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5 Things You Should Keep In Mind About Dating A Gentlelady

5 Things You Should Keep In Mind About Dating A Gentlelady

While you may not be as familiar with the term “gentlelady” as your are with the term “gentleman”, the term has a similar meaning but in a female context. A gentlelady carries herself with class and is often proud to be associated with this group. Whether you are one or you are dating one, here are some tips for dating and loving a person that is a gentlelady.

1. They are not easy

Gentleladies are not in a hurry to “get to the second base” or to “seal the deal” as they value high quality relationships and love to enjoy each moment of the courtship process. They will appreciate taking more time to know you and discover what kind of person you really are before becoming more intimate. Also, they feel it is simply inappropriate to burn through the steps, as it could lead them to be disrespected further along the way. For that reason, it is better to not go with an “end goal” in mind, especially if you are on a date with her for the first time.

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2. They love protective gestures

Gentleladies don’t feel the need to always prove how strong they are or to challenge others on a constant basis, for they prefer to simply be themselves and entrust their delicate nature to a partner who will take care of them. When walking together, they love if you walk on the street side protecting them from the cars, but they also love when you remove obstacles from in front of them, for example, opening doors might be a great chance to prove this trait. If there is a staircase, they will appreciate if you hold their hands, and if it rains, you hold the umbrella over them. Those are mainly symbolic gestures but they reflect the fact that you respect them, love them and, more importantly, you are capable of protecting them.

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3. They expect you to follow etiquette

Pulling her chair out and allowing her to face the room in a restaurant, using the utensils properly, paying the bill, or not criticizing her cooking if she is the host are considered the polite basics that you should always abide by. Gentleladies are more traditional and will surely appreciate your effort for being a little more classy. If you have a date with her, be on time, and if you really like her, after a few dates, she would greatly value if you demonstrated interest in meeting her parents or siblings. Not only because it is a proper etiquette but also because it reveals that you really respect and care for her.

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4. They are very loyal and have high standards

Even if you have just recently started dating her, a gentlelady will always be loyal to you and will expect the same from you in return. She will also expect you to keep the private information she tells you for yourself, and to never hit on another women. Gentleladies assume that you have some integrity and that you take the relationship seriously. It is of primary importance for her to be able to fully trust you and your commitments to her. Dating a gentlelady will require more diligence but keep in mind that if you do it, you can expect the same in return.

5. They prefer that you take charge

Unlike a more independent woman, a gentlelady will expect you to take charge in certain situations. If you plan to have dinner with her in a restaurant, make sure to have a reservation first! She will appreciate the fact that she can entrust you with the planning of the date. From picking her up to bringing her safely back home at the end of the date will greatly increases your chances with her, and who does not love a well-planned romantic date, right? Dating a “take-charge” gentleman who has taste and creativity will allow her to feel safe and predispose her to the enjoyment of life’s pleasures without having to worry about petty details.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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