15 Defining Moments of Fatherhood

15 Defining Moments of Fatherhood

Are you a first time father? While you technically become a father as soon as your child is born, you’ve probably realized that there are some defining moments you experience once your child is born that really welcome you into fatherhood.

From no longer needing an alarm to bathing someone else, check out 15 moments that truly define fatherhood.

1. I bathe other people more than I bathe myself

For every shower the father has, the child has about three baths. Kids just seem to get dirty quicker than adults – also, there is barely any free time for the father to wash himself. Even if he is really, really sweaty. Which he is.


2. I regularly stay up late –but I’m not drinking

Most first-time fathers are awake throughout the night, but there isn’t any drinking or partying going on. Just refilling bottles, telling nonsensical stories, and rocking. Lots and lots of rocking.

3. I have a human alarm clock now

A father doesn’t really have any use for an actual alarm clock. He has a human alarm clock that seemingly never runs out of charge – and this alarm clock chooses when it wakes you up; you have no say whatsoever.

4. I’ve learnt that ‘again’ doesn’t mean one more go

If you’re pushing your child on the swing and they say “again, daddy” they don’t mean one more time. They actually mean “keep pushing me until your arms are so weak you no longer physically can push me. And even then, don’t stop.”


5. I have been hit more times since my child has been born than I’ve ever been hit in my life

A father encounters more kicks, punches and elbows than any man without a child. Thankfully, kids aren’t that strong – although their elbows can be pretty sharp.

6. I’ve realized I’m pretty stylish

Mothers aren’t the only ones who can put their kids in a great outfit – fathers do a pretty stylish job too. From accessorizing to hairstyles, fathers get pretty awesome at putting together a cute outfit.

7. I now censor myself

You have to get pretty creative when it comes to swearing in front of your kids. ‘Mother fudge’ and ‘sugar’ are great words to use if you’ve just stubbed your toe in front of your innocent child.


8. I spend a lot of time in shops I’ve never been in before

The Disney store, the Hello Kitty store, the Build-A-Bear shop; these hellish places bring infinite joy to a child, so fathers are willing to suck up their feelings and go inside to put a smile on their child’s face.

9. I’m used to someone watching me go to the toilet

Not only are fathers used to their children talking to them while they go to the toilet, they are actually okay with it. It may seem weird, but it is better than your child getting up to some mischief while you can’t see them.

10. If I’m watching TV, it’s probably children’s TV

A father goes from watching adult TV shows to pretty much only children’s TV shows. In fact, many dads secretly love a bit of Frozen and care about the well-being of these beloved characters.


11. I laugh when my friends compare babysitting to parenting

Babysitting is nothing like parenting because babysitting only lasts a few hours. Comparatively, a parent has committed to at least two decades of babysitting – without pay.

12. I avoid wearing white around my children

A father is truly used to being a dad when he starts to avoid wearing white. He understands anything white will have sauce/crayon/vomit on it within one hour of wearing it.

13. I find reading to my children legitimately entertaining

Children’s books are actually pretty interesting. After reading the same book over and over again, you really perfect the individual voices of each character.

14. I use nicknames in public

Many men without children hate the idea of using pet names in public. However, a father loves to embarrass his child by calling them ‘princess’ or ‘angel face’ in public.

15. I realized I have the best job ever

The late nights, early mornings and children’s TV shows are all worth it in the end; you are looking after a perfect person who loves you more than anything else in the world – you honestly feel blessed to have your child in your life.

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Published on November 7, 2018

How to Homeschool in the 21st Century (For All Types of Parents & Kids)

How to Homeschool in the 21st Century (For All Types of Parents & Kids)

In 2016, it was estimated that 1.7 million children were being homeschooled in the U.S, roughly 3.3% of all school-aged children.[1] Although this may not sound like a big portion of the population, the growth rate of homeschooling has been 7 to15% per year for the last two decades.

The burgeoning numbers are not a coincidence. There are tremendous benefits to homeschooling, including one-on-one teaching, adaptability to individual needs and learning styles, a safe learning environment, encouraging learning for knowledge rather than grades, and tailoring a curriculum to the child’s interests.

Is homeschooling something that you have been considering for your family? With all of the tools and resources available for homeschoolers in the 21st century, it may be easier than you think.

How to Homeschool (Getting Started)

After thinking it through, you’ve decided that homeschooling is the right step for you and your family. Now what? Here are the first things you should do to get your homeschooling journey started on the right track.

Figure Out the Laws

Homeschooling is regulated by the state, not the federal government. The first step is to find the current and accurate legal requirements mandated by your state in order to educate your child legally.[2]

The regulations can vary widely, from strict guidelines to no guidelines at all. However, don’t be overwhelmed by the legal jargon. There are many resources and local communities for homeschooling families that can help you figure out the logistics.

Decide on an Approach

Every child’s needs are different. This is your chance to choose the homeschooling style or combination of styles that best fits your child’s learning style and interests. A brief description of seven different homeschooling methods are listed below.


Often times, purchasing a homeschooling curriculum is done too early in the planning process, resulting in buyer’s remorse.


A curriculum is not always needed for homeschooling, and other types of free or less structured resources are readily available.

Find a Community

Getting connected with a community of homeschoolers is one of the most important parts of building a successful and thriving homeschool environment for your kids.

Look for communities online for virtual support or a local group that you and your kids can interact with. Partnering with others fosters better socialization skills for the students and provides opportunities for field trips, classes, and outings that wouldn’t have otherwise been a part of the homeschooling experience.

7 Different Homeschooling Methods

1. School-At-Home

Also known as Traditional homeschool, School-At-Home uses essentially the same curriculum as the local private or public school but at home.

The lessons can be completed independently, but more commonly, they are administered by a parent or a teacher-facilitated online school.

  • Benefits: formal standards, wide selection of curricula, same pace as peers, short-term friendly
  • Drawbacks: expensive, inflexible, time consuming, parent can get easily burnt out
  • Resources: K12, Time4Learning, Abeka

2. Classical

One of the most popular homeschooling methods used, it borrows educational practices from Ancient Greece and Rome. Subject areas are studied chronologically so that students can understand the consequence of ideas over time.

Socratic dialogue fosters effective discussions and debate to achieve beyond mere comprehension. There is often a strong emphasis on Great Books[3] as well as Greek and Latin.

3. Unit Studies

Rather than breaking up education into subjects, unit studies approach each topic as a whole, studying it from the perspective of each subject area.


For example, a unit study about animals could include reading books about animals, learning about the classification of animals, figuring out which animals live on which continents, etc. This method is often used as a technique in other more comprehensive educational methodologies.

  • Benefits: promotes thinking about concepts as a whole, not monotonous or redundant, student-directed, bolsters weaker subject areas, beneficial for teaching multi-age students
  • Drawbacks: incomplete, knowledge gaps, curriculum-dependent
  • Resources: Unit Study, Unit Studies, Unit Studies Made Easy, Konos

4. Charlotte Mason

This Christian homeschooling style utilizes shorts periods of study (15-20 minute max for elementary, 45 minute max for high school), along with nature walks and history portfolios.

Students are encouraged to practice observation, memorization, and narration often. With a focus on “living books” (stories with heroes, life lessons, socio-ethical implications), reading plays a big role in this student-paced teaching style.

5. Montessori

Maria Montessori developed this method through working with special needs children in the early 20th century.

With a primary focus on the student setting the pace and indirect instruction from the teacher, this approach includes free movement, large unstructured time blocks (up to 3 hours), multi-grade classes, and individualized learning plans based on interests.

6. Unschooling

Unschooling is a learning model largely based on the work of John Holt.[4] The teaching style focuses mainly on the students’ interests, putting priority on experiential, activity-based, and learn as you go approaches.

For basic skills such as reading, writing, and math, a systematic technique is employed, but testing and evaluations are typically not utilized. Teachers, in general, play more of a facilitator role.

7. Eclectic/Relaxed

As the most popular method of homeschool, eclectic homeschooling is child-directed, resourceful, and non-curriculum based.


Parents can sample any combination of homeschooling methods and styles or resources. One growing sector of eclectic homeschooling combines part homeschooling with part traditional schooling.

How to Facilitate Homeschooling with Technology

One of the reasons homeschooling is more feasible than ever before is due to the accessibility of tools and resources to enhance the learning process.


Email is a tool that has really stood the test of time. Invented in 1972, it is still used today as a primary means of communicating on the Internet.

It is a great way to share assignments, links, and videos between parent and student.

Google Drive/Calendar

Google Drive offers a multitude of essential programs that can come in handy for homeschoolers, such as Docs, Sheets, Slides, and more.

With its sharing capabilities, easy accessibility, and auto-save ability, it’s easier than ever to organize and complete assignments. It will improve students’ writing and typing skills, as well as eliminate the need for paper.

Google Calendar is an excellent tool for tracking assignment due dates, planning field trips and activities, and developing time management skills.


Rather than invest in physical copies of books, ebooks are a wonderful option for saving money and space. There are plenty of places that offer a free or paid subscription to a wide selection of ebooks:



When a structured curriculum is necessary for teaching a certain topic, an e-course is the way to go.

From watercolors to calculus, there are e-courses available about almost everything. Including different teaching styles that vary from the parents will encourage students to learn in different ways.

The visual and auditory stimulation will also be beneficial in helping students understand and retain the concepts being taught.

Some recommendations:


Youtube is not just a platform for music videos and cats doing funny things. There are a number of Youtube channels that produce quality educational videos, free of charge.

Creating a playlist of videos for various topics is a great way to supplement a homeschool education.

Some recommendations:

Final Thoughts

Homeschooling in the current age looks much different than it did ten years ago. There are more options and more flexibility when it comes to educating kids at home.

Don’t be overwhelmed by the idea of homeschooling your children if it could make a positive impact on your family.

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