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Secret Strategies To Help You Win Every Argument

Secret Strategies To Help You Win Every Argument

Have you ever been in a situation where you were engaged in an argument with a ridiculously stubborn person? You know that you are right, and that this person is just spewing out a whole bunch of bull, but you just can’t seem to get them to budge.

If you want to learn the ability to win any argument, there are just a few things that you have to do. Thankfully, they’re listed right here.

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Have them explain their side.

A really good way to win an argument is to ask the opposing person to explain how their side of the argument can be brought to reality. Don’t just have them list a bunch of reasons why they are right. Have them actually explain, in detail, how their idea would be implemented. Make sure they explain the first steps they would take, all the way through the entire process. You will find that they really didn’t put that much thought into it after all.

Acknowledge their plan of attack, but not their conclusion.

If your opponent can explain how their idea would work, a good trick is to acknowledge the fact that they have thought it all out, but don’t agree with the conclusion. Tell them, “Its a good idea on paper, but it would never work in real life”.

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Exaggerate your opponent’s proposition.

Do what you can to make what they are saying sound ridiculous to them. Chances are, they will begin to realize it and give up trying to argue their point. Also, by doing this, you will begin to generalize their proposition, making it easier to poke holes in their story, until it’s beyond repair.

Try to call their bluff.

A lot of times people who are taking a stand in an argument are probably doing so based on only a small number of facts. When you are in an argument, make a statement about what they are saying that is untrue, and try to see if they can actually pick up on it. If they don’t, call them out on it. If they were worth having the argument with, they should know their facts.

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Point out the inconsistencies of their argument.

For example, if the person you are arguing with is stating that the company you both work for is a terrible company, respond by telling them to quit and go somewhere else to work. This person is just contradicting themselves, and is already fighting a losing argument.

Let your opponent get angry.

The more they get angry and worked up, the less logical their thinking becomes. Just remember to not get angry yourself! The calmer you stay, the more likely they will get worked up even more. Eventually, you’ll cause them to just give up on trying to make their point.

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Don’t try to persuade them to take your side.

While this is most people’s goals in an argument, it never turns out the way you want it to. If you get into an argument with the pure intention to try to smooth talk your opponent to your side, you might as well just give up in the beginning. If you can stand strong, state your facts, and (somewhat) respect your opponent’s argument, you have a better chance at winning it.

Actually listen to what they are saying.

If you are just brushing off what they say, and going straight into your argument, your chances of walking away with a win are slim. After all, how are you able to take their points and disassemble them into pointless statements, if you don’t know what the hell they are actually saying? That is when the endless back and forth debates start happening. That is not what we want, right?

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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