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Habits That Many People Think Can Make Them Excel At Work But Actually Cannot

Habits That Many People Think Can Make Them Excel At Work But Actually Cannot

Speaking up at your new job early on.

New jobs can be scary, and too many employers don’t have formal onboarding programs to properly guide new hires. While you’re finding your footing, try not to be too eager too soon, and get labeled the “office whiner.” Your boss isn’t there to take care of you so find alternative ways to help you become successful in your new role. I’m not suggesting that you don’t ask questions or follow up; I’m saying find a balance between trying to go at it alone and driving your new supervisor crazy.

Navigating a new work landscape is like searching for those designer boots you saw at Macy’s. You browse every online shopping site to find the best price. Similarly, there are so many different ways to find the tools you need to impress your boss without flooding his inbox or knocking on his door in between conference calls. Maybe it’s the person you’re replacing, a trusted colleague, or a mentor who knows your field better than you do. Whatever it is, plan out the right approach, and you’d be amazed at how happy people will be to lend a hand.

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Waiting for your boss to notice you.

Avoid buying into the traditional mindset – the one that consistently reminds us that the 200-year-old word “employee” means a person who is subservient to his or her master, the employer. Today, employees are considered business partners. Your boss is busy, and the more ways you can make your boss’s life easier, the better chance you have of getting noticed.

Be proactive because you owe it to your career to make the relationship work. If your boss doesn’t reach out much, don’t follow his or her lead. Make it a point to check-in regularly. Ask how your boss prefers to be contacted—in person, via phone, by email—and how often. Make sure you understand your goals and give progress reports. Volunteer your time outside of the 9-5 minimum in order to see projects through – you will thank you for it.

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Counting on your supervisor to hold you accountable.

Unlike responsibility (the “before”) and self-empowerment (the “during”), personal accountability is (the “after”). It’s a willingness to answer for the outcomes of your choices, actions, and behaviors. When you’re personally accountable, you stop assigning blame, “should-ing” on people, and making excuses. Instead, you take the fall and learn from the mistake when your choices cause problems. It takes courage to be personally accountable and requires you to be honest with yourself, police yourself, and look at your own actions before pointing fingers at others.

As a career coach, I preach to my clients that professionals should treat themselves as independent contractors, meaning it’s up to them to enhance their background. I’ve watched people’s careers skyrocket based on principle and theory alone. So here’s some for you: it’s time to come to terms with the fact that a job isn’t just a job – it enhances your career and adds intellectual property to your metaphorical “toolbox.” Step out of your comfort zone, get new experiences under your belt, and seize every learning opportunity because at the end of the day, it all benefits YOU.

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Putting all your energy into current hard skills.

People focus too much on technical job skills required now and ignore opportunities to learn about emerging software programs or other forms of field training and development. The average person shifts his or her mindset from a “learner” to a “knower” and misses out on serious job enhancement prospects.

And don’t forget about soft skills – the number one reason people are let go from their jobs. Whether it’s time management or improving your ability to read a person’s body language, your brain has an endless capacity to adopt new behaviors that support a long-term prosperous career. It’s also important to get into the office politics game. Pursue key relationships with team members, clients, and partners your boss respects. Ask your boss, “What is it critical for me to know and who is it critical that I get to know?” And then invite thought leaders to coffee or lunch and pick their brains. Don’t just focus “vertically” on managers above you—also create “horizontal” alliances with colleagues. You want to have support at all levels.

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Assuming that doing your job ensures security.

Just because you have a job doesn’t mean you’re safe from termination. Too many people get complacent and lose motivation to be proactive about potential problems. They’ll blame leadership because it’s easier than mapping out all the possible issues involved in a project. These people will take notes at the meetings, then walk away with an “I’ll figure it out later” attitude.

There’s a simple antidote: ask questions. Many professionals are afraid of asking too many questions in fear of looking stupid. But the most direct route to self-empowerment is to be clear about expectations—not only what you expect, but also what’s expected of you. To do that, you need to ask questions, make agreements, and clarify everything in writing. Repeat what’s expected of you back to your supervisor as often as possible to be sure you’re both on the same page. Otherwise, you risk suffering the source of all upset: missed expectations.

It’s better if you’re not to blame or don’t make a mistake.

Clearly James Dyson didn’t prescribe to the habit of blaming others…or wavering on his tenacious dream. How many design prototypes of that vacuum did he try? That’s right, it was 5,127. Most people stay in the safe zone and wonder why they never make it to the end zone. It’s easy to claim responsibility when things go well, but it’s hard when they don’t. A truly responsible person, however, accepts responsibility either way. So next time you take on a project, be 100% responsible for the outcome. Not a little. Not somewhat. Not pretty much. Own it 100%—good or bad—with no wiggle room. When you make a mistake, own it, but also take the time to figure out what you learned from it.

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Last Updated on September 20, 2018

How to Be Happy at Work and Find Fulfillment in Your Career

How to Be Happy at Work and Find Fulfillment in Your Career

If you’re going to spend 1/3 of our life at work, you should enjoy it, right?

Trust me, I know that’s easier said than done. Difficult coworkers, less-than-desirable tasks, or even just being in the wrong position can all lead to a lack of enjoyment and fulfillment in your work.

But what if I told you it doesn’t have to be this way? Or better yet, if you struggle with all of the above (and then some), what if I told you that enjoying your work and finding fulfillment regardless of those obstacles is possible?

Don’t believe me? I don’t blame you because I was there too. Before implementing the tips below, I struggled to get through each day, much less find real fulfillment, in the office. Now, even after the toughest days on the job, I still come away with feelings of pride, accomplishment, and fulfillment. The best news is, so can you.

If you’re ready to make those hours count and find happiness and fulfillment in the office, then read on to find out how to be happy at work and find fulfillment in your career:

1. Discover the root(s) of the problem

For this first step, we’ll need to think back to 8th-grade physics (humor me). We all know Newton’s 3rd law, “for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.” When you think about it, the same can be said outside of physics, and we see this law play out in our daily lives, day after day.

Simply put, all the issues we deal with in the office (and life in general) affect us in a noticeable way.

If you’re appreciated at work, like the work you do and receive frequent praise, promotions, or raises, then this will probably have an altogether positive effect on your life in the office.

But what if we reverse this? What if you feel under appreciated, get passed up for promotions, or get denied raises? This is sure to affect the way you feel at work on a negative level.

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So, before you can implement the steps of feeling happy and fulfilled at work, we first have to discover the reasons why you don’t feel that way already.

Think about it, write a list, or make a mental note. Run through all the reasons you’re dissatisfied in the office, and don’t hold back. Knowing the exact obstacles you’re facing will make overcoming them that much easier.

In fact, as a side-challenge to this article, I recommend picking the top three reasons contributing to your dissatisfaction at work and using the following tips to tackle them.

2. Practice gratitude for an instant uplift

Did you know the simple act of feeling grateful can increase your happiness and make you more fulfilled at work?[1]

Well, it’s true, and it’s scientifically proven.

Dr. Lisa Firestone notes that practicing gratitude “reminds us of what we lacked in the past.” Meaning, it serves as both a boost to happiness and a bit of a wake-up call that things have been or could be, much worse.

Trying to conjure up feelings of gratitude can seem almost impossible when your work situation seems bleak, but hear me out: There are incredibly easy ways to get started and it doesn’t involve trying to “force” yourself to feel grateful about things that stress you out.

For an instant pick-me-up, try this:

Find a loose piece of paper, a blank sticky note, or anything you can write on, be it physical or digital. List just three things that you are absolutely without-a-doubt thankful for in your life.

Now here’s the trick: Don’t just list what you’re grateful for, you have to list why you’re grateful for them, too.

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For example, simply saying “I’m grateful for my kids” will probably make you feel good, sure, but what if we could amplify the warm, fuzzy feeling into real, lasting motivation?

Instead, write the reason you’re so thankful for your children. Is it because they make you laugh and forget about other stressors? Or maybe they help to remind you of why you go to work every day in the first place?

Whatever your reasons may be, jot them down and keep your list somewhere you can see it while you work. A quick glance at your gratitude list throughout the day can provide powerful, positive motivation to keep going.

Bonus:

If you can find just three things to be thankful for that specifically relate to your job, and list why those things make you grateful, your list can also help you find fulfillment in your work itself which can give you an even bigger boost of positivity throughout the day.

3. Take meaningful time for yourself

We all know creating a strong work-life balance can be crucial to feeling satisfied in our jobs, but rarely do we ever address how we’re spending our time outside of work.

Many of us survive a 9-hour work day and commute home only to find ourselves busy with our personal to-do lists, running a household, and taking care of a child (or 2 or 3, and so on).

If you spend all your time working, whether in the office or within your household, you’re going to feel drained at some point. This is why setting meaningful time for yourself every day is highly important.

Look, I get it: I don’t know anyone in the working world who can shun all responsibility for a 3-movie marathon or happy hour with friends whenever they feel like it. But finding time for yourself, be it just 30 minutes to an hour, can really make a difference in how you feel at work.

This works because you’ll have time to actually relax and let the day’s stress melt away while you enjoy something just for you. The to-do lists and stressors will still be there after you’re refreshed and ready to tackle them.

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No time for me-time? Try this:

If you have a busy household, you’ll need to capitalize on a block of time you know will be completely uninterrupted. The easiest way to do this: try waking up 30 minutes to an hour earlier than usual (or push bedtime back an hour if you’re a night owl, like me) and take time to do something you enjoy.

This could be reading with a cup of tea, catching up on Facebook, spending time on a passion project—anything! As long as it’s meaningful to you, it works!

Bonus:

Starting your day with meaningful time for yourself can set you up to have a positive mood that lasts well into office hours, and having your me-time in the evening can give you something positive to look forward to during the day.

4. Get productive and feel accomplished

Don’t you just love the feeling of checking the last item off of a hefty to-do list? That’s because self-motivation can be a huge driver of positivity and success.

When we accomplish something, no matter how small, it makes us feel good, plain and simple. Applying this tactic to your daily work can be the motivator you need to find fulfillment during the daily office grind.

While there are tons of steps to get more done at work, I’ll share my personal favorite: Prioritizing.

Now, many people handle prioritizing differently. Some like to tackle the little tasks first so they can spend focused time on the big to-dos. Others like to knock out the big items first and get to the smaller ones when they can.

No matter which camp you’re in, you may be missing one crucial step: Time management.

So how’s this work? When you factor in the amount of time your priorities will take, it can transform your productivity ten-fold.

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Say you have three top priorities for the day. You might jump into the smaller ones or the bigger ones depending on your preferred method, and then find yourself out of time and bringing work home with you at the end of the day.

This is prevented when you factor in time. Knowing how long each item will take, or deliberately setting specific blocks of time for your priorities can help you accomplish more in the same 8-9 (or 12) hours that you typically spend at work.

Try this:

Take a look at your priorities and consider how long they should take. Pop into your Google calendar (or Filofax, whatever works for you) and schedule time to work on your priority items around any important meetings or events of the day.

The most important thing to remember is to stick to your dedicated time.

Often, when we know exactly how long we have to work on something (and honor this time limit), we’re motivated to get more done on time to avoid taking work home at the end of the day.

The bottom line

There’s no need to waste 1/3 of our lives feeling unsatisfied at work. Luckily, you now have the tools to get started, take back your time, and become happy and fulfilled at work again.

The only question is — which tip will you try first?

Featured photo credit: Ellyot via unsplash.com

Reference

[1]Psychology Today: The Healing Power of Gratitude

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