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7 Reasons Why Type A People Are Great Partners

7 Reasons Why Type A People Are Great Partners

Most people don’t consider a Type A personality to be a good thing; Type A’s are reputed to be stubborn, set in their ways, dogmatic, and continually stressed out.  In fact, the dangers of overly aggressive type A traits are considered enough of a health risk that type A modification behavior has been popular for decades. But does this mean that Type A’s make terrible partners? Not at all – here are 7 reasons why a Type A person can make a great partner and you should consider yourself privileged if you have one!

They are organized.

Type A’s are organized to a fault. When you enter their closets you’ll be pleasantly surprised to find that all their clothes are not only folded, sorted, and hung up, but are likely arranged according to type of clothing, fabric and color. Their shoes may even be neatly stacked and stored in shoe boxes. Their calendars are updated and their pantries are stocked and labeled. The best part of all this is when they are your partner – you get the benefit of this organization. You may not be excited at the idea of organizing your own closet or remembering every last detail in your address book but your partner will be more than happy to help you out.

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They plan ahead.

Type A’s are planners. They conduct SWOT analyses and plan for best and worst case scenarios. Going on vacation? Type A’s will not only find and book the best airfares and top rated hotels months ahead of time, they’ll start studying the destination and put together a day by day plan so they don’t miss a thing. Type A’s are always prepared. Did your four-year-old spill milk all over his shirt for the third time when you’re out of the house? Don’t worry, your Type A partner probably has four or more spares stored in the car. When you’re with a Type A you can relax, they’ll do the planning for you. But the best you can do for a Type A is remind them to plan time to relax themselves.

They put their best into everything they do.

Type A’s tend to be perfectionists. If they take on a project or commit to something, they don’t just get the job done, they get it done exceptionally well. That means that they’ll put the best into your relationship, too. When you’re with a Type A partner, you can count on them remembering birthdays, anniversaries, and other important dates. Plus, they won’t just remember – as we said before, Type A partners plan ahead so get ready to have a wonderful, planned celebration complete with gifts.

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They are passionate.

Type A people live life with passion. They engage in things that make them excited and they pour their hearts into relationships. Type A partners will devote themselves to you and your relationship with passion, and they will take commitment seriously. They wear their hearts on their sleeves, so if something is wrong or they are starting to lose interest in the relationship, you’ll know when their passion decreases.

They won’t be overly dependent on you.

Type A’s have a lot going on. They are passionate about relationships, but they’re also passionate about everything else that they commit to. Type A people are busy bodies; they are happiest when they are over committed. So if you’ve struggled with past partners who had nothing to focus on but your relationship, you can feel comfortable that being with a Type A means you’ll have plenty of breathing room. If they are not focusing on the relationship, it’s because they are focused on one of the many other things they’ve got on their plate. They won’t depend on you to make them happy or keep them happy.

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They live their life with purpose.

Purpose is important to Type A people. While they may seem task and planning oriented, all their work and efforts usually ladder up into a greater vision. If your partner is a Type A, you can be sure that they view their life and your relationship as meaningful. You an be proud in knowing that your partner will achieve even more than the obvious.

They don’t take no for an answer.

Type A people are resilient and stubborn. If they want something, they will stop at nothing to get it. This trait applies to things that they want for their partners. As a Type A myself, when my husband and I found ourselves placed in middle seats in the middle section of an airplane for a transatlantic trip, I didn’t stop talking to and negotiating with the airline staff until the situation was remedied – and we were both seated in business class. While that situation may seem trivial, the same drive and persistence applies to many other facets of a Type A’s  life, including career, finances, and personal passions.

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Last Updated on February 11, 2021

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

The 6 Walls You Need to Break Down to Make Communication Effective

Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

Perceptual Barrier

The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

Attitudinal Barrier

Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

Language Barrier

This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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Emotional Barrier

Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

Cultural Barrier

Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

Gender Barrier

Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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