Love is a powerful feeling and most times it is very important to take the position such feeling puts you in seriously. Rather than loving the person you shouldn’t be loving you should be in the right relationship, one that brings out the best in you and makes you feel loved. Here are signs to make you aware that you are loving the one you shouldn’t be in love with.
1. Every encounter leaves you burnt out
You should feel energized with the right person, not stressed and overwhelmed after you have spent some time with them.
2. You are more aware in the relationship
Many decisions should be made spontaneously and automatically when you’re loving the right person. But when you’re loving the wrong person it is as if you are burdened with the decision of including them in every plan you make. For example decisions about your future should not be the one you are anxious about, you should be glad to have them be a part of your future.
3. You do not look forward to every time you want to hang out with them
You are not expectant or excited at the times you will be hanging out with them. Rather it seems to be more like an obligation to be spending time with them.
4. You have arguments a lot
Arguments are important to every relationship, since no one is perfect. But every argument shouldn’t be one where you battle it out to know which one is right or wrong or who is deserving of a win or a defeat.
5. You feel inferior in the relationship
You do not feel complimented by the other person, rather you feel bruised and totally dominated by the other person. As much as you would love the relationship to improve your self-esteem, it diminishes it the more.
6. You do not feel any spark in the relationship
The relationship seems drudgery and boring. While the relationship should make you happy and bring out the light and enthusiasm in you, it is as if it strains you.
7. You do not see things working out in the future
You are not certain about the relationship. You have a lot of doubts, and it is more like “if you are still going to be together.” Such does not make your plans accurate and precise.
8. You do not reveal your true self to them
You are pretending and you are not real in the relationship. You would prefer to present a false persona just to be more appealing and make the other person more comfortable with you.
9. You are very cautious in the relationship
You are not comfortable when you say or do something because you are always worried about how the other person will feel or what they will say about your actions. You tend to over-think every single thing you want to say and how you are going to present your statement to them.
10. You are always defensive and protective of everything you have with them
You are not willing to share or offer your items or resources to them. You see them as a disturbance and an obstacle to living the fullness of your life.
11. You are not willing to show them off to your friends and family
You are not proud of them around you. You do not showcase them and you really do not care about how your friends or family views them.
12. You have a stagnant relationship with them
Your relationship is not progressive, it lacks growth and it never seems as if it is going to the next phase. It is not like any of you cares about where you are in the relationship or even notice the stagnation in the relationship. It actually seems more comforting or assuring for you to stay in the current situation forever rather than make an effort to improve it.
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