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A List Of Things You Better Stop Doing When You Turn 30s

A List Of Things You Better Stop Doing When You Turn 30s

It is so sad and unfortunate that not everyone wants to grow up. Many view growing up as intimidating, as a loss of something. You have to be aware that life is made up of stages. We cannot have the same mindset we had when we were entering high school now that we are stepping into the wonderful age of 30. By the time you turn 30, you should have been able to figure out certain things and reached a level of maturity. You should have been able to discard certain habits and reactions to things that happen to you.

As you reach the age of 30, you should start becoming more aware of who you are and what stage you are in life. Here are 30 things every person turning 30 should stop doing.

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  1. Calling your relatives to bail you out of a financial crisis you should be taking care of instead.
  2. Living a life of regrets. Looking back at the past and wondering what would have happened, or thinking about that job you never got, or that person you never got married.
  3. Blaming others for how your life is turning out – pointing fingers at your parents, family and your environment for how your life has come to be.
  4. Believing and expecting that your life should have turned perfect by now, rather than knowing that success is a process made out of failures.
  5. Consuming yourself in worry about what others are thinking of you.
  6. Spending most of your money on partying, alcohol and eating out.
  7. Waiting for others to fix things you can do yourself.
  8. Showing off how drunk you were at a particular party on social media.
  9. Seeking other people’s approval.
  10. Having to keep certain friends who are a bad influence on you out of convenience because you are too scared or nervous to cut them out of your life.
  11. Giving up on a venture or a task because it has suddenly appeared difficult to undertake.
  12. Holding on to grudges and consuming yourself in resentment over a past misdeed of a good friend.
  13. Ignoring your relationships, whether with your family or with friends who have been there for you in the past.
  14. Spending more than you earn and running into debt every now and then.
  15. Stalking your ex on social media instead of moving on with your life.
  16. Advertising your new designer wrist watch or other luxurious items on social media in a bid to create unnecessary attention.
  17. Making excuses for not maintaining a healthy lifestyle.
  18. Waiting for things to happen rather than going out to make these things happen.
  19. Trying to be perfect all the time and taking yourself too seriously.
  20. Thinking that you can live up to others’ expectation of you.
  21. Envying the lifestyle of other people you happen to catch on social media.
  22. Buying inferior items because you are trying so hard to save a buck.
  23. Becoming irrational and running wild with thoughts and beliefs without being fully informed.
  24. Dressing up like a teenager and going along with fads, rather than dressing as an authentic image of who you are.
  25. Denying the fact that you will soon be hitting 30, and wanting to be stuck with your 20s for life.
  26. Trying to pull off some alcohol stunts every now and then.
  27. Posing with a peace hand sign or any kind of sign in a photo.
  28. Having posters of Terminator, Fresh Prince of Bel Air or The Godfather to decorate your apartment.
  29. Engaging in online arguments, and responding to every confrontational attacks made at you.
  30. Ignoring the fact that you have so much going for you in your life that you should be thankful for.

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Last Updated on October 22, 2019

How to Get “I Can’t Do It” Out of Your Vocabulary

How to Get “I Can’t Do It” Out of Your Vocabulary

When someone says, “I can’t do it” . . . I say to myself, “What do you mean you can’t do it?” Maybe you don’t want to do it, but saying you “can’t” do it is a completely different story.

With the right mindset, positive attitude, and a clear vision of what you want to accomplish, the only thing that is holding you back is yourself.

Can’t is a terrible word and it has to be taken out of your vocabulary.

By saying you can’t do something, you’re already doubting yourself, submitting to defeat, and you’re making that barrier around your life tighter.

So today, right now, we are going to remove this word for good.

From now on there is nothing we can’t do.

“Attitude is Tattoo”

Your attitude is everything; it’s your reason, your why and how, your facial expression, emotions, body language, and potentially the end result. How you approach an opportunity, and the result of it, is solely based on you — not your boss or your co-worker or friend.

If you enter a business meeting with a sour attitude, that negative energy can spread like wildfire. People can also feel it — maybe even taste it. This is not an impression you want to leave.

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Now imagine you enter a business meeting with a positive attitude, that whatever happens in here is going to be your result, in your control, not someone else’s. Of course, we can’t always win, but even if the outcome is negative, your attitude and perception can turn it into a positive. The question is: can you do it?

Of course you can, because there is nothing in this world you can’t do.

It’s much better to be known for your positive attitude — your poise, your energy, the reason why things go so well because you are able to maintain such character. A negative attitude is easy. It’s easy to complain, it’s easy to be mad, and it’s even easier to do nothing to change it.

When I say your “attitude is tattoo”, it sounds permanent. Tattoos can be removed, but that’s not the point. Your attitude is like a tattoo because you wear it. People can see it and sometimes, they will judge you on it. If you maintain a negative attitude, then it is permanent until you change it.

Change your attitude and I guarantee the results change as well.

Believe You Can Do It

Do you know why most people say “can’t” and doubt themselves before trying anything?

It’s our lack of self-confidence and fear on many different levels. The one thing we have to purge from ourselves is fear — fear of bad results, fear of change, fear of denial, fear of loss, the fear that makes us worry and lose sleep. Worrying is the same as going outside with an umbrella, waiting for rain to hit it. Stop worrying and move on.

Confidence is fragile: It builds up slowly, but can shatter like glass. Project your confidence and energy into believing in yourself. This is a very important and groundbreaking step — one that is usually the hardest to take. Start telling yourself you can do something, anything, and you will do it the best to your ability. Remove doubt, remove fear, and stick with positive energy.

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Embrace Failure

Do not fear failure. Do not run away from it. Face it, learn from it, grow, and take action. Just remember: You will never know success if you have never failed.

Your confidence will bolster after embracing these facts. You will be immune to demoralizing results, and instead you will find ways to fix it, improve upon it, and make it better than before. You will learn to never say “can’t,” and will realize how many more opportunities you can create by removing that one word.

Don’t let one simple and ugly word plague your confidence. You’re better and stronger than that.

Start Making the Change

But to actually start the process of change is very challenging.

Why is that?

Fear? Time? Don’t know how — or where — to start?

It’s hard because what we’re doing is unlearning what we know. We are used to doing things a certain way, and chances are we’ve been doing them for years.

So here are some ways that I avoid using the word “can’t”, and actually take the steps to put forth the change that I wish to see. I hope you can incorporate these methods into your life.

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Write down What You Want to Change

Write it on post-its, notecards, whatever makes you comfortable — something you will always see. I usually write mine on post-its and put them all over the wall behind my monitor so I always see them.

Tell a Friend and Talk About It

Discussing your goals, what you want to change, is very effective when you say it out loud and tell another person other than yourself. It’s almost like saying, hey, I bet I can do it — watch me.

When you fulfill that goal and tell your friend, it feels rewarding and will motivate you to do it again in a different aspect. Who knows? Maybe your friend adopts the same mindset as you.

Stop Yourself from Saying the Forbidden Word

Sometimes,I can’t control myself in public when I’m with friends, so I have to be careful with the words I use so I don’t embarrass or insult anyone.

Treat the word “can’t” as the worst word you can possibly use. Stop yourself from saying it, mid-sentence if you must, and turn your whole perspective around — you can do it, you will do it, and nothing is impossible!

Repetition, Repetition, Repetition

You think this change will be overnight? No way. This is a practice. Something you’re going to be doing for the rest of your life from now until forever.

As I said earlier, you are unlearning what you know. You know how easy it is to say you can’t do something, so by unlearning this easy practice, you’re self-disciplining yourself to live without boundaries.

Practice this everyday, a little at a time, and before you know it, the word can’t will not be part of your language.

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Do Anything That Can Relieve Your Uncertainty

When I catch myself saying I can’t do something or I don’t know something, looking up information on that action or subject, doing research, educating yourself, relieves that uncertainty.

Sometimes, we think we can’t do something because the whole idea of it seems too large. We skip the small steps in our head and only focus on the end.

Before you say you can’t do something, rewind and slow down a little bit. Focus on what the first step is, then the next. Take it a step at a time, and before you know it you will have done something you previously thought you couldn’t do.

Final Thoughts

You know what you must do. The first step is right now. Once you begin this habit, and really start noticing some change, you’ll realize the door to opportunity is everywhere.

The funny thing is: Those doors have always been there. The evil word that we no longer use put a veil over our eyes because that’s how powerful that word is.

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