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Secret Strategies To Help You Win Every Argument

Secret Strategies To Help You Win Every Argument

Have you ever been in a situation where you were engaged in an argument with a ridiculously stubborn person? You know that you are right, and that this person is just spewing out a whole bunch of bull, but you just can’t seem to get them to budge.

If you want to learn the ability to win any argument, there are just a few things that you have to do. Thankfully, they’re listed right here.

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Have them explain their side.

A really good way to win an argument is to ask the opposing person to explain how their side of the argument can be brought to reality. Don’t just have them list a bunch of reasons why they are right. Have them actually explain, in detail, how their idea would be implemented. Make sure they explain the first steps they would take, all the way through the entire process. You will find that they really didn’t put that much thought into it after all.

Acknowledge their plan of attack, but not their conclusion.

If your opponent can explain how their idea would work, a good trick is to acknowledge the fact that they have thought it all out, but don’t agree with the conclusion. Tell them, “Its a good idea on paper, but it would never work in real life”.

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Exaggerate your opponent’s proposition.

Do what you can to make what they are saying sound ridiculous to them. Chances are, they will begin to realize it and give up trying to argue their point. Also, by doing this, you will begin to generalize their proposition, making it easier to poke holes in their story, until it’s beyond repair.

Try to call their bluff.

A lot of times people who are taking a stand in an argument are probably doing so based on only a small number of facts. When you are in an argument, make a statement about what they are saying that is untrue, and try to see if they can actually pick up on it. If they don’t, call them out on it. If they were worth having the argument with, they should know their facts.

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Point out the inconsistencies of their argument.

For example, if the person you are arguing with is stating that the company you both work for is a terrible company, respond by telling them to quit and go somewhere else to work. This person is just contradicting themselves, and is already fighting a losing argument.

Let your opponent get angry.

The more they get angry and worked up, the less logical their thinking becomes. Just remember to not get angry yourself! The calmer you stay, the more likely they will get worked up even more. Eventually, you’ll cause them to just give up on trying to make their point.

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Don’t try to persuade them to take your side.

While this is most people’s goals in an argument, it never turns out the way you want it to. If you get into an argument with the pure intention to try to smooth talk your opponent to your side, you might as well just give up in the beginning. If you can stand strong, state your facts, and (somewhat) respect your opponent’s argument, you have a better chance at winning it.

Actually listen to what they are saying.

If you are just brushing off what they say, and going straight into your argument, your chances of walking away with a win are slim. After all, how are you able to take their points and disassemble them into pointless statements, if you don’t know what the hell they are actually saying? That is when the endless back and forth debates start happening. That is not what we want, right?

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Last Updated on September 17, 2018

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.

Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.

When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).

Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:

1. You’re depressed about your home life.

No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.

However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.

If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.

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When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.

You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.

2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.

Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.

If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.

You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.

If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.

3. You can’t stop snooping.

Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.

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I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.

Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.

So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.

It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.

If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.

4. You’re afraid of commitment.

If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.

Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.

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No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.

If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.

Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.

5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.

If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.

Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.

Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.

Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.

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If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?

6. You resent, rather than love your partner.

When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.

When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.

If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.

7. You chase past feelings.

It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.

You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.

When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.

Final thoughts

If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.

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