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5 Things You Should Keep In Mind About Dating A Gentlelady

5 Things You Should Keep In Mind About Dating A Gentlelady

While you may not be as familiar with the term “gentlelady” as your are with the term “gentleman”, the term has a similar meaning but in a female context. A gentlelady carries herself with class and is often proud to be associated with this group. Whether you are one or you are dating one, here are some tips for dating and loving a person that is a gentlelady.

1. They are not easy

Gentleladies are not in a hurry to “get to the second base” or to “seal the deal” as they value high quality relationships and love to enjoy each moment of the courtship process. They will appreciate taking more time to know you and discover what kind of person you really are before becoming more intimate. Also, they feel it is simply inappropriate to burn through the steps, as it could lead them to be disrespected further along the way. For that reason, it is better to not go with an “end goal” in mind, especially if you are on a date with her for the first time.

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2. They love protective gestures

Gentleladies don’t feel the need to always prove how strong they are or to challenge others on a constant basis, for they prefer to simply be themselves and entrust their delicate nature to a partner who will take care of them. When walking together, they love if you walk on the street side protecting them from the cars, but they also love when you remove obstacles from in front of them, for example, opening doors might be a great chance to prove this trait. If there is a staircase, they will appreciate if you hold their hands, and if it rains, you hold the umbrella over them. Those are mainly symbolic gestures but they reflect the fact that you respect them, love them and, more importantly, you are capable of protecting them.

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3. They expect you to follow etiquette

Pulling her chair out and allowing her to face the room in a restaurant, using the utensils properly, paying the bill, or not criticizing her cooking if she is the host are considered the polite basics that you should always abide by. Gentleladies are more traditional and will surely appreciate your effort for being a little more classy. If you have a date with her, be on time, and if you really like her, after a few dates, she would greatly value if you demonstrated interest in meeting her parents or siblings. Not only because it is a proper etiquette but also because it reveals that you really respect and care for her.

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4. They are very loyal and have high standards

Even if you have just recently started dating her, a gentlelady will always be loyal to you and will expect the same from you in return. She will also expect you to keep the private information she tells you for yourself, and to never hit on another women. Gentleladies assume that you have some integrity and that you take the relationship seriously. It is of primary importance for her to be able to fully trust you and your commitments to her. Dating a gentlelady will require more diligence but keep in mind that if you do it, you can expect the same in return.

5. They prefer that you take charge

Unlike a more independent woman, a gentlelady will expect you to take charge in certain situations. If you plan to have dinner with her in a restaurant, make sure to have a reservation first! She will appreciate the fact that she can entrust you with the planning of the date. From picking her up to bringing her safely back home at the end of the date will greatly increases your chances with her, and who does not love a well-planned romantic date, right? Dating a “take-charge” gentleman who has taste and creativity will allow her to feel safe and predispose her to the enjoyment of life’s pleasures without having to worry about petty details.

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Last Updated on September 12, 2019

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

Here are 12 things to remember:

1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

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2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

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Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

Take a look at this article and learn to accept your imperfect self: Accept Yourself (Flaws and All): 7 Benefits of Being Vulnerable

7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

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Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

10. Journal During This Time

Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

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Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

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Final Thoughts

Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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