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15 Signs You’re A Winner in Life Even If You Don’t Think So

15 Signs You’re A Winner in Life Even If You Don’t Think So

You may think that just because you aren’t wealthy, that you are not a winner in life. This is absolutely untrue. You may be surprised at just how much personal wealth you really do have — and we’re not talking about finances. We’re talking about what makes you the person you are, and what really makes you a winner.

Here are 15 signs to look for in order to see just how great you really are.

1. You have close friends.

You don’t need a huge crowd of friends. What you need are a couple of friends you are very close with, and who will always be there for you when you need them.

2. You have high standards.

You know what you want in life, and you aren’t going to settle for anything less. This includes your career — and the person you will end up spending the rest of your life with.

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3. You have no regrets.

Never have any regrets in life. Anything you do is a learning experience, as long as you don’t repeat it.

“Fear is a habit; so is self-pity, defeat, anxiety, despair, hopelessness and resignation. You can eliminate all of these negative habits with two simple resolves: I can! and I will!” – Napoleon Hill.

4. You have people who love you.

Don’t pay attention to those who judge you. They are not the people who love you. You have your parents, grandparents, and other family members and friends.

5. You have no relationship drama.

Keep your circle of friends small, and make sure that they are people you can trust. You don’t need any drama at this stage in your life.

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6. You have self-love and self-respect.

When you love and respect yourself, you can expect the same from others, and you won’t accept any less from your relationships.

7. You don’t care what others think.

Once you get to a certain point in life, you do what you want and don’t care what others think. Go ahead and be your wonderful, unique self.

8. You like what you see in the mirror.

If you can look into the mirror and like what you see, you will always be a winner in your own eyes. That is more important than the opinion of anyone else.

9. You always have faith.

You may not be where you want in life right now, but your faith in yourself will get you to where you want to be.

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10. Your bills are paid.

You may not have money for expensive trips, jewelry, designer clothing, etc., but if your bills are paid, you can consider yourself a real winner. This is something that not everyone can accomplish every month. You may not have a mansion or drive one of the fastest cars in the world, but you have what you need.

11. You’re content.

When you are always trying to compete with others who have higher salaries, you are never content with what you have. As long as the bills are getting paid and you live comfortably, does it really matter if your salary isn’t as high as your neighbor’s?

12. You have a decent wardrobe.

You don’t need a closet filled with designer clothes. But, if you have enough clothing to not have to repeat outfits for two to three weeks, you are ahead of the game.

“Stop saying ‘I Wish’ and start saying ‘I Will’.” – David Copperfield.

13. You have no unhealthy relationships.

You are a great person, and you don’t need to be with people who bring you down.

14. You push yourself.

If you are critical of yourself and always pushing to do better things, you are going to be a winner.

“My teacher once told me, ‘no one is perfect…that is why pencils have erasers.” – Mahesh Bhatt.

15. You do things you love.

Make sure that you are taking time for yourself. Watch a movie you love, read a great book, or visit with close friends. Do what makes you happy.

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Featured photo credit: Nicole Pierce via flickr.com

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Last Updated on August 6, 2020

6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

We’ve all done it. That moment when a series of words slithers from your mouth and the instant regret manifests through blushing and profuse apologies. If you could just think before you speak! It doesn’t have to be like this, and with a bit of practice, it’s actually quite easy to prevent.

“Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.” – Napolean Hill

Are we speaking the same language?

My mum recently left me a note thanking me for looking after her dog. She’d signed it with “LOL.” In my world, this means “laugh out loud,” and in her world it means “lots of love.” My kids tell me things are “sick” when they’re good, and ”manck” when they’re bad (when I say “bad,” I don’t mean good!). It’s amazing that we manage to communicate at all.

When speaking, we tend to color our language with words and phrases that have become personal to us, things we’ve picked up from our friends, families and even memes from the internet. These colloquialisms become normal, and we expect the listener (or reader) to understand “what we mean.” If you really want the listener to understand your meaning, try to use words and phrases that they might use.

Am I being lazy?

When you’ve been in a relationship for a while, a strange metamorphosis takes place. People tend to become lazier in the way that they communicate with each other, with less thought for the feelings of their partner. There’s no malice intended; we just reach a “comfort zone” and know that our partners “know what we mean.”

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Here’s an exchange from Psychology Today to demonstrate what I mean:

Early in the relationship:

“Honey, I don’t want you to take this wrong, but I’m noticing that your hair is getting a little thin on top. I know guys are sensitive about losing their hair, but I don’t want someone else to embarrass you without your expecting it.”

When the relationship is established:

“Did you know that you’re losing a lot of hair on the back of your head? You’re combing it funny and it doesn’t help. Wear a baseball cap or something if you feel weird about it. Lots of guys get thin on top. It’s no big deal.”

It’s pretty clear which of these statements is more empathetic and more likely to be received well. Recognizing when we do this can be tricky, but with a little practice it becomes easy.

Have I actually got anything to say?

When I was a kid, my gran used to say to me that if I didn’t have anything good to say, I shouldn’t say anything at all. My gran couldn’t stand gossip, so this makes total sense, but you can take this statement a little further and modify it: “If you don’t have anything to say, then don’t say anything at all.”

A lot of the time, people speak to fill “uncomfortable silences,” or because they believe that saying something, anything, is better than staying quiet. It can even be a cause of anxiety for some people.

When somebody else is speaking, listen. Don’t wait to speak. Listen. Actually hear what that person is saying, think about it, and respond if necessary.

Am I painting an accurate picture?

One of the most common forms of miscommunication is the lack of a “referential index,” a type of generalization that fails to refer to specific nouns. As an example, look at these two simple phrases: “Can you pass me that?” and “Pass me that thing over there!”. How often have you said something similar?

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How is the listener supposed to know what you mean? The person that you’re talking to will start to fill in the gaps with something that may very well be completely different to what you mean. You’re thinking “pass me the salt,” but you get passed the pepper. This can be infuriating for the listener, and more importantly, can create a lack of understanding and ultimately produce conflict.

Before you speak, try to label people, places and objects in a way that it is easy for any listeners to understand.

What words am I using?

It’s well known that our use of nouns and verbs (or lack of them) gives an insight into where we grew up, our education, our thoughts and our feelings.

Less well known is that the use of pronouns offers a critical insight into how we emotionally code our sentences. James Pennebaker’s research in the 1990’s concluded that function words are important keys to someone’s psychological state and reveal much more than content words do.

Starting a sentence with “I think…” demonstrates self-focus rather than empathy with the speaker, whereas asking the speaker to elaborate or quantify what they’re saying clearly shows that you’re listening and have respect even if you disagree.

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A while ago, John promised to help me out in a big way with a project that I was working on. After an initial meeting and some big promises, we put together a plan and set off on its execution. A week or so went by, and I tried to get a hold of John to see how things were going. After voice mails and emails with no reply and general silence, I tried again a week later and still got no response.

I was frustrated and started to get more than a bit vexed. The project obviously meant more to me than it did to him, and I started to construct all manner of crazy scenarios. I finally got through to John and immediately started a mild rant about making promises you can’t keep. He stopped me in my tracks with the news that his brother had died. If I’d have just thought before I spoke…

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