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A Mind-Blowing reason for always being late

A Mind-Blowing reason for always being late

“Why can’t you put in a little more effort to leave the house 30 minutes earlier?!” Ever had a conversation that sounded a little bit like that? Tired of being late? Tired of getting blamed and put on the spot every time you arrive late? Well, this article is for you.

To be honest, I was like that before I made an amazing discovery. Always late to events, procrastinating and never on time. That was till a certain event occurred that enlightened me. But before I share with you what that enlightenment is, let me share with you more about what I believed before that fateful event.

Is everyone lazy, therefore bound to be late?

Like all teenagers, I was someone that constantly held onto the belief that ‘Everyone would always be late!’ It was a concept that is being used by the entire world. The concept of “Never earlier, only later”. Everyone arrives later than the expected time, submits their projects past the deadline, shops closes earlier but never opens earlier. There is only one reason that fuels this concept, laziness.

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Understanding this concept at a fairly young age, I had the misconception that this is what we humans should be doing. Well, I was definitely wrong at that point of time for this concept has definitely caused me to be stuck in countless sticky situations. Believing that everyone would never reach on time, I started a social experiment. It was a minor one with my friends as the test subject.

Do you have a reason to arrive early?

So I am a christian and I go to church every Sunday. There was this thing in my church and we like to call it a ‘Cell Group’. It is a group of people from the same age group that comes together before service every Sunday and we would start mini discussions. Everyone was supposed to gather at 8.30am in the morning! However, many of us never arrive there on time. I am sadly one of them as well. It wasn’t a matter of principle or promise, it was a matter of our own determination and effort that we invested in this morning process! The reason why I seldom reach on time is simple. It is because I felt that there isn’t a reason to arrive earlier.

One time, our cell group leaders decided to replace the cell group meeting with a breakfast session. I really love food and that was my reason to arrive on time. That day, I woke up earlier and had a driven goal to reach the destination earlier and on time. That is because I wanted to enjoy the full duration of the breakfast session! This event concluded my experiment, for I had made an amazing discovery. I have understood why i was always late. It was because I didn’t have a reason to arrive earlier or on time! Here is an advice that I have believed in for my entire life!

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Do you want to arrive on time?

One of the biggest reasons why people are late is because they do not have a reason to be there on time! They do not have a reason to go earlier. There isn’t a strong reason that motivates them to go earlier. Motivation and determination are both lacking in them. Before I share with you the explanation, here is a scenario for you to ponder on

It is 8.30 in the morning and you slept extremely late last night. You were supposed to meet your friends at 9 to do community work, but you just woke up! It is 8.30 in the morning and you slept extremely late last night. You were supposed to meet your friends at 9 to play but you just woke up!

Considering that the destination is at the same place, which one do you think you will have more determination in doing? I would reckon that many would choose option 2! I would too, obviously since there is a reason that is pushing us! The fact that ‘I am going to meet my friends to play’ is a strong enough reason for you to start rushing. We humans need a pushing force, someone that knocks us on the head and push us forward.

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A promise is a reason, too

To stop being late, you need to have a reason. A reason that you believed in. My belief used to be a physical belief where the situations and the people involved becomes the reason. But now, I believe that I have to either be early or on time for all meetings and events. This is because I have developed the mindset that the time we set is a promise. A promise between you and the other party and you shall not break it. A promise is a commitment you share between you and the other party and you should always have the mindset of meeting that commitment.

Have the mindset that the time set is a promise. A promise that you should try your best to keep! This is a reason which you can use today to stop being late. All you got to do is to believe and maintain this mindset. Do not break the promise. Do not just think about yourself, but about others as well. Put others and their feelings before you! This is how I am punctual for many of my Meetups and events! It is because I consider how others will feel, if I am late and they have to wait.

Find your own reason to be on time!

You do not have to follow my reason. I am just sharing with you the importance of having a reason! You need to find a reason that resonates strongly in your heart. It isn’t an easy process, but once you got the hang of it, you will realize that this concept can be applied to many different areas in your life.

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You have a choice of being early or late. It is entirely up to you and the amount of effort you put into the process. It is all reliant on your mindset. Your mindset determines the importance of the different choices and you decide which choice you want to take. It is all up to you. You can choose to be early or late.

This mindset advice I shared with you isn’t going to change your life overnight. You have to invest time and determination in order for it to work. You need to find a reason that is stronger than your love for yourself! This is because you will procrastinate if the reason is weaker than your love for yourself! The reason will not be enough to push you out of your laziness zone! My reason is to not break a promise, what is your reason?

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Last Updated on July 16, 2020

How Does Setting Goals Lead to Success?

How Does Setting Goals Lead to Success?

As well as being the founder of Lifehack, I also help people on a one-to-one basis through life coaching.

I’ve been doing this for more than 10 years now and have helped hundreds of clients reevaluate their lives and turn inertia into progress and failure into success.

A common theme I’ve noticed with many of my clients is that they don’t have any definite goals to aim towards.

This has always surprised me, as goal setting is frequently recommended by self-improvement gurus, performance coaches, and business leaders. It’s also something that I learned at university and have implemented successfully in my life ever since.

If you’re similar to the majority of my life coaching clients and you don’t have any definite goals to aim for, then you’re missing out on what is probably the most powerful personal success technique on the planet.

The good news is—you’ve come to the right place for help with this.

In this article, I’ll explain exactly what goal-setting is and how you can put it into action in your life. As you’ll discover, it’s a key that can open many doors for you.

An Introduction to Goal Setting

Goals can be big, small, short-term, long-term, essential, or desirable. But they all share one thing: They will give you something to aim for.

This is important. As just like a ship without a destination, if you have no goals, you’ll end drifting aimlessly.

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Goals give you purpose. They also give you drive and enthusiasm. In other words—they make you feel alive!

If you’ve never spent time setting goals before, then here’s what I recommend you to do:

  1. Take some time to evaluate all areas of your life (health, career, family, etc.).
  2. Determine which of these areas need a boost.
  3. Think of ways in which to achieve this (for example, if you want to boost your health, you could eat less and exercise more).
  4. Set some definite goals that you would like to achieve.
  5. Write down these goals, including the date you want to accomplish them by.

Now, before you get started on the above, I want to make one thing clear: Goals are not wishful thinking!

By this, I mean that while your goals should be ambitious, they shouldn’t be unrealistic or verging into fantasy land.

For example, wanting to be promoted at work would be a realistic goal while wanting to be President of the United States might not be. (Of course, feel free to prove me wrong!)

If you’re new to the world of goal setting, then I’d recommend you start with easy-to-achieve goals. These could be things such as eating a healthy breakfast, walking more, taking regular breaks from your screen, and sleeping early.

These simple goals might take you a month or so to achieve, including making the daily practices a habit.

Once you’ve successfully accomplished these goals, you’ll find your self-confidence grows, and you’ll be ready to set yourself some bigger goals.

Here are a few examples that you might want to choose or adapt to your personal circumstances:

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  • Run a marathon
  • Buy a new car
  • Learn a new language
  • Travel around the world
  • Change career
  • Retire early
  • Write a book

I’m sure you can think of many more things that you would like to achieve. As the famous Shakespeare line neatly states: “The world is your oyster!”

Now, the trick with big goals (as I’ll show in an example shortly) is to break them down into small, bite-sized chunks. This means you’ll have a big end goal, with smaller goals (sometimes referred to as objectives) helping you to gradually achieve your main aim.

When you do this, you’ll make big goals more achievable. Plus, you’ll have an easy way to track how far along the road to your goal you are at any given point in time.

Let’s see this in action…

Going from an Idea to a Global Success

Everything starts with an idea.

And there appears to be no shortage of good ideas in the world. But there is a shortage of people willing to put these ideas into action!

This is the essential step that will move you from being a dreamer to an achiever.

Back in 2005, when I first had the idea for Lifehack, I really only considered it to be a platform to record some of my productivity and self-improvement techniques. I’d developed these during my time at university and as a Software Engineer at Redhat.

However, based on the number of views and positive feedback I received on the first few articles, I quickly realized that Lifehack had the potential to be a popular and successful website—a site that could help transform the lives of people from all across the world.

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It was at that point that I decided to set some goals in place for Lifehack.

The way I did this was to set specific targets for different areas of the business:

  1. Number of articles published
  2. Amount of time spent writing and promoting the articles
  3. Number of new readers
  4. Number of new email subscribers
  5. Revenue generated from ads

For each of the above, I set weekly, monthly, and yearly targets. These targets were realistic but were also ambitious. In addition, I wrote down the necessary steps to take to achieve each target within the specified time frame.

This goal setting had a powerful impact on my motivation and energy levels. Because I could clearly see what needed to be done to achieve each goal, I found a purpose to my tasks that made them exciting to complete. Each small target achieved took me closer to accomplishing the bigger goals.

For example, my initial goals for writing articles were for just five a week, which equated to 20 per month and just over 100 per year. However, as I dedicated more and more time to Lifehack, I found I was able to exceed my initial goals.

This led me to increase the numbers. Of course, there’s a limit to how many articles one person can write. So when the readership began to exponentially increase, I started to hire other writers to help me out with the site’s content.

From my initial goal of just over 100 articles per year, I’ve used goal setting to help Lifehack publish more than 35,000 articles to date. This is now the largest collection of original self-development articles in the world.

And in terms of readership—this has skyrocketed from a few dozen in 2005 to several million in 2020.

And of course, I have many new goals for Lifehack, including expanding our range of online courses.

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My original goal has always remained the same though: To change people’s lives for the better.

Goal Setting Can Transform Your Life

If you haven’t yet experienced the incredible power of goal setting, then now’s the time to get started.

Build a definite picture of what you want to accomplish, break it down into small, achievable steps, and then start taking action!

You’ll be able to change all areas of your life using this method, including boosting your health, improving your relationships, and transforming your career. You may also want to use goal setting to start a new hobby or plot a path to a prosperous and peaceful retirement.

So please don’t wait for success to drop in your lap (which it is highly unlikely to do). Instead, decide on exactly what you want, then make a plan to get it. This is the secret to lifelong success.

Legendary motivational speaker and author Paul J. Meyer said it well:

“Goal setting is the most important aspect of all improvement and personal development plans. It is the key to all fulfillment and achievement.”

Final Thoughts

Now, let me leave you with five questions that will help you think about your future:

  1. What would you like to be doing in 3, 5, and 7 years?
  2. What things make you happiest?
  3. How can you share your knowledge and experience?
  4. Who can help you achieve your goals?
  5. What would you like to be your legacy?

Take plenty of time to think about these questions. When the answers come, you’ll be able to start building a picture of how you’d like your life to be—and what goals you need to set to make this picture a reality.

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