Goals

It’s easier to be positive about problems and setbacks when you have goals that you’re working toward. Goals will give you motivation to overcome those obstacles when you encounter problems along the way. Without clear goals, it’s harder to make decisions and gauge your progress.

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Learn to set SMART goals to help you achieve more.

7. Consider the Consequences of Negativity

Spend some time thinking about the consequences of negative thinking. Often, it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

For example, a person who thinks, “I probably won’t get this job interview,” may put less effort into the interview. As a result, he may decrease his chances of getting the job.

Create a list of all the ways negative thinking impacts your life. It likely influences your behavior, your relationships, and your feelings. Then, create a list of the ways in which positive thinking could be beneficial.

8. Offer Compliments to Others

Look for reasons to compliment others. Be genuine in your praise and compliments, but offer it frequently. This will help you look for the good in other people.

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9. Create a Daily Gratitude List

If you start keeping a daily gratitude list, you’ll start noticing exactly how much you have to be thankful for. This can help you focus on the positive in your life instead of thinking about all the bad things that have happened in the day.

Getting in the habit of showing an attitude of gratitude makes positive thinking more of a habit. Here’re 40 Simple Ways To Practice Gratitude.

10. Practice Self-Care

Take good care of yourself and you’ll be more equipped to think positively.

Get plenty of rest and exercise and practice managing your stress well. Taking care of your physical and mental health will provide you with more energy to focus on positive thinking.

Learn about these 30 Self-Care Habits for a Strong and Healthy Mind, Body and Spirit.

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