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8 Things Libra Women Want You To Know

8 Things Libra Women Want You To Know

Being a Libra is awesome.

In fact, I just had my birthday (yay, October babies!) and my cool Libra demeanor helped me ride out some unexpected hitches in my birthday plans. How many other signs would’ve totally freaked out when they hit bad traffic on their way to see a movie with friends, get to the theater only to find the line there is also bad, and finally get to the front of the line only to have the tickets no longer available?

Yes, it was irritating, but I found a way to go with the flow — as any Libra woman would (we ended up having milkshakes and laughing about inside jokes, and I had a great time). But, as with all people, Libra women have weaknesses in addition to their strengths. Balancing the scales isn’t easy, and it has its complications. Oh, and can you say indecisive?

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If you want to understand us, here are some basic truths about your Libra lady friends.

1. We can charm your pants off.

Libras are known for being particularly charming. We’re good at being witty and pride ourselves on our sense of humor. We know how to be polite without being stiff. If you bring us home to meet your parents, I can guarantee they’ll love us. We adapt our charm to the people and the situation.

This knack for charm is because of the whole “balance” thing. We want people to like us. At the very least, we want to be able to get along with people—not just because of our egos (I mean, that’s just human), but because being it creates the most balanced environment. This doesn’t mean we’re pushovers or doormats, because that’s not balanced either. Rather, we’ll know how to read and interact with a huge variety of personalities without compromising ourselves. It’s a pretty nifty skill.

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2. We’re indecisive.

Those balancing scales that represent Libras are both a blessing and a curse. Being able to see multiple sides of things is useful for conflict resolution and understanding others—but it also turns even the most mundane decisions into torture. Am I really in the mood for cookies, or do I want a slice of cake? Is this laundry detergent the best, or that one? Forget about asking us where we want to go out to eat or what movie we should watch on Netflix. We just see so many possible pros and cons that it overwhelms us. Coupled with our desire to “go with the flow”, we’re more likely to defer to what you want to choose unless we already know for sure that we have a strong opinion about something.

3. We’re expert diplomats.

When two of our friends are fighting, we slide naturally into the role of the diplomat. This doesn’t mean we always think both sides are equally in the wrong and that no one is more at fault; after all, we tend to have a strong sense of justice. We’re just able to see the whole picture and understand why each party is feeling a certain way about each aspect of the conflict, as well as why and how the two parties are failing to resolve it. We can explain one side’s way of thinking to the other side without excusing or defending it. We know what language to use to talk to each person and how to best explain our thoughts to them. Even if we’re only able to talk to one person in the conflict, we can guess pretty well what’s going on with the other side’s thought process.

If you’re ever at a standstill with your friend/partner/parent/co-worker, you know to go to your Libra friend.

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4. We value justice and fairness.

Like I said above, we have a strong sense of justice. This is probably due to our knack for seeing all the sides of situations. When something is unjust, we passionately wish to see it righted and are not likely to stand idly by. We will also take the time to consider other people’s arguments and reasoning (assuming it falls within the realm of sanity), because we want to be sure we’re looking at everything fairly. Then we find the best way to articulate our response to those arguments that we think the person behind them will be the most receptive to.

Of course, there are certain ways of seeing things that we just won’t consider, such as ways of thinking that are plainly discriminatory and hateful. Fairness must also be just. Your Libra friend is probably a good advocate of civil rights and social justice issues for this reason.

5. We’re intelligent.

Desiring to see multiple sides of things requires a lot of reading, conversation, and idea-exploring. After gathering so many perspectives and information over time, it’s not surprising that Libras are often quite smart. There’s usually a high level of intelligence from an early age that drives us to seek all this information in the first place, so that we just get even more clever and well-rounded over time.

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6. We have great aesthetic taste.

There’s something about Libras, especially Libra women, that gives us particularly good aesthetic taste. And don’t just take it from us! We’re told all the time that we have an eye for art, or that our outfits are always on point, or we have the cutest apartment decorations. We enjoy exploring aesthetics and looking at beautiful things, so we end up developing great senses of style in multiple ways. Even if we can’t afford to have all the cool and beautiful things personally, you can bet we’ve got a Pinterest board or ten that are curated to perfection.

7. We’re huge flirts.

Oops, we’re kind of guilty of being really big flirts. There’s nothing deceptive behind it at all! We definitely aren’t try to play games with people. We just have the ability to get a long with so many kinds of people and like to be playful, so we’ll end up flirting with our friends and even strangers. Sometimes we don’t even realize we’re flirting at first. Also, we tend to be romantics (even if we don’t always admit it), so if we do have our eye on someone in particular, we flirt big time. We can’t help it! It might ruin our subtlety, but it’s the sacrifice we make for getting know the person better and winning their affection with our Libra charm. If a Libra woman has a crush on you, you’ll probably figure it out quickly.

8. We don’t do unnecessary drama.

If you tend to pick fights out of spur-of-the-moment feelings or rash thinking, you’re not going to get along very well with Libra women. We almost never react impulsively, and if we do we realize it quickly and fix it rather than holding on to the irrational feeling. People who want to fight just to fight or who get upset with other people for irrational reasons aren’t going to last in our circle for long. That being said, if you’re not those kinds of people, we will totally be supportive of you when you’re having problems with someone. We’re the diplomats, remember? Just don’t bring the unnecessary drama, and you’ll have a friend for life.

Featured photo credit: Libra/El.lE Photography via flic.kr

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Last Updated on July 27, 2020

7 Ways to Make Life Changing Decisions

7 Ways to Make Life Changing Decisions

Most people don’t know the profound effects of making life decisions. Often times, we go through life oblivious to what thoughts we are thinking and what actions we are taking. Every single decision we make in our days shapes our current reality. It shapes who we are as a person because we habitually follow through with the decisions we make without even realizing it.

If you’re unhappy with the results in your life right now, making the effort to changing your decisions starting today will be the key to creating the person you want to be and the life you want to have in the future.

Let’s talk about the 7 ways you can go about making life changing decisions.

1. Realize the Power of Decision Making

Before you start making a decision, you have to understand what a decision does.

Any decision that you make causes a chain of events to happen. When you decide to pick up a cigarette to smoke it, that decision might result in you picking up another one later on to get that same high feeling. After a day, you may have gone through a pack without knowing it. But if you decide not to smoke that first cigarette and make a decision every five minutes to focus your attention somewhere else when you get that craving, after doing this for a week, your cravings will eventually subside and you will become smoke-free.

But it comes down to making that very first decision of deciding whether or not to pick up that cigarette.

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2. Go with Your Gut

Often times, we take too much time to make a decision because we’re afraid of what’s going to happen. As a result of this, we go through things like careful planning, deep analysis, and pros and cons before deciding. This is a very time consuming process.

Instead, learn to trust your gut instinct. For the most part, your first instinct is usually the one that is correct or the one that you truly wanted to go with.

Even if you end up making a mistake, going with your gut still makes you a more confident decision maker compared to someone who takes all day to decide.

3. Carry Your Decision Out

When you make a decision, act on it. Commit to making a real decision.

What’s a real decision? It’s when you decide on something, and that decision is carried out through action. It’s pointless to make a decision and have it played out in your head, but not doing anything about it. That’s the same as not making a decision at all.

If you want to make real changes in life, you have to make it a habit to apply action with your decision until it’s completed. By going through this so many times, you will feel more confident with accomplishing the next decision that you have in mind.

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4. Tell Others About Your Decisions

There’s something about telling other people what we’re going to do that makes us follow through.

For example, for the longest time, I’ve been trying to become an early riser. Whenever I tried to use my own willpower, waking up early without falling back asleep felt impossible. So what I did was I went to a forum and made the decision to tell people that I would wake up at 6 AM and stay up. Within two days, I was able to accomplish doing this because I felt a moral obligation to follow through with my words even though I failed the first time.

Did people care? Probably not, but just the fact that there might be someone else out there seeing if you’re telling the truth will give you enough motivation to following through with your decision.

5. Learn from Your Past Decisions

Even after I failed to follow through my decision the first time when I told people I was going to wake up early and stay up, I didn’t give up. I basically asked myself, “What can I do this time to make it work tomorrow?”

The truth is, you are going to mess up at times when it comes to making decisions. Instead of beating yourself up over it, learn something from it.

Ask yourself, what was good about the decision I made? What was bad about it? What can I learn from it so I can make a better decision next time?

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Remember, don’t put so much emphasis focusing on short term effects; instead focus on the long term effects.

6. Maintain a Flexible Approach

I know this might sound counter-intuitive, but making a decision doesn’t mean that you can’t be open to other options.

For example, let’s say you made the decision to lose ten pounds by next month through cardio. If something comes up, you don’t have to just do cardio. You can be open to losing weight through different methods of dieting as long as it helps you reach your goal in the end.

Don’t be stubborn to seek out only one way of making a decision. Embrace any new knowledge that brings you closer to accomplishing your initial decision.

7. Have Fun Making Decisions

Finally, enjoy the process. I know decision-making might not be the most fun thing world to do, but when you do it often, it becomes a game of opportunity.

You’ll learn a lot about yourself on the way, you’ll feel and become a lot more confident when you’re with yourself and around others, and making decisions will just become a lot easier after you do it so often that you won’t even think about it.

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Anything you decide to do from this point on can have a profound effect later on. Opportunities are always waiting for you. Examine the decisions that you currently have in the day.

Are there any that can be changed to improve your life in some way? Are there any decisions that you can make today that can create a better tomorrow?

Final Thoughts

Some decisions in life are harder to make, but with these 7 pieces of advice, you can trust yourself more even when you’re making some of the most important decisions.

Making a decision is the only way to move forward. So remember, any decision is better than none at all.

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