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Top 7 Things That People With Anxiety Don’t Want To Hear

Top 7 Things That People With Anxiety Don’t Want To Hear

Suffering from anxiety is incredibly debilitating. It can cause a person to quickly fall into a panic attack over even the slightest contingency in their daily life, and it’s almost impossible to break out of the downward spiral that this panic causes.

Since there’s such a social stigma behind the disorder, those who suffer from anxiety tend to keep quiet about it. And it can affect anybody. Celebrities like Johnny Depp and Adele have faced their share of panic attacks over the years, even though you could never tell by their on-stage personas.

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Keeping anxiety under control is difficult enough as it is — it’s even harder to do when people start giving advice you’ve heard a thousand times before. Here is a sampling of that advice.

1. “Stay calm”

I wish I could. That’s literally what anxiety prohibits me from doing. To a person with anxiety, whatever caused them to have this panic attack actually feels like an emergency akin to a house-fire. It will pass in time, but for now you just have to deal with your companion being frantic for a while.

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2. “Don’t worry so much about it”

Telling a person with anxiety not to worry about something only does one thing: makes them worry more. In fact, they’ll start coming up with reasons why they should worry. They’ll go through the worst-case scenario possibilities in their head over and over until they feel like they’re going to explode. It might not be easy, but you have to let them worry about whatever it is they’re worried about on their own terms.

3. “You’re so pessimistic”

No, I’m realistic. Like I just said, when you tell a person with anxiety not to worry, all they do is think of the negative possibilities that could occur. Even something like an F on a college exam could cause them to seriously question their future, as they will extrapolate their current failure throughout the rest of their life. If it’s in the realm of possibility, no matter how pessimistic it may seem, it’s going to make them freak out.

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4. “Others have it so much worse”

I know there are kids starving all over the world and people who don’t have clean water to drink, but now is not the time to remind me. I know I’m having a pity party, and I know I’m lucky to be alive and have a roof over my head, but all I can think about is whatever bad thing just happened to me. Anxiety gives people tunnel vision. They find it impossible to see from an objective perspective, and unfortunately only focus on themselves for the time being.

5. “It’s not the end of the world”

Again, I know that. Deep down I know that one bump in the road isn’t going to derail my entire life. But, in the heat of the moment, it sure seems that way. When a panic attack hits, it truly feels as if a person’s life is crumbling down around them. No piece of advice is going to make them think otherwise until the attack fades away. Just help them deal with it as best you can.

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6. “Have you tried ______?”

Counting to ten? Yep. Breathing into a paper bag? Check. Meditating? Of course. I’ve tried everything. You think I’d not do something to try and fix this mindset? If I found something that worked, do you think I’d avoid doing it? If anxiety had a quick fix, millions of people wouldn’t suffer from it on a daily basis. But thanks for the suggestion, I guess.

7. “Everyone has rough days”

I wish I had your rough days. But I would never wish for you to have mine. Anxiety is not a case of “Ugh, everything’s going wrong today, and of course my ice cream cone falls apart!”

It’s an underlying condition that makes a person on edge at all times, regardless of the situation. Even on a person’s best days, there’s still a possibility that something will happen that will derail everything. The best you can do, as a friend to someone suffering from anxiety, is to accept them for who they are and be there for them when they need you.

Featured photo credit: Hunter McGinnis via farm8.staticflickr.com

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What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

Some people just seem to float through life with a relentless sense of happiness – through the toughest of times, they’re unfazed and aloof, stopping to smell the roses and drinking out of a glass half full.

They may not have much to be happy about, but the simplicity behind that fact itself may make them happy.

It’s all a matter of perspective, conscious effort and self-awareness. Listed below are a number of reasons why some people are always happy.

1. They Manage Their Expectations

They’re not crushed when they don’t get what they want – or misled into expecting to get the most out of every situation. They approach every situation pragmatically, hoping for the best but being prepared for the worst.

2. They Don’t Set Unrealistic Standards

Similar to the last point, they don’t live their lives in a constant pursuit towards impossible visions of perfection, only to always find themselves falling short of what they want.

3. They Don’t Take Anything for Granted

Happiness rests with feeling fulfilled – those who fail to stop and appreciate what they have every now and again will never experience true fulfillment.

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4. They’re Not Materialistic

There are arguing viewpoints on whether or not money can really buy happiness; if it can, then we know from experience that we can never be satisfied because there will always be something newer or better that we want. Who has ever had enough money?

5. They Don’t Dwell

They don’t sweat the small things or waste time worrying about things that don’t really matter at the end of the day. They don’t let negative thoughts latch onto them and drain them or distract them. Life’s too short to worry.

6. They Care About Themselves First

They’re independent, care for themselves and understand that they must put their needs first in order to accommodate the needs of others.

They indulge, aim to get what they want, make time for themselves and are extremely self-reliant.

7. They Enjoy the Little Things

They stop to smell the roses. They’re accustomed to find serenity when it’s available, to welcome entertainment or a stimulating discussion with a stranger when it crosses their path. They don’t overlook the small things in life that can be just as important.

8. They Can Adapt

They’re not afraid of change and they work to make the most out of new circumstances, good or bad. They thrive under pressure, are not overwhelmed easily and always embrace a change of pace.

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9. They Experiment

They try new things, experience new flavors and never shy away from something they have yet to experience. They never order twice from the same menu.

10. They Take Their Time

They don’t unnecessarily rush through life. They work on their own schedule to the extent that they can and maneuver through life at their own relaxing pace.

11. They Employ Different Perspectives

They’re not stuck in one perspective; a loss can result in a new opportunity, hitting rock bottom can mean that there’s no where to go but up.

12. They Seek to Learn

Their constant pursuit of knowledge keeps them inspired and interested in life. They cherish information and are on a life-long quest to learn as much as they can.

13. They Always Have a Plan

They don’t find themselves drifting without purpose. When something doesn’t go as planned, they have a plan for every letter in the alphabet to fall back on.

14. They Give Respect to Get It

They are respectful and, in turn, are seen as respectable; the respect they exude earns them the respect they deserve.

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15. They Consider Every Opportunity

They always have their eyes open for a new road, a new avenue worth exploring. They know how to recognize opportune moments and pounce on them to make the most of every situation. Success is inevitable for them.

16. They Always Seek to Improve

Perpetual self-improvement is the key towards their ongoing thirst for success. Whatever it is they do, they take pride in getting better and better, from social interactions to mundane tasks. Their pursuit at being the best eventually materializes.

17. They Don’t Take Life Too Seriously

They’re not ones to get offended easily over-analyze or complicate matters. They laugh at their own faults and misfortunes.

18. They Live in the Moment

They don’t live for tomorrow or dwell on what may have happened yesterday. Every day is a new opportunity, a new chapter. They live in the now, and in doing so, get the most out of every moment.

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19. They Say Yes

Much more often than they say no. They don’t have to be badgered to go out, don’t shy away from new opportunities or anything that may seem inconvenient.

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20. They’re Self-Aware

Most important, they’re wholly aware of themselves. They self-reflect and are conscious of their states of mind. If somethings bothering them, they fix it.

We’re all susceptible to feeling down every now and again, but we are all equipped with the necessary solutions that just have to be discovered.

Lack of confidence, inability to feel fulfilled, and susceptibility to stress are all matters that can be controlled through the way we handle our lives and perceive our circumstances.

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Final Thoughts

The main philosophy employed by the happiest includes the idea that life’s simply too short: life’s too short to let things get you down, to take things for granted, to pursue absolute and unrealistic perfection.

For some, employing these characteristics is a second nature – they do it without knowing. For others, a conscious effort must be put forth every now and again. Self-Awareness is key.

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